Ride or Die

This month my blog celebrates it 2yr anniversary and I can’t thank YOU the readers enough for your support. It continues to amaze me that anyone takes the time to read my words, look at my pictures, or comment. I am so humbled by it all. More than anything I’m grateful to my Ride or Die girls or as I usually refer to them, my cunts.
A strange twist of fate, some rock music, and a barn brought us together in the most unexpected ways, but the formula works. Four of the five of us have been inseparable. Let me explain the mega-important role that each of these girls plays in our little Cunt Cult (that’s what we call ourself and Tracy even made us a logo! No, you can’t join. #sorrynotsorry) We are not the mean girls, but we’ve tried bringing people into our group in the past. It has always backfired and when the cunts turn on you, well, its not pretty.
We do not have a leader, but I suppose some would assume its Kess or me. No, but believe or not, Kess is often our sound of reason. The one that grounds us in reality, points out the reasons one of our latest and greatest ideas is a BAD idea. For those of you that know Kess, please stop laughing. She’s really far smarter than people give her credit for….no, wait, that’s Tracy. Everyone knows that Kess, while being a daft bint, is an amazing and incredible woman that sets a fairly good example for the rest of us. She tends to give us that kick in the ass when we need it. While she’s all of that and a bag of chips….we don’t listen to her for romantic advice, cuz when it comes to men….well, I think she’s finally got a good one, but good lord. She has gone through enough toads, that’s for sure. Its about high time she found some happiness.
Then there’s Tracy….and Rom. Rom is an honorary member, because he’s sorta of been along for the ride with us since the very beginning. Sadly, this post isn’t about Rom, but if you love some artistic photography, please check out Rom’s flickr. Now, back to Tracy, she’s the owner of GingerFish poses. I’m sure you’re all familiar with her store. If not, you should be. She was one of the first pose makes to do bento poses. Her prices are great and she’s an amazing individual. She’s probably the smartest of all the cunts, but you’d never know it to talk to her. *giggles* She’s a crazy ginger that eats the souls of children for breakfast. *grins*
Then there’s Grace! This girl is like my twin. We agree on almost everything, except her choice in men. Tally? Really? *bursts into giggles* Grace and I go back and forth picking at one another. She never judges me ever. No matter what stupid shit I do, she’s probably done the same or something close. If these cunts were angels and demons on my shoulder, Grace would definitely be wearing red…with cow print. I don’t even know how to explain Grace….she’s Irish…wait, North Ireland Irish (that seems to make a difference). Between her shitty internet service and her crazy accent, she can be difficult to understand on voice. However, I love this woman like no one’s business….she’s my twinkie♥There’s another cunt, Ava, but she’s off in the real world being all in love & pregnant. I love her, but I honestly didn’t get to know her that well before she left us for that other platform called Real Life. I love them more than words can express and I refuse to even think of my life without them. They all have Flickrs, so click their names where highlighted to check them out, if you’d like.
These are the first circle of my Ride or Die bitches. I have a 2nd circle and they are the MF’n bomb. Perhaps I’ll talk about them another time, but they are not bloggers and kinda prefer to keep their lives a bit more private.

Ride or Die
I’ll never let you down, I can’t let you down
Because when I couldn’t get my feet on the ground
You’d do anything to help me out
You never let me down
What goes around comes around
I’m just sitting here on my front porch singing
This one’s for my ride or die

Sady is wearing:
hair:  Tableau Vivant \\ Peggy hair  (*new* @ Uber)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery]  Saska (Catwa Applier) honey
holding: DRD – Scrappy Helmet – White Check – Loaded (*new* @ Uber)
{le fil casse} Donna Dress (*new* @ Uber)
#EMPIRE – Coreopsis

her pose: Animosity – Cruisin’ set (*new* @ MOM)

