Family Ties

“The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life.” ~Richard Bach
I haven’t started a blog with a quote that wasn’t a song lyric in a while, but this topic has been on my mind for some time now. Father’s Day occurred only two days ago and as I scrolled through Facebook I saw message after message about people’s fathers. Some were well wishes, some shared memories of fathers past, and then there were people like me that avoided the subject altogether. I can’t know why others avoided the subject, but I know why I did. I even had to tell Skype (yes, outloud) to stfu. Skype had a message that said, “Fathers are people, too!” My response was, “Not all of them! Some of them are monsters!” I don’t think its a secret that I’m another girl on the grid with daddy issues. Given how common abusive fathers seem to be, we’re merely statistics.
However, I’m not going to waste this post or your time bitching about my father. Instead, I want to embrace the blessing of family bonding with people I’ve never even met face to face. Like many other people in Second Life, I am part of a family. I don’t always feel like part of the family, as most of them really don’t talk to me much and to be fair, its not like I go out of my way to hunt them down and pursue conversations either. Yet, I do feel like a few of them would truly be there if I needed them.
I think the truest “family” I have on the grid would probably be the cunts. Now, hold on, don’t get your britches twisted, we call ourselves the Cunt Cult and we’re a group of besties. At the core there’s four of us, there’s a fifth one, but she’s off living the real life. (She fell in love! SQUEEEE!) Kess, Tracy, Grace, and I have built a bond unlike that I’ve ever known before. We’re not a clique. We don’t go around doing the whole mean girls thing, dressing alike, following a leader. Although, if we did, Kess would be it…she’s bossy like that. *laughs* My point is…while some of us don’t have traditional families in real life or even partake in family groups on the grid, we have each other. We have that bond between friends that is as strong, if not stronger, than any family ties I’ve ever known. For that, I am grateful.
I have so many circles of wonderful friends inworld that I am so grateful for and I love them each dearly. Though we may not speak every day and some not even every week, we are there for one another when it counts. I’m also grateful for my fur babies in real life, because they are just as much a part of my family as my mother or my husband. Even though they can’t make me coffee in the morning.
So, whatever kind of family ties you have, hold them close, hold them dear to you heart, and don’t wait for some “holiday” to celebrate them. Tell them today that you love them, because none of us are guaranteed a tomorrow.

family

wearing: 
hair
:  Lamb. Home (June Luxe Box)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
skin: Glam Affair – Polly – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica (*new* @ Arcade)
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
UC_Jane_Fringe_mini_dress_slate (*new* @ Kustom9)
#EMPIRE – Wandflower (June VIP Group Gift)

pose by Double Take
location: The Mill 

#SadyOnMyAss

A few months ago I was over the moon, a little confused, and a teensy bit overwhelmed as I was accepted to blog for Phedora. After my first full month of blogging for them, I won blogger of the month! I couldn’t believe it! This came with a monetary prize, as well as them using one of my pics for their flickr cover and I think their Facebook cover, too. I can’t remember about the last one to be sure. However, one of the other prizes was having a design named after me. I was over the moon. There were going to be shoes named Sady!?!?! A couple of months went by and I saw nothing. I had forgotten all about it until one day, Niki Demonix (wife of Lucifer…seriously) was winding the Phedora VIPs up about the WIP and what was coming to Kustom9, I jokingly asked if it was something fabulous named after me. Imagine my surprise when Niki sends me an IM with a gyazo showing me the edit box on a WIP that read Sadystika panties!!!!! WHAT?!?! Yes!
As crazy excited as I was to hear about this, she then begins a campaign with a hashtag: #sadyonmyass

So, if you’re scrolling through Facebook and noticing that hashtag, you can blame Niki. *laughs* I am finding it rather amusing and I do hope you’ll love the set as much as I do. Feel free to use the hashtag or not, but make sure you check it out, because this set is gorgeous!

Around the same time that this set came out, my best friend, Tracy Weston of GingerFish poses, released her top secret collaboration project for eBento. Its an astounding build called Red Light Queen. Its so big in face, that in order to show you the panties I could really only show you one of the poses inside one of the doors. She does have a full scale demo at the event, so if you love photography…if you love naughty pictures…this is a must have set. You will see it again on my blog, of that you can be sure!

