The Ugliest Thing I Could Find

So, the tie dye pattern on this Migle dress from United Colors reminded me of one of my favorite shirts when I was about 18. There’s actually a funny story about that shirt. My parents got divorced when I was 15, for the first year my mom cried almost every night. After that she went a little wild. She was going on trips quite regularly, but being the awesome mom that she was, she would always bring me a present. Being the mom with awful taste meant I wasn’t going to like it if it was clothing. Then lo and behold she returned from a trip with the most awesome looking black and white tie dyed shirt I had ever seen. It wasn’t even a tee shirt, it was like a wicked blouse! I was so shocked and happy. As I’m standing there hugging the shirt, then holding it up, then ripping off my current shirt to try it on, my mom is standing there laughing so hard she has tears running down her face. Naturally, I had to know what was so damn funny, right?
She wiped the tears from her face and asked if I really liked the shirt. I nodded profusely, “Yes! I love it, Momma! Thank you. I can’t believe you picked this out, though.”
She laughed again for a minute then said, “Well, you never like anything I pick out, so I just looked around the shop for the ugliest thing I could find. You’re welcome.”
Damn woman. We still have opposing taste in most things, but she’s gotten a lot better at picking out gifts over the years. *laughs* Even if she thinks they’re ugly.



Tableau Vivant \\ Caprice hair (*new* @ SL14)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo: .::Nanika::. Scarlet tattoo Black

UC_Migle_dress (*new* @ SouledOut)
fri. – Dora Sandals (*new* @ Uber)

pose by an lar [poses] The Betty Series (*new* @ Vintage Fair)

location…well, I can’t tell you that, it was at a friend’s beach…sorry, not sorry

Oh Goodness! Vintage Fair!

Oh Goodness! The Vintage Fair is here and it will take you on a journey back in time! Whether you want to change up your look for some photos or an event, or you just love all things retro, THIS is the event for you! Yes, this entire post is about the event. I would love to list all the fantastic designers that will be there, but its just too much for my lil ole brain and my chubby lil fingers to type up. HOWEVER, I am going to give you a little tip about the hyperlinks below. You know how we bloggers like to link the slurl to the store name and event? Well, not only have I done that, but if you want this hair, you can click on the event link by the Mina Betty hair listed below and it will take you directly to Mina’s booth! All of the Vintage Fair links in this post will take you directly to the vendor of the item by which its listed! How cool is that?!?! Awww, you’re welcome! *grins* Also, as you will soon see, almost everything in the picture is from the Vintage Fair…well, all but three pieces of the decor and my basic avatar, of course. They have makeup but it wouldn’t do much good to try and showcase that from this distance. So have a looksy and then explore the two amazing sims full of keen items from the incredible designers that have participated.

feeling vintage

hairMINA – Betty (*new* @ Vintage Fair)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
eyesCATWA Mesh Eyes Pack
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

The Annex – Jayne Dress – Crimson (*new* @ Vintage Fair)
*GF* Donna Square Toe Shoes (*new* @ Vintage Fair)

pose: an lar [poses] The Betty Series – Two (m) (*new* @ Vintage Fair)
set up in Cwtch. 70’s Inspired Room for Photographers (*new* @ Vintage Fair)
DRD gg rug 60s
Bellarose Vintage Chair Set (chair & table w/lamp & decor) (*new* @ Vintage Fair)
[Cubic Cherry] {Baroque} mirror Black (*new* @ Vintage Fair)
floorplan. vintage propaganda poster
darkendStare. Cat Wall Clocks [Black/WhitePainted] (*new* @ Vintage Fair)
7 MI Book Stalk [1 LI]

Vintage Fair Poster with Sponsors

Everything is Changing

“Everything is changing,
And I’ve been here for too long
Going through the same things
I’ve been hurting too long,
Got to move on
Say I-I-I-I can’t do this anymore
If everything is changing
And I know, yeah, you gotta let go”
Sigma ft Paloma Faith – Changing

dorothy phedora2

Life is full of change. Every single day something impacts us to alter the course of our day, our life…every little thing that happens to us impacts us on some level. Sometimes it takes us a while to figure out what is working and what isn’t. From there, we make conscious decisions to change. This is life, right? Even when the changes swirl around us in a way that we feel we’ve lost all control, we still have the ground beneath our feet. If we crumple…if we fall…the ground is there to catch us. Its all just a matter of how far we fall and how hard, isn’t it?

