Alright, let’s talk. Ladies, I’m talking to you and myself. We’ve got to stop taking shit off these fuckers! Pay attention to the red flags! Ya know what? No, I’m not talking just to the ladies….guys, you need to listen up, too! Those red flags? Each new person you meet in SL, use the notes page of their profile, only you can see what you write there. Make a list of those red flags….every single one. Don’t let yourself forget them. Why? Because red flags are a big ass sign telling you to be careful and the more there are…well, run, dumbass! Don’t think you are going to be the one to change them or fix them. You won’t. Especially not in SL. Let’s face it, this is the land of broken souls. Let me list a few like I did with the Go Fuck Thyself post. These things apply to friendships & romantic relationships. Let’s just avoid the toxicity right up front, shall we?
Does s/he disrespect you by making overt sexual comments during your first conversation? RED FLAG!
S/He start IMs with “I’m bored.” RED FLAG!
His profile is full of all his female friends with no shout outs to a single guy? RED FLAG!
Her profile is full of all her male friends with no shout outs to any girls? RED FLAG!
Blank profiles! RED FLAG!
Immediately starts telling you that you need to change anything…from your avatar to your personality. RED FLAG!
Constantly crashes whenever the conversation gets serious. RED FLAG!
Always telling you how perfect you are? No one is perfect. They need to love you AND your flaws. Perfection is impossible and pedestals weren’t designed for two. RED FLAG!
Constantly needing to touch you, hold you too close, know your every move? Clingy much? RED FLAG!
Trying to rush you into a relationship? RED FLAG!
Do they try to isolate you? Keep you from your friends or not interested in meeting your friends? RED FLAG!
Not trying to introduce you to their friends? Claim they don’t really have any? RED FLAG!
Describe ALL of their exes as crazy? Well, you’re crazy if you don’t see this…RED FLAG!
Moody as fuck? Mean as hell one day, charming the next, sullen a day later? RED FLAG!
Super secretive about little stuff? Imagine how they are with big things. RED FLAG!
Sending you on so many guilt trips that you’re acquiring frequent flyer miles? RED FLAG!
They make you feel stupid, insult your intelligence, point out what you don’t know, mock your ideas, convinced they can change your mind? Gaslight much? RED FLAG!
Wants to keep your relationship a secret? RED FLAG!
I’m sorry to break it to you, but if you choose to ignore these red flags…well, prepare for some heart ache. I mean, maybe you’re not that emotionally invested…maybe these red flags won’t apply to you. Perhaps you have some arrangement that works for you and a friend, like FWB. I’m just saying if you want something serious with someone…these are just a few things to watch out for. In the meantime, hang in there, cuz we can do bad all by ourselves.
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