Cruel is wearing:
hair: Stealthic – Haunting
hairbase: Stealthic – Male Hairbase
head: CATWA HEAD Daniel
beard: Volkstone Toni Facial Hair
ears: .:E.A.Studio:. Box Ears Falling Star
body: [SIGNATURE] Geralt – Mesh Body  *NEW*
tattoo: [ATI] Nightmare…
holding: DRD – Scrappy Helmet – Rusted Black (*new* @ Uber)
5.::GB:: Color denib pants / Black

his pose:  PM . Bronx (*new* @ MOM)

uK – Modern Serenity Home (*new* Feb Builder’s Box)
:Fanatik Architecture: Roads of LISBON
DRD – Scrappy Scooter – White Check (*new* @ Uber)
DRD – Scrappy Scooter – Rusted Black – Loaded (*new* @ Uber)


I Won’t Keep Watching

Once in a while we fight doing the right thing, because we’re not sure what that is. Cutting people from our lives is a lot like that. Its hard, because you’re ditching your loyalty. That’s pretty serious, but it would seem that sometimes our loyalty needs to be to ourselves first and foremost. If we don’t treat ourselves the way we want to be treated, how will anyone else even begin to figure out what we want.
I believe I must be at an advantage here, because as a child we moved every 2-3 yrs. So, I was constantly saying goodbye to people and letting go. By the time I grew up, letting go and walking away was far easier for me than others. The challenge for me was to stop walking away. Eventually, I started hanging on to people for dear life. I was scared to death that if I kept walking away, I’d never learn to just be in the here and now. I wasn’t running, I was simply walking away from anyone and anything that didn’t enhance my life. Now, I’m starting to understand what its like for other people and the struggle to let people go. However, one thing I’ll never have to fight or struggle with for long is letting go of some I feel is abusive. That will never be okay and something I outgrew a really long time ago.
There’s a line in the song I’ve attached that really struck a personal chord with me:
I won’t keep watching you
Dance around in your smoke
And flicker out
You’re not the light I used to know

more selfies
That empowering moment when you delete & block them. 

hair:  Tableau Vivant \\ Francesca hair (*new* @ FaMESHed)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
-SU!- Amoret Eyeliner +CATWA APPLIER+
-SU!- Xanthe Lip Gloss +CATWA APPLIER+
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery]  Saska
hand tattoo: [ATI] Destiny Lite…Maitreya Applier…
nails: Astralia – Compatible nails system (Maitreya Stiletto base)
toksik – Bloom Choker (Group Gift)
{le fil casse} Kassie Ruffle Hearts Top (*new* @ FrouFrou)

pose: [ATI] Destiny Lite Set (*new* @ Suicide Dollz)
FOXCITY. K-POP Star 2 – Because I am The Best (Rez) (2) RARE (*new* @ Arcade)

His Princess

She came home with all her shopping bags and collapsed on the bed. He walked in, sat in his chair flinging his leg over one arm, “Show me, Princess. Show me everything you bought today.”
She modeled one outfit after another. He smiled and nodded his approval with each one. As she removed the last outfit he called her closer, “I did a little shopping of my own.” He reached down and slid off the lid on a gift box. He presented her with a beautifully jeweled buttplug adorned with a delicate bow and dainty chain that held a personally monogrammed silver tag. It had the word “princess” engraved on it.
Her face lit up, she could not stop smiling, as he told her to turn around. He slid her panties over her hips, his palm on the small of her back, he bent her over and slid it into place, “Take off your panties and come sit in my lap, Princess.”
She did as she was told and the rest of this story will have to unfold in your imagination. *giggles* You’re welcome!

