Show Some Love

So, there’s been a lot of hurt feelings on Facebook this week, because of a newish thing called Sarahah. It was designed for businesses so that employees could leave constructive feedback for each other, but it quickly found its way to Facebook and the SL community latched on. We were off and running. Many people refused to take part, knowing full well they would not take it well if insulted or while others publicly voiced their disdain for the site suggesting that if one could not say it without hiding behind anonymity they had no business saying it at all. Meanwhile, many were like me and saw it as something fun to do and jumped right off the bridge into the Sarahah internet river.
From there it either went uphill or downhill. For many it went downhill very quickly. Designers got attacked rather viciously. Yes, many of them received a lot of praise as well, but actual constructive criticism seemed to be absent. Many others reported being attacked and bullied. While some of these people took it in stride, others were quite hurt by the cruel words they found from anonymous contributors. A few even became aware of several secret admirers. While others found disturbing messages about people wanting to wear their skin or keep their eyeballs in jars. *giggles* I can’t begin to imagine who would have left such disturbing messages. *giggles again* I think almost everyone received some positive and loving messages, regardless of whatever else they found.
I personally received a total of 34 messages, most of which were very loving, kind, and positive. I was quite surprised and honestly, I little disappointed. I had prepared myself for some serious insults. I thought surely someone would be hateful, but I was quite fortunate. I think the closest I came to an insult was a rather astute observation from someone claiming not to know me very well. I had to laugh, because they were pretty accurate with what they said although they used an outdated terminology for their diagnosis of my mental health. *laughs* I had a few somewhat flirtation comments and a few that made no sense. I got no weird or insulting comments. Mostly, it was love and I was overwhelmed.
I was quite surprised by the reactions of a few that received negative comments. Some basically threw tantrums all over Facebook. Others quickly realized they did not possess the thick skin necessary to handle cowardly insults and shut down their Sarahah links. While others kept up their pages and found a new topic to bitch about on social media.
I am saddened that so many used it to bully and abuse others, but so goes the way of the internet. I think it’s important for everyone to remember that no matter what hateful or negative comments you received, there are far more people that love you. You are beautiful and wonderful in your own way. You are all amazing creatures. Whether you participated or not, please know that you are loved…not just by me, but many others. It is my hope that this weekend we will all remind the ones we love that they are special to us. As you proceed through your weekend and eventually into next week, show some love…not just to others, but to yourselves as well. ♥

get some balls

wearing:
hair: [RA] Jessica Hair (*new* @ Hairology)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara

[Atomic] Kitten Collar
Amala – The Daddy’s Necklace
Scandalize. Revolve. (*new* @ Tres Chic)

pose by Foxcity
MINIMAL – Retro Backdrops *8* (*new* @ REWIND)

Summer Lovin

You saw the title and thought it was going to be a music post with that song from Grease, didn’t you? And now that song is stuck in your head, too, huh? *giggles* You’re welcome! I did think about doing that, but decided to just mess with y’all instead. Is there any point linking that song of all songs or the lyrics? Event he most macho of men knows that movie and every song in it, I don’t care what they try to say. They’ve had a mom, sister, or girlfriend that made them watch it at least once or a thousand times.
Nope there’s no deep message, rant or short story with this post. Just a picture of Josh and I looking into each other’s loving eyes the way we wish we could in RL. Alas, a real life together is not in our cards. So, we bring our real love into a virtual world and make our friends gag…*gets out a bucket for Tracy* and y’all can blame Drunk Panda for the pose. Meanwhile, I thank both Johanna and Michael for allowing us the opportunity to take such a photo. G’on out there and make the most of your Second Life, whether its romance, creating, blogging, exploring, role playing….or any other numerous SL activities. Be sure to grab a humping gesture from somewhere and hump all your friends…after all…it IS hump day!♥

you caught me

Josh is wearing:
hair: Modulus – Anwar Hair (*new* @ Man Cave)
head: CATWA HEAD Daniel
beard: VYC– Neat Scruff Beard HD *GIFT*
ears:  .:E.A.Studio:. Box Ears Falling Star
body: Slink Physique Male Mesh Body
hands: -VA-M-VISTA BENTO PROHAND SLINK MALE
tattoo: (( Cheeky Ink )) Aikido Tattoo
piercing: 3.::GB:: Lip piercing (Catwa Daniel) Black (Studded)

**RE** ReVoX Aros Couple Bracelets BOX
[ kunst ] – Wire ring
[The Forge] – Apex – Tank, Black / A. [Slink] (*new* @ FaMESHed)
L&B  Swear Salvage Denim Shorts SlinkFit