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wearing: 
hair
:  TETRA – Pineapple Hair (FLF June 16, 2017)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
skin: Glam Affair – Polly – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica (*new* @ Arcade)
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

Phedora ~ Sadystika Set  (*new* @ Kustom9)

pose & scene: GingerFish Poses – Red Light Queen (*new* @ eBENTO)

Most Girls

“You know some days you feel so good in your own skin
But it’s okay if you wanna change the body that you came in
‘Cause you look greatest when you feel like a damn queen
We’re all just playing a game in a way, trying to win at life”
Hailee Steinfeld – Most Girls

If you’re a girl, you’ve had to have heard it at least once in your life, “You’re not like most girls.” Of course, I’m not. We’re all different. There are some common factors though and I think that proves true in Second Life more than anywhere else, because in SL most girls want their avatar to be the epitome of beauty as they see it. Oh sure, there are lots of us looking around at other girls in SL thinking, “WTF?” Truth be told, they either love the way they look or they’re simply having fun with their avatar and probably change their avatars regularly. Even if we think an avatar is outdated with bling and/or flexi hair/clothes…a system body/head…perhaps those girls simply don’t like the look of mesh or maybe their computers can’t handle it. Its not for me to say and sure, I’m guilty of giggling with my friends about other avatars, but at the end of the day…who is to say they’re not giggling at us? I’m not trying to make anyone feel guilty for the giggles, so long as those giggles and remarks are kept among friends. I’m not even saying that I won’t do it anymore, because I know I will. What I am saying is that we all have something about our avatars that someone else doesn’t like, but so long as we’re happy with ourselves…our avatars…our representations in a virtual world…THAT is what matters the most, isn’t it? So, if you have a tall thin avatar that resembles an anorexic runway model in the real world, but you love it…good for you and don’t you let anyone change your mind about that. If you have the enormous boobs and butt with the itty bitty waist, but you love it…good. There’s enough body shaming in the real world. Don’t you dare let anyone tell you that your avatar isn’t right, if YOU love it. Now, if you don’t love it…might I suggest you peruse some blogs and create a look you will love? *grins* Oh, just go enjoy the song, do some shopping, and laugh…it is Friday after all…hell, have a drink or five. Live your life and stop worrying about what most girls and doing and be you. ♥

most girls

wearing:
hair
TRUTH / Rumor
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo: .::Nanika::. Alexandra tattoo Black Maitreya
skirt{le fil casse} Lilith Skirt (*new* @ Somber)

pose by Foxcity (Cutiepie set)
BUENO-Onyx Hall (*new* @ Kustom9)

A Day at the Beach

Around this time last year, I was fortunate enough to meet some long time Second Life friends in the real world. It was an amazing weekend and over far too quickly and if I remember correctly, I think I even stayed a day longer than I originally planned. Mind you, Nikole kept my ass stoned from the time I got there until I left. Along with partaking in some pretty fine ass weed, Blondie’s RL took us all to a Japanese Steak house for dinner, where not only did Nik eat my yumyum (a really delicious sauce), but we found our official drink for the weekend. It was called A Day at the Beach and looks very much like the sky behind me. We had a grand weekend with that drink, by the pool…oh the stories and jokes…and the sunburn!
I’m so glad I can enjoy all the beaches and pools in SL without having to worry about getting a sunburn. Even with especially high SPF sunscreen, my RL self will still burn if I’m in the sun for more than an hour.

day at the beach

wearing:
hair:  tram G0511 hair (*new* @ Uber)
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skinGlam Affair – Polly – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica (*new* @ Kustom9)

L&B Swear Lilly Wrap Top (*new* @ Uber)
!Rebel Hope – Mesh Sarong

pose by Foxcity

location: Banana Bay

Holiday Weekend!