His Princess

Salt is wearing:
hair: DOUX – Hugo Hairstyle
head: CATWA HEAD Daniel
body: [SIGNATURE] Gianni – Mesh Body
skin: STRAY DOG – ROCCO – TONE 05 (*new* @ Uber)
Letis Tattoo :: Sapphire Wolf IIk
::GB:: Fingeless gloves (*new* @ Uber)
::GB::Strap sweat pants
::GB:: Double Belt Boots

pose: (relax) Dutchie maledom chair

Sady is wearing:
hair:  Tableau Vivant \\ Hairplay – Side Blow
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: Glam Affair –  Catwa Applier – Clara – America 02
tattoo: [ATI] Zyra…
**Dirty Princess*The Kinky Princess Mesh Butt Plug Open Collar
Caboodle – Amorous Panties – Black (*new* @ Epiphany)
Phedora / Chulia heels (*new* @ Kustom9)

pose: FOXCITY. Angels Bento Pose Set (*new* @ Cosmopolitan)

:CP: Dove Bed Set
-:CP: Dove Rug
-:CP: Dove Bedside Table
-:CP: Dove Lamp
-:CP: Dove Book & Tea
-:CP: Dove Bed
– :CP: Dove Curtains

PILOT – Adult Toy Box [Valentine]
+p.o.h+ Charging Massager (Decor) RARE
[Commoner] Break-Up Survival Kit / Personal Massager


Go F*ck Thyself

Today we’re going to play a little game. You guys know that comedian Jeff Foxworthy and his tag line…If you blah blah blah….you might be a redneck. Or his buddy, Bill Engvall, the way he talks about stupid people should come with a sign and suggests people we should pass them out to? Well, today, we’re going to do a Sady version! That’s right! Ready? Here we go….

Do you tell people you don’t want a relationship, but get mad if they fuck someone other than you? Go Fuck Thyself.
If you think that you’re some sort of superstar because you are popular on SL Flickr feeds? Go Fuck Thyself.
If you go out of your way to hurt someone by saying things about their RL, whether true or not….Go Fuck Thyself.
If you think that someone belongs to you, because you called dibs years ago, but never actually dated….Go Fuck Thyself.
If you ever submit ANYTHING to SL Secrets….Go Fuck Thyself.
If you announce you are leaving SL/FB ever other week…Go Fuck Thyself.
Do you pick to go into a relationship, knowing you aren’t going to be about much? Go Fuck Thyself.
If you’re constantly criticizing designers in SL when you can’t even rez a box without an instruction manual. Go Fuck Thyself.
If you send random pics of your genitalia to strangers. Go Fuck Thyself.
If you can’t accept your ex doesn’t want you back and stalk them and their partner. Go Fuck Thyself…no really, Bryn? Please go fuck thyself.
If you use multiple alts to cheat on the person you claim to love…Go Fuck Thyself
If you use the death of a friend to create a product that you sell and profit from in SL…Go Fuck Thyself
If you lie about being sick (like cancer) to get attention. Go Fuck Thyself.
If you lie about the death of a loved one, just to get someone to talk to you. Go Fuck Thyself.
If you follow an ex all over the grid while pretending to be happy with your current partner. Go Fuck Thyself.

Wow, this list really could be endless…I had my friends toss a few of those out for me….feel free to add your own in the comments. Who knows, I can very well see me doing something like this again in the future.


Sady is wearing:
hair:  Tableau Vivant \\ Elly hair (*new* @ Kustom9)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: Glam Affair – Imani Applier ( Catwa ) Jamaica
[MANDALA]KAHUKUIHUKU Necklace (*new* @ Uber)
^^Swallow^^ Indira Face Jewellery (*new* @ Kustom9)
=Zenith=Victoria lace glove (*new* @ Collabor88)
(Yummy) Bohemia Ring Set (*new* @ Collabor88)
ChicModa // Robin (*new* @ Cosmopolitan)

