Super Useful Info

So, from time to time, I see people on Facebook and Flickr asking a pretty consistent set of questions. If I was establishing some sort of customer service or website, I suppose I’d say FAQs. Yeah, that’s actually pretty accurate, because that’s exactly what they are: frequently asked questions. First let me say, I do not believe in anyway that I’m truly providing new information to anyone that even reads my blog. However, I thought that since I keep seeing these same questions…and I just so happen to know some answers, that perhaps I could give one page to find them all quickly and simply. *laughs* You see, I’ve got a lot of information floating around in this crazy head of mine and even I can’t remember shit without asking. I could blame age or drugs, but less face it…we’re all human. So, I’m just gonna jump right in. You can click directly on the logos to go the pages listed.

Wondering what events are going on right now that you might not know about?
Go to Seraphim. That is also your goto page for some of the biggest and most popular monthly events like FaMESHed, UBER, Collabor88, Shiny Shabby, Kustom9, N21, Cosmo, ON9….you get the point. There are tons of events going on at all times. You’d actually be surprised at what you might find at some of the smaller, more obscure events. I’m not going to give examples of those. LOL. The bigger the event, the easier they are to find, but Seraphim covers a ton of stuff. Explore the site sometime. It might surprise you, plus its fun to see what the quotes at the top of the pages will change to. *grins*
So…. Seraphim …goto for shopping events.

Do you miss shopping at the mainstores? Sick of the lag or battle to get into a big event, but you really want to shop? Don’t care for the latest theme at your favorite event? Wish there was a way to know which stores are having sales, new group gifts, and/or new releases in the store? Go to MAINSTORE SL.  This is a page full of amazing finds and you’ll be amazed at the number of great items being released in the mainstores!
So….MAINSTORE SL for all things mainstore related.

Are you looking for bloggers for your store? Just want to check out some blogs? Looking for places to take pictures? Thinking about being a blogger, but you’re not sure. Well, everything you need to know about blogging, from stores that are looking to places to take pictures….even classes and seminars to help you learn more about blogging can be found on the Blogging & Vlogging Network site. There’s even a group inworld that you can join for free. This is a must join group if you’re already a blogger. Regardless of what you enjoy in SL, the BVN site will astound you with its wealth of information.
So….BVN for all things blogger related.

Do you love magazines? Do you like learning about the various designers, scriptors, creators, bloggers, etc? Curious about events and event owners, what goes on behind the scenes? Love looking at professional photos of various designs? Well, there are several magazines across the grid, but Eclipse is by far one of my personal favorites and its chock full of interesting articles, beautiful photos, and monthly features. It’s all about the latest styles for both men and women. This is a lifestyle magazine of what’s going on around the grid. Who knows you might just discover something new and exciting to do, as well. Unlike a regular paper magazine, Eclipse is online and there are links in the magazine that will take you directly to the store, blog, webpage, etc.
So….Eclipse Magazine for all the latest lifestyle info around the grid.

Simon Says

hair: :::Phoenix::: Riley *NEW*
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery]  Iris (Catwa Applier) toffee (*new* @ C88)
tattoo: [ATI] Rita (*new* @ Applique)
:::NOIR::: Infinite Bracelets
(Yummy) Gardenia Rings (*new* @ C88)
LYBRA . EDIE (*new* @ Uber)

pose: FOXCITY. Surface Set
[Bad Unicorn] The Mansion Backdrop (FATPACK ONLY) *NEW*




