Is It Wrong?

I find myself tossing this subject around a lot in my head. People in SL and I guess in RL, too…they all seem to be in a hurry to find a special someone. Some think they are looking for THE special someone, but I’m not so sure. I think from time to time we find A special person that we mesh perfectly with and so it goes, until we grow apart, right? Cuz that’s what happens isn’t it? As I approach my 11yr RL anniversary, I find myself thinking about this a lot. He cheated on me a few years ago, we tried to work through it, but it just didn’t work out. We’re just not IN love anymore. We’re friends, but he’s moved out and we’re just kinda taking our time about the divorce. There are a lot of details being left out here, of course, but the divorce is imminent. He’s living with HER. He seems happy and mostly, I am happy for him. However, there were decisions made a few years into our marriage that are holding us both hostage now.
I’ve never seen an everlasting love in person. I’ve heard about them, but I’ve never witnessed one. Broken homes and families aren’t new. Both of my parents are in their 70s, both of them grew up in broken homes. Hell, my father never knew his father. He knew who he was, but had no interaction with him. I’m not so sure humans were designed to be monogamous. I sometimes think that’s just something society created for whatever reason, but if you look back in history…well, humans have always been a lustful species. So, if you find yourself in love…enjoy it while it last, but don’t spend so much time worrying about if or when it will end. Just assume it will….someday…even if its till death do you part….one of you will go first. I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that we are capable of loving more than one person at a time. We’re just a greedy lot and don’t like to share. I get that…hell, I never had to share as an only child.
Meh, I’m just going to enjoy what’s left of my life the best way I can and I’m going to let myself fall in love or lust or whatever emotional holes I find myself tripping into, because its all of those feelings that remind me that I’m alive. Is it wrong that I’m just ready to live out the rest of my days as a free spirit?

A funny little thing about love is that you’re blind for the time
And even when you think you had enough
You’re wanting more, it isn’t right but
You can’t stop

hair: Lamb. Gossip (May FaMESHed Go)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
ears: ^^Swallow^^ Shiny Ears
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery] Katy (Catwa Applier) toffee (*new* @ C88)
brows: –SU!- Blair Eyebrows +CATWA APPLIER
(Yummy) Free Spirit Rings (*new* @ C88)
*AvaWay* GWEN Ribbon Corset CHOKER
_CandyDoll_ Yuki Top (*new* @ Mainstore)
{le fil casse} Yuna Skirt (*new* @ Mainstore)
_CandyDoll_ Yuki Heels (*new* @ Mainstore)

pose: Artis – Your chair (edited with AnyPose)


Dear Bloggers…pt 2

Dear Bloggers,

Please stop treating what we do as a competition. It’s not a sport. There’s room for everyone.
Stop stabbing other bloggers in the back or trying to throw them under the bus. It rarely works out the way you hope it does and in the end, karma finds it’s way back to you.
Remember that none of us are perfect. Learn to forgive one another for misunderstandings and work together as a community.
Don’t bad mouth each other in front of their best friends.
Remember who helped you when you first started, know that as much as you run your mouths, so do the people you run and talk to.
Don’t bash a brand or even hint at bashing a brand in a public forum. You’re only making yourself look bad and you’re burning more than one bridge when you do that.
Stop taking everything so personally. The world doesn’t revolve around you.
Don’t be afraid to try new things.
There’s no need to suck up to designers and lie to them about the people that work for them. Designers are not idiots and you can damn well bet they know what they’re doing and who is who on their teams.
Accept feedback for what it is, constructive criticism, remember that it’s not your brand.
And last but not least, if YOU think this post is aimed at you….well, you might want to think about why you think that and just for the record, this isn’t actually aimed at one person specifically. This is just a list of what I thought was common sense behaviors, but apparently isn’t. Not sure why I bother doing these little schpeils, but I suppose I hope its going to make a difference. *shrugs* If you found anything useful, take it and use it. If not, leave it here and forget it. I really just want people to stop wasting their precious time on hate and negativity. So…happy shopping…happy blogging…happy living. ❤


