Would you?

Would you knowingly eat food that you knew was going to make you sick? I think its safe to say that most of us would not. So, why are we so quick to surround ourselves with poisonous people? Why are we so slow to escape unhealthy relationships? Neither are good for our soul and they prevent us from finding joy and true happiness. Why do we waste so much energy and time on such things? We all need to stop with the stupid shit, like arguing over things that aren’t going to matter next month, much less five  years from now. The sooner we all let go of the toxic crap in our lives, the sooner we’ll all discover that we are capable of enjoying a better life. I’ll be over here enjoying my virtual churros pretending they are good for me, while you mull that over.

snacks

wearing:
hair:  Lamb. Glam (*new* @ C88)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
eyes: -SU!- Astrid Eyes
-SU!- Poison Sunglasses
body: –Belleza– Freya
skin: [theSkinnery] Emmy (*new* @ C88)

:::ChicChica::: Churros & Chocolate caliente (*new* @ Equal10)
.miss chelsea. Adel Cardi (*new* @ Equal10)
Blueberry – Evie – High Waist Jeans

pose is really from the churros…I was just wearing my ao by a window…lol

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I don’t understand

I’m really curious if there are girls in Second Life that actually fall for the lines that some of these men throw at us. I’ve heard of some pretty outrageous things that girls have said to men, as well. From dick pics to lame ass pick up lines to sexual assault, I’d like to say I’ve seen it all, but these ridiculous men cease to amaze me. I’m not talking about the plain ole, “Hi” or “Hello”…or even the “Nice avatar.”
I’m talking about those really far out and inappropriate intros. For instance, I had a guy emote that he grabbed me by the hair and bent me over a table. I didn’t know him from Adam’s housecat! Ironically, he’s IMd me two more times since then, each time at a different club. He never seems to remember me, but I sure af remember him. I mean, that kind of unsolicited emote is like a sexual assault, right? Or the guys that IM every girl in the club with the same opening line. Uhm, dude, we’re all dancing in a row on the same hud, we’re not talking in local, which should indicate we’re probably in a conference. Did you really think we wouldn’t tell each other about the rando in our IMs?
I’m really curious if this tactic works. How many girls do they have to copy/paste that message to in order to get a hit? Does anyone fall for that? If so….WHY???

blueberry foxy

wearing:
hair: Lamb. Mirror Kisses (*new* @ FaMESHed)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
eyes: -SU!- Astrid Eyes
body: –Belleza– Freya
skin: [theSkinnery] Emmy (*new* @ C88)

-SU!- Celestria Earrings
Blueberry – Alma – Ruffled Top
Vinyl – Hart Wide Legs

pose by Del May
.Florix. Zebra Backdrop – PINK (*new* @ Equal10)

 

No time to hate

“I got no time to hate people who hate me. I’m too busy loving the people who love me.” ~RuPaul

I have to admit that I’ve been binging on RuPaul’s DragRace All Stars and I swear those ladies are the fiercest of the fierce! They make me wish I could be a drag queen! Alas, I cannot, for I’m not only a woman, but I’ve got the grace of a crack head in a porcelain factory. Just another reason for me to love the outlet that Second Life provides me. Here I can dress up or dress down. I can be as sexy as I want to be and despite those that call this platform a game, those emotions…those feelings…they flow through me from this virtual world into the real world. I heard RuPaul say the quote above the other night and the very next day, someone special to me that I thought hated me came to me. We confronted the issues we’ve been having and we’ve decided to start clean. We need each other, because we both fight a lot of the same demons. I’m taking this gift (quote) from RuPaul and I’m going to apply it to my life. I will remember it and stop letting the negative energies of others enter my bubble.

jealous sea

wearing:
hair: #Besom~Josie
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
eyes: -SU!- Astrid Eyes
^^Swallow^^ Princess Ears
body: –Belleza– Freya
skin: [theSkinnery] Emmy (*new* @ C88)

(Yummy) Comfy Cozy Ring Set (*new* @ C88)
Ascendant – Midnight Call Nails (*new* @ Vanity)
_CandyDoll_ Zoey Bra
_CandyDoll_ Zoey Panties
_CandyDoll_ Zoey Socks

pose by BauHaus Movement
[Dollmart]Empress Chair

 

Don’t Leave

“There’s nothing wrong with a little space
But not right now, don’t leave
There’s nothing wrong with a little time, a little space
For the memories, for the good things
Turn around now, turn around
Don’t leave me now”
~ The Paper Kites – Don’t Keep Driving

lost in thought

wearing:
hair: #Foxy – Cuddle Hair (*new* @ Kustom9)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
eyes: –SU!- Astrid Eyes
body: –Belleza– Freya
skin: [theSkinnery] Emmy (*new* @ C88)

