Before He Cheats

Ara and I had been planning on doing a photo together for a while and decided to share the gorgeous Chic Moda Suzie shorts from the last ever Bish Box. The photo sort of took on a life of its own and we ended going all Carrie Underwood on this car. So, there ya have it…another music post, but how could I resist? As usual, the YouTube link and lyrics are provided below. Enjoy!♥

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Carries Underwood’s Before He Cheats

Right now, he’s probably slow dancing
With a bleached-blond tramp
And she’s probably getting frisky
Right now, he’s probably buying
Her some fruity little drink
‘Cause she can’t shoot whiskey
Right now, he’s probably up behind her
With a pool-stick
Showing her how to shoot a combo
And he don’t know
I dug my key into the side
Of his pretty little souped-up four-wheel drive
Carved my name into his leather seats
I took a Louisville slugger to both head lights
I slashed a hole in all four tires
Maybe next time he’ll think before he cheats
Right now, she’s probably up singing some
White-trash version of Shania karaoke
Right now, she’s probably saying “I’m drunk”
And he’s a-thinking that he’s gonna get lucky
Right now, he’s probably
Dabbing on three dollars
Worth of that bathroom Polo
Oh, and he don’t know
That I dug my key into the side
Of his pretty little souped-up four-wheel drive
Carved my name into his leather seats
I took a Louisville slugger to both head lights
I slashed a hole in all four tires
Maybe next time he’ll think before he cheats
I might have saved a little trouble for the next girl
‘Cause the next time that he cheats
Oh, you know it won’t be on me!
No, not on me
‘Cause I dug my key into the side
Of his pretty little souped-up four-wheel drive
Carved my name into his leather seats
I took a Louisville slugger to both head lights
I slashed a hole in all four tires
Maybe next time he’ll think before he cheats
Oh, maybe next time he’ll think before he cheats
Oh, before he cheats


Sady is wearing:
hair: little bones. Mara
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo 1: .Identity. Body Shop – Black Target
tattoo2: .Identity. Body Shop – Free Yourself

ChicModa // Suzie Shorts (*new* in August Bish Box)
PHEDORA / Kayla Platforms

Are is wearing:
hair: [RA] Fiona Hair
head: CATWA HEAD Catya
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo: .Identity. Body Shop – Wild Desire

ChicModa // Suzie Shorts (*new* in August Bish Box)
#EMPIRE – Speedwell – Maitreya

poses by Foxcity
**slightly edited with Animare and AnyPose**

taikou / 2AM backdrop with materials (light on)
[Con.] Wax On/Wax Off Convertible – Grey
BUENO-Butterfly Knife-Metal (Static)
*katat0nik* (purple) Spray Paint Set – Street Artist


To AraCakes with Love

I grew up listening to my mom telling stories about hanging out at the soda fountain at the pharmacy after school. The closest thing I had to that was my last two years of high school, we’d all park at Corner Grocery, which was really a Texaco station, get drunk and dance in the gravel parking lot. The owners were super cool and didn’t mind us being there as we bought drinks, snacks, cigarettes, and occasionally talked someone into buying us alcohol. Plus, the store isn’t likely to get robbed with a group of teens hanging out next to it. Those were good times, but I always wondered what it must have been like to sit on a stool at an actual soda fountain. God knows with the heat in my part of the world, I’d love to sit in a sweet shop with a good old fashioned milk shake right about now. We had a really cute little shop for a while called Just Desserts where you’d get a piece of cake the size of your head and pay about $6usd for it, but it was literally too rich for my blood. That’s the problem I find with most American desserts anyway, too sweet. I grew up on European desserts and as decadent as they looked, they were the perfect balance of flavors without being too sweet.
So, anyway, you might be wondering about the title and what that has to do with what I’ve written. Well, I’ll tell you, absolutely nothing. This post is just a little wink to Miss AraCakes, a wonderful and shy friend of mine that is the only one that gets away with calling me Cupcake. I know by writing that you’ll all try it now and I’m warning you, the nickname is reserved for Ara only, so when I ignore you…you’ll know why, cuz you fuckers ain’t gonna steal her special pet name for me! *sticks her tongue out*


little bones. Estine (*new* @ C88)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo.:::G.ID:::. Charlotte Tattoo (*new* @ Vintage Fair)

