Flickr Etiquette

I just want to touch on a few things about Flickr that I think people either don’t understand, don’t appreciate, or forgot the whole point. We share our photos and hope for the best, right? Hopefully, someone, anyone will like our work. Some of us use it as a place to store photos rather than take up valuable space on our PCs. Regardless of the reason, its a site made for sharing photos. So, I just wanted to touch on a few things that have crossed my mind and occasionally irritate me and/or others.

Awards-Some groups insist on them, some encourage, some don’t care. I’ve actually heard people complain about getting them or feeling forced to give them. I personally don’t give awards unless I’m simply in the mood. However, whenever someone takes the time to paste an award code on one of my photos, I make sure to show my gratitude by replying with a heart or a group thank you. It shows that you appreciate the love shown for your photos. Its about being humble. They didn’t have to do that, no one holds a gun to their head.
I hear people bitching about how some people have more followers than they follow. I don’t know about you, but I don’t just auto follow. I do tend to follow my bloggers and anyone whose work I really enjoy. However, if their timeline looks like nothing but snapshots or the photos aren’t good or its just over the top pornographic crap….I am NOT going to follow them, whether they follow me or not. I, also, don’t go checking to make sure every person I follow is following me back. I’m honored that anyone follows me. However, just because someone chose to follow me does not mean I owe it to them to follow them back. Nor do I expect anyone I follow to automatically follow me back. I think that’s ridiculous and insincere. I want people to follow me, because they like what I do.
One thing that aggravates the hell out of me and just about every photographer I know, is when someone uses one of my photos on their timeline. Regardless of why, it gives the appearance that they took the photo and they didn’t. It’s essentially stealing. If you want to share a collection of photos from around the site, use a gallery or a group. There are tons of youtube video tutorials to help you figure out how to navigate groups and galleries.
I think we’ve all looked at Flickr at some point and saw someone with crazy high views and/or favs, but their photos are meh at best. We can’t figure out how or why…they might have more or less followers, its just a mystery. How the hell did they do that and why aren’t our numbers higher? This I cannot even begin to answer. What I do know is that we need to let it go and stop worrying about what kinds of favs and views other people get. We need to focus on ourselves, our own work, and stop comparing ourselves to others, especially based on numbers.
The bottom line is this. No matter how good your photos are; no matter how could you think they are; no matter how popular you may or may not be…you should be grateful that ANYONE takes the time to look at your photos of a virtual world, much less takes the time to actually fav, comment, or paste an award. It’s call gratitude and we all should have some.
So, there’s my two cents on the whole Flickr thing. You can view my flickr by clicking on the photo below and by all means, you are all welcome to leave your flickr links in the comments below. Who knows, you might discover someone new or someone new might discover you. ♥

storm within

head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery]  Iris (Catwa Applier) toffee (*new* @ C88)

pose by Del May

MudHoney Larson Fireplace – White
JIAN :: Wolf (Static – Howl)


