Setting Off Alarms

Time for some more real talk. This time, I’m talking about profiles, the kinds of profiles that should set off alarms. You ready? Let’s get it started! Going to just list off some common things I see around the grid that should set off alarms based on my almost 11yrs on the grid.

1. Profiles that read, “Just came back to SL after a long break.” Chances are this person is an alt. I’m not saying don’t talk to them, but take it slow and watch them closely.
2. Profiles that have threat picks. You know the ones…”if you touch/hurt so & so, I will rip your heart out of your chest and shove it down your throat” kinda picks. Clearly, they’re not going to do any of that and the fact that they feel the need to make such threats publicly shows a lack of maturity and intelligence.
3. Blank profiles. C’mon people, put some effort into you SL. Blank profiles suggest you’re an alt or terribly boring. Either way…ALARM bells!
4. Overtly sexy profile pics. Legs spread with a bottle between your legs, may be a hot a picture, but its sending a message to everyone that looks at your profile. Skank that likes to drink. You either want nothing but sex or you’re desperate for attention.
5. The declaration against drama. I’m going to tell you right now. These people are usually the ones stirring the pot, then stepping back with their popcorn to watch the damage. RUN! Let me explain, you cannot get through life without drama. Don’t believe me, perhaps you need to see the definition of drama. Do allow me to enlighten you.
|||||drama: any situation or series of events having vivid, emotional, conflicting, or
striking interest or results|||||
6. Declaration of being a bitch/asshole. Chances are they’re correct, so why even bother. These people have up walls and they’ve just informed you of that fact. Do you honestly feel like jumping through hoops for them before you’ve even gotten to know them?
7. Emo picks. If their picks are full of emotional vomit. They’re either going to bring you down or suck you into it. Its exhausting and seriously, did you come to SL for that?
8. Passive aggressive picks. They have a pick clearly aimed at someone they believe is watching their profile, but don’t have the balls to just say it directly to whomever they’re talking about. Chances are the next one could be aimed at you. Why bother?
9. Profiles that read like an online dating profile. There are actual sites & groups in SL for that, but overall that is not the main objective of Second Life. C’mon, everyone you meet here isn’t looking for love. Just stop it already.
10. Profiles that declare they keep SL & RL separate.  This is impossible unless that avatar is strictly for Role-Play purposes and says so straight away. Some aspect of the real person behind the avatar is involved with how they interact in this virtual world. This person is most likely hiding something.

So, there’s my top ten profile warning signs. It pays to read profile before approaching each other and often shows you whether or not you have something in common. 

trouble maker

wearing:
hair: Tableau Vivant \\ Alexa
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
skinDeeTaleZ *Appliers* CATWA Head “Face Miriam”
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo: [White~Widow]  Desierto – White (*new* @ Cosmopolitan)

[Atomic]  Kitten Collar
Amala – The Daddy’s Necklace
=Zenith=Leather Belt Gloves

LYBRA  DIXIE BLOGGERS (*new* @ Kinky)

pose by Foxcity (edited with AnyPose)
scene:
MINIMAL  – Illusion III – *2*
7  – Peter’s Charcuterie
7  – Fire Alarm Light
7  – Fire Alarm Panel

Random Run

She was out for a run like any other day. She stopped at the corner market for her bottle of water and a rest when the adorable little puppy wandered up, tongue and tail wagging. She poured some of her water on the ground for the pup and he lapped up before passing out at her feet. He had no tags and he was too cute to leave abandoned in a parking lot. She sighed and rolled her eyes at herself, I don’t have time for a puppy. She carried the pup into the store and asked the clerk if she knew anything about it. The clerk mentioned that the pup had been hanging around for a few days but no one had claimed it or came looking for it. Sady sighed again, left her number with the clerk just in case anyone came looking for the sweet puppy and took it home.
That was six years ago, the Random and Sady have been inseparable ever since.

rest stop

wearing:
hair/Wasabi Pills/ Deanna (*new* @ FaMESHed)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
skin: DeeTaleZ *Appliers* CATWA Head “Face Miriam”
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo: [White~Widow] Coco – Black (*new* @ Uber)

[Z O O M] Jinks Glasses (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Scandalize. Annie TOP. Maitreya (*new* @ MBA Fair)
Scandalize. ANNIE Sweatshirt. Maitreya (*new* @ MBA Fair)
Scandalize. ANNIE Leggins. Maitreya (*new* @ MBA Fair)
REIGN.– JUNE SNEAKERS
JIAN Lively Labs :: Black Companion Pup
{Imeka} Cutie water bottle {5}

Scene:
7 – Ice Machine II PG (pose included, edited with AnyPose)
RAMA – #selfie_RAMA Sclater Street

