This is the Time

I am hurting so much right now and I’m not ready to write about. I’m not sure I ever will, but until I can write my own words…I give you the words and music of those that I relate to. ♥ Blog credits are below the picture, as always. Thank you in advance for you patience and understanding.

Nothing More – This Is The Time

When did we become these sinking stones?
When did we build this broken home?
Holding each other like ransom notes
Dropping our hearts to grip our brother’s throat
You can’t see because you don’t know
You’re caught below, beneath your own shadow
Stuck inside, half alive
Do you ever stop to ask yourself why?
Close your mind, identify
Do you feel, do you feel?
Do you call this a life?
All you waited for
Drowning just to keep score
We always start with good intentions
But lose ourselves along the way
This is the time that we let it go
These are the words that will take us home
Singing the song that’s inside us all
If we don’t open our eyes we’re walking blind
Anchored in anger, we exile ourselves
Bitter blood builds our prison cell
Darker water now fills our lungs
The depths of our heart have blacked the sun
You can’t see because you don’t know
You’re caught below, beneath your own shadow
Stuck inside, half alive
Do you ever stop to ask yourself why?
Close your mind, identify
Do you feel, do you feel?
Do you call this a life?
All you waited for
Drowning just to keep score
We always start with good intentions
But lose ourselves along the way
This is the time that we let it go
These are the words that will take us home
Singing the song that’s inside us all
If we don’t open our eyes we’re walking blind
Naked we come, naked we leave
Fools we are, to hold tightly
We are the jail, we are the key
We are free, we are free
This is the time that we let it go
These are the words that will take us home
Singing the song that’s inside us all
If we just open our eyes
This is the time that we let it go
This is the pain we are forced to know
Singing the song that’s inside
Inside us all, inside us all
Walking Blind

dreaming of dragons

hair:  Tableau Vivant \\ Cindy
horns: Decoy – Dragon Temptress Gacha: #14 Horns Polar
head: CATWA HEAD Lilly
eyebrows: Bossie. alice eyebrows [catwa]
eyes: –SU!- Ekrabetha Eyes Fatpack
tears: CURELESS [+] Dragon Tears (v.1)
nose jewelry: AZOURY – Ange Earring Nose White
ears: ^^Swallow^^ Ears Elf
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: DeeTaleZ *Appliers* CATWA Head “Merrylu” Nordic (*new* @ Uber)
=Zenith=Leather Belt Gloves
UC_Sicrets_outfit (*new* @ FaMESHed)
#1 Dragon Brothers + texture hud {egosumaii} RARE

pose created using AnyPose

location: Winter Moon


Living Room

One of the greatest parts of blogging decor is that when you move and new stuff starts coming out, not only do you have all these great rooms to decorate for your blog…you can leave it up to live in if you so choose! That’s exactly what I did with my latest unKindness items! I got the fireplace from the September round of FaMESHed and the frames on the mantel are currently at ManCave…it was all too perfect. Paired it all up with some of my favorite furnishings from the last couple of years and presto. I present to you my very eclectic boho living room. Yes, this is in my SL house…more stuff will end up on the shelves as I collect it but for now, this is how it looks and we love it! Click the photo to go on over to flickr and get a closer look!♥

living room

DRD – Boho Backyard – Curtains
DRD Boho rug
tres blah– Hodgepodge – Stacked Magazines
floorplan. photo box – Indee Teepee Gift
Apple Fall Mercantile Bookshelf
=Zenith=Little Groot
The Loft – Lotus Holder
TA Lotus Incense
Intrigue Co. – Plushie Pals: Stinky the Skunk
Zaara [home] : Copper frangipani bowl *pink*
(fd) Mortar And Pestle
Zaara [home] : 12 Jaipur blue pottery
Apple Fall Grass Pot
uK – Fireplace Fountain Vintage White
uK – Dude Art Floor Set (*new* @ ManCave)
[ keke ] the prince
Apple Fall Nardyas’ Tulips in Mason Jar
:CP: Desert Rose Lantern Lemon
[Con.] Hanging Fishing Float – Red
:CP: Desert Rose Lantern Lemon
Apple Fall Mercantile Bookshelf
:CP: Modern Industrial Planter
California- VW retro bus (Bazar)
ARIA– Dido Vase With Lillies
*HEXtraordinary* Flying Monkey Incense Burner – Gold
16.erratic / coc – butterfly jar
Intrigue Co. – Plushie Pals: Flight the Dragonfly – RARE
15.erratic / coc – dragonfly jar
The Loft – Yoga Tray
Zaara [home] : Ethnic lanterns RARE
:CP: Lotus Spa Ottoman Pink
junk. wannabe boho. rug. two. (store closed)
:CP: Desert Rose Sofa
:CP: Desert Rose Table
LISP – Mesh – Candle Diffuser Tray – With Flame 3li – Dark
tres blah– Hodgepodge – Wine Duet
BIGBULLY Clive Tea Set
:CP: Desert Rose Camp Rugs
GW Living Room Set Neat – Orchids
Trompe Loeil – Hanging Moon Chair Double