Let’s Go Crazy

Sometimes the world just doesn’t make sense. I think it’s pretty clear that I’m not the picture of perfect mental health. I’m not sure there even is such a thing to be honest. Hell, mental health has been called all sorts of names throughout history.  Even the names of disorders change….what once was called manic depressive is not called bi-polar. Why? Why did they change the name? Manic depressive was spot on. I think everyone and anyone can catch that disorder on the right day or wrong day as the case might very well be.
Seriously, think about it for a minute.  You are having a great day. You slept great, you woke up right before your alarm went off. The weather is your favorite kind of day. Everything is going well. Catching all the green lights in traffic. Errands go great, you even saved some money unexpectedly. You come home, dinner is great….you slip into your favorite PJs…you’re set. You’re happy as you can be….then it happens. You get a tragic phone call. Something awful has happened to someone you love and there’s absolutely nothing you can do about it. You’re alone with this awful news. That’s going to be a helluva a mood swing, don’t you think?  Say the reverse happens. Whole day has been shit. Slept like shit, overslept, bad hair day, pouring down rain, you get stuck in traffic…you get home, burn dinner…then unexpectedly your best friend calls. She’s coming over and she’s bringing pizza. Your whole day just got better in an instant. Mood swing. *shrugs* Must be bi-polar.
Ever just felt so damn lazy, you just didn’t even want to get out of bed? Ever just want to stay in bed all weekend, veg out with the remote and some junk food? Ever just do it, cuz you want to? Well, you must be depressed, you can’t even drag your ass out of bed. I’m in no way minimizing any diagnosis. I’m more than fully aware that there are varying degrees of each legitimate disorder. I’m not even suggesting to know what is and isn’t legitimate….I’m not a psych-anything….well, maybe psycho, but that’s about where my expertise ends. I’m sure not yelling at Matt Lauder about how mental health is a hoax, while clearly proving that it is very real.
I’m just saying, that the world doesn’t always make sense. So, if you’re a little crazy…so what? Be crazy. Be you. Love drama? Do it up. Hate drama? Stay away from it. Wanna dance? Crank up the music and dance. Who cares? We all have to get through this thing called life one way or another…so if you’re not crazy….why not? C’mon, let’s all go crazy.

Are we gonna let the elevator
Bring us down, oh, no let’s go
Let’s go crazy, let’s get nuts
Look for the purple banana
‘Til they put us in the truck, let’s go
All excited but we don’t know why
Maybe it’s ’cause we’re all gonna die
And when we do, what’s it all for
Better live now before the grim reaper
Come knocking on your door

hair: tram H0210 hair
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: LOTUS. Louise Skin Applier 04 (*new* @ SKIN FAIR)
tattoo: [ATI] Simon.(*new* @ Elite)
EF: Springleaf Earrings (*new* @ FaMESHed)
EF: Springleaf Necklace (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Narcisse– Nelly Lace up Dress (*new* @ Kinky)

pose: [ Focus Poses ] Naughty Chair 2
[Bad Unicorn] 02 Hype-Beast Backdrop

LOTUS. Louise Skin (*new* @ SKIN FAIR)
:::insanya::: JennaShorts – Solid (*new* @ Whore Couture)
pose by an lar

Take Your Time

Why is everyone in such a hurry these days? I’m referring to SL relationships. We’ve all seen the people that jump in and out of relationships. Partnered to someone new every other week or month, then complain about why their relationships didn’t work. Seems like an awful lot of unnecessary drama and hurt feelings to me. I used to think I had a four month expiration date, because my average SL relationship was only lasting four months, but I didn’t rush into any of them. The last one I had, we dated quietly for months before telling anyone, much less becoming official. Now, I’ve been single for over 3 months and I simply can’t imagine rushing into anything with any of the men I’ve met. It can take weeks for me to even figure out whether or not I want to have sex with someone. Granted there are those that you know immediately that sex is definitely on the table, but in those instances I’m not expecting it to be anything but casual. I’m not an idiot. Sex does not equal love or even slove as my friend, Poppy, puts it. (I tend to agree with her on that.) I dunno, I guess we all have our pace. It just seems to me if you take your time and really get to know someone first, you might save yourself some heartache. Then again, what do I know….368 day of what I thought was magic turned out to be really disposable and I was easily replaced in no time at all. *shrugs* So, I have no idea who the hell I think I am giving relationship advice, but that’s what’s on my mind today. So, that’s what you get.

the wolf

Sady is wearing:
hair: #1 {Limerence} Nikol hair(Common1)-B&W
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery]  Iris (Catwa Applier) toffee (*new* @ C88)
11. :BAMSE: Personal Choker – Bitch
SPIRIT – Peepa sweatshirt (*new* @ C88)
ChicModa // Piper skirt (*new* @ Cosmopolitan)
.Shi : Caleb Boots . Black / Bento (*new* @ TMD)

Gotz is wearing:
hair: Unorthodox Manny Hair
head: CATWA HEAD Daniel
Stretched ears-Omimi- [MANDALA]
body: [Signature] Gianni – Body
Howl – CHEN bombers jacket
[Deadwool] Chase sneakers

pose: [ATI] Adore (*new* @ Suicide Dollz)

FOXCITY. K-POP Star 2 – As If (Rez) (1) RARE (*new* @ Arcade)


Crooked World

Crooked World
written by Sadystika Sabretooth

It’s a crooked world,
full of broken people,
plenty of hungry hyenas
on the prowl
just waiting
to snatch up the scraps.

