Bad Habits

“The only proper way to eliminate bad habits is to replace them with good ones.”
~Jerome Hines

You ever notice how bad habits go together like peanut butter and jelly? Think about a bar, before all the no smoking policies kicked in across the globe. Bars were always smokey, because anyone that smokes tends to smoke even more when drinking. How about when we snack while watching TV? I never snack when I’m reading a book, but the notorious boob tube makes me want to munch every time. These days just about any idle time puts a smart phone in our hands, our eyes glued to the screen. Sadly, that has led too many people to think that texting while driving was a good idea. Let’s not do that, okay?
That’s why I’ve recently started assigning one day a week to no electronic devices…okay, its more like no computer, because I’m not quite ready to give up TV and messaging with Josh. *grins* I never said I was perfect. I’ve put a book in my bathroom and I’m trying to leave my phone on my desk. As the cool weather sets in, I’m trying to smoke my cigarettes outside, taking the dog with me. I’m doing my best to replace bad habits with good ones, but its definitely baby steps. I’d love to hear from my readers about your bad habits and ways you’ve gone about breaking them. ♥

smoke & joke

hair: .Shi Hair : Tucked  (*new* @ Uber)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: #PUMEC – XENA – Dead March – CATWA SKIN App.
nose piercing: –SU!– Piercing Set 05 Bridge (Catwa Tala)
lip piercing: –SU!– Piercing Set 05 Snakebites (Catwa Tala)
BUENO-Phone- Girl Gangsta (*new* @ Kustom9)
**RE** Luxy Rings Set
LYBRA . XL STILETTO NAILS
PM – JADE (*new* @ Uber)

pose & cigarette from Foxcity
Paparazzi – BACKDROP – The Brownstone Hotel Stoop

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Help Yourself by Helping Others

“The best way to cheer yourself up, is to cheer somebody else up.” -Mark Twain

I believe this to be true wholeheartedly. For ages, people have figured out that the best way to get out of you own head is to help other people. When we sit too long in our own problems we can drown in them and find ourselves so lost that we begin to lose hope. It’s when we lose hope that we truly become miserable and that is when we are the most dangerous…to ourselves and everyone around us. Our misery makes us toxic. Think about how good it feels to help someone in need. I don’t mean dropping a few dollars into the bucket with the bell ringers at the holidays. I mean, to support a friend and watch them succeed. I mean, to hand a meal to a homeless person. I mean opening our hearts and genuinely helping someone that is going through something so wretched, that we can’t begin to fathom the road on which they travel.
We’ve all had things go terribly wrong from time to time. We’ve all watched someone else suffering and felt absolutely helpless from the sidelines, especially in a virtual world. However, there is something happening right now that could forever change someone’s life in such a wonderful way. It hasn’t started yet, but it shall begin soon. In the meantime, I want to spread the word and I hope that you will, too. A dear friend of mine has undergone the unthinkable this year and despite it all, she has maintained the same positive attitude that made so many of us love her from the very beginning. I won’t go deep into it here, but if you’d like to help someone that not only needs help…and would never in a million years ask….there’s about to be a fundraising event and there’s something for everyone. For more information, please visit the Facebook page: For the love of the Devil

bad kitty

wearing:
hair: [RA] Jas Hair (*new* @ Shiny Shabby)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
ears: ^^Swallow^^ Darkness Ears (*new* @ Black Fair)
ears: Sweet Thing. Neko Ears (Bento)
tail: Sweet Thing. Fuwa Tail (Bento)
**RE** Deah Gloves & Rings
Narcisse– Stellar Bra – ML – White (*new* @ Epiphany)
-Narcisse- Stellar Corset – ML – White (*new* @ Epiphany)
-Narcisse- Stellar Pannier – ML – White (*new* @ Epiphany)
-Narcisse- Stellar Panties – ML – White (*new* @ Epiphany)
Phedora ~ Ginger Boots ~ Hud 28 C. (*new* @ Tres Chic)

pose: FOXCITY. Bad Kitty VOL2 Bento Pose Set (*new* @ ON9)
[ isuka ] union local backdrop (*new* @ Shiny Shabby)

Ribbons & Detours

Sadly, I just do not have it in me to write something creative at the moment. My heart is heavy, so I give you a song and some lyrics. I hope you’ll enjoy it.

