Is It Wrong?

I find myself tossing this subject around a lot in my head. People in SL and I guess in RL, too…they all seem to be in a hurry to find a special someone. Some think they are looking for THE special someone, but I’m not so sure. I think from time to time we find A special person that we mesh perfectly with and so it goes, until we grow apart, right? Cuz that’s what happens isn’t it? As I approach my 11yr RL anniversary, I find myself thinking about this a lot. He cheated on me a few years ago, we tried to work through it, but it just didn’t work out. We’re just not IN love anymore. We’re friends, but he’s moved out and we’re just kinda taking our time about the divorce. There are a lot of details being left out here, of course, but the divorce is imminent. He’s living with HER. He seems happy and mostly, I am happy for him. However, there were decisions made a few years into our marriage that are holding us both hostage now.
I’ve never seen an everlasting love in person. I’ve heard about them, but I’ve never witnessed one. Broken homes and families aren’t new. Both of my parents are in their 70s, both of them grew up in broken homes. Hell, my father never knew his father. He knew who he was, but had no interaction with him. I’m not so sure humans were designed to be monogamous. I sometimes think that’s just something society created for whatever reason, but if you look back in history…well, humans have always been a lustful species. So, if you find yourself in love…enjoy it while it last, but don’t spend so much time worrying about if or when it will end. Just assume it will….someday…even if its till death do you part….one of you will go first. I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that we are capable of loving more than one person at a time. We’re just a greedy lot and don’t like to share. I get that…hell, I never had to share as an only child.
Meh, I’m just going to enjoy what’s left of my life the best way I can and I’m going to let myself fall in love or lust or whatever emotional holes I find myself tripping into, because its all of those feelings that remind me that I’m alive. Is it wrong that I’m just ready to live out the rest of my days as a free spirit?

A funny little thing about love is that you’re blind for the time
And even when you think you had enough
You’re wanting more, it isn’t right but
You can’t stop

wearing:
hair: Lamb. Gossip (May FaMESHed Go)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
ears: ^^Swallow^^ Shiny Ears
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery] Katy (Catwa Applier) toffee (*new* @ C88)
brows: –SU!- Blair Eyebrows +CATWA APPLIER
(Yummy) Free Spirit Rings (*new* @ C88)
*AvaWay* GWEN Ribbon Corset CHOKER
_CandyDoll_ Yuki Top (*new* @ Mainstore)
{le fil casse} Yuna Skirt (*new* @ Mainstore)
_CandyDoll_ Yuki Heels (*new* @ Mainstore)

pose: Artis – Your chair (edited with AnyPose)

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Hiding From the World

I recently acquired a homestead and its perfect for me, because though I do share a good bit about myself in my blog. I also enjoy my privacy and I’m quite content spending several days in a row alone. I like having complete control of my land and I love that no one can see who is on my land. I don’t have to worry about seeing someone I don’t care for on my radar because they are somewhere else on the sim. I finally feel truly free to hide away from the world. I can create whatever scenes I like wherever I want and never have to worry about a neighbor putting up some atrocious house with prim trees from 2007. I love my new home, because its the best place to be when I’m hiding from the world.

wearing:
hair: MINA – Alison (*new* @ Enchantment)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery] Katy (Catwa Applier) toffee (*new* @ C88)
brows: –SU!- Blair Eyebrows +CATWA APPLIER

*LODE* Head Accessory – Juliet [iceberg]
Cae :: Gianna :: Necklace
Cae :: Gianna :: Earrings
Dahlia – Sady Cat Eye Sunglasses (May FaMESHed Go)
[Cynful] Heidi Summer Maxi Dress (*new* @ C88)

pose: an lar [poses] The Yearning Series (*new* @ ROMP)

Sick Like Me

I posted a meme yesterday that read, “Do you ever have one of those days, where you just want to get drunk, go bat shit crazy and set the world on fire?” Well, yesterday was that day for me. I’m already bat shit crazy, but I drank an entire bottle of wine on an empty stomach. As I suffered through one of the longest and hardest anxiety attacks I’ve had in quite a while, I fantasized about setting the world on fire, stabbing a few people while I watched them bleed out slowly, finding the Louise to my inner Thelma and going out in a blaze of glory. Instead I fell asleep with a cigarette in my hand while watching women in prison make their life look a lot better than men’s prison.
This morning, I find myself blasting In This Moment and remembering why I love this band so much. Recognizing so much of myself in their lyrics. So, here it is…are you sick like me?

