Show Some Love

So, there’s been a lot of hurt feelings on Facebook this week, because of a newish thing called Sarahah. It was designed for businesses so that employees could leave constructive feedback for each other, but it quickly found its way to Facebook and the SL community latched on. We were off and running. Many people refused to take part, knowing full well they would not take it well if insulted or while others publicly voiced their disdain for the site suggesting that if one could not say it without hiding behind anonymity they had no business saying it at all. Meanwhile, many were like me and saw it as something fun to do and jumped right off the bridge into the Sarahah internet river.
From there it either went uphill or downhill. For many it went downhill very quickly. Designers got attacked rather viciously. Yes, many of them received a lot of praise as well, but actual constructive criticism seemed to be absent. Many others reported being attacked and bullied. While some of these people took it in stride, others were quite hurt by the cruel words they found from anonymous contributors. A few even became aware of several secret admirers. While others found disturbing messages about people wanting to wear their skin or keep their eyeballs in jars. *giggles* I can’t begin to imagine who would have left such disturbing messages. *giggles again* I think almost everyone received some positive and loving messages, regardless of whatever else they found.
I personally received a total of 34 messages, most of which were very loving, kind, and positive. I was quite surprised and honestly, I little disappointed. I had prepared myself for some serious insults. I thought surely someone would be hateful, but I was quite fortunate. I think the closest I came to an insult was a rather astute observation from someone claiming not to know me very well. I had to laugh, because they were pretty accurate with what they said although they used an outdated terminology for their diagnosis of my mental health. *laughs* I had a few somewhat flirtation comments and a few that made no sense. I got no weird or insulting comments. Mostly, it was love and I was overwhelmed.
I was quite surprised by the reactions of a few that received negative comments. Some basically threw tantrums all over Facebook. Others quickly realized they did not possess the thick skin necessary to handle cowardly insults and shut down their Sarahah links. While others kept up their pages and found a new topic to bitch about on social media.
I am saddened that so many used it to bully and abuse others, but so goes the way of the internet. I think it’s important for everyone to remember that no matter what hateful or negative comments you received, there are far more people that love you. You are beautiful and wonderful in your own way. You are all amazing creatures. Whether you participated or not, please know that you are loved…not just by me, but many others. It is my hope that this weekend we will all remind the ones we love that they are special to us. As you proceed through your weekend and eventually into next week, show some love…not just to others, but to yourselves as well. ♥

get some balls

wearing:
hair: [RA] Jessica Hair (*new* @ Hairology)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara

[Atomic] Kitten Collar
Amala – The Daddy’s Necklace
Scandalize. Revolve. (*new* @ Tres Chic)

pose by Foxcity
MINIMAL – Retro Backdrops *8* (*new* @ REWIND)

Thinking Bout You

Yes, I know…another music post, Sady? Really? Yes, cuz its my blog and sometimes that’s where my mind is. Its times like these, photos like these…the music says it so much better than I can. I can only hope you’ll relate, appreciate the tunes, the photo, and above all the gorgeous creations from some incredibly talents designers. As always, lyrics and YouTube link provided below.

Thinking Bout You by Ariana Grande

I’ve been thinkin’ bout you
Yeah, I’ve been missing you
Where the hell are you, oh, when I need you?
I could still hear your voice
I ain’t got no choice
‘Cause I’m here all alone
I know I can’t wait ’til you get home

Oh, I don’t have you here with me
But at least I have the memory
I try to make it through the night
But I can’t control my mind

I’m just thinkin’ bout you
I’m thinkin’ bout you, I’m thinkin’ bout you
I’m just thinkin’ bout you
I’m thinkin’ bout you, I’m thinkin’ bout you

Got these thoughts in my head
Ain’t no way to forget
Got me losing my breath
Nobody got me the way that you did
Had my eyes rolling back
Had me arching my back
Now you love me so good
I wish you would hurry up and come back

thinking

wearing:
hair:  Stealthic – Sensual (*new* @ C88)
headCATWA HEAD Tala
skinDeeTaleZ *Appliers* CATWA Head “Face Miriam”
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo.Identity. Body Shop – Reborn Wild

Schadenfreude Tear Dermal Piercing,la passionnee(cheekbone)
-SU!- Bento Piercing Set 03
EF: Janus Choker
Amala – The Daddy’s Necklace

{le fil casse} Siouxsie Dress (*new* @ Rewind)
Phedora ~ Jessica boots ~ 28 C (*new* @ Fetish Fair)

pose by Foxcity
scene:
SAYO SCENES – Moderna Courtyard – COMMON
+Half-Deer+ Sakura Petals

Setting Off Alarms

Time for some more real talk. This time, I’m talking about profiles, the kinds of profiles that should set off alarms. You ready? Let’s get it started! Going to just list off some common things I see around the grid that should set off alarms based on my almost 11yrs on the grid.