They will use your broken pieces
to create something beautiful
and then sell it back to you.

The lies and all the poison…
polluting every cell,
every fiber,
and stitch of humanity….
until there’s nothing left.

The careless walk among us
dressed as saviors
offering shoulders
made of sponges,
soaking up every ounce
of emotional ammo
we shed in our tears.
They load their invisible guns
and declare their silent war.

With each shot,
they push us
further and further away until
we’re backed into corners.
The view from there is amazing,
because now we see the truth…
all of it…
even the parts you can’t see
the lies as they pour from your mouth
and now we laugh
with our friends
as we whisper behind your back.

You’ve put on your little act
for so long
that even when it blows up
in your face
you’re so oblivious
you think you’re untouchable.

You’re not.

It’s a set up
we’re waiting
to watch you fall.

You will fall.
You thought we’d save you?
we’ll raise our glasses
as you stumble backwards
over the bodies in your wake
and finally fall into your own grave.

shaky ground
It’s getting harder to know if I’m sane
My issues are leaking outside of my veins
Somebody save me or end me, I haven’t yet made up my mind

hair: Magika – Good Vibes *NEW*
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery]  Iris (Catwa Applier) toffee (*new* @ C88)
MINIMAL – Charmed Necklace (*new* @ FaMESHed)
_CandyDoll_ Mya Dress (*new* @ Whore Couture)
_CandyDoll_Ava Socks Black
{Livalle} Payne – Combat Boots (*new* @ FaMESHed)

pose: pose: GingerFish Poses – Bad at Love

[Bad Unicorn] Block Views Backdrop *NEW*


Still Learning

“I am still learning.” ~ Michelangelo

I borrowed this quote from a friend of mine’s profile. It is so profound in its simplicity and then when I realized who is credited for saying it, I was instantly humbled. When such a great artist can maintain his humility, I find it ironic when people boast of their greatness. I believe that if we ever stop learning, we stop living. I try to learn at least one new thing a day, even if its just some random useless piece of trivia. I want each day to present me with new information.

cherry tree

hair: .Olive. the Emma Hair (*new* @ Uber)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: violetta. -catwa skin applier -Milanna -#202 (*new* @ SkinFair)
tattoo: Happiness – Black Tattoo [CAROL G]  (*new* @ SkinFair)
_CandyDoll_ Alexa Dress -(*new* @ Whore Couture)
_CandyDoll_ Alexa Fishnet -(*new* @ Whore Couture)

pose: FOXCITY. Breezy Bento Pose Set (*new* @ ON9)
FOXCITY. Photo Booth – Cherry Blossom (*new* @ ON9)

wearing below:  .::Dead Dollz::. Gwen Lingerie Set – Pink
violetta. -catwa skin applier -Milanna -#202 (*new* @ SkinFair)
violetta. -catwa skin applier -Milanna -#202_001