Silverspun Pickups – Ribbons & Detours

I can’t believe it
You of all things
It’s been a while
Memories teem
Some kind of ending
Lingering
In my tresedo
Internally
Ribbons and Detours mean nothing to me
Swaying the sentiments pulling the strings
Tempting me softly but killing the dream
You say it’s over but maybe.
It’s the same old thing.I can’t believe it
You of all things
Counting the moments
Deviously
In-turning our parts
Reconnecting
Tranquilized slowly
Inside of me
Ribbons and Detours mean nothing to me
Swaying the sentiments pulling the strings
Tempting me softly but killing the dream
You say it’s over but maybe.
It’s the same old thing
I gave the softest smarts
Trapped by the darkest parts
Whispered the tendered thoughts
Made of alderestic scenes
Ribbons and Detours mean nothing to me
Swaying the sentiments pulling the strings
Tempting me softly but killing the dream
You say it’s over but maybe.
It’s the same old thing
It’s the same old thing
It’s the same old thing
It’s the same old thing

cut the ties that bind you

wearing:
hair: [DUE] Kenin // Ombre 1 (*new* @ SaNaRae)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
{le fil casse} Everly Headband Black RARE
**RE** Bad Kitty Collar
**RE** Deah Gloves
{le fil casse} Minnie Collection Dress Maitreya RARE (*new* @ LootBox)
_CandyDoll_ Carolina Heels (*new* @ Shoetopia)

pose & backgroun w/ribbons: Sari-Sari – Puppet Skybox

Love Bites

Josh and I both did our own versions of this photo, which I’ve posted below. We also decided that only a song would fit the photo. So, per my usual tactics, I’m providing a link and the lyrics. ♥

Def Leppard – Love Bites

If you’ve got love in your sights
Watch out, love bites
When you make love, do you look in your mirror?
Who do you think of?
Does he look like me?
Do you tell lies?
And say that it’s forever?
Do you think twice, or just touch and see?
Ooh, babe
Ooh, yeah
When you’re alone, do you let go?
Are you wild and willing or is it just for show?
Ooh, come on

I don’t want to touch you too much baby
‘Cause making love to you might drive me crazy
I know you think that love is the way you make it
So I don’t want to be there when you decide to break it, no

It’s bringing me to my knees (love lives, love dies)
It’s no surprise (Love begs, love pleads)

It’s what I need
When I’m with you are you somewhere else?
Am I getting through or do you please yourself?
When you wake up will you walk out?
It can’t be love if you throw it about
Ooh babe, I don’t want to touch you too much baby
‘Cause making love to you might drive me crazy, oh

It’s bringing me to my knees (love lives, love dies)
It’s no surprise (Love begs, love pleads)
It’s what I need

Oh yeah, I don’t want to touch you too much baby
‘Cause making love to you might drive me crazy
I know you think that love is the way you make it
So I don’t want to be there when you decide to break it, no

It’s bringing me to my knees (love lives, love dies)
(Love bites, love bleeds)
It’s bringing me to my knees (love lives, love dies)
It’s no surprise (love begs, love pleads)
It’s what I need
If you’ve got love in your sights
Watch out, love bites
Yes it does, it will be hell

love bites
Love Bites by Sadystika Sabretooth
Josh's version of love bites
Suck It, Kitten by Josh Sabretooth

Sady is wearing:
hair: lock&tuft – josh flf
hairbase: [Hipster Style] Roy Hairbase WHITE
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
ears: .:E.A:. Studio Ears Gunner (*new* @ Tres Chic)
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
(( Cheeky Ink )) Selene Tattoo
[Atomic] Kitten Collar
Astralia – My half (Rings set Bento) Maitreya ONLY