Seeing Red

A run in with a stupid plumber really has me seeing red! Here’s the story or you can skip to the credits. Your call, but I need to vent and its my blog. So, I’ll do what I want! *laughs*
So, the relief valve on our hot water heater has been leaking hot water. We’re catching it in a bucket, letting it cool and using the water for the plants. So that its not a total waste of water. We have American Home Shield which is an insurance that covers appliances…like water heaters. So, we call them, and they send out a plumber. We only have to pay $75 and he should fix it. Easy peasy, right? We already knew what needed to be done, but didn’t know how to replace that valve so that’s why we called.
This moronic plumber shows up and says that we need something called a relief tank that is $375 and not covered by AHS. I’m in the other room with the dog, listening to him try to sell this crap to my mom, right?
So, I step out of the bedroom and start asking questions. He walks out of the house while I’m talking to him. He sits on our patio for a few minutes on the phone, then steps back in and says, “I got another call. I gotta go!” So, I start asking him why he can’t fix this and why his solution makes no sense. This dude gives me the hand and walks out and leaves.
Well, Sady, how do you know he’s wrong, if you’re not a plumber?
I’ll tell you how. For one thing, we’ve lived her over 20 yrs and never needed any release tank before. Secondly, there’s no place for such a thing. Third, I’ve been in over a dozen other condos where we live and NO ONE has such a thing! There’s not freaking room in these condos for such a thing! Furthermore, when we suggested that he simply replace the valve like it suggested online, he said, “Well, I could, but if its leaks again we’ll be right back here in 3 months!” Uhm, wouldn’t that be OUR problem? He tried to tell us that we had to pay him anyway, but in his hasty escape, he forgot his check and never gave us a work order! Good, cuz he didn’t fix anything and shouldn’t get paid.
I’m convinced he’s been unclogging toilets with his mouth, cuz he’s full of shit!
seeing red
wearing:
hair: MINA – Emma (*new* @ Hair Fair 2017)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo:  [White~Widow] DarkTower  (*new* @ Uber)
piercing: 1.::GB::Lip piercing (Catwa Kathy) (Cross chain) RARE (*new* @ Shiny Shabby)

ChicModa // Aly Skirt

pose & background from FOXCITY.

Sweet Dreams

Many years ago, seems more like a lifetime ago, I had a roommate that kept chocolates in her nightstand. At first I thought it was strange that she had chocolates at all, as she was very weight conscious to the point that her other friends and I would worry about her. However, she had quite a few nightly habits that I learned about over time. The chocolates were just one of them. You see, her thing with the chocolates was that she would eat one or two each night before bed. She said that was to insure she had sweet dreams. I did try this little trick and sometimes I can do it, but sadly, I’m much like my friend Tracy and I cannot stop with just one of two. I end up eating like five! Okay, Tracy would eat the whole bag, but this isn’t really about her. *laughs* Okay, its not really about anything, except me wishing all those that remember their dreams to have sweet ones, cuz I’m pretty sure I’ve cornered the market on weird ones and nightmares.

time for bed

wearing: 
hair
:  TRUTH Taren (*new* @ Uber)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo:  [White~Widow] DarkTower  (*new* @ Uber)
The Annex – Ava Vintage Teddy

pose: FOXCITY. Show Off Pose Set (*new* @ ON9)

scene:
:CP: NorthHaven Bed
:CP: NorthHaven Night Table
:CP: NorthHaven Peony Jar
:CP: NorthHaven Lamp

 

Talk Derby to Me

Talk Derby to Me

Once upon a time…like a decade plus ago, I was involved with the local roller derby girls in my real life. Oh don’t be daft, my ass was not a derby girl. Let me explain. I was editor of my college newspaper, so I was always on the hunt for a good story that the readers might find interesting. Well, it just so happened that my boss’s daughter was the captain of the new local roller derby team. I scheduled an interview and before I knew it I was hooked. I was going to all of their matches and a my assistant editor had joined up! It was a brutal, but incredibly sexy sport.
I was telling Josh about it when I was taking this picture and he didn’t anything about it. So, I went to YouTube in search of some examples and it seems the rules have changed quite a bit since my days of hanging out with derby girls. However, in the event that you, too, are not aware of what it is or would just like to check it out, I’ve found a video of highlights that I enjoyed called Roller Derby-The Mad Whirl!  Perhaps, you will, too. Either way, I’m loving all the skating pictures that are about on the blogs and Flickr at the moment, because it is really taking me down a pretty awesome memory lane. So, here’s the video. If you watch it, you’ll probably see where I got the title for this post.

talkderbytome_002

wearing:
hairpr!tty – Yuri – -Windy
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: Glam Affair – Felicity – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica (*new* @ C88)
facepaint: [LF] Native Paint 3 CATWA Applier
::SG:: GellyLips Catwa and Classi SL Heads
tattoo: [White~Widow] MatchPoint (*new* @ Uber)

