I Do What I Want

So, I had two other posts planned to go ahead of this one, but those damn blogger cunt friends of mine, Grace and Kess, both had similar ideas and outfits. Its not that surprising, really. As we’ve been known to show up at the same places wearing the same outfits, much like Kess and I did today. I refuse to retake my photos or not share the ones I took, because I work hard on what I do, just like they do. However, I am going to wait a few days and if people want to think me a copycat, well, that’s ok, but the three of us all know how we are and its certainly got us in giggles. I love them and sometimes I swear we share a brain! So, I told them I was posting this picture today and showcasing the newest sensation from ChicModa…luckily, Grace is going with the gray version, so make sure you check out her blog, too! As I was going to write about doing what I want anyway, I think its pretty clear that we all do what we want!

do what I want

wearing: 
hair
[monso] My Hair – Kisa
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
skin: Glam Affair – Molly – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – America (*new* @ Arcade)
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo-7P-Paradise Tattoo
ChicModa // Eleanor Dress // BishBox June 2017
[CX] Soul Grips ( Black ) Female * Maitreya * (unpacked)
SU!– Nylon Stockings /Ripped/ BLACK

pose: GingerFish Poses – Smoked set
background: MINIMAL – Underground Background -1

#SadyOnMyAss

A few months ago I was over the moon, a little confused, and a teensy bit overwhelmed as I was accepted to blog for Phedora. After my first full month of blogging for them, I won blogger of the month! I couldn’t believe it! This came with a monetary prize, as well as them using one of my pics for their flickr cover and I think their Facebook cover, too. I can’t remember about the last one to be sure. However, one of the other prizes was having a design named after me. I was over the moon. There were going to be shoes named Sady!?!?! A couple of months went by and I saw nothing. I had forgotten all about it until one day, Niki Demonix (wife of Lucifer…seriously) was winding the Phedora VIPs up about the WIP and what was coming to Kustom9, I jokingly asked if it was something fabulous named after me. Imagine my surprise when Niki sends me an IM with a gyazo showing me the edit box on a WIP that read Sadystika panties!!!!! WHAT?!?! Yes!
As crazy excited as I was to hear about this, she then begins a campaign with a hashtag: #sadyonmyass

So, if you’re scrolling through Facebook and noticing that hashtag, you can blame Niki. *laughs* I am finding it rather amusing and I do hope you’ll love the set as much as I do. Feel free to use the hashtag or not, but make sure you check it out, because this set is gorgeous!

Around the same time that this set came out, my best friend, Tracy Weston of GingerFish poses, released her top secret collaboration project for eBento. Its an astounding build called Red Light Queen. Its so big in face, that in order to show you the panties I could really only show you one of the poses inside one of the doors. She does have a full scale demo at the event, so if you love photography…if you love naughty pictures…this is a must have set. You will see it again on my blog, of that you can be sure!

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wearing: 
hair
:  TETRA – Pineapple Hair (FLF June 16, 2017)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
skin: Glam Affair – Polly – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica (*new* @ Arcade)
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

Phedora ~ Sadystika Set  (*new* @ Kustom9)

pose & scene: GingerFish Poses – Red Light Queen (*new* @ eBENTO)

The 3F Rule

“I can swear, I can joke
I say what’s on my mind
If I drink, if I smoke
I keep up with the guys
And you see me holding up my middle finger to the world
Fuck your ribbons and your pearls
‘Cause I’m not just a pretty girl”
Maggie Lindemann – Pretty Girl

My mother was raised in a strict Christian home by a single mom that was too proud to accept charity of any kind, thus she worked three jobs to keep the bills paid. Yet, somehow never missed church or disciplining her daughters by reminding them to carry themselves a certain way. Afterall, what would people think? My father was raised in a very abusive home and was often hidden away from the public by his single mom. She would lock him in the basement on weekends so that she could pretend she only had two children, whose father had died during WWII. (Mind you he died in prison, not the war, but she conveniently left that part of the story out.) My father’s dad had left when he was only 3yrs old to pursue his drinking and drug addictions. Eventually my father joined the U.S. Army, where once again, life was all about appearances.
Needless to say, my parents expected me to behave a certain way. They taught me how to converse with adults politely, then disappear, as children were meant to be seen, not heard. My parents finally divorced when I was in high school and my mother was so beside herself with grief that she quit imposing so many rules on me. That was when I began to develop my own style and discover the person I wanted to be. I didn’t want to cater to society’s norms. I wanted to in the exit door and leave through the entrance. I wanted to wear short skirts over leggings with ripped tee shirts and wild hair.
For years, my mother tried to make me a princess. She wanted to decorate my room with ruffles and canopy beds. I wanted my mattress on the floor with tons of pillows. She quickly became very much like her own mother and repeatedly said to me, “What will people think?”
I didn’t care what people thought! If they didn’t know me, how could they have a proper impression of me? Based on my clothes? The color of my skin? The color of my hair? My eyes? Eventually I discovered the 3F rule and I’ve pretty much lived my life that way ever since.
The 3F rule is simple: If you are not Feeding me, Financing me, or Fucking me….you get no say in how I live my life and your opinion means nothing to me. I was never going to be what my mother wanted me to be, nor did I want to. Yes, she was feeding me and financing me at the time, but she still needed to let me be me…or there would be a fight. There were many of those over the years until she realized she was never going to win. I was not going to be this super feminine little princess that sat around waiting for some prince charming, because I learned early on…you can never truly know another person. The only person you can truly know is yourself and that’s the person you should be true to.

