Family Ties

“The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life.” ~Richard Bach
I haven’t started a blog with a quote that wasn’t a song lyric in a while, but this topic has been on my mind for some time now. Father’s Day occurred only two days ago and as I scrolled through Facebook I saw message after message about people’s fathers. Some were well wishes, some shared memories of fathers past, and then there were people like me that avoided the subject altogether. I can’t know why others avoided the subject, but I know why I did. I even had to tell Skype (yes, outloud) to stfu. Skype had a message that said, “Fathers are people, too!” My response was, “Not all of them! Some of them are monsters!” I don’t think its a secret that I’m another girl on the grid with daddy issues. Given how common abusive fathers seem to be, we’re merely statistics.
However, I’m not going to waste this post or your time bitching about my father. Instead, I want to embrace the blessing of family bonding with people I’ve never even met face to face. Like many other people in Second Life, I am part of a family. I don’t always feel like part of the family, as most of them really don’t talk to me much and to be fair, its not like I go out of my way to hunt them down and pursue conversations either. Yet, I do feel like a few of them would truly be there if I needed them.
I think the truest “family” I have on the grid would probably be the cunts. Now, hold on, don’t get your britches twisted, we call ourselves the Cunt Cult and we’re a group of besties. At the core there’s four of us, there’s a fifth one, but she’s off living the real life. (She fell in love! SQUEEEE!) Kess, Tracy, Grace, and I have built a bond unlike that I’ve ever known before. We’re not a clique. We don’t go around doing the whole mean girls thing, dressing alike, following a leader. Although, if we did, Kess would be it…she’s bossy like that. *laughs* My point is…while some of us don’t have traditional families in real life or even partake in family groups on the grid, we have each other. We have that bond between friends that is as strong, if not stronger, than any family ties I’ve ever known. For that, I am grateful.
I have so many circles of wonderful friends inworld that I am so grateful for and I love them each dearly. Though we may not speak every day and some not even every week, we are there for one another when it counts. I’m also grateful for my fur babies in real life, because they are just as much a part of my family as my mother or my husband. Even though they can’t make me coffee in the morning.
So, whatever kind of family ties you have, hold them close, hold them dear to you heart, and don’t wait for some “holiday” to celebrate them. Tell them today that you love them, because none of us are guaranteed a tomorrow.

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wearing: 
hair
:  Lamb. Home (June Luxe Box)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
skin: Glam Affair – Polly – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica (*new* @ Arcade)
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
UC_Jane_Fringe_mini_dress_slate (*new* @ Kustom9)
#EMPIRE – Wandflower (June VIP Group Gift)

pose by Double Take
location: The Mill 

The Ugliest Thing I Could Find

So, the tie dye pattern on this Migle dress from United Colors reminded me of one of my favorite shirts when I was about 18. There’s actually a funny story about that shirt. My parents got divorced when I was 15, for the first year my mom cried almost every night. After that she went a little wild. She was going on trips quite regularly, but being the awesome mom that she was, she would always bring me a present. Being the mom with awful taste meant I wasn’t going to like it if it was clothing. Then lo and behold she returned from a trip with the most awesome looking black and white tie dyed shirt I had ever seen. It wasn’t even a tee shirt, it was like a wicked blouse! I was so shocked and happy. As I’m standing there hugging the shirt, then holding it up, then ripping off my current shirt to try it on, my mom is standing there laughing so hard she has tears running down her face. Naturally, I had to know what was so damn funny, right?
She wiped the tears from her face and asked if I really liked the shirt. I nodded profusely, “Yes! I love it, Momma! Thank you. I can’t believe you picked this out, though.”
She laughed again for a minute then said, “Well, you never like anything I pick out, so I just looked around the shop for the ugliest thing I could find. You’re welcome.”
Damn woman. We still have opposing taste in most things, but she’s gotten a lot better at picking out gifts over the years. *laughs* Even if she thinks they’re ugly.

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wearing: 
hair
Tableau Vivant \\ Caprice hair (*new* @ SL14)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo: .::Nanika::. Scarlet tattoo Black

UC_Migle_dress (*new* @ SouledOut)
fri. – Dora Sandals (*new* @ Uber)

pose by an lar [poses] The Betty Series (*new* @ Vintage Fair)

location…well, I can’t tell you that, it was at a friend’s beach…sorry, not sorry

When Did It Happen?

