Uncomfortably Numb

If you are in Second Life and have any type of social media page associated with your avatar’s name, chances are that you’ve read about one designer stealing from another or just selling things illegally. A few months ago, I was crushed when I found out that one of my favorite home & garden stores had been uploading template meshes from external websites and passing them off as her own. I knew something had changed from earlier years, as her poses were no longer lined up. They were clearly tossed in haphazardly and little concern was given to customers that might actually put those animations to use. My immediate reaction was to delete every item in my inventory that I had ever purchased from her. I felt so betrayed. Not only because of all the money I’d spent with her, but because I had spoken with her on several occasions. Each and every time I spoke with her, I would tell her how much I admired her work. Turned out not to be her work at all. Now, in this particular case, she came forward, admitted her wrongs, and subsequently seemed to disappear from all events. Her store is still open, but its been redone completely. I haven’t bothered to check what’s left of her “designs,” because she lost my trust. I have literally spent hundreds of dollars in her store. I will never see that money again. That’s fine, but so far as I know, she won’t see another dime from me, either.
There have been multiple accusations against a popular hair & skin designer on the grid as well. However, in the past when DMCAs have been properly filed against a designer for theft, Linden Labs has been rather prompt in removing both the offending designer and his/her designs. Eventually, all the finger pointing died down and things seem to be going well for that designer. There seems to be no more finger pointing in that direction.
NOW we are being told that one popular hair designer has been stealing from another for over two years! I am mortified and stunned. Once again, I’ve spent hundreds of dollars in this store. I’m sitting here looking at the 70+ folders of hair I’ve purchased from the accused store and I’m left wondering, “Now what?”
I can’t be the only one sitting her uncomfortably numb to the whole designer theft situation wondering where to go from here. Am I obligated to delete all these hairs that I bought in good faith? I’d love to hear how others are dealing with issues like this.

comfortably numb

wearing:
hair:  MINA – Hazel  (*new* @ Uber)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: [theSkinnery] Amber

Kibitz – Deluxe earrings
Scandalize.SABRINA. CAT
Vinyl – Hellershanks Sweater Dress (*new* @ Uber)
Vinyl – Winehouse Tartan Skinnys

pose: Bauhaus Movement – NoisebastardZ set

***If you are reading this on any site that suggests this post was originally published anywhere but SadyStyle by anyone other than Sadystika Sabretooth, you are reading a stolen post.

 

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Cat Herder

“It checks you in and kicks you down,
And chews you up and spits you out.
It messes with your sanity by twisting all your thoughts around.
They say it’s blind they say it waits but every time it seals your fate.
And now it’s got you by the balls it won’t let go until you fall.
I was down and out, got up I said “Hey love I’ve had enough!”
I’ve felt pleasure without pain.
My soul you’ll never tame!
Love bites, but so do I.”
Halestorm – Love Bites (So Do I)
I think this is the longest I’ve ever been single in Second Life, aside from when I was married in RL. I’ve dated a bit here and there, but nothing has stuck for more than a week. God forbid I have a life aside from sitting around waiting for someone to complete me. The last two men I’ve dated felt that me not answering within a 30-120 second window was disrespectful. Well, I got news for ya, fellas. I have a life. I’m complete all by myself and while I am naturally submissive, I will NOT roll over and play dead just because you’re online. I’ve been in Second Life for 12 years. I’ve made a few friends. I’ve got a few jobs. I have a lot of interests AND I chase squirrels/shinies. Apparently, that’s too much for some people.
I do know that it can be annoying, but most people either get it and embrace it or they move on. I play Guild Wars 2 with one of my best friends and he has told me that he feels like he’s herding cats when he plays with me. *laughs* I’m always running off in the wrong direction to look at something new or chasing materials for crafting. See? He embraces my inner cat and so do my other close friends. I do know it can be aggravating, because believe it or not, one of my friends is worse than me. I won’t call any names today, but if she’s not paying attention I know she’s been captured Facebook.
So, despite being very lonely at times, especially with the holiday season quickly approaching…I’m just going to enjoy myself with whoever I want, whenever I want. Anyone that has an issue with that can file a report with my keeper. Oh, wait, that’s right, I don’t have one. *giggles* That’s right, I do what I want! Remember that.
I wish you a day filled with love & laughter. ♥

feeling catty

wearing:
hair:  Sintiklia – Hair Sheba
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: [theSkinnery] Amber (*new* @ C88)

