Posted in Catwa, Chic Moda, Collabor88, Cosmopolitan, Events, Fashion, Foxcity, Maitreya, Phoenix, Pose Fair, Second Life, shopping

We Can Be Friends

I hear it all the time, “Men and women can’t truly be friends.” I know better. Okay, perhaps it’s true that one or both of them think about or have thought about sleeping with the other. Hell, maybe they even did once or twice, but if a friendship is what developed between them and there’s no real romantic connection, there’s absolutely no reason they can’t be friends. Unless one of you is a stalker or a rapist, of course. I have plenty of guy friends in SL, most of whom I have NOT slept with and never will. There’s never been an issue with sexual tension or anything of the sort. So, don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t be just friends with the opposite sex or whatever your sexual preference might be. It’s simply a matter of establishing boundaries and mutual respect.

AyRon & Sady

Aaron is wearing:
Hair: Stealthic – Haunting
Head: CATWA HEAD Daniel
Ears: Stretched ears-Omimi- [MANDALA]
Body: [Signature] Gianni Body – Body
::GB::Stadium jacket
::GB:: Jacket in tank
::GB::Body bag
::GB::Stadium Pants

Sady is wearing:
hair: :::Phoenix::: Roxie Hair (*new* @ Black Fair)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
ears: ^^Swallow^^ Darkness Ears
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: Glam Affair – Mindy – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica
(Yummy) Layered Chain Choker – Gold
(Yummy) Leave A Mark Set (*new* @ C88)
TETRA – Kimmy off-shoulder sweatshirt (*new* @ C88)
ChicModa / Varsity Sweats (*new* @ Cosmopolitan)

pose: FOXCITY. Besties (*new* @ (*new* @ Pose Fair)
MI Ground One Background Blue



Posted in Bueno, Events, FaMESHed, Fashion, Foxcity, Maitreya, Narcisse, pr!tty, Second Life, shoes, shopping

My Hands Are Tied

Being a blogger, myself, I know how devastating and frustrating it can be when a blog post gets rejected. I don’t always agree with the reason, but regardless I respect the decision of the creator and their blog manager. I immediately set out to correct my mistake. Perhaps that’s because I prefer to maintain a certain integrity with my work, but I also know that they have the final say in the matter. Arguing with my blog managers will get me absolutely nowhere.
As a blog manager for four stores, my hands are often tied when it comes to rejecting posts. If the item for that store is not being showcased properly, I simply can’t accept it. Trust me when I say I absolutely hate rejecting posts, because I know how hard we all work on our blog photos and sometimes we’re quite proud of how they turned out. However, if I do reject a post, there’s nothing worse than that blogger coming at me to tell me how to do my job or running to the designer to complain about me. I have never rejected a post for personal reasons…EVER. Nor is it ever my intent to hurt a blogger’s feelings. I’d say that most bloggers understand and are usually apologetic. Like me, they rush off to correct the issue straight away.
*sighs* Every once in a while though, I have bloggers get far too defensive and thus begins their attack. I’ve had bloggers threaten to quit if I’m not fired. That NEVER works, but it does amuse me….especially when none of them have ever quit like they threatened to. I recently had a blogger IM me inworld just to tell me that I was an idiot and there was absolutely nothing wrong with their post and they would NOT be doing it over. Sadly, that just means she’s going to lose her spot as a blogger in time. I know none of us are perfect and that’s why I try my hardest to be gentle when explaining why I have to reject a post.
Something for bloggers to remember when they argue with their blog managers or creators is that we often know other designers and blog managers. We talk. We share horror stories. So whenever a blogger makes a scene with a creator or a blog manager, word gets around and it becomes increasingly harder for that blogger to be taken on by other stores. So, to my fellow bloggers I say, “Don’t take it so personally.” We obviously liked you enough to bring you on as a blogger. The fact that one or two posts weren’t up to par, doesn’t mean we don’t like you. It doesn’t mean that we doubt your talents or abilities, it simply means that we need something that wasn’t done with that particular post. Please, don’t shoot the messenger, attack blog managers/designers, simply fix the issue and resubmit. Take responsibility for your mistake and learn from it.  If you honestly do not have time to fix the issue, then you’ve probably got too much on your plate and should cut back.

