Show Some Love

So, there’s been a lot of hurt feelings on Facebook this week, because of a newish thing called Sarahah. It was designed for businesses so that employees could leave constructive feedback for each other, but it quickly found its way to Facebook and the SL community latched on. We were off and running. Many people refused to take part, knowing full well they would not take it well if insulted or while others publicly voiced their disdain for the site suggesting that if one could not say it without hiding behind anonymity they had no business saying it at all. Meanwhile, many were like me and saw it as something fun to do and jumped right off the bridge into the Sarahah internet river.
From there it either went uphill or downhill. For many it went downhill very quickly. Designers got attacked rather viciously. Yes, many of them received a lot of praise as well, but actual constructive criticism seemed to be absent. Many others reported being attacked and bullied. While some of these people took it in stride, others were quite hurt by the cruel words they found from anonymous contributors. A few even became aware of several secret admirers. While others found disturbing messages about people wanting to wear their skin or keep their eyeballs in jars. *giggles* I can’t begin to imagine who would have left such disturbing messages. *giggles again* I think almost everyone received some positive and loving messages, regardless of whatever else they found.
I personally received a total of 34 messages, most of which were very loving, kind, and positive. I was quite surprised and honestly, I little disappointed. I had prepared myself for some serious insults. I thought surely someone would be hateful, but I was quite fortunate. I think the closest I came to an insult was a rather astute observation from someone claiming not to know me very well. I had to laugh, because they were pretty accurate with what they said although they used an outdated terminology for their diagnosis of my mental health. *laughs* I had a few somewhat flirtation comments and a few that made no sense. I got no weird or insulting comments. Mostly, it was love and I was overwhelmed.
I was quite surprised by the reactions of a few that received negative comments. Some basically threw tantrums all over Facebook. Others quickly realized they did not possess the thick skin necessary to handle cowardly insults and shut down their Sarahah links. While others kept up their pages and found a new topic to bitch about on social media.
I am saddened that so many used it to bully and abuse others, but so goes the way of the internet. I think it’s important for everyone to remember that no matter what hateful or negative comments you received, there are far more people that love you. You are beautiful and wonderful in your own way. You are all amazing creatures. Whether you participated or not, please know that you are loved…not just by me, but many others. It is my hope that this weekend we will all remind the ones we love that they are special to us. As you proceed through your weekend and eventually into next week, show some love…not just to others, but to yourselves as well. ♥

get some balls

wearing:
hair: [RA] Jessica Hair (*new* @ Hairology)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara

[Atomic] Kitten Collar
Amala – The Daddy’s Necklace
Scandalize. Revolve. (*new* @ Tres Chic)

pose by Foxcity
MINIMAL – Retro Backdrops *8* (*new* @ REWIND)

Wheels

She had been skating since she was in the first grade. She could skate before she even learned how to ride a bike. There was something so free about having wheels under her feet, almost as if she could fly. When she skated she felt free. As a kid she would lose herself in the music skating in circles at the skating rink, but as she got older she found the most joy in skating along in abandoned warehouses and parking garages, provided they had a smooth surface and if they didn’t well, she made a game of jumping cracks and rocks. Sure, she got some bruises and scratches from failed attempts, but that was all part of the fun. She had tried the inline skates, but they just didn’t feel right and she preferred the classic skates and always would.

practice

wearing:
hair
: MINA – Tina (*new* @ Kustom9)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo: .Identity. Body Shop – Rise Strong

Scandalize. Zenda top (*new* @ Tres Chic)
Scandalize. Zenda shorts (*new* @ Tres Chic)
fri. – Footless Socks
N-core SKATES

