Should I?

Recently, I was told that my blog is too long winded, that I write too much. I was told that no one wants to read all that. I was asked why do I write so damn much? My reply was  simply, “It’s therapeutic.” I went on to explain that I write for me and that I don’t expect anyone, especially everyone, to read it. People can always just scroll on down to the photo and credits if they’re not interested in what I have to write about on any particular day. Hell, I’m a blog manager, I can’t always read every blog. Though to be fair, most of my bloggers don’t write anything at all. It made me wonder if I’m wasting my time by writing when I blog. If my writing is therapeutic and mostly for me, should I just keep an online journel, then just post pictures and credits for my blog?

wearing:
hair:  {Limerence} Dani hair @ Black Fair
head: CATWA HEAD Denice
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: #PUMEC – Sophia

(Yummy) OM Layered Necklace
LYBRA . MELY SET @ Kustom9

We Are All Different

Well, another post on Facebook has inspired me to write. Someone asked why bloggers don’t credit skins…or this…or that. This was met with tons of replies from more people pointing the fingers at bloggers for how they do this wrong and should do this and shouldn’t do that. There were bloggers defending themselves. Others were saying how they don’t blog certain things. I even commented that I rarely list appliers, because I usually don’t remember what I’ve got on.
That thread has stayed with me ever since. The thing is, we all blog for different reasons, and we all have our own way of blogging. Just like stores and events look for different things in bloggers. I think people that don’t blog and even some that do are under some misconceptions that there are certain rules about blogging. There aren’t. We all blog the way we want to blog. We set our own standards. The only rules we are obligated to follow are rules we agree to when joining a designer’s team and that’s IF the designer has rules in place. Not all designers do.
Whether you’re a blogger or you like to follow the blogs, the only thing you accomplish by attacking bloggers is drive them from their passion. If there’s a particular blogger that you admire and you really want to know more about what they post, please go to that blogger directly. Please don’t assume we are all the same. Please know that we are as different as the people that follow the blogs. Some like to read stuff, some just want the photos and the credits. So, unless you want to be attacked as an audience, please do not attack us as a community.

—ANHELO-M57WA-194GA :: still life (wagon)

Dahlia – Joanna’s – Macaroon Box
Dahlia – Joanna’s – Macaroons – Set 2 D
Dahlia – Joanna’s – Macaroons – Set 2 C
Dahlia – Joanna’s – Macaroons – Set 1 B
Dahlia – Joanna’s – Macaroons – Set 1 A

dust bunny . hanging plants . ivy planter
dust bunny . spotted begonia
dust bunny . pilea peper plant

Fancy Decor: Hampton Set @ Uber
Fancy Decor: Hampton Planter
Fancy Decor: Hampton Rug
Fancy Decor: Hampton Fire Pit
Fancy Decor: Hampton Pillow A
Fancy Decor: Hampton Side Table
Fancy Decor: Hampton Candle
Fancy Decor: Iced Tea
Fancy Decor: Hampton Patio Sofa
Fancy Decor: Hampton Patio Chair
Fancy Decor: Hampton Pillow B
Fancy Decor: Hampton Pergola

Fancy Decor: Bradley Side Table

SAYO – Geometric Wall Panel – 01
SAYO – Eastport Egg Chair – Adult @ Uber

[ zerkalo ] Prague Gacha – Drinking Set – RARE

: [Rezz Room] Bengal Cat Jump
: [Rezz Room] Bengal Cat Familly
: [Rezz Room] Bengal Cat Play
: [Rezz Room] Bengal Cat Nap

Are you insane?