Cae :: Sydney :: Necklace (*new* @ FaMESHed)
:::NOIR::: Infinite Bracelets (*new* @ FaMESHed)
**RE** Dark Queen Rings – Bento 2.0
Astralia – Compatible nails system (Maitreya Stiletto base)
GingerFish -Nail Applier-Astralia-Bloody Kisses
LYBRA . Natalia (*new* @ SouledOut)
[Gos] Boutique – Gigi Sandals (*new* @ FaMESHed)

pose by Del May Poses

RAMA – #selfie_RAMA Iron Wall
[Merak] – Milkshake Sign (*new* @ Vintage Fair)
[Merak] – Bakery Sign (*new* @ Vintage Fair)
[Merak] – Cupcake Sign (*new* @ Vintage Fair)
[Merak] – Cupcake Box (*new* @ Vintage Fair)
[Merak] – Milkshake Love (*new* @ Vintage Fair)
[Merak] – Retro Bakery Bar (*new* @ Vintage Fair)
[Merak] – Retro High Chair(green) (*new* @ Vintage Fair)

A Dog’s World

A Dog’s World

There’s a little joke I tell a lot. I can’t remember where I’ve heard it and if you’ve heard it before, just bear with me for a moment. “I feel sorry for people that don’t have dogs. I hear they have to pick up the food they drop.” It always tickles me, because my dogter, Zoey, is always ready to scoop up any tidbits that fall to the floor and will lick a dish clean before it actually gets washed. She’s the most adorable black lab/border collie mix and I’m so thrilled to be celebrating her 4th birthday later this month. For her first birthday, I made her a hamburger patty with cheese, peanut butter, bacon, and gravy. She didn’t know why she was getting a special dinner and new toys, but she sure had a good day.


I wanted to talk about her just briefly, because among the many events goin on across the grid, there’s a special one to raise money for pit bulls. I know they are a scary breed for some, but please don’t judge an entire breed for what some really bad humans trained their dogs to do. Judge those monstrous people instead and know that pit bulls can be some of the most loyal and gentle dogs on the planet. Rally to Rescue is a great cause. Its a small event with proceeds going to this particular charity. I’m not sure how many years they’ve been doing it, but this is the 2nd year that unKindness has been involved and they are the store that led me to the Rally in the first place. So, please grab the link from below and give it a look. As I said, its not a big event, but not only can you find some pretty cool stuff (like your very own little pit bull pup), you can help save a life.

They big dog events are still going on, so make sure you’re hitting those up, too, because just when you think you’ve hit them all…another is waiting to open and then another and another. So, enjoy your shopping, stay fierce, and be happy. ♥

hair: little bones. Free – The Blondie
head: CATWA HEAD Catya
eyes: CATWA Mesh Eyes w/-SU!– [CATWA & OMEGA HUD] Xenira Eyes ALL COLORS
eyeshadowIzzie’s – Catwa – Applier Dark Metallic Eyeshadow Hud
ears: .:E.A.Studio Ear Nepthune
lipstick: ::SG:: Gelly Lips for CATWA Heads ONLY!
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

.BF. Anelu Necklace (*new* @ FaMESHed)
.{PSYCHO:Byts}.Young Pitbull 1- Battle gray (Rally to Rescue)

*COCO*_OffShoulderTop (*new* @ FaMESHed)
!Rebel Hope – Cargo Mesh Pants  (*new* @ FaMESHed)
fri. – Lana Booties (Coal) – Maitreya RARE (*new* @ Arcade)

pose Di’s Opera
location: Pandora Resort

Feeling Like a Rockstar!