Setting Off Alarms

Time for some more real talk. This time, I’m talking about profiles, the kinds of profiles that should set off alarms. You ready? Let’s get it started! Going to just list off some common things I see around the grid that should set off alarms based on my almost 11yrs on the grid.

1. Profiles that read, “Just came back to SL after a long break.” Chances are this person is an alt. I’m not saying don’t talk to them, but take it slow and watch them closely.
2. Profiles that have threat picks. You know the ones…”if you touch/hurt so & so, I will rip your heart out of your chest and shove it down your throat” kinda picks. Clearly, they’re not going to do any of that and the fact that they feel the need to make such threats publicly shows a lack of maturity and intelligence.
3. Blank profiles. C’mon people, put some effort into you SL. Blank profiles suggest you’re an alt or terribly boring. Either way…ALARM bells!
4. Overtly sexy profile pics. Legs spread with a bottle between your legs, may be a hot a picture, but its sending a message to everyone that looks at your profile. Skank that likes to drink. You either want nothing but sex or you’re desperate for attention.
5. The declaration against drama. I’m going to tell you right now. These people are usually the ones stirring the pot, then stepping back with their popcorn to watch the damage. RUN! Let me explain, you cannot get through life without drama. Don’t believe me, perhaps you need to see the definition of drama. Do allow me to enlighten you.
|||||drama: any situation or series of events having vivid, emotional, conflicting, or
striking interest or results|||||
6. Declaration of being a bitch/asshole. Chances are they’re correct, so why even bother. These people have up walls and they’ve just informed you of that fact. Do you honestly feel like jumping through hoops for them before you’ve even gotten to know them?
7. Emo picks. If their picks are full of emotional vomit. They’re either going to bring you down or suck you into it. Its exhausting and seriously, did you come to SL for that?
8. Passive aggressive picks. They have a pick clearly aimed at someone they believe is watching their profile, but don’t have the balls to just say it directly to whomever they’re talking about. Chances are the next one could be aimed at you. Why bother?
9. Profiles that read like an online dating profile. There are actual sites & groups in SL for that, but overall that is not the main objective of Second Life. C’mon, everyone you meet here isn’t looking for love. Just stop it already.
10. Profiles that declare they keep SL & RL separate.  This is impossible unless that avatar is strictly for Role-Play purposes and says so straight away. Some aspect of the real person behind the avatar is involved with how they interact in this virtual world. This person is most likely hiding something.

So, there’s my top ten profile warning signs. It pays to read profile before approaching each other and often shows you whether or not you have something in common. 

trouble maker

hair: Tableau Vivant \\ Alexa
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
skinDeeTaleZ *Appliers* CATWA Head “Face Miriam”
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo: [White~Widow]  Desierto – White (*new* @ Cosmopolitan)

[Atomic]  Kitten Collar
Amala – The Daddy’s Necklace
=Zenith=Leather Belt Gloves


pose by Foxcity (edited with AnyPose)
MINIMAL  – Illusion III – *2*
7  – Peter’s Charcuterie
7  – Fire Alarm Light
7  – Fire Alarm Panel

Training Day

Mr. Snortle loved training day, because it meant he got his favorite treats. She loved the one on one time they spent together. It was always a good day. That one day a week, she dedicated to Mr. Snortle…Snorts for short. This particular day was perfect. The temperature was nice, there was even a nice cool breeze blowing the leaves and trees about. They had spent quite a bit of time outside that morning. She had taken him on a picnic. She laughed so much when he took off after that squirrel. “Just like his momma,” she thought to herself.
She’d even managed to pick up some fresh sunflowers for herself a friend. They were a special flower, as they reminded him of his father. He was coming over for dinner later and she thought they would be a nice surprise. Snorts just adored him, too. Today was going to be a good day, start to finish. What Snorts didn’t realize was that her friend was going to help give him a bath and as much as he loved playing in water, bath time was not his favorite activity. It sure amused her though. Plus she was going to change her sheets later and take a long hot bath herself. Surely, Mr. Snortle would appreciate that wonderful feeling of clean sheets after a bath, right?