dorothy phedora1

Collabor88 has returned and delivered us with some “lazy & chill” themed items that are simply breathtaking. While a lot of people in SL don’t understand the concept of being comfortable in a virtual world, I do and I for one want nothing more than to be lazy & chill, in both my worlds. Its not always an options, but at least in SL..not only can I look lazy & chill, but I can look fierce while doing it. I don’t know about you, but I’ve never been that cute girl next door that looks adorable in her chillaxing clothes…I tend to look more like a homeless person. *laughs* While that is the theme, there’s nothing stopping you from grabbing some amazing threads and shoes to create you own look that isn’t lazy & chill at all. As soon as I saw the Andrea Jumpsuit from CandyDoll, I knew I had to have it and the Dorothy boots from Phedora are a perfect match, as both allow color options for the bow. To help you blend your look into a more cohesive one. I’m wishing you all a happy month of shopping and watch here for tons more goodies coming you way from across the grid.  ♥

hair: [monso]  My Hair – Sungso
head: CATWA HEAD Catya
eyes: CATWA Mesh Eyes w/-SU!– [CATWA & OMEGA HUD] Xenira Eyes ALL COLORS
eyeshadowIzzie’s – Catwa – Applier Dark Metallic Eyeshadow Hud
dimples: Izzie’s – Catwa Dimples Hud
lipstick: [PF] CATWA LIPSTICK Applier – Glossy Pout
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

**RE** Luxy Rings Set (*new* @ Chapter Four)

_CandyDoll_ Andrea Jumpsuit Black (*new* @ C88)
Phedora ~ Dorothy boots (*new* @ C88)

poses: an lar [poses]
location: Whole Wheat

The Fantasy Girls

So, there are some pretty standard sexy stereotypes out there and I’m quite curious how they all got started. Don’t worry, I’ll break down my confusion for you one at a time. *laughs*
Given the photos I’m using for this post, we’ll start with the Sexy Librarian. I never understood this, because most of the librarians I encountered in my life have looked more like my grandmother. I have to wonder where this fantasy started, because I have yet to encounter a real life sexy librarian. Yes, I get it the whole, take off the glasses and let her hair cascade down over her shoulder in a L’Oreal commercial imagery, I just don’t get how it started.
Okay, lets take on the one that makes me completely shudder. The sexy nurse. This is where I make a blank face and stare through your soul. My mother is a retired registered nurse and she was a damn good one, but never in all my years did any of her uniforms and eventually scrubs look remotely sexy. Don’t get me wrong, my mother is beautiful, far prettier than me, but I really have to adjust my mindset in order to see a nurse as sexy.
Then there’s angels and demons. Which on one hand I totally get, but on the other hand I’m thinking…aren’t these supposed to be religious figures? And don’t get me started on the naughty nuns….sheesh. Talk about blasphemy…not that I’m bothered, I’m an athiest, but still.


Then there are the sexy school girl and girl scout costumes. Once again, we’re going at this with two hands, but both are odd to me. On one hand, I wonder if perhaps this is residual from school days when the girls that wore these things were unobtainable? If so, shouldn’t you grow up and get over it by now? The my other hand…isn’t that all just a bit pedo? *shrugs*
Now to be a total hypocrite…since all of these things are deemed appropriate…I am more than happy to dress up as all of these things, so long as I can make them super super slutty, cuz otherwise…what’s the point? *laughs*

hair{Letituier} Krystal Hair (*new* @ ON9)
head: CATWA HEAD Catya
eyes: CATWA Mesh Eyes w/-SU!– [CATWA & OMEGA HUD] Xenira Eyes ALL COLORS
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

HAYSURIZA_Eyewear _Cat_VC  (*new* @ ON9)
CODEX_FOX COLLAR (*new* @ Cosmopolitan)

ChicModa // Jett (February BishBox)
alaskametro<3 “Nyla” stockings – Black plain – Maitreya HUD  (*new* @ ON9)
Garbaggio // Heidi Pumps (*new* @ ON9)

poses: an lar [poses]
location: Blithe Adult Lounge


As I live my life, I’ve encountered a lot of toxic people, some are more so than others. Every once in a while, I come across one that is so toxic they become a cancer. It is then that I must listen to my gut and my closest friends…to go under the figurative knife and cut out that cancer. Removing it completely from my life, regardless of how much it hurts at the moment or how hard the process may be, it is most definitely necessary.