In This Moment – Sick Like Me

Is it sick of me
To need control of you?
Is it sick to make
You beg the way I do?

Is it sick of me
To want you crawling on your knees?
Is it sick to say
I want you biting down on me

Are you sick like me?

Am I beautiful
As I tear you to pieces?
Am I beautiful?
Even at my ugliest, you always say
I’m beautiful
As you tear me to pieces
You are beautiful
Even at your ugliest, I always say

You’re beautiful and sick like me

Is it sick of me
To feed the animal in you?
Is it sick to say
I tease the hunter like I do?
Is it sick of me
To watch the wicked way you thrill?
Is it sick to say
I live to break your will

Are you sick like me?

Am I beautiful
As I tear you to pieces?
Am I beautiful?
Even at my ugliest, you always say
I’m beautiful
As you tear me to pieces
You are beautiful
Even at your ugliest, I always say

You’re beautiful and sick like me

Am I beautiful
As I tear you to pieces?
I am beautiful
Even at my ugliest, you always say
I’m beautiful
As I tear you to pieces
Am I beautiful
Even at my ugliest, you always say

You’re beautiful
As I tear you to pieces?
You are beautiful
Even at you ugliest, I always say

You’re beautiful and sick like me

wearing:
hair: #Besom~Gypsy Love
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
ears: ^^Swallow^^ Shiny Ears
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery] Katy (Catwa Applier) toffee (*new* @ C88)
brows: –SU!- Blair Eyebrows +CATWA APPLIER
(Yummy) Free Spirit Rings (*new* @ C88)

LYBRA . BRIT BLOUSE (*new* @ FaMESHed)
LYBRA . BRIT SKIRT (*new* @ FaMESHed)

pose: M-1 Kara Poses Blogger Pack
DRD – Suicide Booth

Tonight @ FMD

If you’re like me, you couldn’t care less about the royal wedding and you’re more concerned about how you’re going to spend your Saturday night. Well, my favorite place to hang out in SL on a Saturday night is at FMD. I know this must come as a huge shock to you all, considering how conservatively I dress…*giggles* So, let me tell you just  a little bit about FMD. I’m not going to pretend to be an expert or any type of authority on the club, but what I do know is that there are loads of beautiful people there. While it is a pay to join group, the owner, Lance Pyara, is kind enough to allow open access on weekends. Every Saturday night is a themed party and you can dress up or down for the said events.
Tonight, the theme is Speakeasy Vintage Fashion and this party starts at 2pm slt and doesn’t stop until midnight. They’ve got as many time zones covered as they can. So, whip up your version of Speakeasy Fashion and head on over to check it out. I personally feel it’s well worth joining, but not everyone can afford to do that. So, regardless of you ability to join…the club is open tonight and ready for the party!! OOOH and did I mention there are prizes sponsored by Cynful, Prey, and United Colors tonight??? Yeah, so get ready to shake those tail feathers and come party with us tonight!
What’s that? Oh, no, I won’t be wearing this tonight, but FMD is a great place to wear those naughty clothes that show your private parts on any other day. Am I partial to this place? You’re damn right. I found my way there through a couple of friends, but I keep going back because I love it so much. So, don’t give me the bored speech, when this is just one of the many fantastic places waiting for you to explore.

Here’s your direct tp to FMD.

Sady is wearing:
hair: Beusy: Mija Hairstyle
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery] Katy (Catwa Applier) toffee (*new* @ C88)

–SU!- Blair Eyebrows +CATWA APPLIER
-SU!- Lovesick Lip Gloss

CODE-5 [ Pamerale ] FEMALE V0.04 (*new* @ ROMP)
toksik – Bloom Choker (Group Gift)
(Yummy) Free Spirit Rings (*new* @ C88)

–Narcisse– Bailey Mini Tutu & Pasties (*new* Bound Box May)
[MODA] MADISON PLATFORMS (*new* Bound Box May)

pose: FOXCITY. Bento Ground Sits VOL2

scene:
Ariskea[Cocoli] Banana Plant (*new* @ FaMESHed)