Let’s Go Crazy

Sometimes the world just doesn’t make sense. I think it’s pretty clear that I’m not the picture of perfect mental health. I’m not sure there even is such a thing to be honest. Hell, mental health has been called all sorts of names throughout history.  Even the names of disorders change….what once was called manic depressive is not called bi-polar. Why? Why did they change the name? Manic depressive was spot on. I think everyone and anyone can catch that disorder on the right day or wrong day as the case might very well be.
Seriously, think about it for a minute.  You are having a great day. You slept great, you woke up right before your alarm went off. The weather is your favorite kind of day. Everything is going well. Catching all the green lights in traffic. Errands go great, you even saved some money unexpectedly. You come home, dinner is great….you slip into your favorite PJs…you’re set. You’re happy as you can be….then it happens. You get a tragic phone call. Something awful has happened to someone you love and there’s absolutely nothing you can do about it. You’re alone with this awful news. That’s going to be a helluva a mood swing, don’t you think?  Say the reverse happens. Whole day has been shit. Slept like shit, overslept, bad hair day, pouring down rain, you get stuck in traffic…you get home, burn dinner…then unexpectedly your best friend calls. She’s coming over and she’s bringing pizza. Your whole day just got better in an instant. Mood swing. *shrugs* Must be bi-polar.
Ever just felt so damn lazy, you just didn’t even want to get out of bed? Ever just want to stay in bed all weekend, veg out with the remote and some junk food? Ever just do it, cuz you want to? Well, you must be depressed, you can’t even drag your ass out of bed. I’m in no way minimizing any diagnosis. I’m more than fully aware that there are varying degrees of each legitimate disorder. I’m not even suggesting to know what is and isn’t legitimate….I’m not a psych-anything….well, maybe psycho, but that’s about where my expertise ends. I’m sure not yelling at Matt Lauder about how mental health is a hoax, while clearly proving that it is very real.
I’m just saying, that the world doesn’t always make sense. So, if you’re a little crazy…so what? Be crazy. Be you. Love drama? Do it up. Hate drama? Stay away from it. Wanna dance? Crank up the music and dance. Who cares? We all have to get through this thing called life one way or another…so if you’re not crazy….why not? C’mon, let’s all go crazy.

Are we gonna let the elevator
Bring us down, oh, no let’s go
Let’s go crazy, let’s get nuts
Look for the purple banana
‘Til they put us in the truck, let’s go
All excited but we don’t know why
Maybe it’s ’cause we’re all gonna die
And when we do, what’s it all for
Better live now before the grim reaper
Come knocking on your door

hair: tram H0210 hair
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: LOTUS. Louise Skin Applier 04 (*new* @ SKIN FAIR)
tattoo: [ATI] Simon.(*new* @ Elite)
EF: Springleaf Earrings (*new* @ FaMESHed)
EF: Springleaf Necklace (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Narcisse– Nelly Lace up Dress (*new* @ Kinky)

pose: [ Focus Poses ] Naughty Chair 2
[Bad Unicorn] 02 Hype-Beast Backdrop

LOTUS. Louise Skin (*new* @ SKIN FAIR)
:::insanya::: JennaShorts – Solid (*new* @ Whore Couture)
pose by an lar

Take Your Time

Why is everyone in such a hurry these days? I’m referring to SL relationships. We’ve all seen the people that jump in and out of relationships. Partnered to someone new every other week or month, then complain about why their relationships didn’t work. Seems like an awful lot of unnecessary drama and hurt feelings to me. I used to think I had a four month expiration date, because my average SL relationship was only lasting four months, but I didn’t rush into any of them. The last one I had, we dated quietly for months before telling anyone, much less becoming official. Now, I’ve been single for over 3 months and I simply can’t imagine rushing into anything with any of the men I’ve met. It can take weeks for me to even figure out whether or not I want to have sex with someone. Granted there are those that you know immediately that sex is definitely on the table, but in those instances I’m not expecting it to be anything but casual. I’m not an idiot. Sex does not equal love or even slove as my friend, Poppy, puts it. (I tend to agree with her on that.) I dunno, I guess we all have our pace. It just seems to me if you take your time and really get to know someone first, you might save yourself some heartache. Then again, what do I know….368 day of what I thought was magic turned out to be really disposable and I was easily replaced in no time at all. *shrugs* So, I have no idea who the hell I think I am giving relationship advice, but that’s what’s on my mind today. So, that’s what you get.

the wolf

Sady is wearing:
hair: #1 {Limerence} Nikol hair(Common1)-B&W
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery]  Iris (Catwa Applier) toffee (*new* @ C88)
11. :BAMSE: Personal Choker – Bitch
SPIRIT – Peepa sweatshirt (*new* @ C88)
ChicModa // Piper skirt (*new* @ Cosmopolitan)
.Shi : Caleb Boots . Black / Bento (*new* @ TMD)