my hands are tied

hair: pr!tty – Dawn – {Short} – [Special Pack] SUPER RARE (*new* @ TCF)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: Glam Affair – Mindy
Narcisse– Insouciant Collar (*new* @ Black Fair)
Narcisse– Chanty 2in1 Ruffle Bodysuit (*new* @ FaMESHed)
BUENO-Athens Heels (*new* @ Shoetopia)

pose: FOXCITY. Spot On Bento Pose Set (*new* @ EQUAL10)
BUENO-Dreaming Bed- RARE

Posted in Catwa, Events, FaMESHed, Fashion, Foxcity, Home Decor, Maitreya, RAMA, Scandalize, Second Life, shoes, shopping

Never is a Promise

This post is just a message to all those people out there making promises they can’t keep, promises they have no intentions of keeping, and those with the best of intentions, but have no clue how damaging broken promises can be to fragile souls. Mind your words carefully, for a broken promise makes you less trustworthy and it makes you a liar.

waiting on a promise
You’ll say you understand
But you don’t understand
You’ll say you’d never
Give up seeing eye to eye
But never is a promise
And you can’t afford to lie

hair: RAMA.SALON – Mia Hair (*new* @ Equal10)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: Glam Affair – Mindy – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica (*new* @ Kinky)

SU!– Piercing Set 06 *new*
!CD Mia Collar Black
Scandalize. Susan. (*new* @ Black Fair)
Scandalize. SusanHeels. (*new* @ Black Fair)

pose: FOXCITY. Detached Bento Pose Set

FOXCITY. VIP Photo Booth – Minimal (VIP Group gift for April 2018)
Refuge – Spark Lamp Shimmer Silver Smaller
Refuge – Spark Lamp Shimmer Silver Larger
Ariskea[Shy] Ivy Old window [ Summer]
Ariskea [Emi] Cabinet Brown (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Ariskea[Emi] Hedgehog Planter [Blue] (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Ariskea [Emi] Cute dollie (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Ariskea [Emi] Tulip Blooming [ Peach] (*new* @ FaMESHed)

Posted in Events, Fashion, Narcisse, ON9, Phedora, RunAway Hair, Second Life, Shiny Shabby, shoes, shopping, Tres Chic

Help Yourself by Helping Others

“The best way to cheer yourself up, is to cheer somebody else up.” -Mark Twain

I believe this to be true wholeheartedly. For ages, people have figured out that the best way to get out of you own head is to help other people. When we sit too long in our own problems we can drown in them and find ourselves so lost that we begin to lose hope. It’s when we lose hope that we truly become miserable and that is when we are the most dangerous…to ourselves and everyone around us. Our misery makes us toxic. Think about how good it feels to help someone in need. I don’t mean dropping a few dollars into the bucket with the bell ringers at the holidays. I mean, to support a friend and watch them succeed. I mean, to hand a meal to a homeless person. I mean opening our hearts and genuinely helping someone that is going through something so wretched, that we can’t begin to fathom the road on which they travel.
We’ve all had things go terribly wrong from time to time. We’ve all watched someone else suffering and felt absolutely helpless from the sidelines, especially in a virtual world. However, there is something happening right now that could forever change someone’s life in such a wonderful way. It hasn’t started yet, but it shall begin soon. In the meantime, I want to spread the word and I hope that you will, too. A dear friend of mine has undergone the unthinkable this year and despite it all, she has maintained the same positive attitude that made so many of us love her from the very beginning. I won’t go deep into it here, but if you’d like to help someone that not only needs help…and would never in a million years ask….there’s about to be a fundraising event and there’s something for everyone. For more information, please visit the Facebook page: For the love of the Devil

bad kitty

hair: [RA] Jas Hair (*new* @ Shiny Shabby)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
ears: ^^Swallow^^ Darkness Ears (*new* @ Black Fair)
ears: Sweet Thing. Neko Ears (Bento)
tail: Sweet Thing. Fuwa Tail (Bento)
**RE** Deah Gloves & Rings
Narcisse– Stellar Bra – ML – White (*new* @ Epiphany)
-Narcisse- Stellar Corset – ML – White (*new* @ Epiphany)
-Narcisse- Stellar Pannier – ML – White (*new* @ Epiphany)
-Narcisse- Stellar Panties – ML – White (*new* @ Epiphany)
Phedora ~ Ginger Boots ~ Hud 28 C. (*new* @ Tres Chic)

pose: FOXCITY. Bad Kitty VOL2 Bento Pose Set (*new* @ ON9)
[ isuka ] union local backdrop (*new* @ Shiny Shabby)

Posted in Bound Box, Events, Fashion, Pale Girl Productions, Phoenix, Second Life, shopping

Turn Around

So yesterday RL definitely got the best of me and had me in bed very early doped up with pain pills and muscle relaxers. I’m still in a bit of a fog, so  we’re going to do another music post. To be far, this picture has put this song in my head every time I look at it.