Most days I don’t have a great deal of confidence in myself and I’m probably harder on myself than anyone other than my parents ever has been. However, once in a while I have a day where I feel super productive and actually take some pride in myself. Today is one of those days. I’m feeling really good despite my elevated pain levels, I was super productive in RL today. I got lots of errands done, got my taxes filed, and managed to get home in time to work on some blog posts!
I realize that’s not a huge deal to some, but when leaving your house is one of your most dreaded deeds..well, its not only a big deal to do it, but to do it without anxiety? Yes! I am feeling like a rock star, because I did just that. I marched my little ass…okay, my big ass…right out the door and got my errands done. Multiple stores and I saved a ton of money even though I spent too much. I even managed to fix my glasses with a little super glue after they got knocked off the bed by the dog and stepped on by my mom! So, yeah, I’m totally rocking this Monday!



hair: little bones. Portia (*new* @ Uber)
head: CATWA HEAD Catya
Zibska ~ Luise Lashes
skin: [theSkinnery] Fleur (Catwa Applier) honey (*new* @ Shiny Shabby)
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

**RE** Simone Heart Collar
Off Shoulder Cardigan (F)/ Gray
The AnnexJolie Lingerie (Buy Now SL)

_i7_urban studio_muthafucka neon
pose: Gingerfish Poses  – Rock Star (free-just ask Tracy Redangel inworld for your copy)


A dear friend of mine is always reminding me to, “Bloom where you’re planted.” While I know she didn’t just up with that as she told me a friend of hers often told her the same thing. I did some research and it seems to be quite a mystery. Regardless of where the quote originated its simple message is quite powerful. For me, it just means you make the most of what you have and while life doesn’t always take you where you hoped you’d be, that doesn’t mean your light needs to go out. You simply have to take root where you can and allow yourself to grow from there.
The weather has been dismal and superbly cold the past few days…temperatures dipping well below freezing. While not foreign to my region, its certainly not normal. I’ve had to brave the not so frozen tundra on more than one occasion thanks to my 60lb dogter. Yes, that’s right, she’s my fur baby and I call her my dogter. She’s the closest I’ll ever have to a daughter, but I digress…shocking, I know. So, the weather sucks…life ain’t great…blah blah blah…so without going into a bunch of boring, emo details (shup, Corban)..suffice it to say the past week or two…I’ve been down and out. I’m a solutions kinda girl. I do not like to sit in a pool of self pity. I’m all about changing my mental channel however I can. Sometimes that’s not always the right choice, I end up bottling a lot of stuff up, but this is one time I think I made the right choice for sure.


You see, my sim has been winterized and I am not protesting that decision, as I’m one the main people that pushed for it. However, for a change of pace and scenery I slipped on over to Summer Trace with my little sidekick from Jian. It was here that I settled in for a while and did some thinking. I’ve grown a lot since I first came to this sim and that was just a year ago. And though my RL circumstances have been a bit of a roller coaster, they’re not a whole lot different than they were at this point last year. That is about to change and not because of some New Year’s resolution. Its about to change because I’m about to blossom.


hair:little bones. Olympia  (*new* @ Collabor88)
head: CATWA HEAD Catya
skin: [theSkinnery] Opal (Catwa Applier) honey
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

**RE** Simone Heart Collar
EF: Harmony Necklace
Elegance Boutique -Corset   “Mona” – FloralGreen (*new* @ Cosmopolitan)
=Zenith=Vintage Lace Legwarm
JIAN Grey Wolf :: Companion  (*new* @ FaMESHed)

taken at Summer Trace using poses in the fountain

What if…we get real?

How was your day?
Such a simple question to ask, but it can make a world of difference to the person you’re asking. Its usually the first thing I say after, “Hi Baby!” when I see Sino each day. Whenever I’m excited about something, I tend to make my story first followed by embarrassment for not asking him how his day was first, because honestly…what if he had a bad day? Is he really going to be happy that one of my photos was chosen for the cover of a Flickr group? Sure, deep down, but probably not what he wants to talk about, then again it might be just the distraction he’s looking for. I won’t know until I ask about his day.


