F*ck Yeah

Some people say I cuss too much and that cussing shows a lack of a better vocabulary or that it’s a lazy way of expressing yourself. I say, “Fuck off!” I like cussing. I especially like the fact that so many people allow a word to offend them.  A word! Not a racial slur, not a hate filled word, just a word…that is one of the most versatile words in the ever so eloquent English language. Yes, it is a legitimate word. It has earned its place in the dictionary with all sorts of examples and you can even find its origin if you look. Seriously, Google your favorite online dictionary, it’s in there!
I’m an adult, I cuss. I’m a responsible adult that knows there’s a time and place for everything. So, no, I’m not going to scream FUUUCKKK when I stub my toe in the middle of a mall, but when I’m talking to my dog in my yard I will certainly encourage her to hurry the fuck up. *laughs* So, have a good fucking day! (You can take that whichever way you like.)

wearing:
hair: *Besom Hair~ Pixie *Blondes* #6 (*new* @ PocketGacha)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara

[ kunst ] – Vintage Cigarette Holder
*T.Whore* – Sexy Fur Stole Black MESH (store closed)
LYBRA . REESE BLOGGERS (*new* @ ROMP)
_CandyDoll_ Raku Heels (*new* @ REWIND)

pose by Foxcity
Pseudo– F-Yeah Room Scene

Show Some Love

So, there’s been a lot of hurt feelings on Facebook this week, because of a newish thing called Sarahah. It was designed for businesses so that employees could leave constructive feedback for each other, but it quickly found its way to Facebook and the SL community latched on. We were off and running. Many people refused to take part, knowing full well they would not take it well if insulted or while others publicly voiced their disdain for the site suggesting that if one could not say it without hiding behind anonymity they had no business saying it at all. Meanwhile, many were like me and saw it as something fun to do and jumped right off the bridge into the Sarahah internet river.
From there it either went uphill or downhill. For many it went downhill very quickly. Designers got attacked rather viciously. Yes, many of them received a lot of praise as well, but actual constructive criticism seemed to be absent. Many others reported being attacked and bullied. While some of these people took it in stride, others were quite hurt by the cruel words they found from anonymous contributors. A few even became aware of several secret admirers. While others found disturbing messages about people wanting to wear their skin or keep their eyeballs in jars. *giggles* I can’t begin to imagine who would have left such disturbing messages. *giggles again* I think almost everyone received some positive and loving messages, regardless of whatever else they found.
I personally received a total of 34 messages, most of which were very loving, kind, and positive. I was quite surprised and honestly, I little disappointed. I had prepared myself for some serious insults. I thought surely someone would be hateful, but I was quite fortunate. I think the closest I came to an insult was a rather astute observation from someone claiming not to know me very well. I had to laugh, because they were pretty accurate with what they said although they used an outdated terminology for their diagnosis of my mental health. *laughs* I had a few somewhat flirtation comments and a few that made no sense. I got no weird or insulting comments. Mostly, it was love and I was overwhelmed.
I was quite surprised by the reactions of a few that received negative comments. Some basically threw tantrums all over Facebook. Others quickly realized they did not possess the thick skin necessary to handle cowardly insults and shut down their Sarahah links. While others kept up their pages and found a new topic to bitch about on social media.
I am saddened that so many used it to bully and abuse others, but so goes the way of the internet. I think it’s important for everyone to remember that no matter what hateful or negative comments you received, there are far more people that love you. You are beautiful and wonderful in your own way. You are all amazing creatures. Whether you participated or not, please know that you are loved…not just by me, but many others. It is my hope that this weekend we will all remind the ones we love that they are special to us. As you proceed through your weekend and eventually into next week, show some love…not just to others, but to yourselves as well. ♥

wearing:
hair: [RA] Jessica Hair (*new* @ Hairology)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara

[Atomic] Kitten Collar
Amala – The Daddy’s Necklace
Scandalize. Revolve. (*new* @ Tres Chic)

pose by Foxcity
MINIMAL – Retro Backdrops *8* (*new* @ REWIND)

Morning Meditation

Last year when I was going through a particularly rough time, my friend Charlotte gave me a non religious meditation book. Those are surprisingly hard to find in my area. Anyway, its one of my favorite ways to start the day. Reading the daily meditation with a cup of coffee and…*hangs her head*…a cigarette.