Total Eclipse of the Heart – Bonnie Tyler

Turnaround, every now and then I get a little bit lonely
And you’re never coming round
Turnaround, every now and then I get a little bit tired
Of listening to the sound of my tears
Turnaround, every now and then I get a little bit nervous
That the best of all the years have gone by
Turnaround, every now and then I get a little bit terrified
And then I see the look in your eyes
Turnaround bright eyes, but every now and then I fall apart
Turnaround bright eyes, every now and then I fall apart
And I need you now tonight
And I need you more than ever
And if you only hold me tight
We’ll be holding on forever
And we’ll only be making it right
‘Cause we’ll never be wrong together
We can take it to the end of the line
Your love is like a shadow on me all of the time (all of the time)
I don’t know what to do and I’m always in the dark
We’re living in a powder keg and giving off sparks
I really need you tonight
Forever’s gonna start tonight
Forever’s gonna start tonight
Once upon a time I was falling in love
But now I’m only falling apart
And there’s nothing I can do
A total eclipse of the heart
Once upon a time there was light in my life
But now there’s only love in the dark
Nothing I can say
A total eclipse of the heart
Turnaround bright eyes, every now and then I fall apart
Turnaround bright eyes, every now and then I fall apart
And I need you now tonight (and I need you now)
And I need you more than ever
And if you only hold me tight (and if you only)
We’ll be holding on forever
And we’ll only be making it right (’cause we’ll never be wrong)
‘Cause we’ll never be wrong together
We can take it to the end of the line
Your love is like a shadow on me all of the time (all of the time)
I don’t know what to do and I’m always in the dark
We’re living in a powder keg and giving off sparks
I really need you tonight
Forever’s gonna start tonight
Forever’s gonna start tonight
Once upon a time I was falling in love
But now I’m only falling apart
And there’s nothing I can say
A total eclipse of the heart
A total eclipse of the heart
A total eclipse of the heart
Turn around bright eyes
don't look back
Turnaround, every now and then I get a little bit nervous
That the best of all the years have gone by

hair: :::Phoenix::: Indira Hair (*new* @ Black Fair)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
Opium`s Addiction Alexas (October Bound Box)

pose by Del May
anxiety %2200

Posted in Fancy Decor, Fashion, Home Decor, Prism Events, Salem, Second Life


I thought about writing a short little story for this picture, but I’m too amused seeing Josh dressed up as a priest. The idea that someone could cast out my demons with some water and a cross amuses me just as much. However, the exorcism kit from Fancy Decor is so detailed and amazing that its impossible to ignore. I could not resist putting together a photo and again, putting Josh in a priest costume was way too funny. Pretty sure it burned his avatar, because he couldn’t take it off fast enough once the picture was taken.


Sady is wearing:
hair: Exile::Gina
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
Hazy. Eclipse Look. Dress.2 (*new* @ Salem)

Josh is wearing:
hair: Stealthic – Rebellion (*new* @ TMD)
hairbase: [Hipster Style] Rhys Hairbase BROWN
head: CATWA HEAD Daniel
beard: VYC – Neat Scruff Beard HD *GIFT*
body: Slink Physique Male Mesh Body
Priest Costume

<K&S> Souls. Bento pose (*new* @ Salem)

[ isuka ] make it stop backdrop (*new* @ Black Fair)
01 Fancy Decor: Exorcism Kit RARE (*new* @ Salem)
08 Fancy Decor: Table/wall Cross (*new* @ Salem)
06 Fancy Decor: Small Chalice (*new* @ Salem)
04 Fancy Decor: Holy Water (*new* @ Salem)
02 Fancy Decor: Last Rites (*new* @ Salem)

Posted in Bound Box, Cynful, Events, Fashion, Gingerfish Poses, Pale Girl Productions, RunAway Hair, Second Life, shopping, unKindness