Record stores, newspapers, phone booths…they all seem rather obsolete these days. Technology has hurled us so far beyond these things, that all three are in the palm of hands.
Yes, from time to time you’ll stumble across a used record store and the random DJ that actually spins vinyl, or even the purest that insists nothing will ever sound better. However, on average most of us are listening to MP3s. I don’t even own a CD player anymore with the exception of the one in my eleven year old car that I still love as much as the day I got it. However, my RL husband (eventually ex) got a new car last year and it came with a USB port for MPs rather than a CD player. Seems CD players are becoming antiquated, too.
My father started a hobby magazine for radio control airplanes in the 80s. It did quite well, I was even fortunate enough to be assistant editor on a few issues. However, as the internet grew, his magazine suffered. Bloggers and websites quickly replaced subscriptions to his hobby magazine. Eventually, he sold his magazine to someone much younger that took it straight to the internet. That was the end of his magazine. Similarly, our local newspaper was forced to close their doors and re-route the issues through another city’s newspaper office. We only get two issues on the local stands now….Wednesday and Sunday. Bigger publications may still be in circulation, but even they have learned to incorporate the internet and offer a new type of subscription service there. Even books have moved to devices, they save us space and such, right? I tried those electronic readers, but I can’t do it. I need to feel of the paper in my hands, the smell of the ink as I crack it open to read another chapter.
Phones…whoa…land lines and phone booths are fading just as fast. I can’t remember the last time I saw a working phone booth. We let go of our land line years ago. Why pay for another phone line when each person in the house has their own personal cell phone?
I could go on and on about this subject as I’m sure anyone over 40 can. I’m just going to offer you a link to a song that really sums it up far better than I ever could. He’s an artist I was introduced to a little over a year ago and I quickly became a huge fan. His name is Watsky and the song is Tiny Glowing Screens Part 1. I encourage you to check him out for more than just this song while I try to wrap my head around it all.

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wearing:
hair[monso] My Hair – Twobi (*new* @ Kustom9)
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skinGlam Affair – Polly – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica (*new* @ Kustom9)
lipstick: ::SG:: GellyLips Catwa and Classi SL Heads
tattooISUKA Sombra (ULTRA Anniversary gift)

[ kunst ] – Vintage Cigarette Holder
**RE** Dark Queen Bracelets
**RE** Dark Queen Rings – Bento 2.0
Kibitz — Bonnie Collar — Black (*new* @ Kustom9)
UC_Sisi_short_dress_red_Maitreya_Slink_Belleza (*new* @ Kustom9)

pose by Bauhaus Movement
location: Whole Wheat

Toxic

As I live my life, I’ve encountered a lot of toxic people, some are more so than others. Every once in a while, I come across one that is so toxic they become a cancer. It is then that I must listen to my gut and my closest friends…to go under the figurative knife and cut out that cancer. Removing it completely from my life, regardless of how much it hurts at the moment or how hard the process may be, it is most definitely necessary.

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Much like cancer, sometimes those toxic people come back, and I have to fight those demons…work that process…borrow strength from friends and fight with all I have to stay strong. I cannot let myself be sucked back into that manipulative toxic environment. To lose myself into some bottomless pit of darkness, because if I do not cut those poisonous people from my life as quickly as possible…I risk everything. This is something I have to do again and again. Its not something I enjoy. It makes me feel horrible, because my heart goes out to the person behind the toxicity and deep down I don’t want to let go. I don’t want to believe that I have to cut them out of my life to stay healthy. Sadly, I have to face that truth. I have to break promises and THAT tears at my soul.

