Smoke Break

We all know smoking is bad for you and there’s not a smoker on the planet that hasn’t had some goofball walk up to them while smoking and say, “Those things will kill you.” I don’t know if they think they’re being funny, helpful, or if they genuinely lack the brain power to come up with something more original and less insulting. I can’t imagine anyone has ever been mid cigarette, heard those words and been like, “Oh shit, let me put this out and stop then!” Well, I mean, did they actually do it and mean it? *laughs* Cuz I have done that to a few people just to see the look on their faces, but I never stopped smoking because someone said that to me.
In fact, it has been smoke breaks that got me closer to people. At my last job, there were people I never saw except when smoking. It was a form of networking and I loved it. You see, it just didn’t matter what job you had, how high up or menial your job…you had to go outside to smoke and there were designated areas. Even at home, I’m more apt to speak to one of my neighbors if we are both outside smoking.
If it wasn’t such a wretched habit, I’d recommend that everyone do it for those very reasons. Alas, I continue to struggle with my nicotine addiction. For me, there’s just nothing quite like holding a cigarette between my fingers, taking a long hit, and exhaling those tendrils of smoke. Sometimes, I do get so disgusted with the negative aspects of smoking that I go back to vaping and maybe one day I will successfully quit, but for now…*takes a long draw off a cigarette and blows the smoke at her screen*…I’m a smoker.

smoke break

Josh is wearing:
Modulus – Pavel Hair – Browns
[i.mesh] – Hairbase#1 BROWN (hud) – CATWA applier
CATWA HEAD Daniel
.:E.A.Studio:. Box Ears Falling Star
VYC – Neat Scruff Beard HD *GIFT*
Slink Physique Male Mesh Body
DAPPA – Pharaoh Tattoo.
**RE** ReVoX Aros Couple Bracelet – Male
[sYs] NISSA tank (Male body mesh) – black (*new* @MOM)
Costarlos skinny jean black
= REBELLION = “KNOX” BOOTS

his pose: !bang – homme 006M

Sady is wearing:
hairMINA – Suzi (*new* @ FaMESHed)
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo: RedFish – Own Beauty tattoo (*new* @ Kinky)
*PROMAGIC* Sanskriti – Black Armlets
**RE** ReVoX Aros Couple Bracelet – Female
ChicModa / Hazel
{le fil casse} Sienna Skirt (*new* @ N21)
Phedora ~  Ancora Sandals (*new* @ Uber)

pose: FOXCITY. Night Owl-1m cigarette included

SAYO – Biscayne Backdrops – Miami Lights (*new* @ Epiphany)

Apex Predator

Okay, so its been a week of fluffy and I’m quite over it. *laughs* Y’all didn’t expect that madness to last, did you? Good, cuz I’m back and I’m feeling some Otep this morning. Soooo, without further adieu, I give you one of my favorite Otep songs and the lyrics.

She’s pounding on the door
She’s crawling on the floor
Oh, she’s so coy
She’s scratching on the walls
She’s clawing at the gauze
She’s so coy
She’s gnawing on the ropes
She’s pulling at the hooks
She’s so coy
Oh, you know she wants it
The way that she taunts me
Damn, she’s so coy
It’s the Apex Predator
With a sermon for the listener
Seduce & Destroy
Your head upon a stick
Would look really sick
But they would call me crazy
For the way I spoke to it
I’d ask about it’s day
Did it miss me while I was away?
Tight lipped from the stitches
It wouldn’t have much to say
The rest would be kept in a
Tight little dress
Propped up in the corner
A perfect little pet
Locked in a box
So I can keep stock
A trophy to show me
That all is not lost
The writing on the wall
A psalm

apex predator

wearing:
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo: RedFish – Scafan tattoo
[CX] Lance Piercing (Bento) – Black
::GB::Slave chain necklace(Woman) / Black – Silver
::GB:: Leather short Hoodie(Maireya) / Black
[CX] Luceat Arachne Bra – Obsidian (Maitreya) (*new* @ Epiphany)
[CX] Soul Grips ( Black ) Female * Maitreya *
[VALE KOER] WAIST PANTIES
-SU!- Nylon Stockings /Ripped/ BLACK
[BREATHE]-Kendra Heels

pose by Bauhaus Movement
backdrop: MINIMAL  – Illusion II – *5* (*new* @ Epiphany)

Soooo fluffy!!

I warned you that my dark side was pink and fluffy. Guess what else? I’m starting to like unicorns, too! I know…I know…stop it…I’m hoping this confession will help me rid myself of these evil thoughts. But look at my slippers!!! They’re so fluffy!!!! And my hair!!! I’m not sure I ever want to take it off. I know its kinda crazy looking, but I swear it grows on you and I’m just not sure I can take it off! You can all relax now…I’ll be back in my regular dark clothes soon enough. *laughs & shakes her awesome unicorn slippers at you*

fluffy

wearing:
hair:  Beusy: Vida Hairstyle (*new* @ N21)
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

{le fil casse} Felicity Dress (*new* @ Bloom)
Phedora ~ Agnes Unicorn Slippers  RARE (*new* @ N21)

pose by Bauhaus Movement

DRD – BB – Bed and Breakfast – Lizette Bed – Powder
Traveler-Night stand by Bazar
{what next} ‘Emma’ Tulips Bouquet (pale pink)

Hold Your Head Up

When people upset you and you want to lash out in public forums or on social media, think twice. I say this for myself as much as for anyone else. Its always best to take a minute and think about what you’re about to say or do…what are the possible ramifications? What is your motive? What do you hope to gain from it? More than likely you’ll rethink it and that’s probably for the best. I’ve rarely regretted NOT saying something when I was upset, but I have far too many times regretted things I said in the heat of the moment. Once it’s out there, its out there. No matter the apologies or the excuses, once the damage is done…well, its done. So, learn a lesson with me if you don’t already do it…think before you type/speak so that you can hold your head up, instead of hanging it in shame like me.

scandalize

wearing:
hair:   /Wasabi Pills/ Paige Mesh Hair
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

**RE** Simone Heart Collar
Scandalize. MADISON (*new* @ N21)
fri. – Daphne.Platforms (Coal)

pose by !bang
location: IMPORTS Wine Bar

Good Morning, Sunshine!

