Ready or Not

So, it’s been a few years since I started a year single and I have to say that its definitely been interesting. I’ve had a variety of people approach me. I’ve gotten to the point where I just ask them some basic questions so I know where to file these people. Let’s face it, first impressions are a bitch. It’s actually really strange, because I’m quickly figuring out that I don’t have time for a relationship. I’ve met guys that can’t carry a conversation to save their lives. I’ve met guys that are far far far too young for me. I’m sorry, but age is more than a number and I know that to be true from my own experiences. I’ve met guys that tell me straight out, they want a fuck buddy or booty call. *laughs* While I appreciate them cutting to the chase with me, it tends to make me giggle. I have two mottos:

1. I do what I want.
2. So goes life.

So, ready or not, I’m hitting the grid with no agendas. I love talking to new people, but I don’t necessarily mesh with everyone. You just might run into bouncing around the grid from time to time, don’t be afraid to say hi….I only murder innocent people. And no, I’m not gonna fuck you just cuz you got cute pixels, but I might take your picture. *winks*


Ready or not, here I come, you can’t hide
Gonna find you and take it slowly
You can’t run away
From these styles I got, oh baby, hey baby
Cause I got a lot, oh yeah
And anywhere you go
My whole crew’s gonna know baby, hey baby

hair:  pr!tty – Demy
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
OLQINU : visual mask <thug>  (Feb PocketGacha)
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery] Saska
Moon Elixir – Coven – 6 – Maitreya – Arm Wraps – Charcoal
.:E.A.Studio:.Obsess Claw Maitreya
[Cynful] Dream Babe Bodysuit (*new* Mainstore)

pose: FOXCITY. Breather VOL1 Animated Pose Set (*new* @ N21)
FOXCITY. Photo Booth – Urban Jungle (*new* @ N21)


Only Love

You can find a link to the song at the bottom of the page. I’m still playing catch up from when I had the flu, so just hang in there with me. Not all of my posts can be as entertaining as one that awaits around the corner.

Only Love Can Hurt Like This – Paloma Faith

I tell myself you don’t mean a thing,
And what we got, got no hold on me
But when you’re not there I just crumble
I tell myself I don’t care that much,
But I feel like I die ’til I feel your touch,

Only love, only love can hurt like this,
Only love can hurt like this
Must have been a deadly kiss
Only love can hurt like this

Say I wouldn’t care if you walked away,
But every time you’re there I’m begging you to stay,
When you come close I just tremble
And every time, every time you go,
It’s like a knife that cuts right through my soul

Only love, only love can hurt like this
Only love can hurt like this,
Must have been a deadly kiss,
Only love can hurt like this,
Only love can hurt like this

Your kisses burn into my skin,
Only love can hurt like this
But it’s the sweetest pain,
Burning hot through my veins,
Love is torture makes me more sure
Only love can hurt like this

Only love can hurt like this,
Only love can hurt like this,
Must have been a deadly kiss,
Only love can hurt like this,

Only love can hurt like this,
Your kisses burn into my skin,
Only love can hurt like this,
Only love can hurt like this,
Save me, save me,
Only love, only love,
‘Cause only love can hurt like this
And it must have been a deadly kiss

once upon a grid

hair:  Doe: Crinkle Fries
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery] Saska (Catwa Applier) honey
Astralia – Scorpion rings (*new* @ N21)
UC Doom_top
UC Doom_shorts (FaMESHed until the 27th)

pose: GingerFish Poses – Bad at Love set



Alright, let’s talk. Ladies, I’m talking to you and myself. We’ve got to stop taking shit off these fuckers! Pay attention to the red flags! Ya know what? No, I’m not talking just to the ladies….guys, you need to listen up, too! Those red flags? Each new person you meet in SL, use the notes page of their profile, only you can see what you write there. Make a list of those red flags….every single one. Don’t let yourself forget them. Why? Because red flags are a big ass sign telling you to be careful and the more there are…well, run, dumbass! Don’t think you are going to be the one to change them or fix them. You won’t. Especially not in SL. Let’s face it, this is the land of broken souls. Let me list a few like I did with the Go Fuck Thyself post. These things apply to friendships & romantic relationships. Let’s just avoid the toxicity right up front, shall we?
Does s/he disrespect you by making overt sexual comments during your first conversation? RED FLAG!
S/He start IMs with “I’m bored.” RED FLAG!
His profile is full of all his female friends with no shout outs to a single guy? RED FLAG!
Her profile is full of all her male friends with no shout outs to any girls? RED FLAG!
Blank profiles! RED FLAG!
Immediately starts telling you that you need to change anything…from your avatar to your personality. RED FLAG!
Constantly crashes whenever the conversation gets serious. RED FLAG!
Always telling you how perfect you are? No one is perfect. They need to love you AND your flaws. Perfection is impossible and pedestals weren’t designed for two. RED FLAG!
Constantly needing to touch you, hold you too close, know your every move? Clingy much? RED FLAG!
Trying to rush you into a relationship? RED FLAG!
Do they try to isolate you? Keep you from your friends or not interested in meeting your friends? RED FLAG!
Not trying to introduce you to their friends? Claim they don’t really have any? RED FLAG!
Describe ALL of their exes as crazy? Well, you’re crazy if you don’t see this…RED FLAG!
Moody as fuck? Mean as hell one day, charming the next, sullen a day later? RED FLAG!
Super secretive about little stuff? Imagine how they are with big things. RED FLAG!
Sending you on so many guilt trips that you’re acquiring frequent flyer miles? RED FLAG!
They make you feel stupid, insult your intelligence, point out what you don’t know, mock your ideas, convinced they can change your mind? Gaslight much? RED FLAG!
Wants to keep your relationship a secret? RED FLAG!