Gotz is wearing:
hair: Unorthodox Manny Hair
head: CATWA HEAD Daniel
Stretched ears-Omimi- [MANDALA]
body: [Signature] Gianni – Body
Howl – CHEN bombers jacket
[Deadwool] Chase sneakers

pose: [ATI] Adore (*new* @ Suicide Dollz)

FOXCITY. K-POP Star 2 – As If (Rez) (1) RARE (*new* @ Arcade)



There’s a poem by Maya Angelou, Caged Bird. Its one of those poems that sat on my chest like a 20lb cat. It weighed so heavily on my heart that is almost felt as though I were being crushed. I love the contrast of the free bird versus the caged bird. The free bird hasn’t the worries or restrictions of the caged bird. Yet, the caged bird chooses to sing anyway. The caged bird sings of hope, dreams, and fantasies. It is those songs that keeps the caged bird moving forward in its limited space. While the free bird might sing, I imagine the songs are hollow and not nearly as beautiful as the “fearful trill.”
Obviously the poem is not literally about birds. Its symbolism in its purest form really. Yet, it still makes me think. It takes my mind in so many directions. Not just the original meaning, but about each of us as individuals. How often do we cage ourselves? And for what reason? I spend more than 50% of my day in my bedroom, as my computer is in here, my smart tv, my bed…all my favorite comforts of home. Why? Though I sit in front of a window, there is nothing keeping me locked in here. So, why don’t I go outside more? Granted, I don’t like the people around here too much, but no one is forcing me to speak to anyone when I leave my house. I’ve even been to jail and I remember how badly I craved the fresh air, a natural breeze. How I longed to hear the rustling of leaves and the songs of birds….even the laughter of those little demon spawns people call children. *grins*
I’ve gotten too comfortable in my little cage of comforts. I’ve become complacent and in most 12 step programs there’s a common saying about complacency being a red light indicator. In other words, when we become too comfortable…too complacent in our lives, we are setting ourselves up for bad decision making and that’s never been more true in my life. I’ve made some very poor decisions in the last few months. Acting out (mostly in SL) in ways that I never have before and its time for me to stop. I’ve already reduced my blogging load by focusing more on fashion and less on home decor. Yet, I still find myself sitting at this desk focused far more on my blog than on my real life.
I am not a religious person by a long shot, but Easter is about Christ being reborn, right? Well, I think I’ll borrow a page from the Bible and use Easter as a form of rebirth of my own. I’m going to cut back a bit more on the blog and I’m going to be leaving my house for five days on Easter weekend. I’m going to see my darling Nikole. This will be the second time we’ve met in real life, but it’ll be my first time visiting her at her house. I’m super excited about the trip and I’m about to embrace some really positive changes in my life. I will no longer be caged by my own hands.


hair: #12 {Limerence} Sammy hair-Blonds (*new* @ Imaginarium)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery]  Iris (Catwa Applier) toffee (*new* @ C88)
tattoo: [ATI] Mai.. (*new* @ TWE12VE)
LYBRA  . SADYSTIKA (*new* @ Whore Couture)
_CandyDoll_ Gina Heels (*new* @ FaMESHed)

pose:  FOXCITY. Wild & Free Bento Pose Set

FOXCITY. K-POP Star 2 – Ringa Linga (Rez) (3) RARE (*new* @ Arcade)
Fapple– The little slave bed
Fapple– BDSM Tool Box


More Skin

Some people on Facebook have expressed surprise at the fact that there’s so much more than just skin at the Skin Fair. It’s always been more than skin, at least as far back as I can remember. Last year several new bento heads were introduced. This year I’ve not seen as many heads being released. However, there are lots of shapes, tattoos, and cosmetics, as well as an abundance of skins.  Seriously, reduce your scripts and your complexity as much as you can, then head on over and check it out. There’s plenty of amazing creations for everyone.
Today I’m showing you the A R T E – Sweetie Skin. I just love how the light catches on this skin and couldn’t resist going black and white for the main photo. However, you can see all three shades in the photo at the bottom.