I’ve been thinking about this a lot. We often start conversations with, “How are you?”
On occasion someone give an honest answer, but do we really want to know that their IBS is acting up or that they just stubbed their toe or that their boss just laid into them over some stupid project that’s not even due until next week or its shark week and I swear to God if I sneeze there will be a crime scene worthy of Dexter in my pants? I think some of us do really want to know and yet when people ask us how we are…most of us give a general answer like, “I’m fine and you?”
Then we wonder why conversations die. What if we got real and honest with one another? I know, it seems almost like a foreign concept these days in Second Life, but for those of us that are REAL friends and do discuss real life, it might be interesting, dontcha think? I dunno, just food for thought from the depths of a twisted mind.

Let’s talk about the stuff for a minute. It seems like another event opens every day and its getting harder and harder to keep up, especially if you’re on a budget. However, there are certain items out there that just call to you and no matter how many suits you own or how many thigh high boots you already have…we won’t even discuss hair…you just have to have THAT! So, I’m sharing some of my absolute must haves with you…from Sino’s awesome suit and my outfit to some stuff for my house, because anyone that knows me knows I’m always decorating and my home is forever evolving. Enjoy!

Sady is wearing:
little bones. Chel
CATWA Mesh Eyes
Glam Affair – Pia Applier ( Catwa / Tumble ) America 02  (*new* @Kustom9)
Valentina E. Dita Ebony Egyptian (*new* @ The Epiphany)
**RE** Zaria Bracelets
Sweet Thing. Madame Laveau Thigh Highs – Black (*new* @ Kustom9)

Sino is wearing:
Modulus – Brooklyn Hair
[Gos] Custom Eyewear – GOSCAN
Head & Body by #TheMeshProject
GizzA –  Andrew Vested Suit Tweed (*new* @ TMD)

tarte. autumn attic skybox (October Luxe Box)
BUENO -Fall Rug Lines (*new* @ The Epiphany)
NOMAD // The Social Guru
Kalopsia – Aloe Plaster – Grey
Fancy Decor: Wood Console (*new* @ Kustom9)
BUENO-Bonita Bag-Black (*new* @ The Epiphany)
BUENO-Magazine Stack 2 (*new* @ The Epiphany)
BUENO-Standup Player-Light (*new* @ The Epiphany)
Addams – Bad Bunny Mask – #051
:HAIKEI: End of the day Gahca {3}
Fancy Decor: Studded Tray (*new* @ Kustom9)
+Half-Deer+ Cutie Clutter – Spilled Black Coffee
Fancy Decor: Bulb Sconce (*new* @ Kustom9)
Fancy Decor: Octagonal Mirror (*new* @ Kustom9)
MG – H&G – Curtains – Silk Pools
striped mocha – hanging lotuses – gold
Di’Cor Carson Leather Chair
Apple Fall ‘iFall’ Notebook 2015
{anc} miniature/H. mannequin {M} flower
Culprit Ancient One
floorplan. record shelf / bare
Stockholm&Lima: The Painting

pose: oOo Studios

What’s Your Poison (part 4)

“Mr Skytower, would you like a reading while you wait?”

He opened his eyes to see Sady standing beside a table in yet another change of clothes, only this time she seemed different. Less playful than before, definitely more serious. He wondered what he was waiting for exactly and had he fallen asleep? He’d only meant to rest his eyes.

“You’re quite strange. You have been asleep for over an hour and you’re waiting for your friend to retrieve you. How have you forgotten a call you made only an hour ago?” She tilted her head and looked at him as though he were the odd one in the conversation.

I’m strange? He looks around at the bottles of potions and ingrediants, candles, oija boards, tarot cards, and crystal balls. He chuckles to himself and stands up.

“Yes, you ARE strange, quite strange. Now would you like a reading? Perhaps I can tell you something useful about your future. Please, have a seat, ” she motioned to the table once more.
He shrugged, “Why not, Sady? Its obvious you can read my mind, so don’t bother telling me about my past.” He amused himself as he sat down in the chair, he crossed his arms and slumped back. He had never believed in any of this nonsense in the past and he wasn’t about to start now.

Sady pulled a medium sized crystal ball from a cabinet and sat opposite of him. Reaching across the table, she place her palm on his arm for a brief moment. He felt a slight electrical charge when she did and he pulled away. She gave him a discerning look then ran her hand over the crystal ball.