The 3F Rule

hair.:EMO-tions.. *PAOLA* (*new* @ Vintage Fair)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

.LYBRA . SADIE (*new* @ FaMESHed)

pose by GingerFish Poses
background: RAMA – #selfie_RAMA Circles Studio

Almost Ready

On the rare occasion that I wear full face make up in RL, lipstick is always the last thing I apply and its something I apply throughout the day if I’ve got the mind to do so. When I saw these poses from GingerFish, I had already aquired the Hair Salon backdrop from Astralia and knew immediately that this was going to work out wonderfully with my new hair from Mina and the Oh! Dress from Cynful. This is one of those pictures that I just had to get right and I hope that you like it as much as I enjoyed putting it all together.
Sometimes blogging is just that simple for me. Its things falling into place with the only effort on my part is taking the picture, editing, writing these words, and listing the credits.
I doubt there’s anyone out there that hasn’t heard the words, “Almost ready!” as they wait for someone to join them on an outing, whether its a night out, going shopping, a trip, or just going somewhere to hang out.

almost ready

wearing:
hair:  MINA – Shelley (*new* @ ULTRA )
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skinGlam Affair – Felicity – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica (*new* @ C88)
tattooRedFish – Anymore Tattoo (*new* @ Suicide Dollz)

[Cynful] The Oh! Dress

pose: GingerFish Poses – Lipstick Love 1*lipstick & compact included* (*new* @ eBENTO)

Astralia – Vintage backgrounds (Hair Saloon) (*new* @ Rewind)

Walk in the Park

I don’t know about where you live, but where I live we have a few parks. There’s one that’s right next to my house, but its not really a nice park. I mean, it is, but only if you’re an athletic child or a parent of an athletic child. There are ball fields and a gym…a little playground area, but nothing really aimed at adults. There’s a really nice one downtown in the city, but you have to drive to it, then pay for parking…that’s after maneuvering your way through a maze of one way streets. I see pictures, videos and, of course, scenes in movies of people visiting amazing parks in bigger cities and I’m honestly a bit envious. I guess its just another reason to be grateful for Second Life. I can go to any number of amazing parks and sims with just a quick teleport. Then you’ve got amazing designers like unKindness, along with many others, that allow us to create our very own special park right on our own land.

garden

There’s never been a better time to create such a park in SL as there is now, either. Bloom is in full effect until the end of the month and there are so many beautiful spring designs for both your avatar and your land. So, make sure you get over there before it ends and lets welcome summer with some spring in our step.

wearing:
hair:  :::Phoenix::: Vanessa Hair  (*new* @ Bloom)
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo: RedFish – Cafouillis tattoo (*new* @ Thrift Shop)

**RE** Simone Heart Collar
Storybook – Taryn (*new* @ Bloom)
Phedora ~  Sandra heels (*new* @ Kustom9)

pose: GingerFish Poses-Slow Burn5-Petite Mirror (*new* @ Pose Fair)

scene:
22769 – Cubic Box Tree Pot – COMMON (*new* @ Bloom)
uK – Stone Garden Wall Full (*new* @ Bloom)
uK – Stone Garden End (*new* @ Bloom)
uK – Stone Garden Arch (*new* @ Bloom)
NOMAD // Carnivorous Specimen A // Pink (*new* @ Bloom)
NOMAD // Carnivorous Specimen A // Purple (*new* @ Bloom)
*HEXtraordinary* Maiden Goddess Fountain (*new* @ Bloom)
NOMAD // Carnivorous Specimen B // Bright Pink (*new* @ Bloom)
NOMAD // Carnivorous Specimen B // Dark Yellow (*new* @ Bloom)