I’m sorry to break it to you, but if you choose to ignore these red flags…well, prepare for some heart ache. I mean, maybe you’re not that emotionally invested…maybe these red flags won’t apply to you. Perhaps you have some arrangement that works for you and a friend, like FWB. I’m just saying if you want something serious with someone…these are just a few things to watch out for. In the meantime, hang in there, cuz we can do bad all by ourselves.

holding on for all I'm worth

hair:  TRUTH Lilo (*new* @ Uber)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: Glam Affair –  Catwa Applier – Clara – America 02
_CandyDoll_ Lily Shirt (*new* Mainstore)
_CandyDoll_ Lily Skirt (*new* Mainstore)
_CandyDoll_ Lily Heels (*new* @ N21)

pose: FOXCITY. Observe Bento Pose Set
MINIMAL – Illuminate Backdrop #4 (*new* @ Epiphany)



When I was taking this picture the song Waterfalls by TLC got stuck in my head. So, off I went in search of a cover. I found quite a few, but none that I like quite as much as this one. This is one of those timeless songs that we’ll just never get tired of like Time After Time by Cyndi Lauper. Anyway, the link and lyrics are below. If you’re not familiar with what the song is really about, please read over those lyrics first. Absorb them, understand them. There’s truly a beautiful lesson there. ♥

Waterfalls by TLC (Cover by ortoPilot)

A lonely mother gazing out of her window
Staring at a son that she just can’t touch
If at any time he’s in a jam she’ll be by his side
But he doesn’t realize he hurts her so much
But all the praying just ain’t helping at all
‘Cause he can’t seem to keep his self out of trouble
So, he goes out and he makes his money the best way he know how
Another body laying cold in the gutter
Listen to me
Don’t go chasing waterfalls
Please stick to the rivers and the lakes that you’re used to
I know that you’re gonna have it your way or nothing at all
But I think you’re moving too fast
Little precious has a natural obsession for temptation
But he just can’t see
She give him loving that his body can’t handle
But all he can say is, “Baby, it’s good to me”
One day he goes and takes a glimpse in the mirror
But he doesn’t recognize his own face
His health is fading and he doesn’t know why
Three letters took him to his final resting place
Y’all don’t hear me
Don’t go chasing waterfalls
Please stick to the rivers and the lakes that you’re used to
I know that you’re gonna have it your way or nothing at all
But I think you’re moving too fast
I seen rainbow yesterday
But too many storms have come and gone
Leavin’ a trace of not on God-given ray
Is it because my life is ten shades of gray
I pray all ten fade away
Seldom praise Him for the sunny days
And like his promise is true
Only my faith can undo
The many chances I blew
To bring my life to anew
Clear blue and unconditional skies
Have dried the tears from my eyes
No more lonely cries
My only bleedin’ hope
Is for the folk who can’t cope
Wit such an endurin’ pain
That it keeps ’em in the pourin’ rain
Who’s to blame
For tootin’ caine in your own vein
What a shame
You shoot and aim for someone else’s brain
You claim the insane
And name this day in time
For fallin prey to crime
I say the system got you victim to your own mind
Dreams are hopeless aspirations
In hopes of comin’ true
Believe in yourself
The rest is up to me and you
Don’t go chasing waterfalls
Please stick to the rivers and the lakes that you’re used to
I know that you’re gonna have it your way or nothing at all
But I think you’re moving too fast
Don’t go chasing waterfalls
Please stick to the rivers and the lakes that you’re used to
I know that you’re gonna have it your way or nothing at all
But I think you’re moving too fast


Sady is wearing:
hair:  *ARGRACE* MAYU – Light Browns
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: Glam Affair –  Catwa Applier – Clara – America 02
[Cynful] Coax Necklace – Groupgift March 2017
UC_Angel_wedding_dress (*new* @ Sense)

pose: FOXCITY. Melancholy Bento Pose Set (*new* @ N21)
FOXCITY. Photo Booth – Desolation (*new* @ N21)


Matching Shoes

The shoes have to match! And if you’re not wearing anything, lay back in a sunset and let your shoes match your nipples. What? It’s a thing….ask Tyche, she matches her panties to her nipples…if she’s wearing any. *grins* If you’re a girl, go buy the shoes. If you’re a straight man….you’re welcome? *giggles* Yeah, that’s all I’ve got for this one.