Granola. Violette’s Fatpack (*new* @ FaMESHed)
-Violette’s Hourglass Side Table. Old Copper.
-Violette’s Vases. Brass.
-Violette’s Cage Pendants. Brass.
-Violette’s Cocktail Chair. Grey

Let There Be An End

“I give the fight up: let there be an end, a privacy, an obscure nook for me. I want to be forgotten even by God.” ~ Paracelsus  Robert Browning

Granted I discovered this quote as I watched Anon on Netflix, but the quote struck a nerve on so many levels that I immediately had to find its origin. Upon finding the origin and reading around the quote, I discovered an entirely new meaning to it. I admit that my first thought was about celebrities and how they’ve no privacy whatsoever. Upon watching the film, it developed an entirely new meaning and I do recommend the film. Obviously, I’m no movie critic, but it is a psychological thriller set in the future. A future I hope never comes to be, for I found it to be absolutely dreadful. As if our privacy has not been invaded enough, the premise of this movie suggests that even our mere thoughts are opened to others. Not to mention our memories. You could have no more secrets…ever. Your eyes recording everything you see and do, only for that information to fall into the wrong hands. Trust me, I’ve given no spoilers about the movie. These are just things I thought about in conjunction with the film. About how life would be for the majority of us.
I think this quote relates to Second Life, as well. So many of us have made tragic mistakes or have been so hurt so brutally that we associate that pain with the avatar. How easily we can start anew. I’ve done that a few times in my earlier years in SL, but I’ve also grown from that and have become far too comfortable with my current avatar to ever consider starting again. I’ll own my mistakes and do my best to amend my behavior when I am wrong. I’ve grown to realize that some are too miserable within their own skin to forgive and forget. I let them go and forget them. They may hold onto their resentments and their toxicity for as long as they like, but they will have no hold over me. I cannot control what other do, feel, think, or believe, but for me, let there be an end to the controversy. I shall erase them from my lives and move forward, forgetting their very existence. If our paths shall pass in the future, they are no more than a stranger to me and will be treated as such.

wearing:
hair: RAMA.SALON – Julie Hair (*new* @ FaMESHed)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery] Katy (Catwa Applier) toffee (*new* @ C88)
brows: –SU!- Blair Eyebrows +CATWA APPLIER

pr!tty – Floral Choker
(Yummy) Free Spirit Rings (*new* @ C88)

.:villena:. – Rose Bud Fur Jacket – Blush
–Narcisse– Julia Tshirt Corset Dress (*new* @ FaMESHed)

Dear Bloggers…pt 2

Dear Bloggers,

Please stop treating what we do as a competition. It’s not a sport. There’s room for everyone.
Stop stabbing other bloggers in the back or trying to throw them under the bus. It rarely works out the way you hope it does and in the end, karma finds it’s way back to you.
Remember that none of us are perfect. Learn to forgive one another for misunderstandings and work together as a community.
Don’t bad mouth each other in front of their best friends.
Remember who helped you when you first started, know that as much as you run your mouths, so do the people you run and talk to.
Don’t bash a brand or even hint at bashing a brand in a public forum. You’re only making yourself look bad and you’re burning more than one bridge when you do that.
Stop taking everything so personally. The world doesn’t revolve around you.
Don’t be afraid to try new things.
There’s no need to suck up to designers and lie to them about the people that work for them. Designers are not idiots and you can damn well bet they know what they’re doing and who is who on their teams.
Accept feedback for what it is, constructive criticism, remember that it’s not your brand.
And last but not least, if YOU think this post is aimed at you….well, you might want to think about why you think that and just for the record, this isn’t actually aimed at one person specifically. This is just a list of what I thought was common sense behaviors, but apparently isn’t. Not sure why I bother doing these little schpeils, but I suppose I hope its going to make a difference. *shrugs* If you found anything useful, take it and use it. If not, leave it here and forget it. I really just want people to stop wasting their precious time on hate and negativity. So…happy shopping…happy blogging…happy living. ❤

Sady is wearing:
hair: MINA – Sigrid (*new* @ FaMESHed)
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery] Katy (Catwa Applier) toffee (*new* @ C88)
brows: –SU!- Blair Eyebrows +CATWA APPLIER

