Flickr Etiquette

I just want to touch on a few things about Flickr that I think people either don’t understand, don’t appreciate, or forgot the whole point. We share our photos and hope for the best, right? Hopefully, someone, anyone will like our work. Some of us use it as a place to store photos rather than take up valuable space on our PCs. Regardless of the reason, its a site made for sharing photos. So, I just wanted to touch on a few things that have crossed my mind and occasionally irritate me and/or others.

Awards-Some groups insist on them, some encourage, some don’t care. I’ve actually heard people complain about getting them or feeling forced to give them. I personally don’t give awards unless I’m simply in the mood. However, whenever someone takes the time to paste an award code on one of my photos, I make sure to show my gratitude by replying with a heart or a group thank you. It shows that you appreciate the love shown for your photos. Its about being humble. They didn’t have to do that, no one holds a gun to their head.
I hear people bitching about how some people have more followers than they follow. I don’t know about you, but I don’t just auto follow. I do tend to follow my bloggers and anyone whose work I really enjoy. However, if their timeline looks like nothing but snapshots or the photos aren’t good or its just over the top pornographic crap….I am NOT going to follow them, whether they follow me or not. I, also, don’t go checking to make sure every person I follow is following me back. I’m honored that anyone follows me. However, just because someone chose to follow me does not mean I owe it to them to follow them back. Nor do I expect anyone I follow to automatically follow me back. I think that’s ridiculous and insincere. I want people to follow me, because they like what I do.
One thing that aggravates the hell out of me and just about every photographer I know, is when someone uses one of my photos on their timeline. Regardless of why, it gives the appearance that they took the photo and they didn’t. It’s essentially stealing. If you want to share a collection of photos from around the site, use a gallery or a group. There are tons of youtube video tutorials to help you figure out how to navigate groups and galleries.
I think we’ve all looked at Flickr at some point and saw someone with crazy high views and/or favs, but their photos are meh at best. We can’t figure out how or why…they might have more or less followers, its just a mystery. How the hell did they do that and why aren’t our numbers higher? This I cannot even begin to answer. What I do know is that we need to let it go and stop worrying about what kinds of favs and views other people get. We need to focus on ourselves, our own work, and stop comparing ourselves to others, especially based on numbers.
The bottom line is this. No matter how good your photos are; no matter how could you think they are; no matter how popular you may or may not be…you should be grateful that ANYONE takes the time to look at your photos of a virtual world, much less takes the time to actually fav, comment, or paste an award. It’s call gratitude and we all should have some.
So, there’s my two cents on the whole Flickr thing. You can view my flickr by clicking on the photo below and by all means, you are all welcome to leave your flickr links in the comments below. Who knows, you might discover someone new or someone new might discover you. ♥

storm within

head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery]  Iris (Catwa Applier) toffee (*new* @ C88)

pose by Del May

MudHoney Larson Fireplace – White
JIAN :: Wolf (Static – Howl)


Farewell, Decor

Since the day I started my blog, I had decided that I will blog whatever I want and I have stood by that for two years now. However, there comes a time in every blogger’s journey that they have to make some pretty big decisions about the direction of their blog. I want to do what truly makes me the happiest and while I absolutely adore home decor, I’ve found it to be extremely challenging as a blogger. Don’t get me wrong. I’ve loved every minute of it and you will still decor pieces from time to time in my blog.
For now, I’m focusing on fashion and I’d like to progress into close ups, perhaps accessories. Its not been a strong suit of mine, but its something I’d really like to work on. With that said, I can now say that I am a fashion blogger. I have a niche! *faints*
Sadly, this means letting go of some of my oldest and talented sponsors. There maybe some confusion along the way as some fashion designers do a bit of everything and I’ve got a couple of those on my list. So, like I said, there will still be decor, but it will most likely be something an avatar interacts with or part of the background. So, this is to be my final official home decor only post (the puppies don’t count.)
This is by far my last ever home decor post, but it is my last official as a Fancy Decor and unKindess blogger. *sigh* This is such a bittersweet moment. I’m excited about the future, but moving so far from my foundation is frightening.  It has truly been an honor to work with stores like Fancy Decor and unKindness, two of the mainstores featured here. Without fail, you will see their work in my photos in the future. ♥