training day

hair: [e] Janiah (*new* @ FaMESHed)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
skin: DeeTaleZ *Appliers* CATWA Head “Face Miriam”
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

!Rebel Hope – Delecate Mesh Dress (*new* @ FaMESHed)
!Rebel Hope – Sady Mesh Shoes (*new* @ FaMESHed)
JIAN Fun Frenchies 14. Brindle Companion (*new* @ Gacha Garden)

pose by Foxcity (edited with AnyPose)

Apple Fall Hetton Barn Conversion
LISP – Vintage Summer Rugs – Lemon
Sway’s [Agwe] Sofa . pattern / Adult
{-Maru Kado-} Sunflower (wear/group)
=Zenith=Spring Picnic Rattan Basket B (Milk)
{-Maru Kado-} Sunflower (wear/single)
Sway’s [Agwe] Vase with Monstera leaves

Boop this nose, Sassy!

Last September, I did a droog look that I absolutely loved in an ironic post called, World Peace. So clearly, this is not the first time I’ve done a post that refers to one of my favorite movies, Clockwork Orange, but sometimes things just fall together in such a way that I cannot resist. This picture is one of those things. First ChicModa releases a retexture of the Kat dress that was originally released in the April BishBox with a boop graphics. I knew I had to blog it, because Sassy Nitely is the queen of booping. Then my dear friend, Kess Crystal, gave me an extra hair that she nabbed from a lock&tuft gacha and passed it to me saying, “cos nothing says Sady more than Clockwork Orange hat hair!” I love that she remembered how much I love that movie. Naturally, between the hair and the dress…and now, of course, the movie…I couldn’t help but think of the masks they wore in one particularly uncomfortable scene of the movie. I, also, couldn’t help but think of my friend, Rom, because he has such a mask. So, off to marketplace I went, because if I’m going to blog a boop dress with droog hair, I need the ultimate dick nose mask, Boop this nose, Sassy! *laughs* She’s going to kill me!
Alright, so once again, you’ve had a peek into my twisted little head and how things often unfold. *giggles* You all know by now that I’ve got a good heart, but a very mischievous side, as well. So, surely this is not surprise to any of you…not really.


hair:  lock&tuft – droog – variety UNCOMMON (*new* @ SaNaRae)
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
mask: Lewd :  Alex Maskie
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skinGlam Affair – Polly – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica (*new* @ Kustom9)

ChicModa // Kat T-Shirt Dress
=Zenith=Cosy long Gloves
*MUKA* Garter Socks

pose by Del May
MINIMAL – Underground Background -2- (*new* @ Uber)


Want to Play a Game?

“A game is an ongoing series of complementary ulterior transactions progressing to a well-defined, predictable outcome. Descriptively, it is a recurring set of transactions… with a concealed motivation… or gimmick.”
Dr. Eric Berne Games People Play

Sound familiar? If you’ve been in SL for even a few months, I’m sure you’ve encountered a player or six. Let’s just cut to the chase. They are predators. If they have an agenda that doesn’t coincide with what they’re telling you? Yeah, its a trap and you’re probably the prey or possibly the bait. Either way, its no good. What motives could they have? Oh, please…money and sex are top of the list.  So, do we hate the player or the game? Well, if I didn’t knowingly sign up to play “the game” then I certainly don’t need to blame the game, now do I? I say hate them both…hate the game AND the player!
Now, if YOU like to play the game…awesome for you, but wouldn’t it be a lot more fun if the other people playing knew they were playing? Cuz seems to me, its gotta be pretty easy to win a game of checkers if no one else is playing. We all talk about making the world a better place. Here’s an idea…treat each other with respect….c’mon dude at the candy store…sending a dick pic is like walking around in a raincoat flashing women at the mall. Not cool and honestly, the type of woman that would jump right onto a man after seeing a picture of his genitals? Well, lets be fair, you can find plenty of those on those free sex sims.
Sadly, pervs like that rarely take the time to read the back of a shampoo bottle, much less a blog about fashion. So, I’ll just laugh with my perv friends that know whenever we get a picture of someone’s genitals…we share with our friends and spend the whole day making jokes about how bizarre it looked. You see, there was no man attached to make it attractive. The only thing that came with this intimate photo? Ignorant, disrespectful, desperation…that’s what came with that photo.