Dear Bloggers

So, about a month or two ago, I got rejected when I applied to blog for a store I love. I jokingly made this dramatic post about feeling rejected. It turned into this huge thing, suddenly there was this outpouring of love and support from my friends and even some people I hardly knew at all.  Now we all just dealt with the Blueberry blogger apps. I don’t think its a secret that I wanted that one equally as much. Guess what? I didn’t get it.  I’m not upset or even sad. Sure, I’m a little disappointed, but its not a big deal. I tried. It didn’t happen. I’m super thrilled for all my friends that did get it, but I certainly did not take the rejection personally. Nor do I take most rejections personally and I’ve had more than my fair share.
Now, here’s where it gets interesting. In just one day I’ve seen bloggers all excited that they got chosen and others ready to throw in the towel and quit blogging because they didn’t get what they want. Some are feeling not good enough. Some are feeling like they should have gotten it and don’t understand why they didn’t. Some are throwing full on fits all over Facebook. Let me just say this to those of you throwing tantrums. Do you think that makes you look good? As a blogger manager, I see you throw tantrums like that and think to myself, “Ugh, that’s not someone I want to work with.” Listen, my best friend is a blogger manager for a store I wanted to blog for and I didn’t even get that! So, seriously just stop it. No one is stopping you from blogging the items from  your favorite stores. Whether you were good enough or not, you’ve got to put on your big girl panties and grow up. Why did you start blogging in the first place? If it was to get free stuff, well, you’re doing it for the wrong reasons and believe me…people can tell if you’re heart’s not in it. As a blogger manager, I recently had to let one of my friends go off a blogging team, because she wasn’t keeping up. I’ve had to send warnings to friends. I’ve received warnings from friends. This is the life of a blogger. You need thick skin, a creative soul, and a blogger’s heart. If you truly have a blogger’s heart, you won’t be able to stop and a rejection isn’t going to slow you down one bit. So, suck it up buttercups…a rejection is nuffin, muffin….you wanna blog? Do it!  Wanna blog a certain store, but can’t afford fatpacks, then try demos, get an idea, then buy the color you want and blog it anyway! Sheesh. Trust this, I will still blog Blueberry and the other store I didn’t get. You know why? Cuz I love their designs and I’m more than willing to buy them!


hair: [RA]  Britney Hair (*new* @ Hairology)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
[Cynful] – Shameless (October Bound Box)

pose: GingerFish Poses – Black Love (*new* @ Darkness Monthly Event)
uk  – With These Chains Photobox (*new* @ ManCave)

Posted in Events, Fancy Decor, Gingerfish Poses, Home Decor, Phedora, Prism Events, RunAway Hair, Salem, Scandalize, Second Life, shoes, shopping

Witches’ Song

Alcohol has weakened my mind…I can’t think straight, so you get a song today, but its a beautiful song and I’m not sure how well its known…so maybe give it a listen.♥

Marianne Faithfull Witches’ Song

Shall I see you tonight, sister, bathed in magic greet?
Shall we meet on the hilltop where the two roads meet?
We will form the circle, hold our hands and chant
Let the great one know what it is we want
Danger is great joy, dark is bright as fire
Happy is our family, lonely is the ward
Sister, we are waiting on the rock and chain
Fly fast through the airwaves, meet with pride and truth
Danger is great joy, dark is bright as fire
Happy is our family, lonely is the ward
Father, we are waiting for you to appear
Do you feel the panic, can you see the fear?
Mother, we are waiting for you to give consent
If there’s to be a marriage, we need contempt
Danger is great joy, dark is bright as fire
Happy is our family, lonely is the ward

witchy woman

hair: [RA] Wicca Hair (*new* @ Nightmare)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
[Atomic] Kitten Collar
*AvaWay* Jasmine_Bracelet & Ring
Scandalize. Loan (*new* @ Black Fair)
Phedora ~ klementin heels (*new* @ Black Fair)
SAYO – Seance Candles – Dark Magic (Prop Attachment) (*new* @ Salem)

pose: GingerFish Poses – Black Love (*new* @ Darkness Monthly)