Farewell Decor

scene created in: uK – Modern Serenity Home (*new* Feb Builder’s Box)

JIAN Kitty Sauce Shelf (*new* @ Uber)
JIAN Glam Greyhounds (*new* @ MARCH ARCADE)

Fancy Decor: Silver hors d’oeuvres (*new* @ MARCH ARCADE)
01 Fancy Decor: Buffet – Black RARE (not shown)
02 Fancy Decor: Buffet – White RARE
03 Fancy Decor: Three Tiered Snack Tray RARE
04 Fancy Decor: Two Tiered Dessert Tray
05 Fancy Decor: Cake
06 Fancy Decor: Wine Decanter
07 Fancy Decor: Elegant Candle
08 Fancy Decor: Wine Glasses
09 Fancy Decor: Water Pitcher
10 Fancy Decor: Glasses
11 Fancy Decor: Silverware
12 Fancy Decor: Salt & Pepper Shakers
13 Fancy Decor: Napkins
14 Fancy Decor: Plate Stack
15 Fancy Decor: Plate with Snacks

FD & Commoner: The Modine Collection Fatpack
FD & Commoner: Modine Side Table
FD & Commoner: Modine Vase of Daisies
FD & Commoner: Modine Accent Chair
FD & Commoner: Modine Coffee Table
FD & Commoner: Modine Cloud Sofa
FD & Commoner: Modine Nut Dish

Fancy Decor: Dover Collection
-11 Fancy Decor: Art Group
12 Fancy Decor: Dover Rug

uK – My Zen Planter White

uk – La confiserie Set
-uK – La confiserie Lollipop Cake
-uK – La confiserie Donut Display w/Goodies RARE
-uK – La confiserie Donut Plate Coconut

Refuge – Spark Lamp Shimmer Silver Larger
Refuge – Spark Lamp Shimmer Silver Smaller

+Half-Deer+ Cutie Clutter – Spilled Black Coffee
+Half-Deer+ Unicorn Story – Fauxidermy Duo

hive // celebration balloons
Exposeur – Dunnette Standing Record Player – Teal
LISP – Fairy Alice Wall Plates
[ kunst ] – Ashtray v3 / Marble #4
The Horror!~ A Horrorable Christmas – Giftboxes – Mixed

O.M.E.N – Christmas Morning – Gift Box – Silver
O.M.E.N – Christmas Morning – Gift Box – Silver/ Blue Paper

Waking Up

I feel like I’m just waking up to a tornado of lists. I’ve been hard at work on this picture all day. I had it all done and edited. Inserted the photo, was listing the credits and realized that my painting over the fireplace was backwards. No wonder that picture didn’t make sense to me. *giggles* Luckily everything was still in place, including me. So, yeah, that’s all I’ve got to say about it, cuz my head is still swimming like crazy. I’ll be doubling down on blogging, so I can only guess what sort of madness is headed your way from me.

waking up


hair:  [RA]  Sady Hair (*new* @ C88) squeeeee!
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: Glam Affair –- MaryJane – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica (*new* @ Kinky)
[Cynful]  Rainy Baby – Hoodie + Panty Set (*new* @ C88)

JIAN Beagle Pup (Nov Luxe Box)

pose:  Bauhaus Movement – Hearts Burst Into Fire Poses (*new* @ TLC)

Fancy Decor: Jansen Collection (*new* @ FaMESHed)
-Fancy Decor: Cube Table
-Fancy Decor: Velvet Swivel Chair (black)
-Fancy Decor: Jansen Candles
-Fancy Decor: Jansen Painting