Whether you live in the U.S. and observe Memorial Day (not really a celebratory event) or in the UK where they have a bank holiday (that no one seems to know the reason for) or maybe you live somewhere else with a holiday today….for most people its been a three day weekend. In the US, regardless of the reason, a three day weekend usually means a cookout! It means a day outside, unless you live where I do at the moment….and here it simply means rain. Fortunately for me, I discovered (thanks to Facebook) a very cool new-ish weather app called WTForecast! This makes me laugh to no end and I’m sure my FB friends are quite tired of seeing me share my weather posts, but they are FUNNY! Okay, clearly I’m off track…*takes a minute to read back*….oh yeah, I was going to write about the different holidays. Nothing to really say about the bank holiday, cuz the only thing I can find about it is some jibberish about bank holidays in general, not an actual reason for this one in particular. Memorial Day, however, really should be considered a more somber occasion as its a day to recognize those that died while serving their country. But in the U.S. we are soooo commercialized its usually more like a day for sales and cookouts! Its a patriotic holiday at best, so I’ve donned some red, white, and blue….because like most Americans *hangs her head* I wasn’t thinking about what the holiday actually is, just that it was a three day weekend and what usually happens on three day weekends.
On that note, I am grateful for all the people that have served my country and my heart goes out to all the families of those lost to battles on our behalf. It is because of them that selfish little people like myself can forget the true nature of the day and enjoy the freedoms that their service affords me. Thank you.

memorial day_002

wearing:
hairTRUTH / Imani (*new* @ Uber)
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skinGlam Affair – Polly – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica (*new* @ Kustom9)
tattoo: .Identity. Body Shop – Appliers HUD [Tender Garden]

**RE** Simone Heart Collar
!Rebel Hope – Brinkly Mesh Bikini Top
L&B Swear Dita Denim Shorts (*new* @ Uber)

pose by Bauhaus Movement

location: Luane’s Romantic Sim (beach side)

Boop this nose, Sassy!

Last September, I did a droog look that I absolutely loved in an ironic post called, World Peace. So clearly, this is not the first time I’ve done a post that refers to one of my favorite movies, Clockwork Orange, but sometimes things just fall together in such a way that I cannot resist. This picture is one of those things. First ChicModa releases a retexture of the Kat dress that was originally released in the April BishBox with a boop graphics. I knew I had to blog it, because Sassy Nitely is the queen of booping. Then my dear friend, Kess Crystal, gave me an extra hair that she nabbed from a lock&tuft gacha and passed it to me saying, “cos nothing says Sady more than Clockwork Orange hat hair!” I love that she remembered how much I love that movie. Naturally, between the hair and the dress…and now, of course, the movie…I couldn’t help but think of the masks they wore in one particularly uncomfortable scene of the movie. I, also, couldn’t help but think of my friend, Rom, because he has such a mask. So, off to marketplace I went, because if I’m going to blog a boop dress with droog hair, I need the ultimate dick nose mask, Boop this nose, Sassy! *laughs* She’s going to kill me!
Alright, so once again, you’ve had a peek into my twisted little head and how things often unfold. *giggles* You all know by now that I’ve got a good heart, but a very mischievous side, as well. So, surely this is not surprise to any of you…not really.

boop

wearing:
hair:  lock&tuft – droog – variety UNCOMMON (*new* @ SaNaRae)
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
mask: Lewd :  Alex Maskie
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skinGlam Affair – Polly – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica (*new* @ Kustom9)

ChicModa // Kat T-Shirt Dress
=Zenith=Cosy long Gloves
*MUKA* Garter Socks
[VALE KOER] TACTICAL FLIP BOOTS

pose by Del May
MINIMAL – Underground Background -2- (*new* @ Uber)

 

XOXO

As I sit here this beautiful Saturday morning, smoking my cigarette and drinking my coffee, I can’t help but think about how blessed I am. I had a fantastic conversation with a new friend about the power of choosing to be positive. We talked about how there’s far too much hate and how there can never be too much love. So, in keeping with that I’m going to keep this short and wish you all an absolutely beautiful, positive, love filled weekend. XOXO

XOXO

wearing:
hair:  [monso] My Hair – Twobi (*new* @ Kustom9)
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skinGlam Affair – Polly – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica (*new* @ Kustom9)

Vinyl – Scars Turtleneck/Bra Pak (FLF May 27, 2017)
Vinyl – Florence Skirt
Phedora ~ Danielle Strappy heels (*new* @ Uber)

pose by Foxcity (includes cigarette)
MINIMAL – Underground Background -4- (*new* @ Uber)