Sady is wearing:
hair: MINA – Sigrid (*new* @ FaMESHed)
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery] Katy (Catwa Applier) toffee (*new* @ C88)
brows: –SU!- Blair Eyebrows +CATWA APPLIER

_CandyDoll_ Selina Jump (*new* @ C88)
_CandyDoll_ Selina Heels (*new* @ C88)

pose: GingerFish Poses – Kiss My Sass stand (*new* @ eBento)

JIAN Ragdoll Cat Snoozing Chair (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 05 (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 19 (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Grind City Poster (*new* @ 6Republic)
[Bad Unicorn] Messy Mondays Bed (*new* @ TMD)
Quasi – Grind City Rock Star Sign (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 08 (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 13 (*new* @ 6Republic)
[Bad Unicorn] Smokers Stool ‘Messy Mondays’ (*new* @ TMD)
[Bad Unicorn] Leaning Lamp ‘Messy Mondays’ (*new* @ TMD)
Quasi – Grind City Guitar (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Grind City Night Stand (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha RARE (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 14 (*new* @ 6Republic)
[Bad Unicorn] Un-Starry Night ‘Messy Mondays’ (*new* @ TMD)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 15 (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 07 (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 04 (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Grind City Dresser (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 02 (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 11 (*new* @ 6Republic)
[Bad Unicorn] Railed Grail ‘Messy Mondays’ (*new* @ TMD)
[Bad Unicorn] Messy Mondays Rug *FATPACK EXLCUSIVE* (*new* @ TMD)
Quasi – Grind City Rug (*new* @ 6Republic)

Red Shoe Diaries

If you’re familiar with the show and thought for one hot second that this was going to be some juicy confessional about my sex life in Second Life, consider this a belated April Fool’s Joke…*laughs* If you’re not familiar with the show, Google it. Then if you’re still interested, maybe check it out sometime. *grins* In the meanwhile, why not swing by Kinky and grab the shoes that inspired me to show them off this way. Can’t you picture these sexy stilettos on your pretty little feet?

Lexy 2

_CandyDoll_ Lexy Heels (*new* @ Kinky)

pose created using AnyPose

Men Are Like Shoes

I just really wanted to show of these shoes and I stumbled across a song by Shania Twain that’s really cute and compares men to shoes. Not going to paste the lyrics, but you can click here and they’ll pop up. The video is at the bottom and by clicking on the photo below you can go straight to flickr for a better view.

CD Shoes
Men are like shoes
A bit too confused
Yeah, there’s so many of ’em
I don’t know which ones to choose

shoes: _CandyDoll_ Lacosty Heels (*new* @ N21)

MINIMAL – Illuminate Backdrop #8
[Merak] – Retro High Chair(used a pose from the chair)
Foxes – LuxeBag Gift ❤


The lyrics of this song pretty much say it all. So, I’m just gonna let Jacob Lee explain it his way, but I will give you the lyrics this time. *smiles* So, right below are the lyrics and the video is beneath the details of this incredible scene that CandyDoll has created for Epiphany. There are a few more pieces and I’ve added a few from other places, but the over all feel of this scene wouldn’t be possible without the major components from CandyDoll’s Dolly Room Gacha.