Fancy Decor: Fulton Coffee Table
Fancy Decor: Fulton Rug
Fancy Decor: Triangle Candle (black)
Fancy Decor: Gray Vase
Fancy Decor: White Vase
Fancy Decor: Black Vase
Fancy Decor: Brush Art
Fancy Decor: Books & Bookends (black & gold)
Fancy Decor: Pillar Fireplace (white)

tres blah– Hodgepodge – Stacked Magazines

MudHoney Carter Entertainment Center Set (*new* @ FaMESHed)
-MudHoney Trophy Bowl
-MudHoney Basket Vase
-MudHoney Bent Candlesticks
-MudHoney Stone Pyramid

PILOT – Book and Tablet Stack
PILOT – Fido [Carbon]

Ariskea [Ophelia] Fake Plant (*new* @ FaMESHed)

Alouette – Antique TV Bookcase (#2)

Apple Fall Huge Fan Palm


Snake Charmer

I think we all are pretty familiar with the story about the girl and the snake, right? Or at least some version of it. Sometimes she finds him on a sidewalk, sometimes its a little boy, sometimes it an adult. The gist is always the same. Just in case, I’ve provided a commonly found internet version below. The moral of the story is was tickles me, because most of us will still pick up that damn snake believing that somehow overnight we’ve become a snake charmer and we get bit every single time. I was talking to a close friend of mine the other day and we were talking about life lessons we learned as children. My friend learned by watching family members and being smart enough to figure out who was making the right choices and who was making the wrong choices. Then there’s me…I have had to learn most of my lessons the hardest way possible. I feel like I need some kind of implant to remind me, “Don’t touch the snake!”

Girl and The Snake
A young girl walking along a mountain path to her grandmother’s house heard a rustle at her feet. Looking down, she saw a snake, but before she could react, the snake spoke to her. 
“I am about to die,” he said. “It’s too cold for me up here, and I am freezing. There is no food in these mountains, and I am starving. Please put me under your coat and take me with you.”

“No,” the girl replied. “I know your kind. You are a rattlesnake. And if I pick you up, you will bite me and your bite is poisonous.”
“No, no,” the snake said. “If you help me, you will be my best friend. I will treat you differently.”
The young girl sat down on a rock for a moment to rest and think things over. She looked at the beautiful markings on the snake and she had to admit he was the most beautiful snake she had ever seen. Suddenly, she said, “I believe you. I will save you. All living things deserve to be treated with kindness.”
She then reached over, put the snake gently under her coat and continued toward her grandmother’s house. Within a moment, she felt a sharp pain in her side. The snake had bitten her!
“How could you do this to me?” she cried. “You promised that you would not bite me, and I trusted you!”
“You knew what I was when you picked me up,” he hissed as he slithered away.

snake charmer


hair:  MINA – Sanne (*new* @ FaMESHed)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
ears: ^^Swallow^^ Shiny Ears
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: Glam Affair –- MaryJane – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica (*new* @ Kinky)
Scandalize. Selena. (*new* @ Fetish Fair)
Scandalize. SelenaBoots (*new* @ Fetish Fair)

pose: Klubwerk.poses -warrior set

JIAN Ball Python Collection (*new* @ FaMESHed)
-JIAN Ball Python Wanderer
-JIAN Ball Python Plop Static
-JIAN Ball Python Plop Animated
-JIAN Ball Python Habitat (empty)
-JIAN Ball Python Companion


Ole McF*ckit Had a Farm

Ole McFuckit had a farm…(sing along, you know you wanna)
Gracey, Tracy, and Rom
On that farm there was a cow…
Gracey, Grace, and Grace…*giggles*
With a moo moo here, and booze booze there
Here a moo, there’s some booze
Gracey, Grace, and Grace…*bursts into giggles*

Ole McFuckit had a farm…
Tracy, Tracy, Trace….
On that farm was a little pig…
Tracy, Tracy, Trace….*laughs*
With an oink oink here, and some candy there
Here’s an oink, there’s a boink
And Rom got him some….*cries from laughin so hard*

It had to be done….oh but wait, there’s one more verse to finish this off….