hair: .LeLutka.Dakota hair.
head: CATWA HEAD Lilly
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: DeeTaleZ  “Merrylu” Mixedtype
_CandyDoll_ Luiza Heels (*new* @ N21)

pose: Foxcity Sits Vol3 Set
Di’Cor Carson Leather Chair


I Do Not Understand…

So, I’m a profile perver, lots of us are…sometimes someone’s profile will even prompt me to speak to them. It could be something funny or inspiring. I love reading about how long a couple has been together or how close someone is to their friends. Sometimes, I find bits of conversations that are clearly a private joke, other times…private or not, it’s just plain funny. This tells me this person has a heart and a sense of humor. I love when they provide youtube links, because music can tell you a lot about someone. I love links to flickr and blogs. Personally, I love the funny profiles. Occasionally, I read opinions that are really quite interesting or that I might disagree with, but respect all the same. What I do not understand are the profiles filled with ignorance, hate, and self degradation.

A few examples:
1. About: “Go the fuck away.”  (Why even bother writing something? Leave it blank, I’ll go away anyway. RUDE!)
2. I’m honest which makes me come off as a bitch.  (Uhm, last I checked you could be an honest person without being rude and without advertising it. To be fair, if you have to advertise that you’re honest, I’m going to assume you’re not.)
3. If I IM you then be thankful, your avi is decent to look at (Yet, yours isn’t! Your profile is filled with nothing but sex groups, picks, and quotes. Gee, Mister, you sound kinda like a rapist. Was I asking for you to IM me by investing in my avatar?)
4. I’m here for my entertainment, not yours. It’s all about me. Single. (Gee, I wonder why you’re single…hmmm.)
5. Links to wishlists. (Does this really work? Do people just look at your profile and buy you things just because you asked? What are you offering in return?)
6. Long lists of likes and dislikes. (Seems to me, giving a list of dislikes is like giving away free ammo. And wouldn’t it be better for someone to get to know you, rather read a list of your likes and dislikes? Kinda reads like some sort of desperate ad on a dating app.)

I dunno, I just think its strange the way people advertise themselves. Although, I suppose some might think mine is strange, too. Mine reads like a resume and a set of love letters to my friends. *laughs* I suppose no one can really win, because if you’re too nice you sound fake. If you’re rude, you’re a bitch. If its blank, you’re an alt.


hair: tram G0511 hair
head: CATWA HEAD Lilly
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: DeeTaleZ  “Merrylu” Mixedtype
EF: Tidings Bento Rings
Scandalize. Britney (*new* @ N21)

pose: an lar [poses] The Alisha Series



“There’s nothing like eavesdropping to show you that the world outside your head is different from the world inside your head.” – Thornton Wilder

the weight of secrets
While listening at the door, she couldn’t believe what she heard!

hair:  pr!tty – Mary  (*new* @ TCF)
head: CATWA HEAD Lilly
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
Scandalize. Akima (*new* @ Cosmopolitan)
erratic / eva – knee socks plain

pose: Foxcity Steamy Set
[ isuka ] back alley blue backdrop


To Turn or Not to Turn

To turn or not to turn the wheel….THAT is the question. Its like putting a shiny flashing button in front of a child and telling them not to push it. I don’t know about you, but I know my lil ass would have pushed the button. So, putting a giant wheel in front of me isn’t much different. The real question will be whether or not I’m strong enough to turn it and can I do so without breaking a nail? *giggles*

hot in here

hair:  #Foxy – Whip Hair (*new* @ N21)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
//Naberius// The Manticore Collar (November ROMP)
_CandyDoll_Hayley Dress (*new* @ Kustom9)

pose: Foxcity Sweet Tea set
ninety – hospital #horror places #1



Serial Killers and Me

The other day I posted a blog asking my readers for topics for me to write about. I presented them the opportunity to challenge me with questions or random topics. I got a few responses and as promised, I’m going to use the topics and/or answer the questions, one way or another. So, one of my absolute best friends, Troy Nelson, posed the question, “Why are you so interested in serial killers?”

I’m not exactly sure why I’m so fascinated with them. The only plausible reason I can come up with is that as a child of the 70s, they were constantly in the news. Serial killers were the boogeyman and I wasn’t afraid of them. I was curious. I’m still curious. What makes them tick. What happened to them as children that they turned out that way. As I studied the most common profiles, I figured out that my father could have just as easily have become a serial killer. Then again, I suppose he still could be one, he’s just not been caught. I swear I wouldn’t be the least bit surprised. I suppose I’ve just always had a morbid curiosity for things that most children my age didn’t. I was far more curious about the devil than I was Jesus and I was far more interested in serial killers that super heroes. To answer Troy’s question….I don’t know, I just am.

What's on your mind

hair:  pr!tty – Jamie (*new* @ SaNaRae)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
tattoo: [White~Widow] Invictus II – Cat (*new* @ Uber)
BUENO-Knot Shirt (*new* @ Uber)
(Yummy) Serena Rings (*new* @ N21)

pose: GingerFish Poses – Doll Face set (*new* @ 4Mesh)
MINIMAL – Anniversary Background


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