GingerFish Poses – Rollin (*new* @ eBento)
[Bad Unicorn] ‘B1’ Backdrop

RBF

I’ve been dealing with RBF, Resting Bitch Face, all my life. I came by it genetically, that’s my excuse anyway. My mother always looked mad unless she was laughing or smiling, even then she had a tight lipped smile. She had dental issues that she was ashamed of. Honestly, I don’t think anyone would have noticed, because her laugh is adorable and her smile is radiant. But hey, we all have something we really hate about ourselves, right? My father was in the U. S. Army for 20 years, so again, very serious and stern face, unless smiling or laughing. Funny thing is I really wanted to have one of those pretty faces that could look at a camera all sultry like, but alas…I,, too, was cursed with RBF! No such luck! I quickly learned that if a camera came out, I had to show an expression or look pissed off. Mostly, I just avoid being in front of the camera in RL, just another thing I love about Second Life. I can do things here that I can never do in the real world. Like NOT having RBF if I don’t want to. *giggles* Then again, its easy enough to have one, too. *grins*

bitchface

wearing: 
hair
: #Foxy – Mai Hair (*new* @ N21)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
piercing: 1.::GB::Lip piercing (Catwa Kathy) (Cross chain) RARE (*new* @ Shiny Shabby)
.:E.A.Studio:. Era Bracialets (*new* @ Tres Chic)
PM – Fairy Bodysuit BLACK WHITE (*new* @ LootBox)

pose: GingerFish Poses  Red Light Queen 11 poses stand (*new* @ eBENTO)

Devil in Me

“I don’t wanna wake it up
I don’t wanna wake it up
I don’t wanna wake it up
The devil in me”
Halsey- Devil in Me

Have you ever met someone that just brings out the worst in you? They might not have done anything to you, but for some reason there’s just this instant dislike of them? It happens to me from time to time and I’m hoping I’m not the only one. Maybe I’m just the only one willing to admit it. Surely not. When I do meet people like that, I try to be polite and just keep my distance. So, its not really a problem.
Then there’s those people that just run around doing all kinds of dirt to other people. They haven’t done anything to me, that I know of, but I’m not trying to get close to people like that either, but then they go and do something really nasty to someone you love. *sighs* Its really hard to keep my mouth shut in situations like that. I know I should trust the person who has been offended to take care of themselves and most of the time I do. However, in case I never mentioned it before…I happen to be human and with that comes some faults. I know, I know, you thought I was perfect. *laughs* Let me tell you now…there are times when its all I can do to keep myself in check. I’m not talking about threatening someone online. I’m talking about just reading a bitch like a book. Front to back, side to side, up and down…and I’ve been told on a few occasions my words can cut deeper than any knife. Having lost more than one friend in the past to my apparently razor sharp words I really don’t wanna wake up the devil in me.

releasing the demon

wearing: 
hair
.Shi x Messiah : Hair / Unisex . Common 2
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
eyes: CATWA Mesh Eyes Pack w/:Conviction: Viscous Eyes [HUD]
eyeshadow-SU!– Somber Eyeshadow +CATWA APPLIER+
lipstick: -SU!- The Matte Lip Essentials //Catwa BENTO//
skin: Glam Affair – Molly – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Artic (*new* @ Arcade)
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo.::Nanika::. Gaia tattoo Black (*new* @ Tres Chic)
piercing.:E.A.Eclipse:.  Nerfertiti Piercing Mouth

Phedora ~ Edwin body harness (*new* @ Somber)
S&P Like A Prayer – clamps black
[CX] Piton Pumps – Black ( Maitreya )

pose by Del May

Is My Dark Side Light?

What if I told you that my dark side is actually pink & fluffy or blue & ruffled? You see, its not abnormal at all to see me dressed head to toe in black…or white for the rebelling rebel in me. I have this random side of me that absolutely adores soft pinks and blues. Every once in a while, I like to dress up in super girly colors and outfits. It confuses my friends…*giggles*
When I paired up this Brigitte bodysuit from le fil casse with the Lily heels from Phedora, I knew I would be as girly as girly gets…ruffles! RUFFLES! And not the delicious chips that go great with french onion dip, either. Actual ruffles on me! Yeah, yeah, but look how pretty!!!
I have a reputation for being the dark, cynic among my friends, but one look at me in frills and they know there’s a hopeless romantic lurking beneath the surface and I’m okay with that. I am a lot of things, my style reflects that. What can I say? Oh, I know!
*starts singing* I feel pretty…ooh so pretty….