Ole McFuckit had a farm…
Kessie, Kesstie, Kess…
On that farm there was a barn…
Kessie, Kesstie, Kess…
With a squeaky door, and a rock DJ
Here’s a song, there’s some hay
And Exodus lived in a barn….*runs like hell*

Okay, so this post was mostly a series of private jokes, but I could not help myself. If you know these cunts, you’ll understand. Long live the McFuckits!!!♥

Ole McFuckit

JIAN Highland Cattle Shed (*new* @ Uber)
JIAN Highland Cattle Collection (*new* @ Uber)
JIAN Highland Farm Fences (*new* @ Uber)

JIAN Playtime Piglets 1. Hay Napper RARE

JIAN Countryside Collies :: Adult Wanderer RARE

JIAN Barnyard Buddies :: Water Trough

22769 – Hay Bale with blanket

O.M.E.N – Autumn Harvest Truck – Red

Botanical – Dirt Road Straight

HPMD* Garden Trees

*alirium* DwarfForest [OldGold]


City Lights

Sometimes a song just embodies a feeling, but combine it with just one picture and both come together to create something amazing. That’s really what I hoped to do here.

Palastic – City Lights

City lights, the urban landscape,
Stands before our eyes.
City lights, our lives are caught up,
In these neon lights

Oh, so very frightened the park will seem.
Yet, we do our best to cherish one another,
City lights, although I love you,
Sometimes hate with doubt.

Oh, so very frightened to be alone,
Yet we do our best to keep a civil distance
City lights, although I love you,
Sometimes hate with doubt.

I cannot solve the mystery
Of what is fake and what is real,
I cannot solve the mystery,
Of who we are and who we’ll be!

City lights, the urban landscape,

Stands before our eyes.
City lights, our lives are caught up,
In these neon lights

Oh, so very frightened the park will seem.
Yet, we do our best to cherish one another,
City lights, I’ll always hate you,
‘Till the end of time.

I’m pretending to,
Be surprised at you lying.
You pretend not to,
See the passion inside.

We are trying to,
Understand everything.
You’ve decided to,
Let the light of me in.

We are trying to,
Understand everything.
You’ve decided to,
Let the light of me in.


BUENO-Mulder Loft Building-Gray (*new* @ Uber)
DRD – Spiritualists Shoppe – Storefront

scene designed in: BUENO-Mulder Loft Building-Regular (*new* @ Uber)
BUENO-Deco Bag

Fancy Decor: Fulton Collection (*new* @ Uber)
-Fancy Decor: Capsule Book Stack
-Fancy Decor: Fulton Chandelier
-Fancy Decor: Merlot Wine Glass
-Fancy Decor: Buble Lamp (solid)
-Fancy Decor: Clipped Art
-Fancy Decor: Fulton Armchair
-Fancy Decor: Fulton Coffee Table
-Fancy Decor: Fulton Rug
-Fancy Decor: Fulton Side Table
-Fancy Decor: Fulton Sofa (white cotton)
-Fancy Decor: Merlot Wine Glass

