Take Your Time

Why is everyone in such a hurry these days? I’m referring to SL relationships. We’ve all seen the people that jump in and out of relationships. Partnered to someone new every other week or month, then complain about why their relationships didn’t work. Seems like an awful lot of unnecessary drama and hurt feelings to me. I used to think I had a four month expiration date, because my average SL relationship was only lasting four months, but I didn’t rush into any of them. The last one I had, we dated quietly for months before telling anyone, much less becoming official. Now, I’ve been single for over 3 months and I simply can’t imagine rushing into anything with any of the men I’ve met. It can take weeks for me to even figure out whether or not I want to have sex with someone. Granted there are those that you know immediately that sex is definitely on the table, but in those instances I’m not expecting it to be anything but casual. I’m not an idiot. Sex does not equal love or even slove as my friend, Poppy, puts it. (I tend to agree with her on that.) I dunno, I guess we all have our pace. It just seems to me if you take your time and really get to know someone first, you might save yourself some heartache. Then again, what do I know….368 day of what I thought was magic turned out to be really disposable and I was easily replaced in no time at all. *shrugs* So, I have no idea who the hell I think I am giving relationship advice, but that’s what’s on my mind today. So, that’s what you get.

the wolf

Sady is wearing:
hair: #1 {Limerence} Nikol hair(Common1)-B&W
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery]  Iris (Catwa Applier) toffee (*new* @ C88)
11. :BAMSE: Personal Choker – Bitch
SPIRIT – Peepa sweatshirt (*new* @ C88)
ChicModa // Piper skirt (*new* @ Cosmopolitan)
.Shi : Caleb Boots . Black / Bento (*new* @ TMD)

Gotz is wearing:
hair: Unorthodox Manny Hair
head: CATWA HEAD Daniel
Stretched ears-Omimi- [MANDALA]
body: [Signature] Gianni – Body
Howl – CHEN bombers jacket
[Deadwool] Chase sneakers

pose: [ATI] Adore (*new* @ Suicide Dollz)

FOXCITY. K-POP Star 2 – As If (Rez) (1) RARE (*new* @ Arcade)



There’s a poem by Maya Angelou, Caged Bird. Its one of those poems that sat on my chest like a 20lb cat. It weighed so heavily on my heart that is almost felt as though I were being crushed. I love the contrast of the free bird versus the caged bird. The free bird hasn’t the worries or restrictions of the caged bird. Yet, the caged bird chooses to sing anyway. The caged bird sings of hope, dreams, and fantasies. It is those songs that keeps the caged bird moving forward in its limited space. While the free bird might sing, I imagine the songs are hollow and not nearly as beautiful as the “fearful trill.”
Obviously the poem is not literally about birds. Its symbolism in its purest form really. Yet, it still makes me think. It takes my mind in so many directions. Not just the original meaning, but about each of us as individuals. How often do we cage ourselves? And for what reason? I spend more than 50% of my day in my bedroom, as my computer is in here, my smart tv, my bed…all my favorite comforts of home. Why? Though I sit in front of a window, there is nothing keeping me locked in here. So, why don’t I go outside more? Granted, I don’t like the people around here too much, but no one is forcing me to speak to anyone when I leave my house. I’ve even been to jail and I remember how badly I craved the fresh air, a natural breeze. How I longed to hear the rustling of leaves and the songs of birds….even the laughter of those little demon spawns people call children. *grins*
I’ve gotten too comfortable in my little cage of comforts. I’ve become complacent and in most 12 step programs there’s a common saying about complacency being a red light indicator. In other words, when we become too comfortable…too complacent in our lives, we are setting ourselves up for bad decision making and that’s never been more true in my life. I’ve made some very poor decisions in the last few months. Acting out (mostly in SL) in ways that I never have before and its time for me to stop. I’ve already reduced my blogging load by focusing more on fashion and less on home decor. Yet, I still find myself sitting at this desk focused far more on my blog than on my real life.
I am not a religious person by a long shot, but Easter is about Christ being reborn, right? Well, I think I’ll borrow a page from the Bible and use Easter as a form of rebirth of my own. I’m going to cut back a bit more on the blog and I’m going to be leaving my house for five days on Easter weekend. I’m going to see my darling Nikole. This will be the second time we’ve met in real life, but it’ll be my first time visiting her at her house. I’m super excited about the trip and I’m about to embrace some really positive changes in my life. I will no longer be caged by my own hands.


hair: #12 {Limerence} Sammy hair-Blonds (*new* @ Imaginarium)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery]  Iris (Catwa Applier) toffee (*new* @ C88)
tattoo: [ATI] Mai.. (*new* @ TWE12VE)
LYBRA  . SADYSTIKA (*new* @ Whore Couture)
_CandyDoll_ Gina Heels (*new* @ FaMESHed)

pose:  FOXCITY. Wild & Free Bento Pose Set

FOXCITY. K-POP Star 2 – Ringa Linga (Rez) (3) RARE (*new* @ Arcade)
Fapple– The little slave bed
Fapple– BDSM Tool Box

Mood swings and Strawberry Jam!

If you’re a regular reader of my blog, you can imagine the title of this blog is a result of the Dangerous Proposition blog that I did last week. I have been trying to do the suggestions in the order that they came in, but with all the pink in this photo…well, I thought it sorta fit the topic.  Grace things she’s going to stump me with this little mix of terms, but oddly enough this instantly made me think of a comfort food. As women, we all know that comfort foods are very important during PMS which produces more mood swings than a 90 yr old bi-polar senile homeless woman. So, I’m going to share a the simplest little recipe for one of the most delicious comfort foods and most of us have these ingredients in our kitchens at any given time. All you need is Ritz crackers, cream cheese, and strawberry jam/preserves/jelly. Three simple ingredients that will change your life! You just put a smidge of cream cheese on the cracker, top it off with a small dollop of jam. Pop that in your mouth and you’ll think you’ve just had a cheesecake bite! I’m telling you, it is amazing. I suggest you just make a little plate of about 5 or 6 of these, because it is way too easy to get carried away eating these right there in the kitchen as you make them.
So, there you have it…mood swings and strawberry jam are actually quite compatible. Feel free to challenge me with more topics. I still have a few more from the original posts, but I have to admit I am loving the challenge…so bring it on!!!

something sweet

hair:  {Limerence} Mary hair (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
head: CATWA HEAD Lilly
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
!Rebel Hope – Zaza Mesh Lingerie Top (*new* @ FaMESHed)
!Rebel Hope – Jayda Mesh Linegerie Pants (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Essenz – Serbia (*new* @ FaMESHed)

pose: Foxcity Slow Motion Set

.gypsy heart. Festive Backdrops – Christmas Lights A (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
+Half-Deer+ Hot Chocolate Bar Cart (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
JIAN Santa’s Samoyeds 2. Adult Wanderer RARE (*new* @ Arcade)
BUENO– Unicorn Charger- Rainbow (*new* @ Arcade)
BUENO -Chill Chair -Peach and Gold (*new* @ Arcade)
JIAN Santa’s Samoyeds 11. White Pup Wanderer (*new* @ Arcade)
BUENO-Sitter-Pillows – Love (*new* @ Arcade)
BUENO-Hanging Stars-Pink (*new* @ Arcade)
BUENO– Chandelier – Pink (*new* @ Arcade)
BUENO-Hanging Stars- White (*new* @ Arcade)



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