_CandyDoll_ Selina Jump (*new* @ C88)
_CandyDoll_ Selina Heels (*new* @ C88)

pose: GingerFish Poses – Kiss My Sass stand (*new* @ eBento)

scene:
JIAN Ragdoll Cat Snoozing Chair (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 05 (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 19 (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Grind City Poster (*new* @ 6Republic)
[Bad Unicorn] Messy Mondays Bed (*new* @ TMD)
Quasi – Grind City Rock Star Sign (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 08 (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 13 (*new* @ 6Republic)
[Bad Unicorn] Smokers Stool ‘Messy Mondays’ (*new* @ TMD)
[Bad Unicorn] Leaning Lamp ‘Messy Mondays’ (*new* @ TMD)
Quasi – Grind City Guitar (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Grind City Night Stand (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha RARE (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 14 (*new* @ 6Republic)
[Bad Unicorn] Un-Starry Night ‘Messy Mondays’ (*new* @ TMD)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 15 (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 07 (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 04 (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Grind City Dresser (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 02 (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 11 (*new* @ 6Republic)
[Bad Unicorn] Railed Grail ‘Messy Mondays’ (*new* @ TMD)
[Bad Unicorn] Messy Mondays Rug *FATPACK EXLCUSIVE* (*new* @ TMD)
Quasi – Grind City Rug (*new* @ 6Republic)

Selfish Love

Once again, I’m going to let the music speak for me, because as many ideas that I have for what to write…well…*grins*…I’m not telling you. Thanks again to my dear friend, Aaron for modeling with me. ❤

Jessie Ware – Selfish Love

Baby let’s be honest about this
There’s only room for one in your heart
So tell me darlin’, why are we like this?
I must admit that I kind of like it

Oh, you’re acting sweet
I know what that means
All these games we play
Always end the same

Selfish love, why do I do these things?
I break you down, just to get my way
Selfish love, darlin’ you do it too
You tell me lies and I bend the truth
And I, I know
That I can’t get enough
Selfish love

Baby now it feels like we’re dancing
Dodging bullets, now ain’t that romantic?
Take what I want, but you want me to take it
I only give love when I want to make it

Oh, you’re acting sweet
I know what that means
All these games we play
Always end the same

Selfish love, why do I do these things?
I break you down, just to get my way
Selfish love, darlin’ you do it too
You tell me lies and I bend the truth
And I, I know
That I can’t get enough
Selfish love
Selfish love
Selfish love

Oh, you’re acting sweet
And I know what that means
Selfish love
Oh, you’re acting sweet
And I know what means

Selfish love

Aaron is wearing:
Hair: Stealthic – Haunting
Head: CATWA HEAD Daniel
Ears: Stretched ears-Omimi- [MANDALA]
Body: [Signature] Gianni Body – Body

[Deadwool] Broberry jeans
GizzA – Sports Shoes

Sady is wearing:
hair: MINA – Yelena (*new* @ C88)
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery] Katy (Catwa Applier) toffee (*new* @ C88)
brows: –SU!- Blair Eyebrows +CATWA APPLIER
S&P lingerie Elle (*new* Bound Box May)
Mosquito’s Way – Rohnda boots  (*new* Bound Box May)

pose: PURPLE POSES – Couple 784 (*new* @ C88)
posters: Quasi – Downtown Gacha 20 (*new* @ 6Republic)

Everywhere I Look

I use songs in my blogs a lot. Sometimes its because I can’t find the words to say what I’m feeling, but some incredible musician has them already in a song. So, I borrow their words and talents to help express myself. Today, I’m going to share a song that means a great deal to me. It reminds me of a special person from my past. He was an amazing individual and loved me like no one else I’ve ever known. We couldn’t make it work, because his ignorance and stupidity drove me insane. I had no patience for it, but at the end of the day being in his arms was home. There was a passion in our relationship that can never be replicated. I destroyed him and now he’s dead. I will never forgive myself for what I did to him.

