Show Some Love

So, there’s been a lot of hurt feelings on Facebook this week, because of a newish thing called Sarahah. It was designed for businesses so that employees could leave constructive feedback for each other, but it quickly found its way to Facebook and the SL community latched on. We were off and running. Many people refused to take part, knowing full well they would not take it well if insulted or while others publicly voiced their disdain for the site suggesting that if one could not say it without hiding behind anonymity they had no business saying it at all. Meanwhile, many were like me and saw it as something fun to do and jumped right off the bridge into the Sarahah internet river.
From there it either went uphill or downhill. For many it went downhill very quickly. Designers got attacked rather viciously. Yes, many of them received a lot of praise as well, but actual constructive criticism seemed to be absent. Many others reported being attacked and bullied. While some of these people took it in stride, others were quite hurt by the cruel words they found from anonymous contributors. A few even became aware of several secret admirers. While others found disturbing messages about people wanting to wear their skin or keep their eyeballs in jars. *giggles* I can’t begin to imagine who would have left such disturbing messages. *giggles again* I think almost everyone received some positive and loving messages, regardless of whatever else they found.
I personally received a total of 34 messages, most of which were very loving, kind, and positive. I was quite surprised and honestly, I little disappointed. I had prepared myself for some serious insults. I thought surely someone would be hateful, but I was quite fortunate. I think the closest I came to an insult was a rather astute observation from someone claiming not to know me very well. I had to laugh, because they were pretty accurate with what they said although they used an outdated terminology for their diagnosis of my mental health. *laughs* I had a few somewhat flirtation comments and a few that made no sense. I got no weird or insulting comments. Mostly, it was love and I was overwhelmed.
I was quite surprised by the reactions of a few that received negative comments. Some basically threw tantrums all over Facebook. Others quickly realized they did not possess the thick skin necessary to handle cowardly insults and shut down their Sarahah links. While others kept up their pages and found a new topic to bitch about on social media.
I am saddened that so many used it to bully and abuse others, but so goes the way of the internet. I think it’s important for everyone to remember that no matter what hateful or negative comments you received, there are far more people that love you. You are beautiful and wonderful in your own way. You are all amazing creatures. Whether you participated or not, please know that you are loved…not just by me, but many others. It is my hope that this weekend we will all remind the ones we love that they are special to us. As you proceed through your weekend and eventually into next week, show some love…not just to others, but to yourselves as well. ♥

get some balls

wearing:
hair: [RA] Jessica Hair (*new* @ Hairology)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara

[Atomic] Kitten Collar
Amala – The Daddy’s Necklace
Scandalize. Revolve. (*new* @ Tres Chic)

pose by Foxcity
MINIMAL – Retro Backdrops *8* (*new* @ REWIND)

Clementine

The name of this adorable jumper from The Annex, “Clementine” had me thinking of a song that I love by Sarah Jaffe of the same name. I’ll give you the link to listen to, but I’m not going to fill this page with lyrics this time. So, before I continue, here’s the song link: Sarah Jaffe-Clementine

It sorta fits the feel of the photo for me, too. Looking back at moments in my life that seemed so tragic once upon a time…I remember believing beyond any doubts that I was madly in love with…oh what was his name? *chuckles* Yeah, as I get older my youth really makes me laugh sometimes. Other times I just shake my head and wonder how I’m still alive. I was so careless and reckless in my 20s. In some ways I miss those days, the freedom I felt. Then again, if I knew then what I know now, I’m not sure I would have lived quite so carefree. I probably would have done a lot more to prepare for my future…my now. Alas, hindsight truly is 20/20, isn’t it?

Well, it is what is now and there’s no changing the past. I can only address my present day and so I shall. I hope that whatever path you take is filled with love and laughter. I hope wherever it leads is a place of peace and harmony, also filled with more love and more laughter. As those two things have literally been lifesavers for me over the years. ♥

clementine

wearing:
hair: {Single} Lyssa Hair
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara

The Annex – Clementine (*new* @ Flawless Cart Sale)
Pure Poison – Ava Platforms

pose by LePoppycock
MINIMAL – Retro Backdrops *5* (*new* @ REWIND)

 