*Vanilla Bae* Annie Sweater (*new* @ Equal10)
{vincue} Mely+Undie
Eudora3D Domina Boots (*new* @ X by FaMESHed)

FOXCITY. Late Night Bento Pose Set

SAYO Sin – Crimson Dreams Backdrop
::GB::Black Panther D

***If you are reading this on any site that suggests this post was originally published anywhere but SadyStyle by anyone other than Sadystika Sabretooth, you are reading a stolen post.

RATS!

Some days I think I’d be better off hanging out with rats than most of the men I meet. I realize I’m no spring chicken in her 20s or even 30s, but the caliber of male personalities in Second Life is severely lacking. It’s no damn wonder women have thrown in the good girl towel and started going for what they need, rather than what they want. Men have been doing it for centuries, but let a woman go seek some self-gratification with a stranger and she gets herself a reputation. To hell with that, these days even the one night stand is likely to disappoint.
I’d love to see some of the men in SL put a bit more effort into courting a woman. Then again, why should they? If they wait long enough, they’ll be surrounded by thirsty sluts, hungry whores, and desperate housewives begging for it. See? I just did it myself, labeled batches of women with bad names. To hell with that! I say if you’re thirsty, get you a drink! If you’re hungry, grab a meal! If you’re desperate…uhm, yeah, maybe see a therapist? I don’t think that’s a healthy attitude to have when making decisions about sex. In the meantime, learn to take care of your own needs. We all know how. We’ve all done it and there’s certainly no harm in that…unless you nasty. So, don’t be nasty.
Yes, I am rambling, just letting my mind go where it wants. I have been up all night and I’ve thought about what to write and this is where I landed. There’s some super cute stuff out there, right now….so go shopping! I’m wishing you all a day filled with love & laughter. ♥

Rats!
When I used to go out I’d know everyone I saw
Now I go out alone if I go out at all

wearing:
hair:  Wasabi // Grier Mesh Hair (GO by FaMESHed)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: [theSkinnery] Amber (*new* @ C88)

Dahlia – Virgin Mary Necklace (*new* @ Uber)
Dahlia – Haze – Earrings (*new* @ Uber)

Legal Insanity – Zara top (*new* @ Dubai)
Blueberry – Frank Jeans – Full Length
[ae] Straight Jacket Shoes

JIAN Rascal Rats 1. Shoulder Companion (*new* @ Epiphany)
JIAN Rascal Rats 4. White Companion (*new* @ Epiphany)

pose: SSP – Corner Time (*new* @ Pose Fair)

A Life On Display

These days, its really easy to compare our lives to the lives of others, especially when so many people are constantly making their private lives public. With all these social media friends posting the best bits of their lives, its really easy to slip into a  state of depression. What’s important to remember is that we’re only seeing the highlight reel of those lives. We’re not being shown the 99% of life that isn’t beautiful and wonderful. Often times, what we’re being shown isn’t even real. Those happy family photos? Behind the scenes the kids hate their parents or the happy couple fights. Perhaps one of them is even cheating.
I remember several years ago catching up with a girl from high school on my RL Facebook. Her life looked so amazing. Her photos and descriptions on Facebook made her family look amazing. Two great kids and an adoring husband. The more we hung out the more truths that came out. She was a closet alcoholic having an affair with her ex-boyfriend online at night after her husband and children went to bed. One of her kids was special needs and really difficult to deal with. Her house was a complete mess. To be honest, her whole life was a mess. This was not at all what she portrayed with the photos and stories she presented on social media.
It turned out that she was nothing like the person she had presented herself to be and I couldn’t be around her, knowing that she was lying to the whole world. Honestly, it was the alcoholism and cheating on her husband that I couldn’t condone. I quickly distanced myself from her and started taking a closer look at what people presented on social media. What I learned from all of this is that we simply cannot compare our actual lives with the highlight reels of people we hardly know. It’s dangerous to our psyches and its not realistic.
With our lives on display, we all have a responsibility to be more honest with one another. With that I wish you all much love & laughter. ♥