So, while I sit here at my desk with my coffee and cigarette, I thought I’d share this morning’s meditation with you.
“To have what we want is riches; but to be able to do without is power.” ~ George Macdonald
Well, George, I’d say you’re quite right there. I  mean it would suck if I couldn’t have a computer or afford internet. It would suck to lose Netflix. I’d be sad if I ran out of coffee (ok, I’d be downright mad) or cigarettes. However, there’s a certain power in knowing that I’ve been without all of those things and more in the past. I not only survived the lack of things, but I found other ways to entertain myself and enjoy life.  I have some rather fond memories of living in a homeless shelter, believe it or not. As there are no guarantees in this life, despite what marketing ads will tell you. The greatest power anyone can have is being able to find joy in the simplest of things. I’m just going to list a few examples of simplistic joys that I find in my daily life that are often taken for granted, but are truly to be cherished.
The way my dog greets me like a long lost soldier returned from way, even though I’ve only been gone 20 minutes. The way my cat mews and purrs at me on the rare occasion that he wants attention. The first bite of a meal I’ve cooked to perfection. The feel of freshly washed sheets on my skin right after a long hot bath. Led Zeppelin on the radio on a breezy summer afternoon. The smell of a bookstore. The joyous sound of children laughing and playing at the pool (even if I don’t like the lil bastards, I still love to hear the sounds of happiness.) The sound of the cicadas in the trees as the sun sets on a warm August evening. No, these are not my favorite things in life, but they are simple joys that make life worth living.

wearing:
hair: [KoKoLoReS] Hair – Bess (*new* @ Hairology)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara

Astralia – Compatible mesh nails system  (Maitreya Stiletto base)
GingerFish -Nail Applier-Astralia-Bloody Kisses
Astralia – Kitty chain ring with HUD (*new* @ Blush)

BUENO-Olivia Top (*new* @ Kustom9)
BUENO-Cuff Jeans (*new* @ Kustom9)
_CandyDoll_ Saki Heels (*new* @ Uber)

pose by Le Poppycock

scene:
Pseudo– Inked Corner Scene
Apple Fall Cafe Chair
Apple Fall Clawfoot Height-Adjusting Table
Apple Fall Canvas Tote
Apple Fall Crumpled Newspaper
[ kunst ] – Ashtray v3 / Marble #4
SAYO – Trendy Tumblers – Rose Chrome – COMMON (*new* @ PocketGacha)

 

Clementine

The name of this adorable jumper from The Annex, “Clementine” had me thinking of a song that I love by Sarah Jaffe of the same name. I’ll give you the link to listen to, but I’m not going to fill this page with lyrics this time. So, before I continue, here’s the song link: Sarah Jaffe-Clementine

It sorta fits the feel of the photo for me, too. Looking back at moments in my life that seemed so tragic once upon a time…I remember believing beyond any doubts that I was madly in love with…oh what was his name? *chuckles* Yeah, as I get older my youth really makes me laugh sometimes. Other times I just shake my head and wonder how I’m still alive. I was so careless and reckless in my 20s. In some ways I miss those days, the freedom I felt. Then again, if I knew then what I know now, I’m not sure I would have lived quite so carefree. I probably would have done a lot more to prepare for my future…my now. Alas, hindsight truly is 20/20, isn’t it?

Well, it is what is now and there’s no changing the past. I can only address my present day and so I shall. I hope that whatever path you take is filled with love and laughter. I hope wherever it leads is a place of peace and harmony, also filled with more love and more laughter. As those two things have literally been lifesavers for me over the years. ♥

wearing:
hair: {Single} Lyssa Hair
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara

The Annex – Clementine (*new* @ Flawless Cart Sale)
Pure Poison – Ava Platforms

pose by LePoppycock
MINIMAL – Retro Backdrops *5* (*new* @ REWIND)

 

Research

Some call it stalking, she called it research. She would find out where he went every night and what he was doing if it killed it. Based on the last few places she followed him to, it just might. She could hear shouting, but couldn’t make out what they were saying. The small window in the door was covered up, so she listened closely at the gap around the door. They sounded as if they were in another room, but she dared not open the door as she heard it make a terrible sound when he opened it earlier and she was clear around the corner! As she heard footsteps approaching the door from inside, she quickly scurried away. One of these days, she’d figure this out. For now, she best get home before he did or he’d have questions of his own.