Her eyes grew wide as she peered into the glass. She looked up and opened her mouth to speak….a very loud horn began to blare into his ears. Closing his eyes tight, he covered his ears with his hands, “MAKE IT STOP!! MAKE IT STOP!!” His head was pounding and he felt an intense pressure against his chest. Realizing he was leaning forward, he sat up straight and the noise stopped.

He slowly took his hands from his ears and heard nothing but wind in the trees and crickets. He slowly opened his eyes, but everything was so dark. He rubbed his eyes. What the hell? Where am I? He looked around and realized he was sitting in his car. How the…? What the…? As his eyes adjusted to the darkness, it dawned on him that he had fallen asleep at the wheel. Thank God, I didn’t hit a tree! He chuckled nervously at himself, “That was quite a dream!”


or was it?

little bones.  Xia
Glam Affair – Kelly Applier ( Catwa  ) America (*new* @ Salem)
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
[The Forge] Braided Hex Harness
~ChicModa~ Ana Top (*new* @You.Gacha)
Moon Elixir – Serpentis Masquerade – 2 – Lara – RARE Corset  (*new* @ Memento.Mori)
~ChicModa~ Ana Leather Skirt (*new* @You.Gacha)
**RE** Aeternum Female Bracelet – Serina.Boots (*new* @ Salem)

NOMAD // Gothic Candelabra
DRD MS – Mega Spell Center (*new* @ Memento.Mori)
BUENO– Marcos Muertos- Gentleman
floorplan. antique telephone gacha / black
NOMAD // Small Gothic Table
{anc} Looking-glass. {oval mirrors}  (*new* @ Salem Gacha Gallows)
DRD MS – Fortune Telling Table  (*new* @ Memento.Mori)
Maxi Gossamer – H&G – Curtains (*new* @ FaMESHed)


What’s Your Poison? (part 3)

He nervously took a seat in the chair she had pointed out. It was oddly comforting. He felt himself relaxing quite a bit, but unsure how or why. I must be more exhausted than I thought. He watched her disappear behind a wall of curtains and wondered what she might be hiding back there.
A few minutes later she stepped from behind the curtains holding out a glass of wine. She had changed clothes and her hair. Noticing that her top said, “BOO.” He realized that she was not only mysterious, but sarcastic. He was not amused and finally found his voice, “Do you enjoy toying with people, Miss…I didn’t catch your name?”
She smiled sweetly, still holding out the wine, “Only the presumptuous ones and I didn’t throw it.”
“Well, you know my name. Would you mind sharing yours?” He hadn’t intended to sound so curt. He sighed and took the wine, “Thank you, Miss Cleo.” He chuckled at his own joke and took a sip of the wine.
“You amuse me, Mr Skytower. While Cleo is a lovely name, you’re more apt to befriend one of my cats if you keep saying it. You can call me, Sady.”
After a few more sips of wine, he realized he had gotten rather cozy in the chair. He stared at the wine in his glass. It seemed to be swirling all on its own. He tilted his head and tried to focus, but when he did the rest of the room started to spin. He looked back to Sady only to discover she had disappeared, presumably behind the curtain again, “Sady?”
Silence. Deafeningly quiet silence.
He shook his head and felt a little tickle in his throat. He felt compelled to drink the rest of his wine and without even consciously deciding to do so, he finished it off. He looked around for somewhere to place the empty glass, deciding the mantel would be the best spot, he tried to stand. The glass crashed to the floor as he felt himself falling back into the chair…in slow motion. As he found himself settling, he called out for her again, “Sady? You mentioned a phone before…I really need to make a few calls.” He was feeling quite dizzy. He looked down at the floor where he was sure he had dropped the empty wine glass. There was nothing there. No wine glass, no broken shards, no drops of wine. I must be losing my mind.
The veil of silence was broken when he heard her gentle voice from behind the curtain, “Just relax, Mr Skytower. I’ll be right with you.”
He closed his eyes, for what he thought was just a minute…

….to be continued….