hair:  Beusy: Vida Hairstyle (*new* @ N21)
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

The Annex – Jezebel Dress – Onyx – MAITREYA (*new* @ Genre)
=Zenith=Cosy long Gloves – Maitreya
#EMPIRE – Xylobium

pose: oOo silent night_one_mirror
background: MINIMAL – Illusion II – *1* -RARE- (*new* @ Epiphany)

Fun Day

“I wish it was Sunday
‘Cause that’s my fun day
My I don’t have to run day”
The Bangles Manic Monday

I woke up with this song in my head, specifically that line. So, I thought I’d share a fun little picture I did the other day. Sometimes I just like to play with photography and this was one of my latest adventures. I don’t really have anything poignant to say other than enjoy your day. It’s mother’s day for some and I truly hope its a great day for you all. ♥



hairLamb. Easy Easy (Arcade)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
lipstick: [PF] CATWA LIPSTICK Applier – Glossy Pout
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

[ kunst ] – Vintage Cigarette Holder
=Zenith=Cosy long Gloves
.::Dead Dollz::. McQ Dress – White Tartan (*new* @ N21)
*MUKA* Garter Thigh Socks Dark
E-Clipse Hype Boots Black

pose: PosESioN
[Since1975]-Skateboards Hold (10)
[tmk meets 10T&Co.] SK8 set 1

Killing Strangers

Killing Strangers Marilyn Manson

This world doesn’t need no opera, we’re here for the operation
We don’t need a bigger knife (a bigger knife)
‘Cause we got guns, we got guns, we got guns (we got guns)
We got guns, you better run (ya better run, ya better run, ya better run)
We’re killing strangers, we’re killing strangers
We’re killing strangers, so we don’t kill the ones that we love
We’re killing strangers, we’re killing strangers
We’re killing strangers, so we don’t kill the ones that we love
Love, love, love
We pack demolition
We can’t pack emotion
Dynamite, we just might
So blow us a kiss, blow us a kiss
Blow us a kiss, we’ll blow you to pieces
We’re killing strangers, we’re killing strangers
We’re killing strangers, so we don’t kill the ones that we love
Love, love, love
And we got guns, we got guns
Motherfuckers better, better better run
We got guns, we got guns
Motherfuckers better run
We got guns, we got guns
Motherfuckers better, better better run
We got guns, we got guns
Motherfuckers better run
We’re killing strangers, we’re killing strangers
We’re killing strangers, so we don’t kill the ones that we love
We’re killing strangers, we’re killing strangers
We’re killing strangers, so we don’t kill the ones that we love
Love, love, love, love, love, love
You better run
We got guns, we got guns, we got guns


So, the idea for this photo came to me while I was driving to Pensacola on Friday. Guess what I was listening to on the way down! *laughs* So, I’m not writing a whole lot. I think the lyrics say it all. What I will say is that there are some truly talented creators on the grid and the team at Cynful has got to be the cream of the crop! Everything they release just makes me drool. No matter what your style, they’re bound to have something for you. This Take Note set offered up at Kinky is no exception. While I know this outfit was designed with a naughty secretary in mind, I couldn’t help but think gangster…which is why this song inspired the look I put together here. Look at me, thinking all outside the box and stuff…I think I’ll go ask the boss for a promotion…*laughs*

Happy shopping and how about you kill strangers with kindness instead of guns, yeah? Except Grace, she has foam knives. *nods*

hair.Shi Hair : Octavia / Unisex . LBlonde (*new* @ Uber)
head: CATWA HEAD Catya
eyes: CATWA Mesh Eyes w/-SU!– [CATWA & OMEGA HUD] Xenira Eyes ALL COLORS
eyeshadowIzzie’s – Catwa – Applier Dark Metallic Eyeshadow Hud
ears^^Swallow^^ Ears Elf HD – High Definition
lipstick: -SU!- The Matte Lip Essentials //Catwa BENTO//
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