Something to Talk About

“OMG! I have something to tell you!”
This has been a common phrase in my circle of friends lately. I am so lucky to be besties with the likes of talented and incredible women! So much goodness happening in each of our Second Lives at the moment. I, for one, truly believe…no, I know for a fact, that none of what’s been happening for me would have even been possible without the support and encouragement of my gorgeous (inside & out) friends!
I was talking to a new friend yesterday and she was explaining how people in SL have completely annihilated her trust over the years. I told her she could finally put her trusting fears to bed, because she’s now friends with us and if there were ever some trust worthy people in her life…it was this group. I have that much faith in these women. Believe me, I’m not bragging and I have no secret or magic ingredient for why this works, because in all fairness? I didn’t trust any of them right away. I knew Kess for almost a year before I had a REAL conversation with her. The first time I met Tracy, two years ago, I kinda yelled at her. And Grace? Well, she was the alt of an alt of an alt and there were all sorts of stories about her that I couldn’t get straight. Not one of them was juicy, either!
With all of that said, I have to say that one ingredient is for sure…we treat each other the way we want to be treated. We treat each other the way women should treat each other. We are not catty or spiteful towards one another. I know, I know, I’m gushing about them, but if you just knew how proud of them I am or how wonderful they really are to me…you’d gush too!

come on in

wearing:
hairNO.MATCH_NO.OPINION. (*new* @ON9)
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
dimples: Izzie’s – Catwa Dimples Hud
lipstick: [PF] CATWA LIPSTICK Applier – Glossy Pout
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

Amala – The Kylie Choker – Thick
.:Avanti:. Zeta Bracelets – Platinum
EarthStones Kiss My… Belly Chain

_CandyDoll_ Lorena Jumpsuit (*new* @ FaMESHed)
_CandyDoll_Joly Heels

pose: GingerFish Poses-Smoked4 (*new* @ Pose Fair)

scene:
{what next} House Plant – Eucalyptus (stand)
2. *MSS* Garden Party Hanging Wicker Ball Natural (*new* @ON9)
Fancy Decor: Minimal Art
.:revival:. ghost sofa – ADULT
Fancy Decor: Rug III
Fancy Decor: Chain Coffee Table (*new* @ TMD)
[ kunst ] – Ashtray v3 / Marble #4
Paris – Wine set by Bazar
Fancy Decor: Potted Succulent
Fancy Decor: Chain Magazine Tray (*new* @ TMD)
{what next} House Plant – Rubber Tree
06 Fancy Decor: Ceramic Jars
Fancy Decor: Potted Aloe
09 Fancy Decor: Worlidge Box (white)
Fancy Decor: Wire Console (weathered)
Fancy Decor: Carriage Clock (silver)
Fancy Decor: Chain Candle (short)
Fancy Decor: Chain Candle (tall)
[tmk] rain dog

Just a Little Taste

So, Josh and I did a little thing with this pose. We both took a picture and mine is the main one of course, but the second one is by Josh Brian. I am so lucky to have found someone that shares my passion for photography. Not only does he support my endless hours of blogging, but he shoots pictures right along with me. Often times to my dismay, because as I’ve told Josh…I tend to create a scene with a particular view in my head. Then he comes along and shows the whole world how I’m not really even on the chair at all. *laughs* #busted!
So, here’s a little taste of our world together…his and her views. ♥

Just a Little Taste by Josh.png

I want to tell you a little bit about this pose, too, because the very talented (and equally crazy), Tracy Redangel happens to be one of my best friends.  And because she is such a close friend, I know how long and hard she worked on this pose set. Not only did she work on it for weeks (weeks? yes, because..well…SQUIRREL)…she provided three sets in the pack in an effort to cover all the bases. You see…there’s a huge height difference between Josh and I. He’s offered to go shorter for me, but I rather like him the way he is…plus…have you seen him? Talk about a fun tree to climb..*giggles*…anyway, Tracy’s pose store, Gingerfish Poses, is THE pose store to watch. She has years of pose making experience and well…she’s freaking awesome.

Josh is wearing:
hair: *Dura-Boy*70(Dark brown)
head: CATWA HEAD Daniel
ears: .:E.A.Studio:. Box Ears Falling Star
bodySlink Physique Male Mesh Body
tattoo: DAPPA – Pharaoh Tattoo.

[ kunst ] – Wire ring
**RE** ReVoX Aros Couple Bracelet

L&B Swear “Classic” T-Shirt Group Gift v2
L&B Swear Patrol Denim Jeans

Sady is wearing:
hair: Clawtooth: Cherry Bomb
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
dimples: Izzie’s – Catwa Dimples
lipstick: [PF] CATWA LIPSTICK Applier – Glossy Pout
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
hands: -VA-VISTA BENTO

**RE** Simone Heart Collar
[ kunst ] – Wire ring

Tee*fy Emma Top (March Luxe Box)
Tres Blah – Juniper Mini Skirt (March Luxe Box)

pose: GingerFish Poses – Closer
backdrop: [Bad Unicorn] ‘The Warehouse’ Backdrop (TMD)