Are you insane? These three words are uttered so quickly and so easily. It’s a rhetorical question that is slung as carelessly as a stick being thrown across a yard. However, to suggest someone is suffering from a mental illness simply because we disagree is a form of bullying. What am I talking about? I’m talking about judgement and acceptance. I’m an atheist. I do not turn my back on my friends that have religious beliefs. So long as we can agree to respectively disagree, there’s no problem. If necessary, we avoid those topics to avoid heated arguments, because at the end of the day we love each other enough to accept that our friends are stupid. *chuckles* I’m mostly kidding with that statement, but deep down….hmmm, I think its probably true. I can’t stand President Trump, but my mother’s best friend thinks he’s the best thing that’s ever happened to this country. I love this woman. I’ve known her most of my life. Do I think she’s ignorant? Yes, but not just because of her political beliefs. *grins* I don’t think she’s a bad person. Again, we do our best to avoid certain subjects, because we are like family and we have far more in common than we disagree about.
I watch disagreements about things like the shape of the earth, religion, politics, racism, LGBTQIA (can we please make a word?) topics, and more tear families and friends apart. I’m watching a documentary right now about people that believe that the earth is flat. Mark Sargent stated that Flat Earthers can only date Flat Earthers, because the subject is so divisive. I found that idea to be so very sad, because if our minds are so closed off to people who think differently we cannot grow. Most of us will agree that racism is bad, right? Fair enough, let’s all agree that its not great. However, ask yourself how many racists you know? Do you even know the answer to that? Not all racists admit to it. Let’s go a step further, are the racists you know hate-filled in all of their actions? I doubt it. As humans we all have something in common. If you are so convinced that your beliefs are correct, then fighting and judging others is not the way to prove your point. I live in a state that is known for racial tensions and racism. In high school the KKK burned crosses on our football field. A handful of men in KKK robes paraded into the middle of my school’s lunch room DURING lunch. I have seen some of the truest and most awful forms of racism, up close. No, I’m not, nor ever have been a racist, but it is impossible to live where I live and not have a racist friend or family member. You know what? I’ve seen people change. I’ve seen people change their minds about race, religion, politics, and sexual orientation. I’ve seen people go from both sides to the other.
We need to stop and listen to one another. If you have love in your heart, then stomp out the hate and open your mind. I’m not saying you need to change your mind, just be open to hearing what others have to say. I am so curious by nature, that I cannot help but ask people why they feel the way they do. If I really believe they are wrong, I might poke a few holes in their beliefs, but with respect and curiosity.
I’ll get off my soapbox after I share this little memory. Years ago, a friend of mine asked, “Are you not worried about going to hell?”
I couldn’t help but laugh and ask, “Why would I?”
Her reply was just as silly in my eyes, but I listened and waited. “If you don’t believe in God and surrender you soul to him, you’ll go to hell.”
I smiled at her, because I knew she was sincerem “Sweetheart, don’t you see? If I don’t believe in God, I don’t believe in hell. So how could I worry about going to a place I don’t believe exists?”
That was the end of the subject and it wasn’t brought up again. However, my point is….her beliefs caused her to worry about me in ways I will never worry about myself. It was my hope to alleviate her worries, not to insult her. We can disagree without hate and through love we can often persuade. But no one has EVER bullied me into believing something I didn’t think was true.

wearing:
hair:  Lamb. Seventeen @ Uber
head: CATWA HEAD Denice
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: #PUMEC – Sophia

(Yummy) OM Layered Necklace
(fd) Summer Shirt – Cloud Decal @ Uber
Blueberry – Alicia – Flare Pants @ Uber

pose: [ Focus Poses ] Urban 7 set
anxiety %sincerity [city fillers] #1

Grab ’em & Save Time

I’m going to sing the praises of Grab My Credits again. Do you see this picture? OMG, it would have taken me hours to list everything and make sure I didn’t miss anything. I was done listing in under an hour! If you blog decor and you don’t have this. The one thing I’ve always hated about blogging decor was grabbing all those credits, but THIS has made everything so much easier and now I can go absolutely crazy with decor. I get so much more excited about my decor scenes now, large or small…THIS is epic. I’m telling you….get this!!!

Elm. Countryside Pool & Pergola @ FaMESHed X

6. Elm. Juniper Garden Party “Hanging Table”
Elm. Aries Moon Decor (Silver)
Elm. Aries Plant [White]
Elm. Grace Rug [White]
Elm. Grace Bench [Ash]