There’s a poem by Maya Angelou, Caged Bird. Its one of those poems that sat on my chest like a 20lb cat. It weighed so heavily on my heart that is almost felt as though I were being crushed. I love the contrast of the free bird versus the caged bird. The free bird hasn’t the worries or restrictions of the caged bird. Yet, the caged bird chooses to sing anyway. The caged bird sings of hope, dreams, and fantasies. It is those songs that keeps the caged bird moving forward in its limited space. While the free bird might sing, I imagine the songs are hollow and not nearly as beautiful as the “fearful trill.”
Obviously the poem is not literally about birds. Its symbolism in its purest form really. Yet, it still makes me think. It takes my mind in so many directions. Not just the original meaning, but about each of us as individuals. How often do we cage ourselves? And for what reason? I spend more than 50% of my day in my bedroom, as my computer is in here, my smart tv, my bed…all my favorite comforts of home. Why? Though I sit in front of a window, there is nothing keeping me locked in here. So, why don’t I go outside more? Granted, I don’t like the people around here too much, but no one is forcing me to speak to anyone when I leave my house. I’ve even been to jail and I remember how badly I craved the fresh air, a natural breeze. How I longed to hear the rustling of leaves and the songs of birds….even the laughter of those little demon spawns people call children. *grins*
I’ve gotten too comfortable in my little cage of comforts. I’ve become complacent and in most 12 step programs there’s a common saying about complacency being a red light indicator. In other words, when we become too comfortable…too complacent in our lives, we are setting ourselves up for bad decision making and that’s never been more true in my life. I’ve made some very poor decisions in the last few months. Acting out (mostly in SL) in ways that I never have before and its time for me to stop. I’ve already reduced my blogging load by focusing more on fashion and less on home decor. Yet, I still find myself sitting at this desk focused far more on my blog than on my real life.
I am not a religious person by a long shot, but Easter is about Christ being reborn, right? Well, I think I’ll borrow a page from the Bible and use Easter as a form of rebirth of my own. I’m going to cut back a bit more on the blog and I’m going to be leaving my house for five days on Easter weekend. I’m going to see my darling Nikole. This will be the second time we’ve met in real life, but it’ll be my first time visiting her at her house. I’m super excited about the trip and I’m about to embrace some really positive changes in my life. I will no longer be caged by my own hands.


hair: #12 {Limerence} Sammy hair-Blonds (*new* @ Imaginarium)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery]  Iris (Catwa Applier) toffee (*new* @ C88)
tattoo: [ATI] Mai.. (*new* @ TWE12VE)
LYBRA  . SADYSTIKA (*new* @ Whore Couture)
_CandyDoll_ Gina Heels (*new* @ FaMESHed)

pose:  FOXCITY. Wild & Free Bento Pose Set

FOXCITY. K-POP Star 2 – Ringa Linga (Rez) (3) RARE (*new* @ Arcade)
Fapple– The little slave bed
Fapple– BDSM Tool Box


More Skin

Some people on Facebook have expressed surprise at the fact that there’s so much more than just skin at the Skin Fair. It’s always been more than skin, at least as far back as I can remember. Last year several new bento heads were introduced. This year I’ve not seen as many heads being released. However, there are lots of shapes, tattoos, and cosmetics, as well as an abundance of skins.  Seriously, reduce your scripts and your complexity as much as you can, then head on over and check it out. There’s plenty of amazing creations for everyone.
Today I’m showing you the A R T E – Sweetie Skin. I just love how the light catches on this skin and couldn’t resist going black and white for the main photo. However, you can see all three shades in the photo at the bottom.

skin fair 3

hair:  [monso] My Hair – Jenny (*new* @ C88)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: A R T E – Sweetie Skin – Porcelain (*new* @ Skin Fair)
tattoo: [ATI] Marcel (*new* @ Darkness Monthly)
_CandyDoll_ Alexa Top (*new* @ Whore Couture)

all poses by Foxcity

.::Dead Dollz::. Hush Lingerie Set
A R T E – Sweetie Skin



“C’mere, I want to tell you something,” she said as she crawled across the bed towards him. She curled her finger to motion him closer. As he moved closer, thinking he was about to get a kiss, she whispered, “I don’t give a fuck.”
He stood up, a look of shock washed over his face, “What the…”
She laughed, stood up and grabbed her purse and phone.
He was thoroughly confused as she walked out the door, until he walked around to the side of the bed she’d been standing on and saw two condom wrappers on the floor.

