We Can Be Friends

I hear it all the time, “Men and women can’t truly be friends.” I know better. Okay, perhaps it’s true that one or both of them think about or have thought about sleeping with the other. Hell, maybe they even did once or twice, but if a friendship is what developed between them and there’s no real romantic connection, there’s absolutely no reason they can’t be friends. Unless one of you is a stalker or a rapist, of course. I have plenty of guy friends in SL, most of whom I have NOT slept with and never will. There’s never been an issue with sexual tension or anything of the sort. So, don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t be just friends with the opposite sex or whatever your sexual preference might be. It’s simply a matter of establishing boundaries and mutual respect.

AyRon & Sady

Aaron is wearing:
Hair: Stealthic – Haunting
Head: CATWA HEAD Daniel
Ears: Stretched ears-Omimi- [MANDALA]
Body: [Signature] Gianni Body – Body
::GB::Stadium jacket
::GB:: Jacket in tank
::GB::Body bag
::GB::Stadium Pants

Sady is wearing:
hair: :::Phoenix::: Roxie Hair (*new* @ Black Fair)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
ears: ^^Swallow^^ Darkness Ears
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: Glam Affair – Mindy – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica
(Yummy) Layered Chain Choker – Gold
(Yummy) Leave A Mark Set (*new* @ C88)
TETRA – Kimmy off-shoulder sweatshirt (*new* @ C88)
ChicModa / Varsity Sweats (*new* @ Cosmopolitan)

pose: FOXCITY. Besties (*new* @ (*new* @ Pose Fair)
MI Ground One Background Blue





A few months ago I was over the moon, a little confused, and a teensy bit overwhelmed as I was accepted to blog for Phedora. After my first full month of blogging for them, I won blogger of the month! I couldn’t believe it! This came with a monetary prize, as well as them using one of my pics for their flickr cover and I think their Facebook cover, too. I can’t remember about the last one to be sure. However, one of the other prizes was having a design named after me. I was over the moon. There were going to be shoes named Sady!?!?! A couple of months went by and I saw nothing. I had forgotten all about it until one day, Niki Demonix (wife of Lucifer…seriously) was winding the Phedora VIPs up about the WIP and what was coming to Kustom9, I jokingly asked if it was something fabulous named after me. Imagine my surprise when Niki sends me an IM with a gyazo showing me the edit box on a WIP that read Sadystika panties!!!!! WHAT?!?! Yes!
As crazy excited as I was to hear about this, she then begins a campaign with a hashtag: #sadyonmyass

So, if you’re scrolling through Facebook and noticing that hashtag, you can blame Niki. *laughs* I am finding it rather amusing and I do hope you’ll love the set as much as I do. Feel free to use the hashtag or not, but make sure you check it out, because this set is gorgeous!

Around the same time that this set came out, my best friend, Tracy Weston of GingerFish poses, released her top secret collaboration project for eBento. Its an astounding build called Red Light Queen. Its so big in face, that in order to show you the panties I could really only show you one of the poses inside one of the doors. She does have a full scale demo at the event, so if you love photography…if you love naughty pictures…this is a must have set. You will see it again on my blog, of that you can be sure!


:  TETRA – Pineapple Hair (FLF June 16, 2017)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
skin: Glam Affair – Polly – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica (*new* @ Arcade)
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

Phedora ~ Sadystika Set  (*new* @ Kustom9)

pose & scene: GingerFish Poses – Red Light Queen (*new* @ eBENTO)

A Little Tied Up

I know there’s a popular consensus on the interwebs that Second Life is all about sex and I’m sure these pictures don’t help to disprove that myth. And while there is plenty of virtual sex to be had on the grid, there really are so many other activites. Yes, this is considered to be a social network of sorts, but there’s just so much more and I will NEVER understand those that log into this realm and say, “I’m bored.” How is that ever possible??? There are so many activities going on across the grid at any given moment, I can barely keep up. I have a hard time even keeping up with half my friends, because I stay so busy every minute that I’m inworld.
After being on the grid for over 10 years, I can tell you that I still haven’t seen it all. For one thing, this place is always evolving. Its almost refreshing to see something unchanged…ALMOST. I mean c’mon…I’m a mesh girl….head to toe. So, when someone says they’re bored, I can’t help but wonder what they really mean, because there’s lot to do here and if NOTHING piques your interest…why are you even logged in?
Live entertainment for one thing…from singing to choreographed dancing! There are even live comedians! There’s role play of every sort and you don’t even have to be experienced, most RPers that I’ve encountered are more than happy to help you along. I’m not even going to touch base on shopping, you must know about that already. There’s an endless degree of exploring and photographs just waiting to happen. Dance clubs of every music genre. There are cars, trains, boats, bikes…I mean seriously, every possible form of transportation. Lets not even start on all the silliness that awaits a real goofball.
Just don’t look to me to be your entertainment…cuz I’m a little tied up at the moment. *winks*