skin fair 3

hair:  [monso] My Hair – Jenny (*new* @ C88)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: A R T E – Sweetie Skin – Porcelain (*new* @ Skin Fair)
tattoo: [ATI] Marcel (*new* @ Darkness Monthly)
_CandyDoll_ Alexa Top (*new* @ Whore Couture)

all poses by Foxcity

.::Dead Dollz::. Hush Lingerie Set
A R T E – Sweetie Skin


White Flag

I’m guessing by now that my regular readers have noticed that I’m trying very hard to get away from posting song links & copy/pasting lyrics. I’ve decided instead to explain why some songs are so special to me and why they’ve ended up on my personal soundtrack. So, now if you’re interested the video is embedded at the bottom of the post and if you right click on it, you can open that up in a new window.
Alright, so Dido’s White Flag….this song means so freaking much to me. It reminds me of a real life relationship I had many years ago with a guy we’ll call Bran. I fell in love with Dido about the same time I fell for him. Sadly, he didn’t quite love me the same way and my love for him was a tad bit unrequited. Though, you couldn’t convince any of our friends that we weren’t a couple. *laughs* Its a much longer story than I care to type out. However, with that said, I did have to finally let go…as I found something rather suspicious on his computer and I was never comfortable around him again. *sighs* At the time that I had such strong feelings for Bran, there’s simply nothing anyone could have said to make me give up, thus this song resonated with me.

seeing dots

Sady is wearing:
hair: [monso] My Hair – Summer  (*new* @ FaMESHed)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery]  Saska
!Rebel Hope – Nancy Mesh Dress (*new* @ Uber)

pose: [ATI] Tamar Set (*new* @ ELITE)
FOXCITY. K-POP Star 2. (4) Hush – White (Common) (*new* @ Arcade)


Ride or Die

This month my blog celebrates it 2yr anniversary and I can’t thank YOU the readers enough for your support. It continues to amaze me that anyone takes the time to read my words, look at my pictures, or comment. I am so humbled by it all. More than anything I’m grateful to my Ride or Die girls or as I usually refer to them, my cunts.
A strange twist of fate, some rock music, and a barn brought us together in the most unexpected ways, but the formula works. Four of the five of us have been inseparable. Let me explain the mega-important role that each of these girls plays in our little Cunt Cult (that’s what we call ourself and Tracy even made us a logo! No, you can’t join. #sorrynotsorry) We are not the mean girls, but we’ve tried bringing people into our group in the past. It has always backfired and when the cunts turn on you, well, its not pretty.
We do not have a leader, but I suppose some would assume its Kess or me. No, but believe or not, Kess is often our sound of reason. The one that grounds us in reality, points out the reasons one of our latest and greatest ideas is a BAD idea. For those of you that know Kess, please stop laughing. She’s really far smarter than people give her credit for….no, wait, that’s Tracy. Everyone knows that Kess, while being a daft bint, is an amazing and incredible woman that sets a fairly good example for the rest of us. She tends to give us that kick in the ass when we need it. While she’s all of that and a bag of chips….we don’t listen to her for romantic advice, cuz when it comes to men….well, I think she’s finally got a good one, but good lord. She has gone through enough toads, that’s for sure. Its about high time she found some happiness.
Then there’s Tracy….and Rom. Rom is an honorary member, because he’s sorta of been along for the ride with us since the very beginning. Sadly, this post isn’t about Rom, but if you love some artistic photography, please check out Rom’s flickr. Now, back to Tracy, she’s the owner of GingerFish poses. I’m sure you’re all familiar with her store. If not, you should be. She was one of the first pose makes to do bento poses. Her prices are great and she’s an amazing individual. She’s probably the smartest of all the cunts, but you’d never know it to talk to her. *giggles* She’s a crazy ginger that eats the souls of children for breakfast. *grins*
Then there’s Grace! This girl is like my twin. We agree on almost everything, except her choice in men. Tally? Really? *bursts into giggles* Grace and I go back and forth picking at one another. She never judges me ever. No matter what stupid shit I do, she’s probably done the same or something close. If these cunts were angels and demons on my shoulder, Grace would definitely be wearing red…with cow print. I don’t even know how to explain Grace….she’s Irish…wait, North Ireland Irish (that seems to make a difference). Between her shitty internet service and her crazy accent, she can be difficult to understand on voice. However, I love this woman like no one’s business….she’s my twinkie♥There’s another cunt, Ava, but she’s off in the real world being all in love & pregnant. I love her, but I honestly didn’t get to know her that well before she left us for that other platform called Real Life. I love them more than words can express and I refuse to even think of my life without them. They all have Flickrs, so click their names where highlighted to check them out, if you’d like.
These are the first circle of my Ride or Die bitches. I have a 2nd circle and they are the MF’n bomb. Perhaps I’ll talk about them another time, but they are not bloggers and kinda prefer to keep their lives a bit more private.