1. Profiles that read, “Just came back to SL after a long break.” Chances are this person is an alt. I’m not saying don’t talk to them, but take it slow and watch them closely.
2. Profiles that have threat picks. You know the ones…”if you touch/hurt so & so, I will rip your heart out of your chest and shove it down your throat” kinda picks. Clearly, they’re not going to do any of that and the fact that they feel the need to make such threats publicly shows a lack of maturity and intelligence.
3. Blank profiles. C’mon people, put some effort into you SL. Blank profiles suggest you’re an alt or terribly boring. Either way…ALARM bells!
4. Overtly sexy profile pics. Legs spread with a bottle between your legs, may be a hot a picture, but its sending a message to everyone that looks at your profile. Skank that likes to drink. You either want nothing but sex or you’re desperate for attention.
5. The declaration against drama. I’m going to tell you right now. These people are usually the ones stirring the pot, then stepping back with their popcorn to watch the damage. RUN! Let me explain, you cannot get through life without drama. Don’t believe me, perhaps you need to see the definition of drama. Do allow me to enlighten you.
|||||drama: any situation or series of events having vivid, emotional, conflicting, or
striking interest or results|||||
6. Declaration of being a bitch/asshole. Chances are they’re correct, so why even bother. These people have up walls and they’ve just informed you of that fact. Do you honestly feel like jumping through hoops for them before you’ve even gotten to know them?
7. Emo picks. If their picks are full of emotional vomit. They’re either going to bring you down or suck you into it. Its exhausting and seriously, did you come to SL for that?
8. Passive aggressive picks. They have a pick clearly aimed at someone they believe is watching their profile, but don’t have the balls to just say it directly to whomever they’re talking about. Chances are the next one could be aimed at you. Why bother?
9. Profiles that read like an online dating profile. There are actual sites & groups in SL for that, but overall that is not the main objective of Second Life. C’mon, everyone you meet here isn’t looking for love. Just stop it already.
10. Profiles that declare they keep SL & RL separate.  This is impossible unless that avatar is strictly for Role-Play purposes and says so straight away. Some aspect of the real person behind the avatar is involved with how they interact in this virtual world. This person is most likely hiding something.

So, there’s my top ten profile warning signs. It pays to read profile before approaching each other and often shows you whether or not you have something in common. 

trouble maker

wearing:
hair: Tableau Vivant \\ Alexa
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
skinDeeTaleZ *Appliers* CATWA Head “Face Miriam”
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo: [White~Widow]  Desierto – White (*new* @ Cosmopolitan)

[Atomic]  Kitten Collar
Amala – The Daddy’s Necklace
=Zenith=Leather Belt Gloves

LYBRA  DIXIE BLOGGERS (*new* @ Kinky)

pose by Foxcity (edited with AnyPose)
scene:
MINIMAL  – Illusion III – *2*
7  – Peter’s Charcuterie
7  – Fire Alarm Light
7  – Fire Alarm Panel

The Edge

Its a music blog. Why? Because the world makes me sad and the lyrics to this song have really been weighing heavy on my mind lately. So, I’ll provide you with the link and this time, just a few of the lyrics. You can look up the rest if you feel so inclined. I don’t have a whole lot to say, because well, I just don’t. Shocking, I know, but even I run out of things to say sometimes.

Aerosmith Livin On the Edge

“If chicken little tells you that the sky is fallin’
Even if it wasn’t would you still come crawlin’
Back again
I bet you would my friend
Again and again and again and again and again”

balance

wearing:
hair(r)M Hair, No.49’17
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
skin: DeeTaleZ *Appliers* CATWA Head “Face Miriam”
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
Amala – The Daddy’s Necklace
Blueberry – Shyla – Knotted Top
Pretty Mess – Jersey Skirt (*new* @ Uber)
fri. – Edie Sandals (*new* @ Kustom9)

pose by Bauhaus Movement
location: Hazardous

Would You Rather…Wednesday

Would You Rather….Wednesday

Would you rather be able to talk with animals or be able to speak all foreign languages? Well, this is a pretty easy one for me, because I don’t really like people that much. *laughs* I mean, I like some people, but I’m not trying to talk to everybody and anybody. I’m a bit of a recluse, but I absolutely adore animals and would love to speak and communicate more effectively with my pets and any other animals that cross my path. Dr. Sady Doolittle at your service! Yes, I rather like the sound of that. I actually wanted to a be a veterinarian until I was in the fourth grade and watched the vet stick a thermometer up my cat’s ass. That was the end of that dream, right there.