Sady is wearing:
hair: pr!tty – Yoshi (*new* @ Hairology)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara

[Atomic] Kitten Collar – Rigged
EarthStones Tania Belly Ring
Astralia – My half rings set (Female) Maitreya Rings

LYBRA . Joyce Panties White (*new* @ Aqua)
LYBRA . Joyce Top White (*new* @ Aqua)

pose: Drunk-Panda-I-just-see-you

scene:
uK – Little Oasis Rock Shelf Brown
uK – Little Oasis Curved Falls Brown RARE
uK – Little Oasis Curved Cliffs Brown

Setting Off Alarms

Time for some more real talk. This time, I’m talking about profiles, the kinds of profiles that should set off alarms. You ready? Let’s get it started! Going to just list off some common things I see around the grid that should set off alarms based on my almost 11yrs on the grid.

1. Profiles that read, “Just came back to SL after a long break.” Chances are this person is an alt. I’m not saying don’t talk to them, but take it slow and watch them closely.
2. Profiles that have threat picks. You know the ones…”if you touch/hurt so & so, I will rip your heart out of your chest and shove it down your throat” kinda picks. Clearly, they’re not going to do any of that and the fact that they feel the need to make such threats publicly shows a lack of maturity and intelligence.
3. Blank profiles. C’mon people, put some effort into you SL. Blank profiles suggest you’re an alt or terribly boring. Either way…ALARM bells!
4. Overtly sexy profile pics. Legs spread with a bottle between your legs, may be a hot a picture, but its sending a message to everyone that looks at your profile. Skank that likes to drink. You either want nothing but sex or you’re desperate for attention.
5. The declaration against drama. I’m going to tell you right now. These people are usually the ones stirring the pot, then stepping back with their popcorn to watch the damage. RUN! Let me explain, you cannot get through life without drama. Don’t believe me, perhaps you need to see the definition of drama. Do allow me to enlighten you.
|||||drama: any situation or series of events having vivid, emotional, conflicting, or
striking interest or results|||||
6. Declaration of being a bitch/asshole. Chances are they’re correct, so why even bother. These people have up walls and they’ve just informed you of that fact. Do you honestly feel like jumping through hoops for them before you’ve even gotten to know them?
7. Emo picks. If their picks are full of emotional vomit. They’re either going to bring you down or suck you into it. Its exhausting and seriously, did you come to SL for that?
8. Passive aggressive picks. They have a pick clearly aimed at someone they believe is watching their profile, but don’t have the balls to just say it directly to whomever they’re talking about. Chances are the next one could be aimed at you. Why bother?
9. Profiles that read like an online dating profile. There are actual sites & groups in SL for that, but overall that is not the main objective of Second Life. C’mon, everyone you meet here isn’t looking for love. Just stop it already.
10. Profiles that declare they keep SL & RL separate.  This is impossible unless that avatar is strictly for Role-Play purposes and says so straight away. Some aspect of the real person behind the avatar is involved with how they interact in this virtual world. This person is most likely hiding something.

So, there’s my top ten profile warning signs. It pays to read profile before approaching each other and often shows you whether or not you have something in common. 

trouble maker

wearing:
hair: Tableau Vivant \\ Alexa
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
skinDeeTaleZ *Appliers* CATWA Head “Face Miriam”
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo: [White~Widow]  Desierto – White (*new* @ Cosmopolitan)

[Atomic]  Kitten Collar
Amala – The Daddy’s Necklace
=Zenith=Leather Belt Gloves

LYBRA  DIXIE BLOGGERS (*new* @ Kinky)

pose by Foxcity (edited with AnyPose)
scene:
MINIMAL  – Illusion III – *2*
7  – Peter’s Charcuterie
7  – Fire Alarm Light
7  – Fire Alarm Panel

Honky Tonk

Josh and I were attending a Savannah Rain show at Seaside Lounge a while back. We were on voice and Sav started singing Tanya Tucker’s “Love Me Like You Used To.” I got lost down memory lane and told Josh, “This is a true Honky Tonk Song.” Being English, he’s not really familiar with exactly what a Honky Tonk is…so I began to explain it and he insisted that I write it down. So, here it is…