Fancy Decor: Dover Collection
-01 Fancy Decor: Designer Computer RARE
-02 Fancy Decor: Dover Desk Chair RARE
-03 Fancy Decor: Dover Desk
-05 Fancy Decor: Dover Shelf
-14 Fancy Decor: Books and Trinkets

uK – Chic Wall Clock (Metal)
uK- Canvas Hope Footstool
Ariskea & Unkindness [Solace] Candle 4
Ariskea & Unkindness [Solace] Romarin Plant
Ariskea[Hustler] Babybreath Pot
Ariskea[Hustler] Gold Flower
Ariskea[Hustler] Hustle Word

tres blah– Eclectic Collection – Cat Face Pillow
-tres blah- Eclectic Collection – Hot Lips Phone (Pink)
-tres blah- Jolie – Golden Hand
-tres blah- Workspace – Tablet
-tres blah- Golden Cage – Coffee Run
-tres blah- Golden Cage – Tablet
-tres blah- Hodgepodge – Agenda RARE
-tres blah- Hodgepodge – Paper Pile
-tres blah- Pampered – Bouquet
-tres blah- Pampered – Treat Yourself
-tb- Bon Voyage – Vintage Camera
-tb- Bon Voyage – Books

dust bunny . areca palm plant
dust bunny . fiddle leaf tree
dust bunny . pilea peper plant
dust bunny . pink medinilla plant
dust bunny . potted bromeliad
dust bunny . potted cheese plant
dust bunny . potted palm
dust bunny . potted rubber tree
dust bunny . spotted begonia
dust bunny . sunday newspaper

JIAN ‘dorable Danes 3. Adult Wanderer RARE

[Black Bantam] Busy Westie On Fours Rez (*new* @ Kustom9)

(fd) Cat – 02 Sleeping Curled
(fd) Cat – 03 Sitting Lazy
(fd) Cat – 11 Sitting

Peaches ‘N Cream – ‘Emotional Baggage’ Handbag Clutter (*new* @ Epiphany)

!gO! Be mine – Liv & Lou RARE (*new* @ Shiny Shabby)

NOMAD // Sepia Peonies 01
NOMAD // Hookah // Fuschia

{Petite Maison} Work Pretty Royal Pencils: Turquoise

:HAIKEI: End of the day Gahca {3}

Sway’s Piggy Bank [Oink] white – C

=Zenith=Little Groot touch/dance only ( REZ)

The Loft – Lotus Holder
The Loft – Yoga Tray

DYNASTY – Antique Abacus – Dark
RARE. DYNASTY – Calligraphy Corner – Backdrop

{-MK-} My bottle_Close cat(wear/2Li)

*HEXtraordinary* Flying Monkey Incense Burner – Silver

Second Spaces – Cluttered House – charging station

[Bad Unicorn x Birch] Mary Janes ‘Ashtray’
[Bad Unicorn x Birch] Mary Janes ‘Noel’s Cookies’

.10 [ kunst ] – Magazines

Granola. Waverly’s Incense.

Apt B // Raw Materials Gacha – Plate Sculpture

tarte. flask (mustache) RARE

Pewpew! Balloon Hotdog – Black (Decor) (*new* @ Uber)

Apple Fall Plan Chest


101, My Ass!

Do you ever look at some kids’ stories and think, “WTF?” Well, I do. 101 Dalmatians is definitely one of those stories. For one thing, who wants a fur coat made from dog fur? Have you ever smelled a wet dog? My god, they stink! Then there’s the whole theme of all these dogs communicating to rescue 97 puppies? Gimme a damn break. My dog is pretty smart, but she doesn’t know the difference between her ass hole and a dog treat. She’s lick either one! Then they take all these puppies home? Uhm, can we say puppy mill? I bet that house smelled fantastic…lol. I honestly don’t know how anyone can deal with more than two dogs at a time, especially 101 with most of them being puppies. They’d have that entire house chewed up within and hour. So many holes in this story that I could spend all day picking it apart. Do you have any stories like that? I’d love to hear about it.