Ride or Die
I’ll never let you down, I can’t let you down
Because when I couldn’t get my feet on the ground
You’d do anything to help me out
You never let me down
What goes around comes around
I’m just sitting here on my front porch singing
This one’s for my ride or die

Sady is wearing:
hair:  Tableau Vivant \\ Peggy hair  (*new* @ Uber)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery]  Saska (Catwa Applier) honey
holding: DRD – Scrappy Helmet – White Check – Loaded (*new* @ Uber)
{le fil casse} Donna Dress (*new* @ Uber)
#EMPIRE – Coreopsis

her pose: Animosity – Cruisin’ set (*new* @ MOM)

Cruel is wearing:
hair: Stealthic – Haunting
hairbase: Stealthic – Male Hairbase
head: CATWA HEAD Daniel
beard: Volkstone Toni Facial Hair
ears: .:E.A.Studio:. Box Ears Falling Star
body: [SIGNATURE] Geralt – Mesh Body  *NEW*
tattoo: [ATI] Nightmare…
holding: DRD – Scrappy Helmet – Rusted Black (*new* @ Uber)
5.::GB:: Color denib pants / Black

his pose:  PM . Bronx (*new* @ MOM)

uK – Modern Serenity Home (*new* Feb Builder’s Box)
:Fanatik Architecture: Roads of LISBON
DRD – Scrappy Scooter – White Check (*new* @ Uber)
DRD – Scrappy Scooter – Rusted Black – Loaded (*new* @ Uber)


I Won’t Keep Watching

Once in a while we fight doing the right thing, because we’re not sure what that is. Cutting people from our lives is a lot like that. Its hard, because you’re ditching your loyalty. That’s pretty serious, but it would seem that sometimes our loyalty needs to be to ourselves first and foremost. If we don’t treat ourselves the way we want to be treated, how will anyone else even begin to figure out what we want.
I believe I must be at an advantage here, because as a child we moved every 2-3 yrs. So, I was constantly saying goodbye to people and letting go. By the time I grew up, letting go and walking away was far easier for me than others. The challenge for me was to stop walking away. Eventually, I started hanging on to people for dear life. I was scared to death that if I kept walking away, I’d never learn to just be in the here and now. I wasn’t running, I was simply walking away from anyone and anything that didn’t enhance my life. Now, I’m starting to understand what its like for other people and the struggle to let people go. However, one thing I’ll never have to fight or struggle with for long is letting go of some I feel is abusive. That will never be okay and something I outgrew a really long time ago.
There’s a line in the song I’ve attached that really struck a personal chord with me:
I won’t keep watching you
Dance around in your smoke
And flicker out
You’re not the light I used to know

more selfies
That empowering moment when you delete & block them. 

hair:  Tableau Vivant \\ Francesca hair (*new* @ FaMESHed)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
-SU!- Amoret Eyeliner +CATWA APPLIER+
-SU!- Xanthe Lip Gloss +CATWA APPLIER+
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery]  Saska
hand tattoo: [ATI] Destiny Lite…Maitreya Applier…
nails: Astralia – Compatible nails system (Maitreya Stiletto base)
toksik – Bloom Choker (Group Gift)
{le fil casse} Kassie Ruffle Hearts Top (*new* @ FrouFrou)

pose: [ATI] Destiny Lite Set (*new* @ Suicide Dollz)
FOXCITY. K-POP Star 2 – Because I am The Best (Rez) (2) RARE (*new* @ Arcade)


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