animal party1

Just imagine if you could talk to animals, how much more interesting parties would be. Instead nationalities and races, I’d literally have different species and we would dance…and laugh…and laugh…and tell stories…the cat would yawn and tell us how boring we all are, because lets face it..cats are assholes. The sheep would be looking all paranoid knowing I have welsh friends like Rom and Tally. We’d all have to watch the raccoon, because everyone knows he double dips his chips. The music would have to be extra loud…because…well…the wolf thinks he can sing. The goat is especially fun for he laughs at all the worst jokes. If you started off thinking languages, bet you changed your mind now, huh?

animal party3

Alright, so please reply on any social media you find the blog on and let’s see what you’d rather do. Meanwhile, there’s so much goodness to show off in these pictures. I had to multiples to show it all off. I have tons of critters from Jian and all of these are from that amazing store, but don’t think this is all they have, because they have tons more stuff! Check out their mainstore and take some lindens with you, because if you like animals in your SL, you’re going to fall in love!

animal party2

Oh, I’m not finished…*laughs*..Collabor88 is officially open and as always Cynful has delivered something heavenly! Of course, C88 always has an abundance of goodies and always takes a serious chunk of my lindens! Don’t even get me started on what’s coming tomorrow at ON9…oh hell, I’ve already started! Hair, poses, clothes, furniture…you do not want to miss it! Alright, enough reading…go, go shop to your heart’s content…there’s so much out there just waiting for YOU! ♥

wearing:
hair: .:EMO-tions.. *STARS* (*new* @ ON9)
head: CATWA HEAD Catya
eyes: CATWA Mesh Eyes w/-SU!– [CATWA & OMEGA HUD] Xenira Eyes ALL COLORS
eyeshadowIzzie’s – Catwa – Applier Dark Metallic Eyeshadow Hud
dimples: Izzie’s – Catwa Dimples Hud
lipstick: [PF] CATWA LIPSTICK Applier – Glossy Pout
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
hands: -VA-VISTA BENTO

CODEX_QUEENIE CHOKER (*new* @ Chapter Four)
Amala – The Moon & Stars Necklace – Silver
Amala – The Daddy’s Necklace
Noodles – Positivity Bangles : Pack Six
**RE** ReVoX Aros Couple Bracelet – Female
[FORMANAILS] BALLERINA -2
**RE** Luxy Rings Set (*new* @ Chapter Four)
[ kunst ] – Wire ring (left)

[Cynful] Bombshell Top (*new* @ C88)
[Cynful] Bombshell Pants (*new* @ C88)
REIGN.– ARIANNA SNEAKERS

poses: FOXCITY.Dance Set (*new* @ ON9)

scene:
[Bad Unicorn] ‘South Bank’ Backdrop (*new* @TMD)
[Cb] Garden Party Chair (*new* @ ON9)
[Cb] DANCE sign (*new* @ ON9)
[Cb] Springtime Planter Trio White (*new* @ ON9)
[Cb] PARTY sign (*new* @ ON9)
Jian :: Maybelle the Sheep (Animated)
Jian :: Chester the Goat (Animated)
JIAN :: Squirrel (Wanderer)
JIAN Fennec :: Static (Sleep L) (*new* @ Whimsical)
JIAN Holiday Huskies :: Held Pup (Grey)
JIAN Grey Wolf :: Static Howl
JIAN Fennec :: Static (Turn R)
JIAN :: Raccoon Static (Feed)
JIAN Kitten Collection :: *FaMESHED Bonus* Sitting Kitten

Dark & Merry Christmas?

I’m a tad different from everyone else in my family, which should come as no shock to anyone that knows me or where I live. Most of my close friends in SL know that my RL bedroom has dark burgundy walls and all of my decor is black & white, with an abundance of skulls on the walls, shelves, and even the bed. Its a pillow, calm down, I don’t sleep with skeletons. My favorite holiday is Halloween and I love all the clearance sales after Halloween, because its a great time to pick  up new and interesting decor.

gothmus2

So, what does this have to do with Christmas? Well, for a while we would put up a tree in every room of our house, smaller table top trees, of course. My favorite tree of all time was an artificial black tree that I decorated with black, silver, and red ornaments. So, when I discovered that there were actually some goth themed ornaments and decor at Tannenbaum I was elated! It really doesn’t matter what kind of tree you want to have…the proper decor will be at Tannenbaum! So, if traditional or candy colored Christmas isn’t your style? Then to you I wish a Dark & Merry Christmas!♥

gothmus3

Tis the season for shopping, Tannenbaum AND Uber just opened! Trust me, there are finds at every turn just waiting for you so mix them up and create a festive winter look all you own. As always, keep smiling and happy shopping! ♥

wearing:
hair: #Foxy – Candy Clouds. (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
CATWA HEAD Gwen
[theSkinnery] Opal (Catwa Applier) (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
::SG:: Lets Go Eyeshadow – JESSICA HEAD Catwa
::SG:: Clara Lips for CATWA Heads only!
**RE** Lux Krista Earrings
Amala – The Sibley Spider Choker
[ kunst ] – Cigarette & holder
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
BUENO – Open Cardigan (*new* @ Uber)