Lilly heels

wearing:
hair:   MINA – Zahra
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

(Yummy) Crystal Love Choker
{le fil casse} Brigitte Bodysuit Maitreya RARE *new* @ Epiphany)
Phedora ~ Lilly heels (*new* @ TresChic)

pose: Sage Poses – Rilassato
Stockholm-Bed by Bazar

See, Tracy?

Once upon a time, my friend Tracy came to my house in Second Life. We sat on the couch and were playing with the poses (PG poses, you pervs!) and one of them made it look like I was petting her knee. Thus began a long standing joke about Tracy and her hairy knees. So, when I was looking for a pose to show off these gorgeous new wedges from Bueno, I ran across this one from Klubwerk. The first thought in my head was, “See, Tracy? This is what smooth legs look and feel like…is nice, yeah?” For some reason this was also said in a strange foreign accent like the one used for Brüno in that crazy movie.
So there you have it, a little peak into the bizarre mind of me! You also see what Tracy puts up with as my friend. Lucky for me, she’s a good sport and takes it all in stride…even if she has hairy knees.

bueno eastudio

wearing:
hair:  [^.^Ayashi^.^] Sakura hair (*new* @ Bloom)
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

.:E.A.Studio:.BOX Thetra Nails & Ring Set (*new* @ Tres Chic)
KITJA x :PARKER: – Tasha Top (*new* @ Kustom9)
KITJA x :PARKER: – Tasha Shorts (*new* @ Kustom9)
BUENO– Wedges (*new* @ Kustom9)

pose by KlubWerK.poses

scene set up in 22769 – Patio – RARE (*new* @ Bloom)
22769 – Patio Chair Sunset – COMMON (*new* @ Bloom)
22769 – Sheer Boho Drape – COMMON (*new* @ Bloom)

Return of Spring

I can’t speak for every corner of the globe, but it certainly seems as though winter and spring have had quite the torrid affair this year. My tulips were blooming at the end of February as it was unusually warm. Hell, we ever had our windows open at night for a several days in a row. Until last week, my area (Northern Alabama) had one day of winter a week, the rest were more like spring. Then last week, we were back to the frigid tundra. It was cold and dreary, windy and rainy. Yesterday, the temperatures were so warm we were able to bathe the dog outside. I’m hoping this is the end of the wonky weather and this return of Spring temperatures if finally official. I absolutely adore Spring. The birth of flowers and sense of renewal that comes with crisp spring morning air…yes, its exactly what my tired spirit needs as I approach the next twelve months of my real life. I am filled with hope and wonder. I’m hoping that things really do work out for the best and I’m wondering what this next few steps in my life holds, because these are the final chapters of a very dark period of my life.

return of spring

I’m looking forward to overcoming some very serious fears. I’m about to face down some of my fiercest demons. And I’m going to win…or die trying. I have decided that I did not come this far in my life to just roll over and surrender to circumstances, regardless of what part I’ve played along the way. Its time for me to step up and do what’s right for me. I hope that the return of spring will fill you all with hope and wonder. In the meantime….*grins*…Happy Shopping!♥

wearing:
hairNO.MATCH_NO.PERMISSION.
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
eyes: CATWA Mesh Eyes w/-SU!– [CATWA & OMEGA HUD] Xenira Eyes ALL COLORS
dimples: Izzie’s – Catwa Dimples Hud
lipstick: [PF] CATWA LIPSTICK Applier – Glossy Pout
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
hands: -VA-VISTA BENTO

**RE** Simone Heart Collar
[Cynful] Coax Necklace (March 2017 Groupgift)
The Annex – Daisy – Floral 4 – (*new* @ Tres Chic)

pose: Bounce Poses
location: Luane’s Magical World