SAYO – Crystalline Pendant Lamp – Gunmetal

dust bunny . lighted jar . type a
dust bunny . lighted jar . type b
dust bunny . storybook living . old backpack
dust bunny . dreamy outing . essentials bag
dust bunny . potted bromeliad
dust bunny . quirky planters . snail
dust bunny . pilea peper plant
dust bunny . hanging plants . spider planter
dust bunny . hanging plants . ivy planter
dust bunny . potted rubber tree
dust bunny . pink medinilla plant
dust bunny . spicy fiesta . chips & guac
dust bunny . dreamy outing . croissant sandwiches
dust bunny . sunday newspaper
dust bunny . areca palm plant
dust bunny . spotted begonia
dust bunny . potted cheese plant
dust bunny . dreamy outing . pillow pile . colorful . adult
dust bunny . fiddle leaf tree
dust bunny . potted dragon tree
dust bunny . potted sago palm
dust bunny . papasan chair . white wood . adult
dust bunny . giant palm plant
dust bunny . papasan stool . white wood
dust bunny . storybook living . researcher’s journal
dust bunny . potted palm
dust bunny . ivy room divider
dust bunny . amy’s memorial garden
dust bunny . elephant ear plant

dust bunny & O.M.E.N . Puppy Basket Bed – Pup

.:revival:. rattan table

The Magic of Music

I believe that we absolutely can choose how we feel. It’s more than mind over matter, because this is mind vs mind, right? Have you ever heard a song that just brought you to tears? There have actually been studies done about how human beings relate to music and how our brains process it. So, if you want to wallow in your pain, by all means listen to those sad songs. And that’s okay to do. Sometimes we need to feel it deeply in order to process it. Just make sure you balance that magic with some upbeat tunes that make you smile, tap your foot, and get your moving. Music is a gift that too many of us take for granted. Embrace that magic and let music aid you in your mood of choice. ♥

wearing:
hair:  Magika – Jade
head: CATWA HEAD Denice
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: #PUMEC – Sophia

EarthStones Flower Garden Ear Climbers
BONDI . The Extrovert Piercing Set @ A+
(Yummy) OM Layered Necklace
(Yummy) Free Spirit Rings
{ZOZ} BENTO Nails

Blueberry – 7th Birthday – Sundress

pose by Imitation (forgot which one, sorry)

for information regarding the scene, please refer to previous post: Opinions

I’m a Freak

It’s no secret that I’m a bit of a freak. One good look at my flickr stream will pretty much prove that and if you happen to find a page lacking in sexy photos, then take a look at my favs, or the groups I belong to inworld. I don’t hide who I am, what I like, or what I don’t like. At times, I’m open to a fault and honest to a fault. However, I cannot help but embrace the freedoms that Second Life provides. I can be myself. I can be the me that’s beneath the surface. I can be truer to who I am deep within. In the real world, we are judged immediately by our appearance. We can all deny that we do that, but its simply untrue. Even in Second Life our likes and dislikes completely differ. I love my friends and think each of them are beautiful, but do I think their avatars are the prettiest? Honestly, no. I like mine better. Guess what? They like theirs better than mine, too. That’s how it should be, sadly we can’t say the same in the real world. If there has ever been proof required that we each have our own idea of beauty, the avatars in Second Life definitely prove that beyond a shadow of a doubt. Through the use of our avatars, we are able to tap into some of our deepest desires. For some of us, that includes sex….kinky sex. Some want to be fantasy characters like vampires, werewolves, fairies, elves, warriors, etc. For others, that might be families with children whether they are avatar children or NPC children. The fantasies are endless. So long as those fantasies hurt no one and respect the TOS of the world we’ve been provided by Linden Labs, we are allowed a freedom not permitted to most of us in the real world. Am I a freak? Damn right and I don’t plan on changing that for anyone.

crate Slumberland Bed @ FaMESHed X

MADRAS Safe and Wild Decor @ FaMESHed X

uK – Pony Girl Rocker Wood

Dahlia – Babylon Eclectic – Boobs Print -6
Dahlia – Babylon Eclectic – Body Print – 4
Dahlia – Babylon Eclectic – Picott Print 5

Fancy Decor: Capo Figure Drawings
Fancy Decor: Capo Figure Drawings B

* Black Kinky Cat * Les Sucreries de Fairy *

Fapple– BDSM Tool Box

08. Lagom – PinkKink [PlugShelf]
11. Lagom – PinkKink [Rope]
12. Lagom – PinkKink [Paddle]
13. Lagom – PinkKink [Condoms]