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Thank Godde (play on words, some of you will catch that, some of you won’t) for retail therapy! I managed to shimmy my way into ULTRA during early access, grabbed up some amazing goodies and off I went to get my pictures. There are always a lot of incredible events going on, but ULTRA is a really, really good one. Not too big, not too small, but always on point with quality designers.
Check out these Icarus ears from E.A. Studio. How freaking cool are they? And the HUD? You can change the colors of the feathers, the metals, and there are options for the gauged part as well…you’ll have to go to Tres Chic for these, cuz they’re an exclusive!
And Cosmopolitan…you gotta be quick, but Codex is on the scene with the Betlam Necklace and it is gorgeous.
There’s nothing like some good old fashioned retail therapy to make me feel whole again. So, happy shopping to all of you and don’t you let those toxic people hold you back!♥

wearing:
hair: no.match_ ~ NO_OTHER  (*new* @ ULTRA)
head: CATWA HEAD Catya
skin: [theSkinnery] Opal (Catwa Applier) honey
eyeshadow: Veechi – Luster Glam Shadow [Catwa]
lipstickPink Acid For Catwa Overly Transparent Gloss Pepper
ears: .:E.A.Studio Ears Icarus (*new EXCLUSIVE* @ Tres Chic)
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

.:E.A.Studio:.Box Piercing Bare Code
[CX] Bento Piercing Labret Ring ( Catwa ) (*new* @ Seasons Story)
[CX] Bento Piercing Snakebites ( Catwa ) (*new* @ Seasons Story)
CODEX_NECKLACE BETLAM BLACK (*new* @ Cosmopolitan)
.aisling. Eunice – Bracelets Black 1

UC_Christine_dress_black_Maitreya_Slink_Belleza (*new* @ ULTRA)
REIGN.– Scillia Heels

an lar [poses] The Alisha Series (*new* @ ULTRA)
photos taken at Whole Wheat

Friday the 13th

“Very superstitious, writing on the wall
Very superstitious, ladders bout’ to fall
Thirteen month old baby, broke the lookin’ glass
Seven years of bad luck, the good things in your past
When you believe in things that you don’t understand
Then you suffer
Superstition ain’t the way”
~Stevie Wonder Superstition

I hadn’t really planned these photos for a Friday the 13th post, else there would be black cats, broken mirrors, and ladders involved. However, it has already been a most interesting and entertaining morning. I’ve never had particularly bad luck on Friday the 13th. One of my favorite people was born on a Friday the 13th. Some of the best moments in my life happened on Friday the 13th. And naturally, one cannot dismiss one of the most iconic horror movies of our time and our leading man Jason Voorhees. So, needless to say, I am excited about today. For me and my dark twisted little mind, it tends to be more of a fun and victorious day rather than something scary and ominous.

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I’m simply not a superstitious person, but I have certainly witnessed some crazy superstitions in my lifetime, particularly in the Southern U.S. where I’ve spent the majority of my life. (Don’t judge me!) Of course, the basics are black cats crossing your path, broken mirrors, walking under ladders, seeing the bride in her dress before the wedding, etc. I won’t bother with the debunking or revealing the history of these superstitions, nor will I poke fun at those that truly believe. (Okay, I will be laughing at you, but I won’t tease you…much.)

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Some of the crazier superstitions I’ve been warned of over the course of my life have included, but are not limited to the following:
1. Do not set your purse on the floor or you’ll go broke. (Well, that explains everything!)
2. Never sign financial documents, particularly checks, with red ink. (More impending financial doom!)
3. If you look a dog in the eye while it poops you’ll get a pimple in your eye. (I’m thinking you got too close!)
4. Never let anyone sweep your feet or you’ll be single forever. (This is very popular with restaurant workers.)
5. If your primary hand itches, you’ve got money coming your way. If your other hand itches, you’ll be getting a parcel soon. (This one was popular with my Grandmother. I have to admit, I kinda like this one.)
6. Whatever you’re doing when the clock strikes midnight on New Year’s Eve is what you will be doing the most, the following year. (Looks like I’ll be sleeping most of 2017! WEWT!)
7. A wild bird in your house is a warning that someone you know is about to die.  (Yeah, probably the bird. I have two cats!)
8. If your ears are burning, someone is talking poorly of you. If they’re itching, someone is speaking nicely of you. (This one amuses me. I don’t know why.)

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What I do know is that I’m a very lucky and sometimes unlucky girl, but I do not believe any of it is associated with superstitions. Whether you’re superstitious or not, I hope that this Friday the 13th you will find lots of great deals during your shopping excursions (cuz we all know you’re gonna shop in SL today) and that any ‘luck’ that finds its way to you is good. May Linden Labs servers stay vigilant, may your internet be strong, and  may you suffer not at the hands of lag! *giggles* Yes, it really is that sort of morning for me.