REWIND

The whole point of the REWIND event is to take us back in time, let us have some fun with some looks of yesteryear. Well, they’ve done it quite successfully this round. Not only did the stores nail the theme, but the layout of this event made me want to go back before its over and take some pictures. I just hope I remember. *laughs*
By far one of my absolute favorite finds is the Vivienne Outfit from Dead Dollz. This is for several reasons. For one thing, the name reminds me of one of my favorite shows from the 80s, The Young Ones. I could not help but think of Vyvyan Basterd and how much I loved that show. There were only like 12 episodes, but I saw them all more than once and it never failed that my mother would walk in during one of the most disgusting scenes. Being a clean freak, she would shudder and wonder wtf was wrong with me!
Another reason I love this outfit is the bold yellow and navy option I chose…well, it has me feeling a bit like a punk super hero! I could crash lame parties and bring them to life with the likes of Sex Pistols, Dead Kennedys, Black Flag, and The Ramones! I could get down and show them some rocking moves as the party slid into a more chill feeling with some David Bowie! You’re feeling it, too, huh? Yeah, this event definitely brought me to life in some very fun ways!
Go get your REWIND on and see what you come up with, because there’s absolutely no shortage of plaid, black, skulls, and safety pins at this round.

serenade me

Sady is wearing:
hair: Moon. Hair. // Edge (*new* @ REWIND)
headCATWA HEAD Tala
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
Sintiklia – Nancy Choker (*new* @ REWIND)
Astralia – Punk is not dead Bracelet (Bento Maitreya) (*new* @ REWIND)
.::Dead Dollz::. Vivienne Outfit (*new* @ REWIND)
#EMPIRE – Coreopsis

pose by Del May
MINIMAL – Retro Backdrops *3* (*new* @ REWIND)

Mush!

This man has managed to put up with my ass for over 8 months now. That may seem like nothing to some and forever to others, regardless of what it means to you, it means the world to me. I’m not going to go on and on about it, I just wanted to dedicate this post to Josh and tell the world I love him. *shrugs* I’m a dork in love, sue me.

you're all that I want

Sady is wearing:
hair: /Wasabi Pills/ Jen Mesh Hair (*new* @ REWIND)
headCATWA HEAD Tala
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo(( Cheeky Ink )) My Master Tattoo Upper Omega (*new* @ XXX Event)
MINIMAL – Chan Earrings (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Pretty Mess – Shiny Rose Choker Silver (*new* @ C88)

Josh is wearing:
hair: Stealthic – Hysteria (*new* @ FaMESHed)
headCATWA HEAD Daniel
beardVYC – Neat Scruff Beard
ears: .:E.A.Studio:. Box Ears Falling Star
bodySlink Physique Male Mesh Body
hands: -VA-M-VISTA BENTO PROHAND SLINK MALE
tattoo(( Cheeky Ink )) Dragon God Tattoo Upper Omega
piercing: 3.::GB:: Lip piercing (Catwa Daniel) Black (Studded)

pose: Drunk-Panda – Everyday I LoveYou (VIP Group Gift)
MINIMAL – Retro Backdrops *1* RARE (*new* @ REWIND)

Setting Off Alarms

Time for some more real talk. This time, I’m talking about profiles, the kinds of profiles that should set off alarms. You ready? Let’s get it started! Going to just list off some common things I see around the grid that should set off alarms based on my almost 11yrs on the grid.

1. Profiles that read, “Just came back to SL after a long break.” Chances are this person is an alt. I’m not saying don’t talk to them, but take it slow and watch them closely.
2. Profiles that have threat picks. You know the ones…”if you touch/hurt so & so, I will rip your heart out of your chest and shove it down your throat” kinda picks. Clearly, they’re not going to do any of that and the fact that they feel the need to make such threats publicly shows a lack of maturity and intelligence.
3. Blank profiles. C’mon people, put some effort into you SL. Blank profiles suggest you’re an alt or terribly boring. Either way…ALARM bells!
4. Overtly sexy profile pics. Legs spread with a bottle between your legs, may be a hot a picture, but its sending a message to everyone that looks at your profile. Skank that likes to drink. You either want nothing but sex or you’re desperate for attention.
5. The declaration against drama. I’m going to tell you right now. These people are usually the ones stirring the pot, then stepping back with their popcorn to watch the damage. RUN! Let me explain, you cannot get through life without drama. Don’t believe me, perhaps you need to see the definition of drama. Do allow me to enlighten you.
|||||drama: any situation or series of events having vivid, emotional, conflicting, or
striking interest or results|||||
6. Declaration of being a bitch/asshole. Chances are they’re correct, so why even bother. These people have up walls and they’ve just informed you of that fact. Do you honestly feel like jumping through hoops for them before you’ve even gotten to know them?
7. Emo picks. If their picks are full of emotional vomit. They’re either going to bring you down or suck you into it. Its exhausting and seriously, did you come to SL for that?
8. Passive aggressive picks. They have a pick clearly aimed at someone they believe is watching their profile, but don’t have the balls to just say it directly to whomever they’re talking about. Chances are the next one could be aimed at you. Why bother?
9. Profiles that read like an online dating profile. There are actual sites & groups in SL for that, but overall that is not the main objective of Second Life. C’mon, everyone you meet here isn’t looking for love. Just stop it already.
10. Profiles that declare they keep SL & RL separate.  This is impossible unless that avatar is strictly for Role-Play purposes and says so straight away. Some aspect of the real person behind the avatar is involved with how they interact in this virtual world. This person is most likely hiding something.