scene:
.aisling. Candles
Corvus : Black Mesh Rug
DRD burtonesque gothic chair
[BDKX] -//- Merry Krampus  (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
MadPea – The Witching Hour – Wall Sconce
[BDKX] -//- Dressed Table 03  (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
Can’t Even – Bauble Xmas Tree (Silver and Black)  (*new* @ Tannenbaum)

tree & decor: (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
Botanical – Douglas Fir Christmas Tree for Tannenbaum
ornaments are a variety from the following tree decor gachas
Fancy Decor
The Horror!
[Fetch]
Garbaggio

poses by Bauhaus Movement

Ride

My friend, Kobie, recently blogged his girlfriend and one of my best friends, Grace Sixpence. I loved the idea so much that I’ve decided to do the same. Today, I’m blogging Tracy Redangel.  You see, she’s had a tremendous impact on my life and despite the way I pick at her on Facebook…she is priceless to me. She had no idea what I was writing about when I asked her to pose with me for these pictures. I’m sneaky that way and if she actually reads this post, she’s probably starting to sniffle, because despite her fiery red headed reputation…she does have a soul and it is as deep as any ocean you can imagine.

ride

She and I had a bit of a rocky start, but one late night Skype conversation altered the paths of our Second Lives forever and I couldn’t be more grateful. This woman aggravates me, supports me, loves me, and makes me laugh way too hard. (yes, when she makes me laugh so hard I can’t breathe, that’s too hard) She truly is my late night partner in crime and encourages trouble at every turn. I ♥ Tracy! She’s really amazing and lets my torment roll off her back like water on a duck, because she’s been through enough in her life to know when to take someone seriously and when to shrug it off. Yeah, I envy that about her, too. She’s as beautiful inside as she is outside and to make matter worse? That’s true in BOTH worlds! I’ll give you a minute to hate her, but then you’ve got to come back and lover her as much as I do. ♥

ride-2

As Tracy and I became closer, we decided to put each other in our profiles. We didn’t talk about it. We just did it and happened to notice that we both did it around the same time. When I saw what she wrote and the song she chose for me…I cried for over an hour. She knows me and gets me like no one ever has. I should hope that you all have a friend this amazing someday, if not now. (I’ve added the song to the bottom of the post.) From beginning to end, it fits me pretty damn well…just like Tracy. Never let it be said that true bonds aren’t built in a virtual world, because this is one person I intend to keep in my life forever. I am blessed with a multitude of incredible friends, but Tracy is one of my absolute best friends which makes her extra special. Yes, in the short bus, hockey helmet way, but in other ways, too. *winks*

ride-3

So, you’re looking at a lot of stuff in these pictures. Let me start with the scene, because while I didn’t use the pose included, I did use the backdrop provided with the Riders pose set from Come Soon. Its one of the things I love about their poses. You get these incredible scenes that you can use repeatedly with other poses. The bikes are from Optmus Race and come with an endless array of couple’s poses. Yes, you can also drive them!  Now, as most people know, my friends and I are shopaholics. Tracy are those hud humpers that must get into an event as soon as humanly possible. So, all the deets for our ensembles are below and if they’re currently at an event, the link is there for that, too. Happy Shopping! ♥

Tracy is wearing:
hair: #Foxy – Drogon. (*new* @ Hairology)
CATWA HEAD Annie
[Z O O M] Aviator Classic – Petroleum
MG – Earrings – Vallari Hoops
body: Belleza– Isis
**RE** Brooke Suede Jacket – Isis – Black
Blueberry / Tink / Knee High Sizes
REIGN.- Mishi Thigh High Boots

Sady is wearing:
[monso] My Hair – Jihyo (*new* @ Kustom9)
CATWA HEAD Gwen
-SU!- Sytpal Eyes SILVER
Glam Affair – Barbara Applier ( Catwa  ) Europa 02 (*new* @ Kustom9)
.4 [ kunst ] – Septum Keeper (left)
earrings: [CX] Bound Gears
[NikotiN] Rainbow_Black RARE
Amala – The Kylie Choker – Thick
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
Letis Tattoo :: Hamal :: MM16023 :: (*new* @ ULTRA)
//Ascend// Gitana Fringed Top / Black (*new* @ Mesh Body Addicts)
gloves: [CX] Soul Grips
rings & nails:**RE** Precious Set
Blueberry – Luxe Box – November Skirt (Nov Luxe Box)
[VALE KOER] BELLA SUEDE BOOTS (*new* @ Kustom9)

scene:
Tracy’s bike (red one): OR R900 YZR-M1 EXECUTOR HASS
Sady’s bike (black one): OR R900 YZR-M1 EXECUTOR DARKYN
*CS* Riders – Full Scene
poses by Tracy Redangel