My focus in this post is this pose from Q Poses and well, what a great way to show off some skin, some new ink, and an accessory I grabbed a few months ago? If you’re an event shopper like me, I’m sure you’ve seen some of the incredible poses that Q Poses puts out and you’re about to see a lot more from me. While my focus is usually on what I’m wearing or sitting on…I think its time we start giving a shout out to all those amazing pose makers out there, don’t you? Me, too…so go grab some poses and show us whatcha got.

[monso] My Hair – Jihyo
[White~Widow] Sing – White (*new* @ Winter Trend)
[Fetch] Bow Cuffs
**RE** Good Kitty Collar
TETRA – Stretch-silk Lingerie

pose: {QP} – Time To Play (*new* @ 2nd Level Event)
Furniture: Artisan Fantasy

Quiet Christmas

Everyone talks about how the holidays are all about family and appreciating your loved ones. Yet, you rarely hear anyone say, “Hey, its okay to be alone on the holidays” or “I’d love a nice quiet Christmas at home alone with my furbabies.” I think the reason is because society and tradition have told us that to be merry, we must have more. As someone who often feels incredibly lonely, but is never truly alone…I can tell you that someday down the line I will embrace the solitude of a Holiday season. I don’t necessarily look forward to the reasons I will finally be alone in the literal sense, but after many years of having people in my face and in my business throughout the day? Yes, I hope that I will remember how crowded life can be and simply embrace the solitude.


We assume that no one wants to be alone for the holidays and most people probably don’t. However, for those that choose to be alone for the holidays, I commend you. For those that don’t want to be alone? Well, I can offer my company in a virtual world, as will many of your friends, I’m sure. Whatever kind of holidays you hope for, it is my wish for you that you have that and regardless of whether we get what we want or not? I wish you holidays filled love & laughter. ♥


Now, once again I’m going to tell you that there are events galore..I know that’s not news to anyone taking the time to read an SL blog, but I cannot stress enough that regardless of what holidays you celebrate, Tannenbaum has something to enhance your decor…not to mention tons of adorable clothes, hair, accessories…I mean, I could blog this event every single day and still not begin to showcase how fantastic and inspiring it is.

=DeLa*= Mesh Hair “Cristina” (*new* @ Uber)
[theSkinnery] Opal (Catwa Applier) (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
EF: Levity Necklace (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
-tres blah- V Neck Sweater  (September Luxe Box)
TETRA – Pencil Skirt  (*new* @ Uber)
_CandyDoll_Joly Heels (*new* @N21)

DRD gg rug brown
Fancy Decor: Twig Tree (gold) (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
JIAN Countryside Collies :: Family Rug
SAYO – Quilted Tile Fireplace (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
Fancy Decor: Baroque Winter Landscape (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
Fancy Decor: Paper Tree (words) (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
Fancy Decor: Paper Tree (music) (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
SAYO – Candle & Light  Set (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
Apple Fall Happy Santa Figure (Creamy)
Kalopsia – Carol’s Christmas Garland Single (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
The Loft – Tivoli Christmas Stockings (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
SAYO – Joy Holiday Sign (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
SAYO – Holiday Ornament Stacks (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
Fancy Decor: Copper Magazine Holder (Spotlight Magazine Group Gift)
Fancy Decor: Floor Globe (gold) (FLF- Nov 26, 2016)
tarte. twig snowflake (white)
SAYO – Twig & Light Wreath (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
tarte. twig snowflake (white)
[HD]WinterLover sofa
~Best Wishes from Alia~ Holiday (Xmas group gift 2014)
hive // jolly coffee table chest  (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
Forest – Flower pot (part of ~BAZAR~Forest dining set)
[BDKX]-//- Merry Bowl 01.  (*new* @ Tannenbaum)