Josh is wearing:
hair: lock&tuft – josh flf
hairbase: [Hipster Style] Rhys Hairbase BROWN
head: CATWA HEAD Daniel
ears: .:E.A.Studio:.  Ears Falling Star
beard: VYC – Neat Scruff Beard HD *GIFT*
body: Slink Physique Male Mesh Body
-VA-M-VISTA BENTO PROHAND SLINK MALE
(( Cheeky Ink )) My pleasure Tattoo (*new* @ XXX)
3.::GB:: Lip piercing (Catwa Daniel) Black (Studded)
**RE** ReVoX Aros Couple Bracelets BOX
Astralia – My half (Rings set Bento) Slink/Vista/Sign

pose: Drunk Panda – Drunkin’Love
scene: uK – Old Punk Hideout

Summer Lovin

You saw the title and thought it was going to be a music post with that song from Grease, didn’t you? And now that song is stuck in your head, too, huh? *giggles* You’re welcome! I did think about doing that, but decided to just mess with y’all instead. Is there any point linking that song of all songs or the lyrics? Event he most macho of men knows that movie and every song in it, I don’t care what they try to say. They’ve had a mom, sister, or girlfriend that made them watch it at least once or a thousand times.
Nope there’s no deep message, rant or short story with this post. Just a picture of Josh and I looking into each other’s loving eyes the way we wish we could in RL. Alas, a real life together is not in our cards. So, we bring our real love into a virtual world and make our friends gag…*gets out a bucket for Tracy* and y’all can blame Drunk Panda for the pose. Meanwhile, I thank both Johanna and Michael for allowing us the opportunity to take such a photo. G’on out there and make the most of your Second Life, whether its romance, creating, blogging, exploring, role playing….or any other numerous SL activities. Be sure to grab a humping gesture from somewhere and hump all your friends…after all…it IS hump day!♥

you caught me

Josh is wearing:
hair: Modulus – Anwar Hair (*new* @ Man Cave)
head: CATWA HEAD Daniel
beard: VYC– Neat Scruff Beard HD *GIFT*
ears:  .:E.A.Studio:. Box Ears Falling Star
body: Slink Physique Male Mesh Body
hands: -VA-M-VISTA BENTO PROHAND SLINK MALE
tattoo: (( Cheeky Ink )) Aikido Tattoo
piercing: 3.::GB:: Lip piercing (Catwa Daniel) Black (Studded)

**RE** ReVoX Aros Couple Bracelets BOX
[ kunst ] – Wire ring
[The Forge] – Apex – Tank, Black / A. [Slink] (*new* @ FaMESHed)
L&B  Swear Salvage Denim Shorts SlinkFit

Sady is wearing:
hair: pr!tty – Yoshi (*new* @ Hairology)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara

[Atomic] Kitten Collar – Rigged
EarthStones Tania Belly Ring
Astralia – My half rings set (Female) Maitreya Rings

LYBRA . Joyce Panties White (*new* @ Aqua)
LYBRA . Joyce Top White (*new* @ Aqua)

pose: Drunk-Panda-I-just-see-you

scene:
uK – Little Oasis Rock Shelf Brown
uK – Little Oasis Curved Falls Brown RARE
uK – Little Oasis Curved Cliffs Brown

These Chains

“Even in these chains, you can’t stop me.
Even in these chains, you can’t stop me!”
In This Moment Big Bad Wolf