Jacob Lee – Cursed

They tell me, it’s all in my mind
They don’t know, they’re yet to try
My thoughts are safer inside
I pray it hurts less this time
They tell me, it’s all in my head
They don’t know they have to check
What lies within is a mess
This pill could fix it, I guess

Don’t say, it’s all in my brain
‘Cause I can’t help being this way
I feel the changes they’ve made
Now I don’t feel the same
Leave my secrets alone
They aren’t for you to know
I hear the knock at my door
As they take me far from my home
They say, “It’s better this way”
But the voices, they tell me I’m sane
They think they’re cleansing my veins
As they hook me up in this place

They say it starts in my skull
Makes its way down through my blood
It’s been with me since I was young
But they can’t explain what it’s from
I think that I’ve had enough
I don’t know who I can trust
Leave my secrets alone
They aren’t for you to know
I hear the knock at my door
As they take me far from my home
They say, “It’s better this way”
But the voices, they tell me I’m sane
They think they’re cleansing my veins
As they hook me up in this place
Leave my secrets alone
They aren’t for you to know
I hear the knock at my door
As they make me vacate my bones


hair:  little bones. Relay (*new* @ C88)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: Glam Affair – Mindy
_CandyDoll_ Dolly Sleep Mask (*new* @ Epiphany)
(AMD) Leafy Armbands (*new* @ N21)
(Yummy) Festival Ring Set (*new* @ N21)
_CD_ Dolly Rose Top (*new* @ Epiphany)
_CD_ Dolly Rose Panties (*new* @ Epiphany)
Essenz – Bari (*new* @ Shiny Shabby)

pose by Infiniti

_CandyDoll_ Dolly Room Gatcha – (*new* @ Epiphany)
-_CandyDoll_ RARE – Dolly Room
-_CandyDoll_ RARE – Dolly Queen Bed
-_CandyDoll_ Dolly Floor Pillow
-_CandyDoll_ Dolly Wall Frame
-_CandyDoll_ Dolly Suitcase
-_CandyDoll_ Dolly Lamp
-_CandyDoll_ Doll PC
-_CandyDoll_ Dolly Desk
-_CandyDoll_ Dolly Macaron Plate
-_CandyDoll_ Dolly Round Rose Rug

tb– Bon Voyage – Books
-tb- Bon Voyage – Vintage Camera
tres blah– Workspace – Tablet
-tres blah- Workspace – Pencil Holder
-tres blah- Pampered – Treat Yourself

+Half-Deer+ Fairy Curtain – Long

Sweet Surrender

It’s a song post, because this is a classic song that I remember from my early childhood. It also kinda fits the mood of the photo. You can read anything you want into this post, but you’re imagination is your responsibility. If you make assumptions, remember that YOU made them.

Bread – Sweet Surrender

Baby I’m through runnin’ it’s true
I’d be a fool to try to escape you
Maybe I’m beat but oh what a sweet surrender
You keep your rights, I’ll take your nights
No one can lose when we turn the lights out
Tastin’ defeat, lovin’ that sweet surrender
I’m givin’ up myself to you but I didn’t really lose at all
I gave the only love I’ve known and it never hurt me to fall
Now that it’s done, so glad you won
I know our lives have only begun now
No more retreat, only my sweet surrender

ready for dessert

hair:  RAMA.SALON – Sarah Hair (*new* @ Shiny Shabby)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: Glam Affair – Mindy
Scandalize. Dexi-TOP (*new* @ Tres Chic)
Scandalize. Babydoll.Thong.
SU!– Nylon Stockings BLACK
Essenz – Punta Cana

pose: . Infiniti . – Saucy

_CandyDoll_ Dolly Room Gatcha – (*new* @ Epiphany)
-_CandyDoll_ RARE – Dolly Room
-_CandyDoll_ RARE – Dolly Queen Bed
-_CandyDoll_ Dolly Lamp
-_CandyDoll_ Dolly Butterfly Frame
-_CandyDoll_ Dolly Yummy Plate

Living on the Farm

When I was eight years old, my father was stationed in Germany for the second time. There was a waiting list for housing on the base, so for the first year of that tour we rented an apartment about forty-five minutes away from the military bases. It was on the top of a small mountain that overlooked a modest little village. By the time we lived there, the property had been turned into a farm, but once upon a time it had been a castle. As an only child at eight years old with a very vivid imagination, it was whatever I wanted to be. However, one of my favorite memories was riding on the tractor. The landlord adored my little blonde haired blue eyed American self and would take me around to his different dairy farms across the country side on the tractor. I honestly think that was the best year of my childhood.