+Half-Deer+ Carefree Bikini Clutter – ALL – Offside Thong
+Half-Deer+ Carefree Bikini Clutter – ALL – Offside Bra
+Half-Deer+ Favorite Sweater Clutter – ALL – Floor A

DIGS – Hand-Rolled Smoking Decor

[Bad Unicorn x Birch] Mary Janes ‘Noel’s Cookies’

Stockholm&Lima: The Birdcage v2

PILOT – Adult Toy Box [Valentine]

Profiles…LOL

What does your profile say about you? Mine gives some basic information that I feel is a fair, yet brief introduction to who I am. I give my links to the blog, my flickr, and facebook. A few corny one liners to show my sense of humor. Oh and I provide a link to my personal soundtrack. I have two pics that are shoutouts to my two closest circles of friends. There’s information for bloggers and TLC, because I feel its important to represent your SL jobs. Then I just have a few basic pics of places I like to hang out. To finish it off, I’ve got a photo of a bunny in latex for my 1st life, cuz seriously? It’s way cuter than me. There’s also a Bukowski quote along with a link to my results to that Myers-Brigg Personality thing. I mean, that’s a long read that I’ve not even finished yet, but if someone really wants to know….*shrugs*…pretty accurate so far. So, I’m not sure what mine says about me to other people. I just know that I loathe blank profiles and they raise all sorts of red flags to me.
Someone asked me last night what his blank profile made me think. I told him that I have an active imagination, but it certainly makes me suspicious. “Of what?” he asked.
Well….to me a blank profile suggests any number of things and because I can’t KNOW the answer, it will depend on the energy I get from that person. However, I’m most likely to suspect they are an alt. Or lazy…depending on the age of the avatar. The next part was not written by me, but by Poppy Maladay and it amused me to no end. So, I’m sharing it with you, because its hilarious.

Second Life single men,and their profiles….or how not to shoot yourself in the foot,by Poppy Maladay:
Page 1 :
Display name: You do not need to repeat your name in ascii to be cool. Once is enough,Deemonz777.Resident. We get it.
Profile Pic: While that suntanned shirtless pic of you posed in front of a 3 wolf moon background is certainly eye catching, just a nice head shot would be fine, thanks.
Groups: Though I know you are super proud to be card carrying members of such groups as WetnWildOrgyClub or DurtyGrrlz..most women find the evidence of your sexual preferences distasteful. Hide them.
The inevitable quote from some 90s butt rock band that is supposed to express how bitter and disillusioned you are…how deeply you have FELT PAIN..bitterness is not attractive. Make it stop.
Page 2: Profile Picks
Oh god where do I start? No profile picks means you are an alt, come on, make SOME effort here. HOWEVER: if you have every tab filled with women (why do you never have any male friends?!)..sisters, mothers, exes, besties, daughters..all that have been there for you thru thick n thin..it doesn’t leave much in the way of room for NEW women in your life, does it? HUGE TURN OFF. Get those bitches out of there.
Page 3: Real Life
REAL LIFE. Not another greazy shirtless picture of your cartoon,thanks. If you’re not a hideous mole man DO put a rl pic in, if you were hit one too many times with the ugly stick, at least be clever,put something funny in there,okay?
Following these guidelines may actually get you laid.

Should I make this my profile pic? LOL

wearing:
hair:  TRUTH Horizon VIP Gift
head: CATWA HEAD Denice
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: #PUMEC – Sophia

(Yummy) OM Layered Necklace
[Aleutia] Tracy Set @ FaMESHed X

pose is in Elm. Countryside Pool & Pergola @ FaMESHed X

Where did Wednesday go?

Here it is Thursday morning, the 25th of April and I’m sitting here thinking, “Wait, I thought today was Wednesday! Where the hell did Wednesday go? Hell….where did April go????” The weather the last couple of days has run together for me as my sleep has been wonkier than ever thanks to a new medication and now I’m realizing that I will be seeing a therapist for the first time in…well….lets just say FOREVER…*glares at the millenials*….or a lifetime for some…hmpf…anyway…May 1st…is the big day. Ugh, talk about anxiety! My beautiful weather is taking a nap today, too…the rain is coming and I knew it before the weather man told me, because there’s a certain pressure in my joints that alerts me to changes in the barometric pressure. So, yeah, I’m one of those people now…LOL.