101 my ass

hair:  16.Doe: Brookie (twotone) – Monotone
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: Glam Affair –  Catwa Applier – Clara – America 02
tattoo: .Identity. Body Shop – Rise Again
Mimikri – Neve Fur Coat snow leopard
Maddict – Starlet Gloves
Phedora ~ Sadystika Set ~ 28 C.
Phedora ~Vilma Ankle boots Maitreya ~ Bordeaux (*new* @ Epiphany)

pose: FOXCITY. Bento Sits VOL1

dust bunny . sleepless attic . skybox

[ARIA] Lydia sofa
[ARIA] Lydia Amsonia flowers in a vase

JIAN Dashing Dalmatians (*new* @ Epiphany)
-JIAN Dashing Dalmatians 5. Companion Pup Medium
-JIAN Dashing Dalmatians 6. Companion Pup Small
-JIAN Dashing Dalmatians 13. Held Pup Medium
-JIAN Dashing Dalmatians 16. Steal Yo Gurl
-JIAN Dashing Dalmatians 17. Sandwich Thief
-JIAN Dashing Dalmatians 18. Triple Nap
-JIAN Dashing Dalmatians 19. Family Nap



“As children, our imaginations are vibrant, and our hearts are open. We believe that the bad guy always loses and that the tooth fairy sneaks into our rooms at night to put money under our pillow. Everything amazes us, and we think anything is possible. We continuously experience life with a sense of newness and unbridled curiosity.” ~ Yehuda Berg


Fancy Decor: Wallace Collection (*new* @ Collabor88)
-Fancy Decor: Wallace Artwork
-Fancy Decor: Wallace Chair
-Fancy Decor: Wallace Table
-Fancy Decor: Wallace Vase

Fancy Decor: Chain Coffee Table
Fancy Decor: Leather Bench (silver)

uk – Golden Hall Full Set (*new* @ FaMESHed)
-uK – Golden Hall Wall Globe
-uK – Golden Hall Pear Mirror
-uK – round_tableMesh
-uK – Golden Hall Picture Frame
-uK – Golden Hall Cactus Plant
-uK – Golden Hall Bunt Cake Stand

uK – Lady Boss Conference Geo Planters

JIAN Chameleon :: Habitat (*new* @ Collabor88)
JIAN Forest Cat Static – Catch (*new* @ FaMESHed)

Granola. Waverly’s Incense. (*new* @ FaMESHed)

[tmk] rain dog

tres blah– Eclectic Collection -Large Nesting Box

dust bunny . postcards

DIGS – Hand-Rolled Smoking Decor

Ariskea[Hustler] Gold Flower (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Ariskea[Hustler] Babybreath Pot (*new* @ FaMESHed)

Ariskea [ Blossom] Cherry Blossom Wreath
Ariskea[Birdy] Little Bee Vase

7 – Transistor Radio TR-2A
7 – Tape Recorder R-299

[Bad Unicorn x Birch] Mary Janes ‘Noel’s Cookies’

Silence. – Dream Without Fear
Silence. – No Limits

Soy. BKLYNITES LOFT- Old Books [TypeA]

[ zerkalo ] Pile of books 1

Sway’s [Kaden] Rug . natural



Howlin For You

The Black Keys – Howlin For You

I must admit
I can’t explain
Any of these thoughts racing
Through my brain
It’s true
Baby I’m howlin’ for you

There’s something wrong
With this plot
The actors here
Have not got
A clue
Baby I’m howlin’ for you

Can’t you see
Little girl’s
Got a hold on me
Like glue
Baby I’m howlin’ for you

Throw the ball
To the stick
Swing and miss and a
Catcher’s mitt
Strike two
Baby I’m howlin’ for you


hair: TRUTH Caralisa
head: CATWA HEAD Uma
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: DeeTaleZ  “Merrylu” Mixedtype
[Cynful] Wish Necklace Set
[Cynful] Delrica’s Cozy Sweater (*new* @ C88)

pose w/window included:  [ Focus Poses ]  Frosty Morning

on the window sill:
Apple Fall  Crumpled Newspaper
Apple Fall Liberty Sketchbook
Apple Fall Coffee & Muffin

Soy.. Snow Covered Woods Set
Soy.. Snow covered cliff and rock Set
JIAN Grey Wolf :: Static Howl


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