Happy Friday the 13th!!!  XOXO
Oh and for an added bonus, I’ve been told we’re under a full moon, too!
SQUEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!

wearing:
hair:[RA] May Hair
head: CATWA HEAD Catya
skin: [theSkinnery] Opal (Catwa Applier) honey
eyeshadow: Izzie’s – Soft Shimmer Eyeshadows (Catwa Applier)
lipstickMadrid Solo-Appliers- CATWA -Bewitched Lip Colors
ears: .:E.A.Studio Ear Nepthune
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

.:E.A.Studio:.Box Piercing Bare Code
[CX] Bento Piercing Labret Ring ( Catwa ) (*new* @ Seasons Story)
[CX] Bento Piercing Snakebites ( Catwa ) (*new* @ Seasons Story)
…:::Beautiful Dirty Rich:::… Reckless Collar (unpacked)
MINIMAL – Female Dalshim Bracelets
!APHORISM! Bijou Collection – Silver Ring – Moonstone
EF: Taos Ring
UC_Tatjana_leather_dress (*new* @ Mesh Body Addicts)
PHEDORA / Trinity Boots / 30.C

poses by Del May (some editing done using AnyPose)
taken at Whole Wheat

Tea Party? Nah! Let’s drink wine!

“Welcome to the Tea Party
Want to be my VIP?
You didn’t RSVP
That’s ok, that’s ok
Welcome to the Tea Party (oh oh, oh oh)
Want to be my VIP?”
~Kerli “Tea Party

Ok, so when I first saw the Garden Soiree Set by unKindness at Collabor88, I immediately had the above mentioned song in my head. I knew I had to have a little gathering of my roommates for a photo. Anyone that knows my crew, knows that we’re not exactly tea drinkers…so it had to be a wine party, right? Well, imagine getting five very creative and strong personalities together, suggesting a theme and giving them some freedom to express themselves…yeah, madness ensued.

tea eh wine partyI am very fortunate that they let me believe I had any sense of control while shooting these photos or that I had any influence at all over their outfits. I said, “Go for it…be bizarre…be creative.” I should have known that Rom would show up in his favorite boots. Tracy, of course, shows up in as little as possible. Afterall, “Tracy’s flickr” is our favorite answer to all Cards Against Humanity questions (try it, it works). When I told them to hop on the pose stands I had filled with poses from Del May, Grace immediately asked if she could be passed out on the table. It only seemed natural that she would be, so I had to say yes. I knew the minute I saw the dress from sYs that I’d be wearing it for the party and when Sino saw it, he quickly put together his own stunning look.
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Being surrounded by friends this way was amazing and I’m not sure I can even begin to explain the conversations we had while I shot these photos, but I can’t recommend the experience enough. I know we all gather at clubs and dance to our favorite DJs. That is so much fun in its own right, but please if you’ve never done it…have a party at home with your closest friends. Ask them to dress in theme and break out the cameras, because THIS?
Yeah, in almost 10 years on the grid, these types of little parties have always been my favorite. We might not have been genuinely drunk in real life, but we sure were high on life and I’m so grateful that I was able to catch this madness on virtual film. Even when things went a bit haywire with my poses stands, the fun continued.
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The Garden Soiree Set inspires the oncoming of fall and it just so happens that its mine and Tracy’s favorite season…no, that has nothing to do with the fact that both our birthdays are in October…pssshaw! Its the time of pumpkins, caramel apples, cinnamon candles, hot cocoa…ok, lots of apple things…Halloween…falling leaves…all sorts of good stuffs! So, we got a little excited…and its really a very lovely set, despite the madness represented here. All the credits for the peeps and the scene are listed below, to make it easier a brief description of who is who is first.
Sady (moi) is the one sitting on a stacked set of benches, all the way on the left.
Grace is that voluptuous woman on the table.
Rom is the man on the table…the one with the sexy boots.
Sino is our dapper soldierish captain man in the front.
Tracy is the half naked one in the mask, sorry, Tracy….guess that mask didn’t do you much good there.