pose: GingerFish Poses – Birdy
floorplan. neon go fuck yourself



Once upon a time a long time ago, people could have differing opinions without the whole world getting all up in their face with bullying remarks. Those days are over. Thanks to social media and people that think its okay to be a bullying asshole due to the anonymity of the internet, the world has changed. Free speech is just a concept now. Its not free, it will likely come at a cost. Either you censor yourself, keep quiet, or you’re going to get it. You can no longer state your unpopular opinion in a public forum. Someone, somewhere is watching and listening. Ever notice how you say out loud to yourself that you need to buy dog food and the next thing you know you’re seeing ads for dog food? Remember that time you were looking at cars online, because you were dreaming about the day you might could afford a new one? Though it might be a year or two, but now you’re seeing ads for new cars on almost every webpage you visit? That’s no coincidence, that’s big brother….that’s google and the internet Gods. Playing CandyCrush on the toilet? (I did a blog about that once.) Well, someone could very well be watching….its not that hard to hack a phone these days. Google it, you’ll find out how to do it yourself. I’d like to say this story has a happily ever after, but it doesn’t. All you can do is stop caring what the world thinks or stay on your toes. It all depends on what you have riding on this experience we call life.


hair: Tableau Vivant \\ Gia hair (*new* @ Kustom9)
head: CATWA HEAD Lilly
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: DeeTaleZ  “Merrylu” Nordic
UC_Destiny_top (*new* @ District20)

pose: Foxcity Surface Set
MI Graffiti Backdrop Natural Limited


Kindred Kitsunes

So, Jian has released these super cute little critters called Kitsunes. Now, to be clear, I know absolutely nothing about anime. I’ve seen a few shows, but for the most part, its just not my thing. I have nothing against it. I can definitely see the appeal, but for me…*shrugs*…I dunno…I just don’t understand it. However, I do get that its a genre of art and entertainment. So, if you’re into anime and love kitsunes, then head over to Loot Box for Jian’s Kindred Kitsune Gacha.
As for the top I’m wearing in the photo, that actually comes with a full skirt option. So, not only is it versatile, but its sexy either way. I can’t help but recommend the fatpack on this one, because of the endless options. Happy Shopping!♥


hair: Tableau Vivant \\ Seelie and Unseelie hair – Nat I RARE
head: CATWA HEAD Lilly
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: DeeTaleZ  “Merrylu” Mixedtype
UC_Jackie_outfit (*new* @ Kustom9)
JIAN Kindred Kitsunes Water Kitsune RARE (*new* @ LootBox)

pose: GingerFish Poses – Voltage Set – (*new* @ Posevent)


Build or Destroy

As we approach a new year, we have a tendency to make changes or at least attempt to make changes. We want to end some habits and start others. I’ve read that it takes anywhere between 21-66 days to develop a habit or break one. So, let’s say you just want to drink an extra glass of water every morning. That’s an easy one that will probably take about 3 weeks. You want to go to the gym 3 times a week, well, that might take a couple of months. The same is true for breaking habits.  So, as we approach a new year, its a great time for us to decide whether we’re going to build or destroy ourselves as well as each other.

Build or Destroy

hair: Tableau Vivant \\ Gia hair  (*new* @ Kustom9)
head: CATWA HEAD Lilly
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
!Rebel Hope – Holiday Gift Earrings 2017
Cae :: Elena :: Collection (Dec FaMESHed)
Astralia – Compatible mesh nails system
^^Swallow^^ Shiny Bento Rings
Scandalize. MADEVA  (RARE Fatpack) (Dec Pocket Gacha)

pose:  Foxcity Lippy Set
Foxcity. Photo Booth – Choices GG12-17


Giving You Up

I’m actually not going to cop out with a song and lyrics, which is what I often feel like I’m doing. Although several people have told me that they don’t see it that way and I’m glad. Deep down, I just feel like I’m not being true to my blog when I simply link a song and share the lyrics. While this post is linked to Miley Cyrus’ Giving You Up, the video I’ve linked provides the lyrics. So, if you’re interested, they are there. Not every line fits how I’m feeling, but a good bit of it does.