::TI:: Grunge Face straps – Black Silver
.random.Matter. – Cermet Collar – Do Not Feed [Black]
BUENO-Rucy Top (*new* @ Kustom9)
{le fil casse} Minnie Skirt (*new* in Cutie Loot May)
fri. – Footless Socks (Athletic) (*new* @ Rewind)

pose by Di’s Opera

Astralia – Vintage backgrounds (Roller Rink) RARE (*new* @ Rewind)
REIGN.-  DERBY SKATES BAG- #13

Stick a Knife In It

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” ~Mohandas Gandhi

This is a lesson that took me ages me to learn. I had to learn that I had more power over how I feel than anyone else. I had to learn that forgiveness does not mean forgetting. I had to learn that holding onto resentments is like carrying rocks in my pocket and that each resentment I carry is just another rock. How many rocks must one soul carry until they learn to start letting them go? I had to learn that anger is a secondary emotion. Its one we choose, because its more comfortable than the fear and/or pain behind it. There will be some that read this and disagree, but that simply means they haven’t learned these lessons yet. Some never will. I know these things to be true. I know them to be as true as my weight and the scars on my skin.
Learning to forgive, despite the pain and/or fear certainly is not easy. It doesn’t mean you have to find love in your heart for those that have scorned you. It means you have to find love in your heart for yourself. Enough love to stop giving more power to those that hurt you. It means taking the power away from those that do not deserve it. I recently found out that someone that I once counted among my closest friends has been telling lies about me. He’s told innumerable people that I was trying to sleep with him and that’s why he quit being my friend. Those that know me…that really know him…they know that simply isn’t true, but there are plenty of people out there that are listening and believing his lies. It hurt. It still does, but there’s nothing I can do about him, his lies, or those that choose to believe him, except forgive him and let it go.
Will I ever trust him again? Will I ever be his friend again? Of course not. Learning to forgive and let go does not color me a fool. It simply strengthens me and lightens the load on my soul. I will never understand his reasons for that lie. He could have simply told the truth. We had an argument, we both felt the other person was unreasonable and he chose to walk away rather than talk it out. He could have said that I threw the friendship away, as that may very well have been his understanding of the situation. However, he chose to spread rumors and lies about me instead. Again, I admit that it hurt.
By forgiving him, I drop those rocks of resentment with his name on them, and I lighten the load on my soul. In the end, I am the stronger one, because by lightening my spiritual load I strengthen it at well. He is but one example of how people have stabbed me in the back. There are many others, but I must forgive them, as well. For its my spirit that I must care for and it is my responsibility to lighten that load. I have far more serious matters going on in my life that worrying about this man and his lies or anyone else that chooses to hate me for no genuine reason. So, to him I say, “I forgive you, here’s my back, stick a knife in it if you must, but you will NOT break my spirit or rape my soul.”

 

hide n seek

wearing:
hair: /Wasabi Pills/ Apple Mesh Hair (*new* @ ULTRA)
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo: [White~Widow] TwinPeaks II – Black (*new* @ Enchantment)
_CandyDoll_ Megan Panties Black (*new* @ Rewind)
Phedora ~ Melissa Strappy heels  (*new* @ Kustom9)
JIAN Jack Russel Terrier :: Companion (Luxe Box May)

pose by Del May

backdrop: RAMA – #selfie_RAMA Cube Photostudio (*new* @ 6 Republic)

Blue’s Angels

All three of us have been anxiously awaiting the final reveal of the newest and possibly the greatest creation from Blueberry yet….Breeanya! As the three of us stood there, posing while I sifted through windlights, we chatted about how much we loved the dress and several story ideas occurred to me, but alas I did not have the focus to full write one. However, I can’t help but share some of the ideas….mostly because of conversations we had.
There once was an angel named BooBooKittyFuck.  She thought she was better than all the other angels cuz in her words…she’s as “Angelic as fuck!”
Once upon a timie there were three angels that protected the gates to Heaven and it burned to the ground.
I love these two women and we had an absolute blast taking this picture. I certainly hope our humor hasn’t offended anyone and if it has….well, I apologize, but that’s who we are…we’re angels! I promise!!! *giggles and hides her crossed fingers behind her back*
Blue's Angels
left to right: Grace Sixpence, Sadystika Sabretooth, and Nikole “BooBooKittyFuck” Pizzaro

Grace:
hairLittle Bones – Elle
tattooBolson / Tattoo –  Bernard

Sady:
hairTRUTH HAIR Cheri  (*new* @ Uber)
tattoo.::Nanika::. India tattoo

Nik:
hair: Doux – Lorena
tattoo[White~Widow] Loving

We are all wearing:
Blueberry – Angelberry Halo, Wings, & Shoes
Blueberry – Breeanya

pose: oOo Chicks