Living on the Farm

hair: DOUX – Heidi hairstyle (*new* @ EQUAL10)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: Glam Affair – Mindy
(Yummy) Leave A Mark Set (*new* @ C88)
_CandyDoll_ Hedy Top (*new* @ C88)
_CandyDoll_ Hedy Overall (*new* @ C88)
_CandyDoll_ Hedy Boots (*new* @ C88)

pose: FOXCITY. What Gives Bento Pose Set
location: Templeton Farm, Tyme

Losing It

I remember the first time I saw my mom just lose it. She had spent hours making this cake from scratch, but it tilted so bad and kept sliding, no matter what she tried. Next thing I know she’s screaming and attacks the cakes with her claw like hands and cakes went everywhere. The next time I saw her lose it was when we had borrowed a VW Bug from a friend. It had a stick shift (look it up if you’re too young to know) and she hated them, the clutch would stick, too. It was the first time I heard the F word. *gasps* I think the first time I truly lost it was in high school. It was a really bad hair day and I broke my hair brush. Many times, I’ve felt like throwing all my papers in the air when writing…and once upon a time I did all my writing on paper. *giggles* Most days this is what my brain feels like…someone just threw my life in the air and I’m doing my best to grab it all and make some sense of it.

losing it
The writer stares with glassy eyes —
Defies the empty page,

hair: RAMA.SALON – Sonya Hair (*new* @ Shiny Shabby)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery]  Iris (Catwa Applier) toffee
Cae :: Zora :: Glasses (*new* @ The Clique)
::GB::Off Shoulder Cardigan (F)/ Gray
{le fil casse} Alysha Dress (*new* @ Uber)
_CD_ Deya Wedge (*new* @ N21)

JIAN Marble Fox (Static – Sleeping L)

pose: Bauhaus Movement

a lot of books from all over the grid
bookcase and fireplace – DRD – Shadow Box – Series 01 – FEB 2018 – LIGHT


Crooked World

Crooked World
written by Sadystika Sabretooth

It’s a crooked world,
full of broken people,
plenty of hungry hyenas
on the prowl
just waiting
to snatch up the scraps.

They will use your broken pieces
to create something beautiful
and then sell it back to you.

The lies and all the poison…
polluting every cell,
every fiber,
and stitch of humanity….
until there’s nothing left.

The careless walk among us
dressed as saviors
offering shoulders
made of sponges,
soaking up every ounce
of emotional ammo
we shed in our tears.
They load their invisible guns
and declare their silent war.

With each shot,
they push us
further and further away until
we’re backed into corners.
The view from there is amazing,
because now we see the truth…
all of it…
even the parts you can’t see
the lies as they pour from your mouth
and now we laugh
with our friends
as we whisper behind your back.

You’ve put on your little act
for so long
that even when it blows up
in your face
you’re so oblivious
you think you’re untouchable.

You’re not.

It’s a set up
we’re waiting
to watch you fall.

You will fall.
You thought we’d save you?
we’ll raise our glasses
as you stumble backwards
over the bodies in your wake
and finally fall into your own grave.

shaky ground
It’s getting harder to know if I’m sane
My issues are leaking outside of my veins
Somebody save me or end me, I haven’t yet made up my mind

hair: Magika – Good Vibes *NEW*
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery]  Iris (Catwa Applier) toffee (*new* @ C88)
MINIMAL – Charmed Necklace (*new* @ FaMESHed)
_CandyDoll_ Mya Dress (*new* @ Whore Couture)
_CandyDoll_Ava Socks Black
{Livalle} Payne – Combat Boots (*new* @ FaMESHed)

pose: pose: GingerFish Poses – Bad at Love

[Bad Unicorn] Block Views Backdrop *NEW*

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