Rebel Gal – Cuddle Hoodie (*new* @ Kustom9)
[Cynful] A Girl’s Thing Jeggings Set (*new* @ FaMESHed)

pose was in a bench at Achill Island

Red Sky

I took this picture before Christmas and just hadn’t gotten around to using it. I remember thinking about the little rhyme my mother taught me as a child, “Red sky at night, Sailor’s delight. Red sky in morning, Sailor’s take warning.” Beyond that, I don’t have anything really deep to say, except go try the demo of this dress, there are subtle levels of sheer and lace that really make this a work of art. My photo doesn’t begin to do it justice.

aleutia candy

wearing:
hair: DOUX – Zoe hairstyle
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: –Belleza– Freya
skin: [theSkinnery] Paola

[Cynful] Aurora’s Classy Shawl
[Aleutia] Candy Dress

*candid shot, pose in AO*

 

I was the brightest light you ever knew

“I said hey you, with your world painted blue
I said fuck you, I was the brightest light you ever knew”
~ Kailee Morgue – F**k U

I’ve wasted so much of my life giving the best parts of me to people who only pretend to appreciate it, but in the end they never do. They prove time and time again that they are just another liar…another disappointment…another fake friend…another user. I’m over that now. I’m going to live my life for me and only me going forward. Its time for me to take my life back and I’m done bowing down before some undeserving asshat.
I’m always saying that I do what I want, but apparently what I wanted was to sell my soul just to hear two words that now ring through my ears like a bitter lie and the three words? Well, I’m not even going there. I’m pissed off and I’m tired of being disrespected. I’m tired of disrespecting myself. Now is the time for my “friends” to decide if they are real or not, because I’m done dealing with fake people and liars just for the sake of someone else. Those of you out there talking shit behind my back? Knock yourselves out. Your hate gives me power I never sought, but if your feelings for me are that strong…well, as the song says, “F**k U!”
Oh and before you fuckers get all paranoid about who is telling what? Well, its like this…I am an energy reader and I feed off energy like a vampire. So, when your energy is bitter and makes me sick to my stomach, I know what you’re about. I see through you and your lies. Oh and you lost out on one of the best friends you could’ve ever had. And ya know what? If you even THINK that I’m talking to/about you, then I damn sure am or you wouldn’t even think that.

beautiful
Sadly, the people addressed in this blog probably won’t even read it, but that’s ok…I really wrote it for me.

wearing:
hair: [RA] Melly Hair  (*new* @ Salon 52)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: –Belleza– Freya
skin: [theSkinnery] Emmy (*new* @ C88)

:::ChicChica::: Unisex bong
Blueberry – Evie – Crop Top
Blueberry – Felicity – Shorts
Izzie’s – Fishnet Stockings
Izzie’s – Overknee Socks

pose: GingerFish Poses – Aperture Set (*new* @ eBENTO)
BUENO-Le Happy Building-Grunge (*new* @ C88)

The Five Year Rule

Quite some time ago, I saw a Cher interview in which she said that he mother gave her some advice that she now calls the five year rule, “If its not going to matter in five years, then its doesn’t matter.”

Clearly, this is easier done than said, but when you really think about it, its good sensible advice. I’ve applied this as often as I can and it certainly helps with the little stuff. Oddly enough all that little stuff adds up and once you let go of the anger over all that little stuff, its like a giant weight off your shoulders. Like you got rid of a huge problem, but really you just let go of the little ones. It really can make a big difference in your daily life. So, the next time you find yourself getting upset over something, ask yourself if it will matter in five years.

princess

wearing:
hair: #Foxy – Latte Hair (*new* @ C88)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
eyes: –SU!- Astrid Eyes
body: –Belleza– Freya
skin: [theSkinnery] Emmy (*new* @ C88)

(Yummy) Comfy Cozy Ring Set (*new* @ C88)
[Cynful] Pajama Silk Set (*new* @ C88)
REIGN.- UNICORN SLIPPERS

pose: FOXCITY. Partition Bento Pose Set
[Merak] – Leather Loveseat (White)

Dear Customers

Dear Customers,

Obviously, this is not aimed at every single customer in the world or even on the grid. However, it is aimed at enough people that I took it upon myself to use a blog post for the article. I’m not going to bitch at you or try to insult you, because customers are wonderful. Yet, there seems to a few things in Second Life that most customers seemed to be a bit confused about, so I’m going to try and help both the customer, as well as the designer, with a few helpful tips.