{anc} wash tub stool

Ariskea [Charm] Vintage Lantern[Vert]

dust bunny . Con – Emma Flower Bicycle – Decor

dust bunny . dreamy outing . croissant sandwiches
dust bunny . darling rug
dust bunny . dreamy outing . essentials bag
dust bunny . dreamy outing . pillow pile . colorful .

Jian :: Silly Shibes – Sleepy Pup RARE

{moss&mink} Unicorn Notebooks – Exclusive VIP Launch Gift
{moss&mink} Unicorn Pencilcase – Exclusive VIP Launch Gift

.:revival:. bucket of tulips

Serenity Style– Monique Bed

Blog For Yourself

There was a Facebook post recently from a blogger about other blogger styles. I even wrote about it in one of my blog posts, Opinions. There was a comment made in response to the original post that struck a chord with me as a blog manager. Its something that I believe a lot of bloggers honestly feel is true….and to some extent, I’d agree.
“Truth is, and always has been, it’s not what you do, it’s who you know.”
Once again, I’m not going to call out the person that said it. I’m not attacking nor fully supporting the statement. However, I also don’t want anyone else attacking this blogger for stating what they believe to be true.
As a blogger manager, I become quite familiar with a lot of bloggers. I currently represent four stores and there’s quite a bit of crossover. There are a handful of bloggers that are indeed on every team I manage. Mostly that is coincidence, but I’ll admit some are just damn fine bloggers that I know will meet their deadlines, present gorgeous photos, and provide a lot of exposure. Before you get riled up, think about this for a moment. Before Strawberry Singh became a Linden Lab employee, she was THE most sought out blogger on the grid, to my limited knowledge. She had become so popular as a blogger that she was not even required to follow the rules of most teams. Stores were simply elated to have Berry showcase them at all. With that said, there are other bloggers out there that while they might not be quite on the level of Strawberry Singh, they are damn fine bloggers with a massive following and extensive talent. Knowing that, wouldn’t you want them on YOUR team, if you had a store? If you said no, you’re a liar or a very poor decision maker. So, it might not necessarily be who you know, but who knows about you.
This works both ways. If you have a reputation of being difficult to work for, odds are you’re not likely to get offered as many positions out there. You see, blog managers often share their horror stories with one another. Just like bloggers talk about which blog managers are a pain in the arse or which brands demand too much.
I will add one more thing on this topic before I shut the hell up about it. I hire more bloggers I’ve never met or heard of than I do those that I’m familiar with. Simply for the fact that they provide an audience that is outside the normal circles in which I travel. For instance, I will take on an urban blogger for a casual store, simply because they can merge styles and show the brand in a whole new light. So, odds are, if you feel like you’re not getting jobs because you don’t know the blog managers, you might want to look at your history with other blog managers. It might not be about who you don’t know. It might be about who you pissed off. Jussayin.
Then again, it might have nothing to do with either of those things. There are soooo many reasons why bloggers aren’t chosen, you really need to try and not take rejections so personally. If you love blogging, then blog and stop worrying about who gives your stuff to blog. Just blog what you love, blog for yourself.

wearing:
hair:  Exile::Cece: 10. Naturals RARE @ Epiphany
head: CATWA HEAD Denice
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: #PUMEC – Sophia

[ Conviction ] Nameplate Choker – 07 Kitten @ Epiphany
(Yummy) OM Layered Necklace
**RE** Quinn Rings Set @ FaMESHed
_CandyDoll_ Amena Dress @ Collabor88

pose: FOXCITY. Cleanse Bento Pose Set

Just Imagine Us

“Baby, let’s cut down the lights
I just really wanna let this fire burn bright
I’m just telling you to have an open mind
Just imagine us”
~ Rita Ora – Bondy on Me ft. Chris Brown

wearing:
hair:  Magika – Jade
head: CATWA HEAD Denice
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: #PUMEC – Sophia
BONDI . The Extrovert Piercing Set @ A+
VINYL – Strand Lace Teddy

pose made with AnyPose

dust bunny . sweet dreams . wingback bed @ Uber