The song I quoted above is one of my all time favorite songs and the moment I heard it I recognized the struggle with myself in the lyrics. I often find myself wrapped in the chains of circumstances. Too many times those chains of my own. The fight that goes on in my head with myself is a constant one. Perhaps the voice inside me that belittles me at every turn, the one that abuses me mentally and emotionally, the one that urges me towards death and poor choices…perhaps that’s the part of me that was trained to believe I was nothing but entertainment by my father. Perhaps not. Its quite possible that we all have an inner voice that criticizes our every move. That voice of doubt…of worthlessness…our own worst critic….maybe we all have that voice.
I can’t know how loud other people’s ugly little voices yell or scream, but I know that mine can be deafening. However, I can yell back at them just as loud…at times. The last year and a half have lent so much strength to that hateful voice that I’ve had to lean on friends and medications to keep my head afloat. I teetered on a very fine line between life and death, but now? Now, I am fighting back. I’m standing up and I’m breaking those chains, because I will not be my worst enemy anymore. To that awful voice inside my head, I scream, “Even in these chains, you can’t stop me!”

these chains can't stop me_014

hairTableau Vivant \\ Summer Hairplay – Coromuel (*new* @ Arcade)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

[CX] Qilin Horns (Silver)
**RE** Cora Arms Harness 1.2
E.V.E Shroud of Chains {Black} Cape
Phedora Belladona ~ Amoret addon Maitreya nyx (*new* @ Arcade)
Phedora Belladona ~ Amoret Maitreya nyx (*new* @ Arcade)
{Luxuria} Baby Girl Stockings (FLF 6/9/17)
Phedora Belladona ~ Edith platforms Maitreya Nyx (*new* @ Arcade)

background made using a spiked box from The Weekend Ruiner
and uK – Mystic Dew Drops Ani Silver

pose created with AnyPose

If I Have an Angel

I was born on a Sunday morning. My devote Christian grandmother told my mom that it meant I would have extra angels looking over me. As I was not a particularly graceful child (or adult for that matter) my mother would often say, “Your angels are working overtime today!” As I got older and continued to be anything but graceful, my mother would beg my extra angels to look after me and to have mercy on her. *laughs* I see a lot of memes with angels facepalming that say something about how people’s angels must look watching over them. Every time I see one, I just chuckle. My grandmother passed away when I was eleven. My mother insisted that she joined the ranks of angels looking over me. What occurred in my life the following year was confirmation that there were no angels watching over me.
As I grew older, I would sometimes imagine that there were still a few angels lingering about and just maybe they were dosing out some karma on those that crossed me, but eventually I grew to believe that wasn’t true either. I know some people do believe in angels and I have to say I think its a beautiful sentiment, but for me…nah, I don’t believe in them anymore. However, the concept of angels has always been quite fascinating. I especially love the way they are represented on Supernatural. I realize not all of my readers have seen that show and some may have just started it, so I won’t go into any details and spoil it. The entire concept of God, angels, Lucifer, demons…all of it…ages old, but the way the stories are told on Supernatural almost makes me want to believe in them again. At least that story makes a bit more sense to me, but alas to believe their story means I must also believe in all the monster presented, as well.

angry angel

For now, I’ll just present you with this picture and the thought that if I have an angel watching over me, this is what I think my angel probably looks like…sometimes she is stunned and pointing her finger at me as if to say, “You did it AGAIN!” She would surely be angry and frustrated to say the very least.

lost angel close up

hairTableau Vivant \\ Editorial \ Southern wind – Blacks+Whites
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
skinGlam Affair – Molly – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Artic (*new* @ Arcade)
eyesCATWA Mesh Eyes Pack
eye applier:Conviction: Viscous Eyes
tearsCURELESS [+] Dragon Tears (v.1)
ears: .:E.A.Studio:. Box Ears Icarus
eyebrowsWarPaint* Hepburn Brow [Catwa] (*new* @ Vintage Fair)
lipstick-SU!– The Matte Lip Essentials
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo**RE** Surya Tattoo – Common – Silver
nails: Astralia – Compatible nails system (Maitreya Stiletto base)
nail polish: GingerFish-Nail Applier-Astralia- Fairy Glitter-S

.:E.A.Studio:. BOX Collar Oculus Cross
Astralia – Wisdom angel WINGS RARE
.LYBRA . GABRIELLA (*new* @ LIMIT8)
erratic / cerise – panties
#EMPIRE – Impatiens

pose by Del May

scene created in a black box using:
uk – Mystic Dew Drops & Mist Sets
E.V.E Dancing Poison Rain {Silver}

Holiday Weekend!