  1. Contacting the designer for any reason. First thing I recommend is looking at the designer’s profile. Most designers have specific instructions for common issues and a list of contacts for the fastest response. Follow those instructions. I promise, they’re there for a reason.
  2. Keep it Simple. Whatever the directions say to do…do it. Don’t go over the stop with long drawn out explanations. Designers are smart, they know what keywords mean. So, instead of explaining why you made a double purchase, just stated: Double purchase….and whatever else the designer needs from you.
  3. Transaction History. People, please, learn what this is…it is your friend and can save you so much frustration down the road. It surprises me how many people don’t know how to do this. You go to SecondLife.com  and log in. On the left, there’s a drop down menu for Account, then a clear and precise option for Transaction History. This will open up a variety of options with your most recent transactions listed, along with other pertinent information. Copy & paste what you need.
  4. Be polite & patient. Chances are if you’re having an issue with the fit or not receiving your item, other people might be, too. The designer might be dealing with complaints as quickly as possible. Being nasty and rushing the designer is not going to encourage them to help you any faster.
  5. Designers are human, too. Please remember that just like you, designers are people with lives in RL and some even manage to have one in SL. However, they are very busy and deserve some time off without having to hide on an alt. Being courteous takes you a long way.
  6. Profiles are important. Please read designer profiles, customer service profiles, etc. Make sure you are contacting the correct person and it might not hurt to double check what your sending to make sure its got all the right info.
  7. Legacy names matter! I personally like to sign my notecards with a copy of my calling card. Just type your name into your inventory search and you’ll find yours. This makes it easier for the designer to find you. However, if for some reason a calling card is too difficult for you…-_-…please copy your legacy name, not your display name. You cannot be searched by display name and it is not the designer’s job to play detective to figure out who sent them what.

That’s it for now, my lovelies. However, my regular readers know I love doing these “Dear _______” posts. So, there you have it, the first directed at customers. Happy Shopping!

mornings

wearing:
hair:  DOUX – Danna hairstyle
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: –Belleza– Freya
skin: [theSkinnery] Paola

^^Swallow^^ Princess Ears
^^Swallow^^ Princess Bento Rings
_CandyDoll_ Noelia (*new* @ UBER)

pose: [KoKoLoReS] Coffee Break pose pack (includes coffee cup)

What I Am

Somethings never change. *laughs* So, I have boxes of notebooks and loose papers filled with words I’ve written, notes I’ve taken, letters, poems, short stories, essays…just anything and everything. So, I’ve been going through a lot of this stuff, realizing that I don’t need a lot of this crap and since I’m sort of starting over, why not declutter my life before I turn into a hoarder, right? I got really tickled as I was going through this one notebook. I remember I had sat down with my friends and stacks of note paper. We sat around drinking coffee, laughing, talking, and whenever one of us thought of a good topic for me to write about or a question for me to answer, we wrote it down, folded up the paper and dropped it in this shoebox. The goal was to take out a piece of paper at least once or twice a week, and respond to the topic, date it, and maybe, if I felt like it, I would share with them later on. I didn’t.

However, I came upon that notebook and found an entry dated the 2nd of February, 1999. So, twenty years ago, here’s what I wrote in response to a topic that said: My Worst Habits

I’d have to say that my worst habit would be smoking cigarettes. I’ve tried to quit several times. Apparently, I have not tired hard enough. I also cuss way too much. It’s not attractive, ladylike, or professional Its unnecessary and I need to quit that, too. I procrastinate too much. I smoke too much weed. It has affected my memory and it makes me lazy. I don’t think I’ll ever quit all together, but I surely need to ease up. I have a lot of bad habits and I need to make a list of the ones I want to change, and if need be, replace them with more positive ones.

Just to drive home the point of me sharing this…I still smoke, I still cuss too much, procrastination has become an art form, and I still smoke weed. Though not nearly as much as I did back then. I think back then, I smoked no less than a couple ounces a week. *shrugs* I had a good deal in place and that was my life. Those were some good times, but the real point is a line from one of my favorite songs ever, “What I am is what I am…”
If you don’t know Edie Brickell & New Bohemians….check it out. Yes, its older than most of my readers, but like all the best music…it is timeless.♥

little decisions

wearing:
hair:  .ICONIC.JEWEL. (*new* @ TLC)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
^^Swallow^^ Princess Ears
body: –Belleza– Freya
skin: [theSkinnery] Paola
{le fil casse} Beverly Dress  (*new* @ FaMESHed)

pose by Bauhaus Movement

scene:
Nutmeg. Distressed Grand Piano Dark
Nutmeg. Vintage Metronome
DaD – Blowing Curtain B
{Reverie} Honey Pie Aged Books and Candles

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