little bones. Alena – The Blend (*new* @ Uber)
Glam Affair – Kelly Applier ( Catwa  ) America (*new* @ Salem)
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
:V.e. Crafty Tank Boo! (*new* @ Memento.Mori)
:V.e. Crafty Mini Black (*new* @ Memento.Mori)
**RE** Aeternum Female Bracelet

{anc} Looking-glass. {oval mirrors}  (*new* @ Salem Gacha Gallows)
DRD MS – Fortune Telling Table  (*new* @ Memento.Mori)
Stockholm&Lima:Mystic Neon:Transmutation Circle RARE (*new* @ Salem Gacha Gallows)
Maxi Gossamer – H&G – Curtains (*new* @ FaMESHed)

TaKe Heart ♥

This time last year, little did I know I was about to experience one of the worst days of my real life, followed by some of the hardest and most challenging months. Those closest to me know the gory details and I’d rather not relive them here, but here I am a year later in a place I could never have imagined. This place is beyond special. It is magical. This place is not a place at all, but a state of mind wrapped in hope and love by some of the most beautiful people on the planet.  I am fortunate enough to call them my friends. Only God knows why they put up with me, but I sure am glad that they do.
So I want to start off by saying thank you to all of my wonderful friends. Some of you have sat up with me at all hours of the night listening to me cry, curse, scream, vent..whatever I needed to do in order to process. Some of you encouraged rotten behavior that got me in all sorts of trouble, but was beyond fun. Some of you provided me with a safe place where I could just be. Some of you gave me space, knowing that’s what I needed from you. You were all exactly the type of friends I needed with a few exceptions that are no longer in the circle. Bye Felicias and Felipes!
Now, I want to talk about where I’ve landed almost a year later. In my World Peace post, I mentioned that I had landscaped a sim for some friends of mine, Kess Crystal and Spazz Tackett. It was such an amazing experience and I am honored to have been part of the process. Kess has finished decorating…maybe and that sim is now open, so please give it a look. As you can see, TaKe Heart is a sim designed with love and whimsy, with a twist of Sady aka dark twisted stuff. I’ve taken these photos by the lake which just so happens to be shaped like a heart…thank you very much! The reason this is so pivotal to me is because both Kess and I had a rough time of it this time last year. There were daily Skype calls, complete with tears, cursing, and plenty of laughter, too. I don’t know how I would have survived last fall without her. She has inspired me, pushed me, pulled me, poked me a few times, threatened to kill me once or twice, and put up with the worst of me.
So, here we both are a year later, we’ve both made great changes in our lives and come through some intense situations. She’s opened this sim with one of her absolute best friends AND…(totally heard her say that) I now have a new gig, sorta. As a result of my work on TaKe Heart, I’ve already been hired to landscape some private property and I’m pretty happy with how it turned out. I don’t know if I’ll ever be asked to do it again and that’s okay, but this time last year I wouldn’t have believed this is where I’d be.
Photography. Blogging. Landscaping. Amazing friends and SL family. I’m happy. Pretty much all around. Life will never be perfect, but my goodness I sure didn’t expect it to be this good a year later and mostly because of Second Life.
Now about the stuff, because this “stuff” is AMAZING! First of all, I cannot get enough of this dress from Reverie. There are solids and aztec prints available, plus if that wasn’t enough there’s an adorable vest available in four textures. This is one of those dresses that going to be a sure classic and I have a sneaky feeling you’ll be seeing it again and again. For now, grab your favorite(s) at Uber. AND (totally hear Kess again) while you’re at Uber, you’ve got to check out the animated hair from Little Bones. This hair is gorgeous and magically fits my Catwa head perfectly! I had too much fun, flipping my hair back and forth, around from side to side. I didn’t tell Sino what I was doing, he just started noticing and was like WHOA! Yeah, WHOA is right! Between this dress and this hair, I’m ready for the next year! Bring it on!! ♥

little bones.
Buffy – The Blend (*new* @ Uber)
:Diamante: Disengaged Plugs Piercing
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
{Reverie} ‘Ciara’ Dress (*new* @ Uber)
*AvaWay* Nikki_Bracelet, necklace, rings, and earrings (all sold separately)
#EMPIRE – Freesia

poses by Del May

location TaKe Heart

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