This is one of those songs you play on the jukebox, because there’s not usually a live band unless its Friday or Saturday night. But once in a while on a Monday night, you just get overwhelmed with that bluesy lonely feeling. You crave the dim flickering lights and loud music, being surrounded by people, but not really interacting with them much. You half hope that someone will notice how sad and lonely you are….you half hope they don’t. And then certain songs will simply take you away…you close your eyes to fight the tears as you sing along, as the music is loud enough that no one can hear you anyway. You somehow find some solace in your solitude and in the bottom of a bottle.
Sometimes you go to that particular bar, just hoping you’ll see HIM…as you know he frequents that bar regularly. You remember dancing with him when no one else was dancing. You reminisce about the good times as the tears stream down your face.
Regardless of the reason, you sit alone at the bar and unless you had too many, you leave alone and thankfully a bit more numb. That’s been my experience with Honky Tonks anyway. Yes, its always country music and on weekends its a much livelier place, but weekdays brings out the sad and lonely along with the regulars.

cowgirl

I’d like to add a little note, that not all country music is sad…so you should check out Savannah Rain, she is by far the best live country singer on the grid in my opinion and Seaside Lounge has some great live performances, so be sure to check them out, too. Ya know, when you take a break from shopping and want to show off your pretty new clothes!

wearing:
hairno.match_ ~ NO_POISON
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
skin: DeeTaleZ *Appliers* CATWA Head “Face Miriam”
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
collar: [Atomic] Kitten Collar (*new* @N21)
[FORMANAILS] NAILS – SKULL – BENTO – MAITREYA
.LYBRA . Paige Top Black (maitreya) lace (*new* @N21)
.LYBRA . Paige Top Black (maitreya) solid (*new* @N21)
.LYBRA . Paige skirt Black (maitreya) (*new* @N21)
Maitreya Dahlia Socks
Maitreya Stagioni XTD Leather * Black

pose by Foxcity
uK – Old West Whiskey Saloon RARE

Are You That Somebody?

So often when I’m blogging I’m listening to music or watching movies, but today I just shot the photo and thought to myself how I look both sweet and naughty at the same time. I immediately knew that this would be a song post and I’ve got just the song. Naturally, I’ve given the YouTube link as well as the lyrics…and you have to choice to listen, read, or skip to the credits. Either way, happy shopping!♥

Banks Are You That Somebody
(originally by Aaliyah)

Boy,
I’ve been Watching You
Like a hawk in the sky
That flies,
And You were my prey
Boy, I promise you
If we keep bumpin’ heads
I know that one of these days
We gone hook it up
Probably talk on the phone
But see I don’t know if that’s good
I’ve been holding back
This secret from you
I Probably shouldn’t letcha

If I,
If I let you know
You can’t tell nobody
I’m talking bout nobody
Are you responsible?
Boy you betta watch my body
I’m not just anybody
Is it my go, Is it your go
Sometimes I’m a goody goody
Right now I’m a naughty naughty
Say Yes or Say No
Cause I really need somebody
Tell me are you that somebody, Eh
Eheheheheheh Eh Eh…

Boy,
Won’t you pick me up at the park right now
Up the block while everyone
Sleep, Sleep, Sleep
I’ll be waiting there
With my trench, my lugz, My hat
Just so I’m low key
If you tell the world
Oh Boy,
See I’m trusting you
With my Heart, my Soul
I probably shouldn’t letcha, If I

If I,
If I let you know
You can’t tell nobody
I’m talking bout nobody
I hope you responsible
Boy you betta watch my body
I’m not just anybody
Is it my go, Is it your go
Sometimes I’m a goody goody
Right now I’m a naughty naughty
Say yes or say no
Cause I really need somebody
Tell me are you that somebody, Eh
Eheheheheheh Eh Eh…

Baby girl,
I’m the girl from the big LA
But you come play around my way
And listen to what I gotta say
UK
You’ve been down from the start
That’s why you got my heart
Ever since we departed

Baby girl,
Betta known as Aaliyah
Them play haters have fevers
Getting goosebumps in our fevers
And don’t you know
You gotta tell somebody
Cause I really need somebody
Tell me are you that somebody, Eh

If I let you know
You can’t tell nobody
I’m talking bout nobody
I hope you’re responsible
Boy you betta watch my body
I’m not just anybody
Is it my go, Is it your go
Sometimes I’m a goody goody
Right now I’m a naughty naughty
Say yes or say no
Cause I really need somebody
Tell me are you that somebody, Eh
Eheheheheheh Eh Eh…

nervous

hairTRUTH / Tori (July VIP GG)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
skin: DeeTaleZ *Appliers* CATWA Head “Face Miriam”
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
BUENO-Sol -SunGlasses (*new* @ Knot&Co)
collar: [Atomic] Kitten Collar (*new* @N21)
[FORMANAILS] NAILS – SKULL – BENTO – MAITREYA
.LYBRA . RUDY (*new* @ anyBODY)

pose by Del May
SAYO SCENES – Bougainvillea Hideaway Backdrop – COMMON (*new* @ Epiphany)