Mood Swings

Our minds are so freaking powerful and yet can also be so very weak at the same time. There’s been a lot of recent controversy about designers in SL, then there was a rather large debate about suicide…lots of opinions and a handful of facts. The truth is, what may seem weak and selfish (suicide) to one, may seem courageous, even enviable to others. We all like to sit up and judge one another for this and that, but the truth is no one knows how another person’s mind works. As a person that has suffered from extreme mood swings my entire life, I can tell you that what might send me over the edge one day, will slip right off my back the next. I’m sure they call them mood swings because that how it feels…like our emotions are just swing through out minds like a monkey on a vine in the jungle. However, what if we were to look at them as literal swings that we can actually control. As we feel a negative swing sweeping us off our feet, we don’t have to fuel that mood with the push and pull that powers a swing. No, we can just surrender and let the swing come to a stop. Then we can get down and choose a better swing. I don’t know if that makes sense to anyone else, but I often write these things for myself more than anyone else. As I try to remind myself not to jump off the swing while its too far back or too far forward, I hope that others will do the same.

This post is not about right or wrong. I think grown folks should already know that. I’ve got nothing good to add to the designer drama. This is merely a post about mood swings with a photo I took before any of the drama even occurred.

wearing:

hair:  Vanity Hair::Soul Sista
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: DeeTaleZ *Appliers* CATWA Head “Myra”

[Sexy Princess] Amalfitana Black Outfit

-[Sexy Princess] Amalfitana Bra 

-[Sexy Princess] Amalfitana Suit

-[Sexy Princess] Amalfitana Boots

pose: FOXCITY. Surface Set

scene:

Heart – Ancient Stone Pathway

[we’re CLOSED] swing natural wood

White Noise

“People think depression is dark: it is
White noise covering the mental landscape”
― Richard L. Ratliff

Sady is wearing:
hair: .Olive. the Victoria v2 Hair (*new* @ REWIND)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: Glam Affair – Lily – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica (*new* @ Kustom9)
tattoo: **RE** Surya Tattoo – Common – Gold
.:E.A.Studio:. BOX Collar Oculus Cross
Kibitz – Zaris bracelets – gold
(Yummy) Nightmare Ring Set
[Sexy Princess] White Diva

pose: an lar [poses] The Opaque Series
[ isuka ] destiny backdrop

Because I Can

I love dressing super sexy/slutty in SL, because I can. I’ve been known to dress up like an elf, a cat, a murderer, a skater, a devil, and a variety of other things. My avatar is also much thinner than me in RL and she is forever young. She is anything I want her to be, all based on how I’m feeling at the moment. That’s the beauty of Second Life, right? We can be just about anything we want? Now, I understand that if you dress as an elf and go to an RP sim where there are other elves, people will assume you are there to RP. The same can be said about any of the characters. I mean, there seems to be a sim for everything these days, whether RP or not. So, naturally if I’m dressed overtly sexy or slutty and I hang out at a popular adult club, its going to happen that someone is going to say something or do something that would not be okay in the real world. I’m not easily offended in either world.
However, as an adult woman in her 40s, I find the age difference disconcerting at times. I hear people say all the time that age is just a number, but I disagree. Age is much more than a number. Age is a reflection of time spent alive, it suggests decades of changes that were either witnessed first hand or merely learned by historians. If I’m closer to your mom’s age than I am to yours, things are going to be weird at times. I know, I’ve been there more than once. Yes, it took more than one for me to learn my lesson. The lesson I learned is that it matters to ME. I always find it ironic when a guy is hitting on me and I ask his age. The minute he tells me he’s under a certain age, I wince and shake my head. I won’t deny that its somewhat flattering when they say, “I like older women” or “age doesn’t bother me.” But c’mon, let’s be real, we all know they are most likely just trying to get laid and that’s fine. Again, adult club…its to be expected. What I find amusing is that they assume that their opinion on the age difference is the only one that matters. Uhm, hello? I asked the question for a reason. I’m not going to relate romantically to a 20yr old guy. Sure, they can lie and say they are older, but the truth will come out eventually. There are certain things that people in their 20s simply could not have experienced and certainly wouldn’t remember, because it happened before their time.
This is not to say that I’m not capable of being friends with people of all ages. We can certainly learn a lot from one another, but knowing that you weren’t even born when I graduated high school? Meh, sorry boys, it just turns me off. So, even if you’re just wanting to get laid, try paying attention to what the woman is saying. The questions she asks means those topics are important to her. This goes both ways, all ways, regardless of gender and/or sexual preference, obviously.

wearing:
hair: RAMA.SALON – Cherry Hair (*new* @ Blush)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: Glam Affair – Viktoria Applier

[Sexy Princess] Blossom Top & Skirt (*new* @ DAZZLE)
[Avenge] Sparkling thong (*new* @ Kinky)

pose by Del May
BUENO-Hallway-Miami (*new* @ Arcade)