[CX] Bento Piercing Labret Ring ( Catwa )
[CX] Bento Piercing Snakebites ( Catwa )
-SECRETS- Bianca Rings – Black (*new* @ Crossroads)
Astralia – Rock nails with HUD (Bento) (*new* @ N21)
=Zenith=secret agen gun (Black)
N-core NIKA HANDGUN “Silver”

[Cynful] Take Note Set tie & dress (*new* @ Kinky)
N-core NIKA

poses: Verocity – American Girl Pose Set
Soy. BKLYNITES LOFT – Old American Flag
BioNiT’s HL1 MP5 V1.86 (no info on creator)
Bauhaus Movement – Cypriss’s Apocalypse Gun
*The Creatures* Belt Gun
[10224] Machine gun Type I (no info on creator)

Unanswered Prayers

I’m quite fortunate as of late to have become acquainted with a very talented live singer in Second Life, perhaps you’ve heard of her: Savannah Rain. Now, let me just say that in my 10+ yrs on the grid, I’ve NEVER been a huge fan of the live music scene. I’m not even a fan of live music in Real Life. I like the polished studio sound, sue me. However, a few months ago, my friend Troy dragged me out of my shell and kinda kidnapped me daily…dragging me to live music shows for singers he manages through Whispering Sands Live Promotions.  Not only have I become a bit of a fan of a few singers, but Savannah even has me liking country music again. Something I haven’t done in many many years. Now, this post is not about promoting any of what I mentioned above, but I thought why not give a shout out, since they’ve definitely changed my life. So, the point of this post is something the lovely Savannah said  the other day that really struck home, “Thank God, for unanswered prayers!”


I’ve heard that said before, but its been a long while. It really got me thinking about various things that I really thought I wanted throughout my life and how fortunate I was that I did not get what I so desperately wanted. Most recently for me I went after a job that I really thought I wanted. I got the interview. It went great. She called me in to sit and observe for a few hours with the woman I’d be replacing. She even paid me for the time I was there, but the day ended on an odd note. She told me I could leave early. I wasn’t sure if that was a good or bad thing as I literally did nothing for three hours. They wouldn’t let me do anything! I thought it went well and that I went above and beyond to show how much I wanted the job. So, I went home wondering if I’d done anything wrong, just hoping and praying that I didn’t…that I would get this job. I waited about an hour, then sent an email to let her know how much I appreciated the opportunity to come in and observe, making sure to express that I was still very interested in the position. That was almost two weeks ago. I’ve not gotten any response.
Maybe its just me, but it seems to me that if I was worth interviewing and inviting in for three hours of observation, am I not worth an email thanking me for coming in and letting me know they went another direction? Anything…something? Well, so now I’m sitting here thinking to myself, if THAT is how they treat someone that they simply interviewed and put through a try out process…I can only imagine what kind of boss she’d be. I’m no longer impressed and feeling rather glad that I didn’t get the job…now.


So, try not to be too sad when you don’t get something you think you really really want, because you never know…that thing you want? It might not be so great once you get it…or better yet…there’s something ten times more amazing waiting for you right around the corner. In the meantime, might I suggest you find some solace in some solid retail therapy.  Lots of great stuff out there and it should not surprise any of my regular readers to discover that I’m showing off more of my recent finds at Uber, hands down one of my favorite shopping events on the grid.

hair: TRUTH HAIR JoJo (*new* @ Uber)
head: CATWA HEAD Catya
eyes: CATWA Mesh Eyes w/-SU!- [CATWA & OMEGA HUD] Xenira Eyes ALL COLORS
skin: [theSkinnery] Fleur (Catwa Applier) honey (*new* @ Shiny Shabby)
eyeshadow: ::SG::  Let’sGo Shadow – JESSICA HEAD :: Catwa
lipstick: ::SG:: Gelly Lips for CATWA Heads ONLY!
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

**RE** Simone Heart Collar
[ kunst ] – Devon bracelets (*new* @ Uber)

Tres Blah – Bib Tank Top (Maitreya) – Rock (C88)
=Zenith=leather legging with belt (Black) -Maitreya
=Zenith=Detroit Boots (Black) -Maitreya (*new* @ Uber)

poses: Gingerfish Poses -Eclectic Set (Spotlight Magazine Group Gift)
backdrop: [Bad Unicorn] 06 Hype-Beast Backdrop

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