on display

wearing:
hair:  MINA – Kim (*new* @ X by FaMESHed)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: [theSkinnery] Amber (*new* @ C88)
Wicca’s Wardrobe – Kaenis Lingerie (*new* @ RLD)

scene:
Dahlia – Solitary Confinement Cloche – Gold (*new* @ X by FaMESHed)
***pose used is in the Cloche

E.V.E Dystopia Flowers-Eye Ghost
E.V.E Dystopia Flowers-Eye
E.V.E KOI (MOD) Square Confetti Ring

Hold It

Have you ever wondered why so many men hold their hands in front of their genitals? Some even go so far as to cup them….right in public, like it’s nothing. You don’t see women going about with their hands on their tits or snatch. So, what is it with men? Why do they feel the need to hold it? Are they afraid its going to fall off? Are they protecting it from some invisible force that’s going to injure them? Did Michael Jackson make it look so cool that they all want to squeeze their bits so they can sing those high notes? Surely not, that sounds terribly painful.
It’s rarely professional looking types in suits either. It’s usually those in baggy pants. Perhaps they’re wearing boxers or not wearing underwear at all and miss the support that briefs provide. Perhaps they never graduated from the phallic stage of their lives. Maybe they just like the way it feels in their hands. I don’t know, but I sure find it peculiar. I’d love to hear other theories and if any men are reading this, perhaps you can enlighten me…why do you hold it?

legal insanity

wearing:
hair:  #Foxy – Milena Hair
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: [theSkinnery] Amber (*new* @ C88)

[Cynful] Chilli Bra
Legal Insanity – Kia joggers (*new* @ Kustom9)
[VALE KOER] RADIANT TRAINERS

pose: FOXCITY. Sass Bento Pose Set
location: Dirty Secret

Finally!

Finally, someone developed a hairstyle to conceal my horns! *giggles* These cubes from E.V.E remind me of one of those word search things I see on Facebook all the time. “Oh the first three words are what you can expect next year!” Well, the last one of those I did said love, marriage, and health. I laughed so hard.  Yes, I know love will always be part of my life, because I have a heart with which I love very deeply, too deeply. Marriage? NO, let’s pray a divorce is on the horizon though. Since the bastard left me essentially penniless to run off with a 20yr old skank. Yes, she is a skank, remind me to tell that story someday. It’s a doozy! And finally, the prediction was health? I’m going to assume they meant poor health, considering that at best there are treatments for my fybromyalgia and PKD, however, there are no known cures.
Let’s not ruin all the fun, let’s take a look at the cube. First word I see is battlefield and I’ll agree to that. I like violent films and shows, plus I play Guild Wars 2 with one of my best friends. So, yes, a battlefield is very likely. Next word…hate. Ohh, that’s a strong word. I don’t really have the energy to fuel hate. I’m more of a person that turns completely ambivalent. I just won’t acknowledge someone’s existence or care that they exist. In Second Life, its even better, because I can mute and derender people. That’s nice. Alright, third word I notice is Heaven. Well, I’m an atheist so I can only imagine that means, I’m going to be proven wrong and all of you do gooders are in for a big surprise when you show up OR (and this is more likely) someone is going to make me feel soo good that it will feel heavenly. These cubes are a group gift, so if you like them, you can grab a set for yourself, absolutely free.