I’m not going into great detail, but I don’t think its much of  a secret that I’m nursing a broken heart. I had 368 days of bliss with Josh and then it ended. Just like that. There was no fight. There was no real discussion, it was just a very sudden realization that this was the end. His RL had to come first and I want nothing more than for him to be happy there, especially knowing we never stood a chance of being together in RL. He gave me his avatars, so now I have malts (male alts, for those that aren’t familiar with the term) and eventually I’ll use them for photos. I have no intentions of being a man in SL. Though it might be interesting. *eyes Tracy & grins momentarily*

The truth of the matter is that we are trying to stay friends, but its very hard and what worked to help me heal the last time I had a heartache like this will not work this time. Too many bridges have been burned and too many paths have been blocked. It’s been so long since I’ve been completely on my own in SL that I almost feel lost. Fortunately, I do have a network of amazing friends that are more than willing to try and pull me from my funk. However, the wound is still very fresh and there are times, particularly when I’m alone that it hurts like the day it ended. While I have every intention of remaining his friend…I think that until I heal, I may have distance myself from him and that hurts all the more.

Giving You Up

hair: Tableau Vivant \\ Veronika hair (*new* @ Uber)
head: CATWA HEAD Lilly
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: DeeTaleZ  “Merrylu” Mixedtype (*new* @ Uber)
Izzie’s – CATWA Tears Applier and CATWA TEARS
BUENO-Half Hoodie -NoFksGvn (*new* @ Kustom9)
LYBRA . PJ (*new* @ TLC)

pose: Foxcity Surface set

Background is a combination of:
[ isuka ] back alley blue backdrop (using the rooftop)
Paparazzi BACKDROP – The Room With A View (edited to use just the skyline)


This is the Time

I am hurting so much right now and I’m not ready to write about. I’m not sure I ever will, but until I can write my own words…I give you the words and music of those that I relate to. ♥ Blog credits are below the picture, as always. Thank you in advance for you patience and understanding.

Nothing More – This Is The Time

When did we become these sinking stones?
When did we build this broken home?
Holding each other like ransom notes
Dropping our hearts to grip our brother’s throat
You can’t see because you don’t know
You’re caught below, beneath your own shadow
Stuck inside, half alive
Do you ever stop to ask yourself why?
Close your mind, identify
Do you feel, do you feel?
Do you call this a life?
All you waited for
Drowning just to keep score
We always start with good intentions
But lose ourselves along the way
This is the time that we let it go
These are the words that will take us home
Singing the song that’s inside us all
If we don’t open our eyes we’re walking blind
Anchored in anger, we exile ourselves
Bitter blood builds our prison cell
Darker water now fills our lungs
The depths of our heart have blacked the sun
You can’t see because you don’t know
You’re caught below, beneath your own shadow
Stuck inside, half alive
Do you ever stop to ask yourself why?
Close your mind, identify
Do you feel, do you feel?
Do you call this a life?
All you waited for
Drowning just to keep score
We always start with good intentions
But lose ourselves along the way
This is the time that we let it go
These are the words that will take us home
Singing the song that’s inside us all
If we don’t open our eyes we’re walking blind
Naked we come, naked we leave
Fools we are, to hold tightly
We are the jail, we are the key
We are free, we are free
This is the time that we let it go
These are the words that will take us home
Singing the song that’s inside us all
If we just open our eyes
This is the time that we let it go
This is the pain we are forced to know
Singing the song that’s inside
Inside us all, inside us all
Walking Blind

dreaming of dragons

hair:  Tableau Vivant \\ Cindy
horns: Decoy – Dragon Temptress Gacha: #14 Horns Polar
head: CATWA HEAD Lilly
eyebrows: Bossie. alice eyebrows [catwa]
eyes: –SU!- Ekrabetha Eyes Fatpack
tears: CURELESS [+] Dragon Tears (v.1)
nose jewelry: AZOURY – Ange Earring Nose White
ears: ^^Swallow^^ Ears Elf
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: DeeTaleZ *Appliers* CATWA Head “Merrylu” Nordic (*new* @ Uber)
=Zenith=Leather Belt Gloves
UC_Sicrets_outfit (*new* @ FaMESHed)
#1 Dragon Brothers + texture hud {egosumaii} RARE

pose created using AnyPose

location: Winter Moon



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