People are like dirt. They can either nourish you and help you grow as a person or they can stunt your growth and make you wilt and die. ~Plato
I love this quote, because there’s so much truth to it. What we tend to forget is that we have a lot more control over our personal growth than we give ourselves credit for. We latch onto people, convincing ourselves that we are being loyal. We let people make us sick, we let them wilt us and drain us of our very life force, by trying to please them, avoid confrontations. We don’t want to hurt them. When so often, there’s nothing we’ve done to the other person to justify their actions or attitude. More often than not, it really has nothing at all to do with us. However, we continue to stand by them…allowing them to cast their issues upon us as if we were to blame. And so, the cycle begins. We bow down, we apologize, we plead with them. Then when we’re alone and thinking it over, we’re left confused. What did we actually do wrong? Probably nothing, really.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that when two friends have a disagreement that we should never accept responsibility. I’m talking about toxic people that blame everyone else for their problems. The ones that like to test their friends and point fingers based on paranoia and insecurities. You know, the ones that you really don’t want to spend a lot of time with, because you don’t know what to expect? *shrugs* I’m mostly just thinking in text…stream of consciousness. Rambling, because I hate cutting people from my life. Especially people I love so dearly, but we can only allow so much pain from a “friend” before we have to cut them loose. I have to decide whether I want to grow or wilt.
pose: Fashiowl Poses – Here comes the sun (*new* @ Pose Fair)
[Bad Unicorn] Allora House (*new* @ Uber)
crate Hardwood Smoker Black
07. LAGOM – Hawaiian Party [Pineapple string] (*new* @ TLC)
19. LAGOM – Hawaiian Party [Balloons Yellow] RARE (*new* @ TLC)
Trompe Loeil – Corazon Palm Chair Natural PG
InVerse – MRockPath
uK – Malibu Entry Console Table Wood (*new* @ FaMESHed)
uK – Malibu Entry Succulent Platter (*new* @ FaMESHed)
uK – Malibu Entry Basket Stack (*new* @ FaMESHed)
uK – Malibu Entry Waves Rug (*new* @ FaMESHed)
crate Krusty Kitchen Shelf Full Set
Granola. Carmella Bird Of Paradise. (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Granola. June’s Pool Lounger.