wearing:
hair: Beusy: Sybil Hairstyle (*new* @ Blush)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
Pretty Mess – Siouxsie Black Lips (*new* @ REWIND)
:V.e. Nina Belted Trousers Black Plaid (*new* @ REWIND)

pose by LePoppycock
THE BASEMENT – Mesh Photography Backdrop by Strike-a-Pose

 

The White Dress

She hated taking the subway so late at night, but she had to get home. She had work tomorrow and there’s no way she’d find a cab at this hour. This is what she gets for going out on a work night. Ugh, the subway always smelled like urine and body odor. She dreaded the train coming to rush that stink into her nostrils, almost as much as she dreaded getting on the train at this hour. There was no way she was sitting on those filthy seats in her white dress. She had managed to keep drinks from spilling on it all night and she’d be damned if she was going to mess it up on her way home.
As she walked down the stairs, she rolled her eyes to herself, why is there always a hooker passed out down here? At least the people didn’t look too shady, maybe she could manage this without getting mugged after all. Yeah, she’d be fine, but her could feel an anxiety attack coming on. She reached in her purse for a Xanax and some strawberry lip-gloss. At least the smell of the lip-gloss with help with the stench of this place.
She managed to make it home without incident. Locking her door, she dropped her purse on the entrance table and made her way to the kitchen for a glass of wine before bed. She made her way to the bedroom and just as she was about to set her wine down, the cat hopped up on the nightstand startling her and the red wine splashed down the front of her dress.

wearing:
hair: Lamb. Drive (August ’17 Luxe Box)
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
ISON – michelle dress (August ’17 Luxe Box)
_CandyDoll_ Fate Boots (*new* @ Blush)

pose by Foxcity

scene:
*Drot* Subway Station – RARE
*Drot* Wet Floor Sign
*Drot* Barrel Standard
*Drot* Subway Trashcan
and various mesh NPCs I found on MP

Summer Lovin

You saw the title and thought it was going to be a music post with that song from Grease, didn’t you? And now that song is stuck in your head, too, huh? *giggles* You’re welcome! I did think about doing that, but decided to just mess with y’all instead. Is there any point linking that song of all songs or the lyrics? Event he most macho of men knows that movie and every song in it, I don’t care what they try to say. They’ve had a mom, sister, or girlfriend that made them watch it at least once or a thousand times.
Nope there’s no deep message, rant or short story with this post. Just a picture of Josh and I looking into each other’s loving eyes the way we wish we could in RL. Alas, a real life together is not in our cards. So, we bring our real love into a virtual world and make our friends gag…*gets out a bucket for Tracy* and y’all can blame Drunk Panda for the pose. Meanwhile, I thank both Johanna and Michael for allowing us the opportunity to take such a photo. G’on out there and make the most of your Second Life, whether its romance, creating, blogging, exploring, role playing….or any other numerous SL activities. Be sure to grab a humping gesture from somewhere and hump all your friends…after all…it IS hump day!♥

Josh is wearing:
hair: Modulus – Anwar Hair (*new* @ Man Cave)
head: CATWA HEAD Daniel
beard: VYC– Neat Scruff Beard HD *GIFT*
ears:  .:E.A.Studio:. Box Ears Falling Star
body: Slink Physique Male Mesh Body
hands: -VA-M-VISTA BENTO PROHAND SLINK MALE
tattoo: (( Cheeky Ink )) Aikido Tattoo
piercing: 3.::GB:: Lip piercing (Catwa Daniel) Black (Studded)

**RE** ReVoX Aros Couple Bracelets BOX
[ kunst ] – Wire ring
[The Forge] – Apex – Tank, Black / A. [Slink] (*new* @ FaMESHed)
L&B  Swear Salvage Denim Shorts SlinkFit

Sady is wearing:
hair: pr!tty – Yoshi (*new* @ Hairology)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara

[Atomic] Kitten Collar – Rigged
EarthStones Tania Belly Ring
Astralia – My half rings set (Female) Maitreya Rings

LYBRA . Joyce Panties White (*new* @ Aqua)
LYBRA . Joyce Top White (*new* @ Aqua)

pose: Drunk-Panda-I-just-see-you

scene:
uK – Little Oasis Rock Shelf Brown
uK – Little Oasis Curved Falls Brown RARE
uK – Little Oasis Curved Cliffs Brown