Here we go…into the season of delicious treats and calories galore. Here in the U.S. its all about the gluttony. We’ve got candy everywhere for Halloween. Then there’s an endless array of traditional dishes for our most gluttonous holiday of them all…Thanksgiving! Luckily for me, I just made a major lifestyle change a week and a half ago. No more crappy foods. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had my fair share of delicious junk food over the years. I won’t be missing out on anything except the calories and toxins in those foods. Over the past six months, I’ve watched a friend of mine shift to a plant based diet and she’s done super well with it. That’s not for me, but I did want to get away from the processed foods and the fried foods and all the sugars I was taking in on a daily basis. I’ve already lost some weight and I’ve got a friend doing this with me. It’s exciting to compare recipes and discuss how different we feel physically. When I saw all the amazing treats tha were presented at Salem this year, I knew I wanted to take a picture of someone sneaking off to eat the bad stuff. So, here it is…me celebrating the season.
Sometimes I read profiles in SL and want to tell people, “Shhh, your stupid is showing!” I’m not a big fan of the word stupid, but I swear some people act like their opinions are facts. Seriously, no one knows everything. I know some people like to think they do, but they’re wrong.
I remember one time reading a man’s profile where he said something about SL being the only place that grown women giggle and that if you giggle, don’t talk to him, because real women don’t giggle in the real world. Uhm. I do. Anyone that has ever talked to me on voice will probably tell you that, too. To him, I say, “Shhh, your stupid is showing.”
Just yesterday I saw a girl’s profile that said that if someone else’s profile says, “I’m here to have fun,” what they actually meant was that they try to have sex with everyone they see. Uhm, no. There are lots of ways to have fun that do not involve sex. My friends and I can’t be the only idiots that will ride around on a homestead in cars or boats just flipping each other over and laughing senselessly on voice the entire time! To her, I say, “Shhh, your stupid is showing.”
I had a conversation with a guy that said he didn’t fill in his profile, nor did he bother reading other people’s profiles, because he’d rather talk to a person than read about them. Uhm, our entire conversation is taking place in a text window. Aren’t you reading either way? Why not get a feel for who you are about to talk to? I wish people in real life came with a profile, I’d love that shit! To him, I say, “Shhh, your stupid is showing.”
So, if you’ve read my blog regularly in the past couple of years, you probably know how dark things got for me. How deep in a hole of depression I was sinking and that I felt hopeless to do anything about it. However, recently, I have turned a page. I have found hope for the first time in many years. If it was not for the amazing friends that I have in Second Life, I honestly don’t think I’d be alive today. There were so many times that I wanted to give up, but thanks to an incredible support system I am still here and I am moving forward in the most positive direction I’ve taken in many years. The road ahead is not an easy one, but I have not come all this way, through all this crap, to give up now.
I’ve decided to write about this here rather than Facebook, for the simple reason that I don’t want 100 notifications about silly comments & arguments. All of that is welcome here, but my computer won’t ding every time someone does it here…lol. So, here’s the tea:
Every so often I come across these posts where someone is complaining about all the negativity and drama on their timeline. Quite regularly these posts are accompanied by requests or challenges to post something positive. I always wonder who these people are friends with on Facebook and why they continue to follow such Debbie Downers? I’ll be honest, the posts complaining about other posts are usually the most negative things I see. Not to mention that on the rare occasion that I do come across something negative, its usually those people fussing about someone else. So, I wonder if we run in completely different circles or they’re completely missing someone’s sense of humor. Perhaps they’re overly sensitive or fail to realize they have the power to unfollow negative people. Or maybe they forgot that on Facebook, we can post whatever we want (except nudes, cuz God forbid)…and if someone doesn’t like it…well, let’s loop back around to that unfollow option. I don’t know if I’m the only one that experiences this, but it seems to pop up at least once a week for me.