Come Hither

hair: pr!tty – Sury (*new* @ TCF)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery]  Saska (Catwa Applier) honey
LYBRA . JULY (*new* @ BLUSH)
Phedora ~ Porchia heels ~ Maitreya RARE (*new* @ Arcade)

pose: GingerFish Poses – Dirty Pretty Set (*new* @ Whore Couture)

tarte. stargazer floor bed (night)

BUENO-After Hours Loft Building -Decay (*new* @ FaMESHed)
BUENO-Mulder Loft Building-Decay


It Really Ain’t Magic

Actually dating in sl, is like playing tag in six random playgrounds all connected by one tunnel. Its just a clusterfuck of madness, selfishness, and stupidity. Oh I’m sure there are a few good ones in there somewhere, but unless you in the mood to dig through a haystack looking for a gold needle…well, good fucking luck.
Ooooh, Mr Privacy…..You put all your business out there on Facebook and then you seem surprised when you get called on your shit. You tell one girl she can’t take pictures of you, because it will cause drama. Meanwhile, you’re on Facebook with a girl in your lap one day (not the one you told not to take pictures) and you’ve got another girl taking pictures of you a week later…all the while still telling the ONE girl she can’t take pictures of you. Now, I’m not sure what you’re trying to hide and I don’t care, but seriously….if you’re trying to run around and be some mega player on the down low, you might wanna lose your Facebook account OR I dunno, be aware of who can see what…oh but wait, do you know everyone’s friends? Not at the rate you’re going!
Oh, and you? You don’t want a relationship, but you want demands on a girl’s time. She didn’t answer you fast enough? She didn’t beg and plead for your attention? She actually does something in sl, beside standing around a club 24/7? Get over yourself. This girl has a life and its full of friends and hobbies. Ya know what? You’re right! I don’t have time for you and your needy ass!
*laughs* And you, you crawl out of the woodwork with your sweet words once every other week and think its getting somewhere? No. When you spoke to me several times a week, yeah, it felt like we might be headed somewhere. The only place we’re heading with all your little disappearing acts is….wait, who am I talking about? Oh yeah, that’s right, I forgot about you cuz you dipped out for two weeks without so much as a word.
*rolls her eyes & chuckles* Ooooh, my poor sweet, booty call….you were fun for a while, but when I asked for an actual conversation you suddenly turn mute. Guess your momma parked you in front of porn as a kid and those are the only words you learned. *yawns* Well, hell, they still say em in porn, what do I need you for?
And then there’s this wittle guy, who thinks that cuz we hung out one time, that I owe him an explanation for ANYTHING I do. ROFL. Honey, you just need to go crawl back between your momma’s legs, cuz you ain’t done yet.
Ooooh lookit, its the big bad wolf! You seem to think that coming to a me about a guy I know, who happened to ask someone about you is the least dramatic way to do things? Uhm, no. How about you go directly to the man himself and ask him why he was asking your “EX” questions on my behalf, since you’re so sure it was indeed on my behalf. And ffs, I would hope you’d do the same for your female friends….but wait, do you have any that you haven’t tried to fuck already? Cuz the only one I know sure seems set on getting rid of you. I know I’m done. So, take your little happy feet on down the road.

These are just a sample of the types of guys I’ve been dealing with since my break up 3 months ago. While he has already moved on to someone else. So much for that break up excuse he handed me. *rolls her eyes* I’m so done with these assholes in SL. Yeah, I’m gonna get lonely, its true. But ya know what? I’ll take my own company over their’s any day. I actually enjoy my own company. I make myself laugh all the time and well, I’ve even argued out loud with myself. So, clearly there’s more than enough madness going on in this lil head of mine that I don’t need anymore, right?

Cause It really ain’t sad
It really ain’t tragic
It really ain’t inspiring
It really ain’t magic
There really ain’t a lot left for me to say
Filling in the blank slates like we’re born this way

hair:  Magika – Marble Machine
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
tatooo: WR – Call Of The Wild Tattoo (*new* @ Skin Fair)

pose: FOXCITY. Bento Ground Sits VOL1
NOMAD // Skull Daybed


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