poses by an lar


Let’s face it, not everyday is going to be a good day. Sometimes bad days are lumped together in such a way that it almost seems unbearable. We just have to drudge forward and hope for the best. Trying to keep some sort of balance while doing so and when we’re a bit overwhelmed? Well, that’s when we reach out to our friends and family. We’d do it for them, they’ll do it for us. I’m saying that as much for myself as anyone else, because I have a tendency to shut people out. I don’t like bringing people down and I feel like that’s about all I have to offer at the moment. Sometimes holding it together is easier when I isolate. Other times I need as many distractions as I can get. Its really up to me to let my friends and family know which one I need and when.


I apologize to my readers for the rather sad and mopey posts this week. I’m going through a lot and I am a bit unsteady. I am trying to get past it and hopefully I’ll find my way back to my silly self soon. I hope that you’re all finding lots of love and laughter in your days. That’s really all I’ve got for today.  ❤

Glam Affair – Milu Applier ( Catwa / Bibi ) America 01 (*new* @ The  Gacha Garden)
TETRA – Open Back Jacket (*new* @ Uber)
TETRA – Silk Track Trousers (*new* @ Uber)
PHEDORA / Kayla Platforms / 30.C (*new* @ Shiny Shabby)

poses: oOo Studio

Where the Heart Is

“There is nothing more admirable than when two people who see eye to eye keep house as man and wife, confounding their enemies and delighting their friends.”
Homer, The Odyssey

In Second Life, our beautiful and dramatic virtual world, emotions can run just as strong as they do in the real world, sometimes even stronger. When I find myself feeling like I’m home with that one person or that group of people..when I know there’s no place I’d rather be than there…wherever they are…then I know I have found home. When those special people aren’t around. whether is because of computer issues, internet interruptions, or simply real life? I try to venture out into the world and discover new people and new places. Not as replacements or even fillers, but enhancements and possibly even some new “family.” If you read my blog regularly, you know that’s what I’ve been doing lately. If not, you know now.  In venturing out, I made some amazing new friends and nurtured some existing friendships.

Yet, there are few joys that compare to sitting and chatting with that special someone. Feeling like I’m actually home for the first time in over a week. I won’t get too very personal here or get all TMI (shut up, Rom). I’ll try not to get too mushy or love-dovey (shut it, Tracy). I can’t help but gush just a little bit about the amazing people in my life, especially the one pictured here with me. Sino and I have gone back and forth from friends to lovers to friends to lovers to almost hating each other, but always loving each other for…well…over a year now. And no matter what, I just know in my heart that he and I will ALWAYS be friends first. We’ve made our friendship our first priority and the foundation on which we build everything else. He came home today, as in back online after being gone FOREVER. Ok, perhaps it was only a week and a half, but even my best friends knew I was going bonkers.  Anyway, he’s home now. I’m happy again and looking forward to introducing him to all my new and wonderful friends…just as soon as I’m done making up for lost time.
Soooo, I’ll see you all next week. I hope you all enjoy your weekend. ❤


Sady is wearing:
hair by elikatira: [e] Brielle 2
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
TETRA – Sporty Lingerie
Roses Skull Back [CAROL G]
Roses Skull – Leg Tattoo [CAROL G]

Sino is wearing:
[sYs] MOUSYS cyberpop sunglasses
Modulus – Brooklyn Hair
A:S:S deLuxe – Strangeland necklace
**RE** Savage Ear Piercings
Head and Body by TMP
[CX] Venom Septum (Black)
[CX] Venom Biters (Black)
[CX] Menace Arc (Black)
[CX] Carnal Rings (Black)
.random.Matter. & Le Morte – Aeson Bracelets
.random.Matter. & Le Morte – Aeson Glove
[CX] Basilisk Rings
Prodigy Ink-7P-CyberPunk Tattoo
Legal Insanity – loose sweats 69 grey

pose by Del May edited using AnyPose
pillows by unKindness-uK – Boho Puff Pillow  Stack


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