With that said, I’ll tell you what I see on my timeline almost daily. I see lots and lots of gorgeous photos done by bloggers from across the grid. I see ads from amazing designers and I see jokes from all walks of life. I don’t know exactly when memes became a thing, but I sure do enjoy them. So, here’s what I suggest: If you find your timeline to be full of negativity, then unfollow those people and make room for the fun stuff, cuz there’s plenty of it out there without you having to ask or challenge people from your status. All that does is make you look like one of the negative nancies…and I’m going to assume that you don’t want that.
Would you knowingly eat food that you knew was going to make you sick? I think its safe to say that most of us would not. So, why are we so quick to surround ourselves with poisonous people? Why are we so slow to escape unhealthy relationships? Neither are good for our soul and they prevent us from finding joy and true happiness. Why do we waste so much energy and time on such things? We all need to stop with the stupid shit, like arguing over things that aren’t going to matter next month, much less five years from now. The sooner we all let go of the toxic crap in our lives, the sooner we’ll all discover that we are capable of enjoying a better life. I’ll be over here enjoying my virtual churros pretending they are good for me, while you mull that over.
“I got no time to hate people who hate me. I’m too busy loving the people who love me.” ~RuPaul
I have to admit that I’ve been binging on RuPaul’s DragRace All Stars and I swear those ladies are the fiercest of the fierce! They make me wish I could be a drag queen! Alas, I cannot, for I’m not only a woman, but I’ve got the grace of a crack head in a porcelain factory. Just another reason for me to love the outlet that Second Life provides me. Here I can dress up or dress down. I can be as sexy as I want to be and despite those that call this platform a game, those emotions…those feelings…they flow through me from this virtual world into the real world. I heard RuPaul say the quote above the other night and the very next day, someone special to me that I thought hated me came to me. We confronted the issues we’ve been having and we’ve decided to start clean. We need each other, because we both fight a lot of the same demons. I’m taking this gift (quote) from RuPaul and I’m going to apply it to my life. I will remember it and stop letting the negative energies of others enter my bubble.
“There’s nothing wrong with a little space
But not right now, don’t leave
There’s nothing wrong with a little time, a little space
For the memories, for the good things
Turn around now, turn around
Don’t leave me now”
~ The Paper Kites – Don’t Keep Driving
I took this picture before Christmas and just hadn’t gotten around to using it. I remember thinking about the little rhyme my mother taught me as a child, “Red sky at night, Sailor’s delight. Red sky in morning, Sailor’s take warning.” Beyond that, I don’t have anything really deep to say, except go try the demo of this dress, there are subtle levels of sheer and lace that really make this a work of art. My photo doesn’t begin to do it justice.
“I said hey you, with your world painted blue
I said fuck you, I was the brightest light you ever knew”
~ Kailee Morgue – F**k U
I’ve wasted so much of my life giving the best parts of me to people who only pretend to appreciate it, but in the end they never do. They prove time and time again that they are just another liar…another disappointment…another fake friend…another user. I’m over that now. I’m going to live my life for me and only me going forward. Its time for me to take my life back and I’m done bowing down before some undeserving asshat.
I’m always saying that I do what I want, but apparently what I wanted was to sell my soul just to hear two words that now ring through my ears like a bitter lie and the three words? Well, I’m not even going there. I’m pissed off and I’m tired of being disrespected. I’m tired of disrespecting myself. Now is the time for my “friends” to decide if they are real or not, because I’m done dealing with fake people and liars just for the sake of someone else. Those of you out there talking shit behind my back? Knock yourselves out. Your hate gives me power I never sought, but if your feelings for me are that strong…well, as the song says, “F**k U!”
Oh and before you fuckers get all paranoid about who is telling what? Well, its like this…I am an energy reader and I feed off energy like a vampire. So, when your energy is bitter and makes me sick to my stomach, I know what you’re about. I see through you and your lies. Oh and you lost out on one of the best friends you could’ve ever had. And ya know what? If you even THINK that I’m talking to/about you, then I damn sure am or you wouldn’t even think that.