The song is Something I Can Never Have (still) by Nine Inch Nails.  Mind you, this is the same man that made me hate AC/DC. Though now that he’s gone, for some reason, I tend to be more open to the older songs, especially the ones he played regularly on his electric guitar. Isn’t it strange how people can leave such a mark in our lives? I always thought we’d cross paths again someday, but it never happened. The last time I saw him was a confrontation at a gas station…he cried from the pain….I cried from the regret. I was a different person then. I was reckless and self-centered. Even with all his issues, for he was far from perfect, he did not deserve what I did to him. I will live with that shame for the rest of my life.

RIP JLM♥

I still recall the taste of your tears 
Echoing your voice just like the ringing in my ears 
My favorite dreams of you still wash ashore 
Scraping through my head ’till I don’t want to sleep anymore

Sady is wearing:
hair: pr!tty – Jes
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery] Katy (Catwa Applier) toffee (*new* @ C88)
brows: –SU!- Blair Eyebrows +CATWA APPLIER

(Yummy) Free Spirit Rings (*new* @ C88)
.08 [ kunst ] – Slim Cigarette #2 (hand)

neve top – recycled biker (*new* @ Uber)
[Gos] Boutique – Liz Leather Pants (*new* @ FaMESHed)
**UTOPIA@Design** – “ERIKA”

pose by Del May

Taste Like Candy

I struggled with what to write for this photo until I resorted to music, because I just can’t write erotica. Maybe I could, but I’m not comfortable doing that for my blog, sooo….yeah, here’s a song. *giggles & blushes* Oh, and a special thank you to my dear friend, Aaron, for letting me boss him around…erhm, I mean, for posing for me, yeah, that’s it. *grins* So, while I’m showing off the first of at least four post showcasing items in the Bound Box…enjoy the music.

Doja Cat – Candy

I can name a couple ways, baby, this shit might go
You just might forget that this was what you’re gettin’ high for
And it might do the things to him, I mean the guy who
He’s the one who’s sweet enough, who’ll shoot to make that high note

And it’s such a typical thing, runnin’ over a million, oh
Runnin’ through a difficult place, you don’t need no blood on your hands, no

She’s just like candy, she’s so sweet
But you know that it ain’t real cherry, know that it ain’t real cherry
She’s just like candy, she’s so sweet
But you know that it ain’t real, know that it ain’t real
She’s just like candy, she’s so sweet
But you know that it ain’t real cherry, know that it ain’t real cherry
She’s just like candy, she’s so sweet
But you know that it ain’t real, know that it ain’t real

I can be your sugar when you’re fiendin’ for that sweet spot
Put me in your mouth, baby, and eat it ’till your teeth rot
I can be your cherry, apple, pecan, or your key lime
Baby I got everything and so much more than she’s got

And it’s such a typical thing, runnin’ over a million, oh
Runnin’ through a difficult place, you don’t need no blood on your hands, no

She’s just like candy, she’s so sweet
But you know that it ain’t real cherry, know that it ain’t real cherry
She’s just like candy, she’s so sweet
But you know that it ain’t real, know that it ain’t real
She’s just like candy, she’s so sweet
But you know that it ain’t real cherry, know that it ain’t real cherry
She’s just like candy, she’s so sweet
But you know that it ain’t real, know that it ain’t real

Sugar coated, lies unfolded, you still lick the wrapper
It’s addictive, you know this, but you still lick the wrapper
Sugar coated, lies unfolded, you still lick the wrapper
It’s addictive, you know this, but you still lick the wrapper

She’s just like candy, she’s so sweet
But you know that it ain’t real cherry, know that it ain’t real cherry
She’s just like candy, she’s so sweet
But you know that it ain’t real, know that it ain’t real
She’s just like candy, she’s so sweet
But you know that it ain’t real cherry, know that it ain’t real cherry
She’s just like candy, she’s so sweet
But you know that it ain’t real, know that it ain’t real

Aaron is wearing:
Hair: Stealthic – Haunting
Head: CATWA HEAD Daniel
Ears: Stretched ears-Omimi- [MANDALA]
Body: [Signature] Gianni Body – Body

Sady is wearing:
hair: RAMA.SALON – Maria Hair (*new* @ C88)
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery] Katy (Catwa Applier) toffee (*new* @ C88)
brows: –SU!- Blair Eyebrows +CATWA APPLIER
Wicca’s Wardrobe – Joy (*new* Bound Box May)

pose: PURPLE POSES – Couple 778