Much like cancer, sometimes those toxic people come back, and I have to fight those demons…work that process…borrow strength from friends and fight with all I have to stay strong. I cannot let myself be sucked back into that manipulative toxic environment. To lose myself into some bottomless pit of darkness, because if I do not cut those poisonous people from my life as quickly as possible…I risk everything. This is something I have to do again and again. Its not something I enjoy. It makes me feel horrible, because my heart goes out to the person behind the toxicity and deep down I don’t want to let go. I don’t want to believe that I have to cut them out of my life to stay healthy. Sadly, I have to face that truth. I have to break promises and THAT tears at my soul.


Thank Godde (play on words, some of you will catch that, some of you won’t) for retail therapy! I managed to shimmy my way into ULTRA during early access, grabbed up some amazing goodies and off I went to get my pictures. There are always a lot of incredible events going on, but ULTRA is a really, really good one. Not too big, not too small, but always on point with quality designers.
Check out these Icarus ears from E.A. Studio. How freaking cool are they? And the HUD? You can change the colors of the feathers, the metals, and there are options for the gauged part as well…you’ll have to go to Tres Chic for these, cuz they’re an exclusive!
And Cosmopolitan…you gotta be quick, but Codex is on the scene with the Betlam Necklace and it is gorgeous.
There’s nothing like some good old fashioned retail therapy to make me feel whole again. So, happy shopping to all of you and don’t you let those toxic people hold you back!♥

hair: no.match_ ~ NO_OTHER  (*new* @ ULTRA)
head: CATWA HEAD Catya
skin: [theSkinnery] Opal (Catwa Applier) honey
eyeshadow: Veechi – Luster Glam Shadow [Catwa]
lipstickPink Acid For Catwa Overly Transparent Gloss Pepper
ears: .:E.A.Studio Ears Icarus (*new EXCLUSIVE* @ Tres Chic)
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

.:E.A.Studio:.Box Piercing Bare Code
[CX] Bento Piercing Labret Ring ( Catwa ) (*new* @ Seasons Story)
[CX] Bento Piercing Snakebites ( Catwa ) (*new* @ Seasons Story)
CODEX_NECKLACE BETLAM BLACK (*new* @ Cosmopolitan)
.aisling. Eunice – Bracelets Black 1

UC_Christine_dress_black_Maitreya_Slink_Belleza (*new* @ ULTRA)
REIGN.– Scillia Heels

an lar [poses] The Alisha Series (*new* @ ULTRA)
photos taken at Whole Wheat

Quiet Christmas

Everyone talks about how the holidays are all about family and appreciating your loved ones. Yet, you rarely hear anyone say, “Hey, its okay to be alone on the holidays” or “I’d love a nice quiet Christmas at home alone with my furbabies.” I think the reason is because society and tradition have told us that to be merry, we must have more. As someone who often feels incredibly lonely, but is never truly alone…I can tell you that someday down the line I will embrace the solitude of a Holiday season. I don’t necessarily look forward to the reasons I will finally be alone in the literal sense, but after many years of having people in my face and in my business throughout the day? Yes, I hope that I will remember how crowded life can be and simply embrace the solitude.


We assume that no one wants to be alone for the holidays and most people probably don’t. However, for those that choose to be alone for the holidays, I commend you. For those that don’t want to be alone? Well, I can offer my company in a virtual world, as will many of your friends, I’m sure. Whatever kind of holidays you hope for, it is my wish for you that you have that and regardless of whether we get what we want or not? I wish you holidays filled love & laughter. ♥


Now, once again I’m going to tell you that there are events galore..I know that’s not news to anyone taking the time to read an SL blog, but I cannot stress enough that regardless of what holidays you celebrate, Tannenbaum has something to enhance your decor…not to mention tons of adorable clothes, hair, accessories…I mean, I could blog this event every single day and still not begin to showcase how fantastic and inspiring it is.