Sady is wearing:
hair: Tableau Vivant \\ Sari hair (*new* @ Collabor88)
*LODE* Head Accessory – Leila [brown]
CATWA HEAD Destiny
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
erratic / cuffs / gold
[MANDALA]Sinra Rings Season2 (*new* @ Collabor88)
[sYs] TRIANON dress (fitted & body mesh) – royal (*new* @ Collabor88)
REIGN.- Olympus Heels  (*new* @ Collabor88)

Grace is wearing:
hair:[sYs] SHINZO hair  (*new* @ Collabor88)
CATWA HEAD Dyana
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
[MANDALA]Sinra Rings Season2 (*new* @ Collabor88)
Rowne.Damir Sheer Dress (*new* @ Collabor88)
[VALE KOER] CRUEL HEELS (*new* @ Collabor88)

Rom is wearing:
hair: [NO!Project]  Kellen
.::SAMURAI::.. Cyrus Mesh Head
^^Swallow^^ Ears Goth BLACK
Bokeh – Monacle
[Deadwool] Moustache
[NikotiN]   Cigarette_ Damier
Slink Physique MALE Mesh Body
UC_leather_harness_black_men_Slink
[House of Ruby] Shine Thong for Him – Gold
::GB:: Metallic nail  Gloves
::GB::Silver wand
BTTB eir heels – black – male SLINK

Sino is wearing:
(epia) – Modern Officer Cap
#TheMeshProject (BETA) Head(m) – Moody
**RE** Savage Ear Piercings
.:E.A.Studio:. Piercing Bare Code Gold
**RE** Keal Nose Chains – Male
[CX] Venom Septum
[The Forge] Iron Clad Collar
#TheMeshProject (BETA) Deluxe Body
[The Forge] Iron Clad Pauldrons
.random.Matter. & Le Morte – Aeson Gloves
**RE** Savage Claws & Rings
[CX] Carnal Rings
GizzA – Embroidered Outfit – Jacket
GizzA – Embroidered Outfit – Pants
Razor/// Dread Boots

Tracy is wearing:
hair:[LeLutka]-MALEFICENT tresses
CATWA HEAD Annie
.ET. L’odeur du cuir Bunny Mask Black
=Zenith=Muted Coven Collar
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
.aisling. Sofia Chestlace
erratic / scarlett – bra
erratic / scarlett – panty
Baiastice_Velvet long gloves
erratic / cuffs / gold
REIGN.- POINTED TOE BOOTS

ALL poses are by Del May any editing was done using AnyPose

Scene:
part one…landscaping (done by Luis Lockjaw)
=EliBaily= Ivy
{vespertine – tile skipping path/plain}
[we’re CLOSED] white flowers
{vespertine– old wooden fence/browns dots}
[we’re CLOSED] tree 1C bare
Skye Land Forms
*alirium* DwarfForest [OldGold]

part two…table (set up by me)
unKindness: uK- Garden Soiree Benches (*new* @ Collabor88)
unKindness: uK – Garden Soiree Table (*new* @ Collabor88)
*LODE*Decor – Snapdragon Vase Big [dark violet]
unKindness: uK – Garden Soiree Place Settings (*new* @ Collabor88)
BAZAR Paris – Wine bottle spilled

 

Still of the Night

Now, I realize to some it might seem strange to have a love song for your closet aka wardrobe aka inventory, but for me its seems only logical. You see, I spend more time getting to know my wardrobe than I do most people. I realize that may sound shallow at first, but keep in mind that I absolutely love shopping. Some might call it an addiction, I like to think of it as more of a stylish hobby. Okay, so I mentioned having a love song for my closet. Let me explain.

moonlightIt all started in the middle of the night. I was awake and playing in my oversized inventory while thinking about upcoming and current shopping events. This song came on and immediately I had this feeling that the lyrics applied. So, have a look for yourself at the lyrics to Still of the Night by Whitesnake.

You get it now, right? If not, I’m not going to further incriminate myself by explaining it. I know I’m weird, Every once in a while, I hope to find someone as weird as me. That’s all.
Yeah, so about this awesome dress, yeah? Okay, I’m weird and I sing to my stuff. So, the details are below, I’m going to go serenade myself a new house.

CATWA HEAD Dyana
Tableau Vivant \\ Yoann hair
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
Roses Skull Back [CAROL G]
**RE** Zaria Bracelets
UC_Dreamweaver_dress_mint (*new* @ The Liaison Collaborative)