sady devil
“So what would an angel say
The devil wants to know”
~ Fiona Apple – Criminal

wearing:
hair:  #Foxy – Fallen Hair (*new* @ Salem)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: [theSkinnery] Amber (*new* @ C88)

Dead Dollz – Morrigan Set 2.0 (*new* @ FaMESHed)
_CandyDoll_ Demona Boots

pose: FOXCITY. Cozy Bento Pose Set (*new* @ Uber)

[Dollmart]Empress Chair
E.V.E {Team} Love is a Battlefield Cubes GROUP GIFT

Cold as November

“Oh I say you’re as cold as November
You left when I was crying
And I was crying every time you left
Oh but ain’t it kind of funny how you weren’t laughing when I left
So who’s the real king of pain?”
~ Devil Doll – Queen of Pain

I had to have some fun with this look. I just love the fun, versatility of this dress. Accessories and shoes will determine how it is interpreted. Standing in the abandoned warehouse backdrop…well, I had to do something a little twisted. Afterall, these poses were named after me.

queen of pain

wearing:
hair:   Doe: Bones – Monotone (*new* @ C88)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: [theSkinnery] Amber (*new* @ C88)
LYBRA . LANA (*new* @ TLC)
=Zenith=Victoria lace gloves
: CULT : Dark Side Rings

GingerFish Poses – Sadystika set (*new* @ Pose Fair)
Salacity – Abandoned Warehouse Photo Background (*new* @ Pose Fair)

Your Nightmares are my Lullabies

I go to sleep to crime shows…let me explain why. Well, I’m not completely sure why, but I do know some of the reasons. Ok, so part of it is that I’m a city girl and I’m used to hearing noises while I sleep. I cannot sleep to complete peace and quiet. Once I’m asleep, then quiet is good. Thank goodness for sleep timers. Whoever made that a feature on TVs sure deserves more recognition. Alright, so why crime shows vs music or something “happier?” Well, I like shows that I can imagine…that I can picture without looking at the screen. The crime shows on DiscoveryID (wicked channel in the U.S.) are perfect, because the ones I watch always catch the killer and they’re on Hulu or AmazonPrime without any loud, obnoxious commercials. Forensic Files is my absolute favorite, because the narrator has the greatest voice! It’s soothing and calm, yet crystal clear. I do sometimes go to sleep to sitcoms, but only those that don’t change the scenery a lot. So, now you know why your nightmares are my lullabies. Plus I’m twisted. *grins*

your nightmares are my lullabies

wearing:
hair:   Lamb. Boyish (*new* @ C88)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: [theSkinnery] Amber (*new* @ C88)

Kibitz – Cash out rings – onyx (*new* @ Kinky)
:::ChicChica::: Holy blood cocktail (*new* @ Salem)
Blueberry – Maria – Bomber Jacket
Blueberry – Maria – Skirt
Blueberry – Maria – Boots – Flat Heels (comes w/high heel version, too!)

pose: .::Attitude::. Machete_Pose_Pack (*new* @ PoseFair)

I Call It Magic

“Call it magic, call it true
I call it magic when I’m with you
And I just got broken, broken into two
Still I call it magic, when I’m next to you”
~ Coldplay – Magic 

This photo is really special to me, because it brings some of my favorite people together in a way that only happens in SL The poses were made just for the dress and this dress is magnificent. It may not move like flexi did back in the day, but I promise you will want to spin on the stars when you put it on. Go to Salem before the end of the month. There’s genuinely something for everyone unless you’re a miserable….erhm…I mean…yeah, go shopping…more importantly? Live.

magical

wearing:
hair:   Tableau Vivant // Rosemary hair (*new* @ Salem)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: [theSkinnery] Amber (*new* @ C88)
ChicModa // Gwen gown (*new* @ Salem)
[BREATHE]-Natsuna Heels

pose: GingerFish Poses – Nightbird set (*new* @ Salem)

E.V.E {M/C} Tornado Orion Nebula Slim [Day]
E.V.E {M/C} Tornado Orion Nebula Slim [Night]

 

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