=DeLa*= Mesh Hair “Cristina” (*new* @ Uber)
[theSkinnery] Opal (Catwa Applier) (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
EF: Levity Necklace (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
-tres blah- V Neck Sweater  (September Luxe Box)
TETRA – Pencil Skirt  (*new* @ Uber)
_CandyDoll_Joly Heels (*new* @N21)

DRD gg rug brown
Fancy Decor: Twig Tree (gold) (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
JIAN Countryside Collies :: Family Rug
SAYO – Quilted Tile Fireplace (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
Fancy Decor: Baroque Winter Landscape (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
Fancy Decor: Paper Tree (words) (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
Fancy Decor: Paper Tree (music) (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
SAYO – Candle & Light  Set (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
Apple Fall Happy Santa Figure (Creamy)
Kalopsia – Carol’s Christmas Garland Single (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
The Loft – Tivoli Christmas Stockings (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
SAYO – Joy Holiday Sign (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
SAYO – Holiday Ornament Stacks (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
Fancy Decor: Copper Magazine Holder (Spotlight Magazine Group Gift)
Fancy Decor: Floor Globe (gold) (FLF- Nov 26, 2016)
tarte. twig snowflake (white)
SAYO – Twig & Light Wreath (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
tarte. twig snowflake (white)
[HD]WinterLover sofa
~Best Wishes from Alia~ Holiday (Xmas group gift 2014)
hive // jolly coffee table chest  (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
Forest – Flower pot (part of ~BAZAR~Forest dining set)
[BDKX]-//- Merry Bowl 01.  (*new* @ Tannenbaum)

poses by an lar

Embracing Change

Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything. George Bernard Shaw

I’ve written about how there are a lot of changes going on in my life these days and as I face the changes I didn’t choose, I’ve also embraced the theme of change by welcoming some other changes. Some that weren’t exactly necessary, but I sure am grateful that I opened the door to let them in. One of the welcome changes is letting more people into my life. I’ve been quite guarded for a number of years and have been rather selective about the people I’ve allowed to get too close, particularly the last two years. I’ve also been reaching out to some of the people I’ve know for a while, but not really gotten close to and even opened the doors to embrace some amazing new friends.
sharing is caring
I am so glad I did, because its been simply fantastic and it feels like I’m finding my old self again for the first time in many years. I’ve stopped worrying so much what others think of me, because at the end of the day I can’t really control that, can I? People will think what they want to think. Despite what my friends jokingly say about me, I know I’m a good person. In fact, I’m pretty damn awesome and I’m usually pretty fun to hang out with. I made the mistake of letting some pretty toxic people convince me that I wasn’t worth much and because of that I limited myself to my core circle of friends. As beautiful and amazing as they are I found myself depending on them too much. Honestly believing that I had done something wrong if they were too busy for me. Rationality tells me that’s ridiculous and that the world does not revolve around me, but emotional scarring from past abuse made it all too easy to believe that I was to blame for the distance.
For the first time in a long time, I’m happy even without the constant hand holding of my posse. I’m embracing life and challenging myself in new ways. Pushing myself to reach for things that I believed were impossible only a few months ago. I know that a lot of this new found confidence is due in part to the loving support of those core friends and I wouldn’t be this happy without them. I also know that I’m okay to be on my own when they’re unavailable for whatever reason. It feels good.

With that said, lets get on to the details, shall we? And don’t worry for the avid readers of my blog (all three or four or six of you, lol) there is still a very real possibility of the hangover post…lol.

Sady is wearing:
pr!tty – Poca
^^Swallow^^ Shiny Ears (*new* @ Shiny Shabby)
*AvaWay* Nikki_Bracelet, Necklace, and Rings (sold separately)
{Reverie} ‘Serena’ Shirt – Rose (*new* @ Uber)
{Reverie} ‘Serena’ Skirt – Grey (*new* @ Uber)
Roses Skull – Leg Tattoo [CAROL G]

Ari is wearing:
Tableau Vivant \\ Knot [faux dreads]
..::SAMURAI::.. Jeffrey Mesh Head
Stretched ears-Omimi- [MANDALA]
[Signature] Gianni -(Body, feet, hands)
RONSEM* Roll up shirt
RONSEM* Rollup Jeans
Gats Shoes

his pose by Axix
my pose by an lar

location: Hazardous