*Drot* Old Attic_Skybox
22769 – The Chair of the Witch – RARE (*new* @ Salem)
22769 – The Workplace of the Witch – COMMON (*new* @ Salem)
22769 – Powder – COMMON (*new* @ Salem)
22769 – Candles – COMMON (*new* @ Salem)
22769 – Mirror Ball – COMMON (*new* @ Salem)
Fancy Decor: Raven Canister (*new* @ Salem)
Fancy Decor: Snake Canister (*new* @ Salem)
Fancy Decor: Skull Canister (*new* @ Salem)
22769 – Sloppy High Shelf – COMMON (*new* @ Salem)
22769 – Highdesk – COMMON (*new* @ Salem)
22769 – Spell Book – COMMON (*new* @ Salem)
22769 – Row of Potions – COMMON (*new* @ Salem)
22769 – The Magic Mirror – COMMON (*new* @ Salem)
22769 – Azazels Head – COMMON (*new* @ Salem)

Posted in Animals, Chic Moda, Events, Fashion, Jian, Phoenix, Prism Events, Salem, Second Life, shopping

Sadystika, Mother of Ravens

Okay, so if you don’t watch Game of Thrones this won’t make any sense and it might even be somewhat of a spoiler. So, stop reading, grab the credits and get to shopping. Otherwise, I have amused myself and perhaps some of my GOT fan readers.

So, Daenerys on Game of Thrones has this big long fancy title, right? Daenerys of the House Targaryen, the First of Her Name, The Unburnt, Queen of the Andals, the Rhoynar and the First Men, Queen of Meereen, Khaleesi of the Great Grass Sea, Protector of the Realm, Lady Regnant of the Seven Kingdoms, Breaker of Chains and Mother of Dragons. 

When I was taking this picture I thought, “Ohhh, Sadystika Sabretooth, Mother of Ravens, Flirting Failure, Bratty Kitten of Josh, Manager of Blogs, Cunt of Cunts, Sady the Psycho, and Addict of Blogging. This got me to thinking about what some other people’s titles might be….*grins* I decided to go after Sassy, since I’m blogging her outfit. Here we go: Sassy Nitely, Creator of ChicModa, Singer of Songs, Master of Twerking, Tallest of Midgets, Mother of Magnificence and Caller of Bullshit! I think it fits. *giggles* What would yours be?


hair:  :::Phoenix::: Cassandra Hair (*new* @ Salem)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
eyes: :Conviction: Viscous Eyes
ChicModa // Raven (*new* @ Black Fair)

Pose by Del May
JIAN Raven Collection :: Spooky Tree (*new* @ Salem)
JIAN Raven Collection :: Orbiters (*new* @ Salem)

Posted in Events, Fashion, ON9, Q-Poses, Red Fish, Second Life, shopping

Caught Up In a Net

There are so many wonderful and exciting things happening in my Second Life right now. Nothing I can really go into at the moment, but there have been some absolutely amazing opportunities crossing my path. Its been a very long time since I was so enthused about taking on more responsibilities, but it hardly feels like work when you work with such laid back, creative minds. I want to shout from the rooftops and bounce on a couch like Tom Cruise on Oprah. Instead, I’m going to lie here and pinch myself, because it really feels like I’m dreaming! I know I am blessed with some of the most amazing friends and creative minds. I’m grateful to each and every one of you. I’m inspired at every turn to be a better person and to push myself to be better at everything I do. I’m being fueled with that sense of accomplishment and I know that I am valued by some pretty impressive individuals. I suppose it sounds like I’m tooting my own horn a bit, but its not something I do very often…if ever. It feels good to feel good about myself. I caught up in a net of bliss and loving every minute of it. Oh, I’m sure dark cloudy days lie ahead on the horizon somewhere, but that’s all the more reason to embrace moments like this. That’s exactly what I’m going to do!

caught in the net

About the stuff:
When I saw this pose from Q-Poses, I knew the outfit needed to be sexy and gorgeous. Then along comes CandyDoll with their Sofia lingerie at Collabor88 and I knew, this was a picture I had to take. There are so many wonderful events going on at the moment that there’s simply no way that you can’t find something to wear, because if its not in your inventory already…its out there waiting at an event to jump onto your avatar…so as always, I wish you all HAPPY SHOPPING!♥

hair:  .Entwined. Bouda (*new* @ Black Fair)
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
dimples: Izzie’s – Catwa Dimples Hud
lipstick: [PF] CATWA LIPSTICK Applier – Glossy Pout
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo:  RedFish – Ouija tattoo (*new* @ Bodyfy)

_CandyDoll_ Sofia Lingerie (*new* @ Collabor88)

pose: {QP} – Wildest Dreams (*new* @ ON9)