Whether you live in the U.S. and observe Memorial Day (not really a celebratory event) or in the UK where they have a bank holiday (that no one seems to know the reason for) or maybe you live somewhere else with a holiday today….for most people its been a three day weekend. In the US, regardless of the reason, a three day weekend usually means a cookout! It means a day outside, unless you live where I do at the moment….and here it simply means rain. Fortunately for me, I discovered (thanks to Facebook) a very cool new-ish weather app called WTForecast! This makes me laugh to no end and I’m sure my FB friends are quite tired of seeing me share my weather posts, but they are FUNNY! Okay, clearly I’m off track…*takes a minute to read back*….oh yeah, I was going to write about the different holidays. Nothing to really say about the bank holiday, cuz the only thing I can find about it is some jibberish about bank holidays in general, not an actual reason for this one in particular. Memorial Day, however, really should be considered a more somber occasion as its a day to recognize those that died while serving their country. But in the U.S. we are soooo commercialized its usually more like a day for sales and cookouts! Its a patriotic holiday at best, so I’ve donned some red, white, and blue….because like most Americans *hangs her head* I wasn’t thinking about what the holiday actually is, just that it was a three day weekend and what usually happens on three day weekends.
On that note, I am grateful for all the people that have served my country and my heart goes out to all the families of those lost to battles on our behalf. It is because of them that selfish little people like myself can forget the true nature of the day and enjoy the freedoms that their service affords me. Thank you.

memorial day_002

wearing:
hairTRUTH / Imani (*new* @ Uber)
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skinGlam Affair – Polly – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica (*new* @ Kustom9)
tattoo: .Identity. Body Shop – Appliers HUD [Tender Garden]

**RE** Simone Heart Collar
!Rebel Hope – Brinkly Mesh Bikini Top
L&B Swear Dita Denim Shorts (*new* @ Uber)

pose by Bauhaus Movement

location: Luane’s Romantic Sim (beach side)

Unlike Any Other

I was thinking about the mushy post I wrote the other day and how I said his love is unlike any I’ve ever known. I got to thinking about how often people say that about current relationships. I thought about how overused the phrase is and quite honestly, I got annoyed with myself for using the phrase so much, as well. Then I started thinking about it, really thinking about it. Each love is and should be like any other, shouldn’t it?
Think about it, every relationship you’ve been in had to be wonderful at some point and had to have seemed unlike any other…at least for a while, right? I mean why be with someone if it doesn’t feel wonderful, right? Even the relationships that are over and ended badly, before the end…before everything went to shit, something was good. That relationship was special. I suppose this is how things become cliche’ in the first place…they ring true and are applicable repeatedly.
Well, it was just something I was thinking about a lot lately. As I am crazy about Josh and he truly is like anyone I’ve ever known before, but then again so are all my exes. *laughs* Thank goodness for that! How daft would it be if they were all the same, afterall!?!? Yeah, ok, there’s a picture and pretty stuff…shutting up now. *wanders off to chase squirrels*

Unlike Any Other_002

wearing:
hairTRUTH Taja
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skinGlam Affair – Polly – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica (*new* @ Kustom9)
tattooRedFish  – Pholy Tattoo (*new* @ Lost & Found)

**RE** Bad Kitty Collar 1.1
ChicModa // Carol Top (*new* @ Cosmopolitan)
SPIRIT – Mil pants
fri. – Koko Wraps (*new* @ N21)

pose by Del May

scene:
uK – DJ Dead Chair Grey
RAMA – #selfie_RAMA YES YOU

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