So, there’s my top ten profile warning signs. It pays to read profile before approaching each other and often shows you whether or not you have something in common. 

trouble maker

wearing:
hair: Tableau Vivant \\ Alexa
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
skinDeeTaleZ *Appliers* CATWA Head “Face Miriam”
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo: [White~Widow]  Desierto – White (*new* @ Cosmopolitan)

[Atomic]  Kitten Collar
Amala – The Daddy’s Necklace
=Zenith=Leather Belt Gloves

LYBRA  DIXIE BLOGGERS (*new* @ Kinky)

pose by Foxcity (edited with AnyPose)
scene:
MINIMAL  – Illusion III – *2*
7  – Peter’s Charcuterie
7  – Fire Alarm Light
7  – Fire Alarm Panel

Reimagined

Its another song post, but I’m hoping you’ll kinda feel the connection between the picture and the music. I’m a little obsessed with this band at the moment and if you’re not familiar with them…well, check them out. So, as always I’m providing a YouTube link and the lyrics. You also have the option of scrolling on down to the credits, because hands down this dress is a must have and believe me, you really want to fork out the extra lindens for the fatpack on this one, cuz the Cynful team has gone above and beyond with this Subdub Dress!

The Contortionist Reimagined

When I found the point of life
It came creeping towards me
In the shape of eyes

It was all this reimagined
It was a different kind of speak
It was repitition
It was what you want it to be

When I saw the shape of sound
Everything came spiralling

It was all this reimagined
It was a different kind of speak
It was repitition
It was what you want it to be

Breathe
Breathe in
Once you found the breath you lost you’ll breathe again

Breathe
Breathe in
Once you found the breath you lost you’ll breathe again

It was all this reimagined
It was a different kind of speak
It was repitition

And I am exactly what you imagine me to be

tunnel vision

wearing:
hair: pr!tty – Rebecca (*new* @ Chapter Four)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
skin: Glam Affair – Maya – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Polar (*new* @ Gacha Garden)
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

-SU!- Bento Piercing Set 03
EF: Adoration Choker  (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Astralia – Skeleton Hand + Add-on  (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Astralia – Compatible nails system (Maitreya Stiletto base)
GingerFish -Nail Applier-Astralia-Bloody Kisses
[Cynful] Subdub Dress (*new* @ C88)

pose by Kirin
MINIMAL – Illusion III – *4*

That One CD

That one damn CD, he played it endlessly. He left in the CD player when he moved out. She found the case in the garbage, right on top of the broken crystal vase and the remains of the snow globe he’d gotten her for their first Valentine’s day together. She found it almost poetic. Certainly where it belonged, too bad he forgot that stupid box of useless and tattered comic books from his childhood. She had half a mind to burn the damn things and dump the ashes on his new car. She had promised herself to take the high road, so she wouldn’t do that. Oh how she wanted to, but she dared not. Instead, she tied a string to the CD and hung it from the plant in the walkway outside of their apartment. He would get the message when he came to pick up the last of his things. She would be lounging by the pool pretending not to cry behind her sunglasses.

memories

wearing:
hair
:  Stealthic – Paradox  (*new* @ Hair Fair 2017)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
{le fil casse} Alessandra Swimsuit (*new* @ FaMESHed)

pose by FOXCITY. edited with AnyPose
MINIMAL – RUST Backgrounds *3* (*new* @ Summerfest)