April…wow…its really the end of April. There’s been a lot of rain in my area and storms, but it seems we’ve managed to get through the month without any horrendous tornadoes in my area. I get nervous every April because of what happened in 2011. Over 90 tornadoes hit my state and my area was without power for almost a week. (Here’s a link for the basic facts if you’re interested: https://www.weather.gov/bmx/event_04272011 ) It was the closest thing to an apocalypse I’ve ever experienced and I truly hope its the only time I experience anything like it. One thing I discovered was that my neighbors are pretty good people. We came together…shared liquor and resources. My husband works at a chicken processing plant and was able to obtain some dry ice. (Luckily generators kept them in power until it was restored to North Alabama.) That dry ice kept some of our food from being ruined and the neighbors came together to have…well, basically a small block party. We pumped tunes from car stereos. We threw everything we could onto grills of all sizes in order not to waste food. We couldn’t do much for side dishes, but we sure had one helluva selection of grilled meats. We drank, we ate, and we speculated about the damages state wide. There was only one radio station operating and it wasn’t saying much. There was no power across the northern portion of our state. There was one odd little strip of a town that had power and let me tell you…gas lines were no joke! People as far away as Tennessee were coming to Athens, AL to get gas. Ah, but there was a catch there, too. No power. No internet. No credit cards! It was definitely a challenging week, but it restored my faith in humans. I saw people unite for the common good. People that would have otherwise not interacted. Let’s face it…I’m not big on feeding the bears aka making nice with my neighbors. I prefer to keep to myself and keep my business my own. I don’t care who the neighbor is dating or how many men came and went from her house last weekend. I don’t care that so and so has roaches, so long as they don’t come in my house. That week? Yeah, that week we shared real stories and fears and hopes and dreams. I’m happy to see this April ending on a positive note and I for one will embrace the sun. (Not the heat though, staying my butt in the house where its nice and cool.)

summer breeze

By now, most of you have been to Uber or tried. Today’s outfit is a definite winner, as L&B have brought their A game with this Zoe Blouse and flare jeans. Both come with an incredible hud that allows you to personalize your look. All the major bodies are covered with sizes for Belleza, Slink, and Maitreya! I seriously love this set!

wearing:
hairMagika – 01 – Summer
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: Glam Affair – Lucille – Catwa Mesh Head Applier (*new* @ Uber)

L&B Swear Zoe Blouse (*new* @ Uber)
L&B Swear Zoe Flare Jeans (*new* @ Uber)

pose: Frozen – Daisy Poses
location: The Trace Too

Want to Play a Game?

“A game is an ongoing series of complementary ulterior transactions progressing to a well-defined, predictable outcome. Descriptively, it is a recurring set of transactions… with a concealed motivation… or gimmick.”
Dr. Eric Berne Games People Play

Sound familiar? If you’ve been in SL for even a few months, I’m sure you’ve encountered a player or six. Let’s just cut to the chase. They are predators. If they have an agenda that doesn’t coincide with what they’re telling you? Yeah, its a trap and you’re probably the prey or possibly the bait. Either way, its no good. What motives could they have? Oh, please…money and sex are top of the list.  So, do we hate the player or the game? Well, if I didn’t knowingly sign up to play “the game” then I certainly don’t need to blame the game, now do I? I say hate them both…hate the game AND the player!
Now, if YOU like to play the game…awesome for you, but wouldn’t it be a lot more fun if the other people playing knew they were playing? Cuz seems to me, its gotta be pretty easy to win a game of checkers if no one else is playing. We all talk about making the world a better place. Here’s an idea…treat each other with respect….c’mon dude at the candy store…sending a dick pic is like walking around in a raincoat flashing women at the mall. Not cool and honestly, the type of woman that would jump right onto a man after seeing a picture of his genitals? Well, lets be fair, you can find plenty of those on those free sex sims.
Sadly, pervs like that rarely take the time to read the back of a shampoo bottle, much less a blog about fashion. So, I’ll just laugh with my perv friends that know whenever we get a picture of someone’s genitals…we share with our friends and spend the whole day making jokes about how bizarre it looked. You see, there was no man attached to make it attractive. The only thing that came with this intimate photo? Ignorant, disrespectful, desperation…that’s what came with that photo.

what2

wearing:
hair:  Beusy: Vida Hairstyle (*new* @ N21)
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

The Annex – Jezebel Dress – Onyx – MAITREYA (*new* @ Genre)
=Zenith=Cosy long Gloves – Maitreya
#EMPIRE – Xylobium

pose: oOo silent night_one_mirror
background: MINIMAL – Illusion II – *1* -RARE- (*new* @ Epiphany)

Is My Dark Side Light?

What if I told you that my dark side is actually pink & fluffy or blue & ruffled? You see, its not abnormal at all to see me dressed head to toe in black…or white for the rebelling rebel in me. I have this random side of me that absolutely adores soft pinks and blues. Every once in a while, I like to dress up in super girly colors and outfits. It confuses my friends…*giggles*
When I paired up this Brigitte bodysuit from le fil casse with the Lily heels from Phedora, I knew I would be as girly as girly gets…ruffles! RUFFLES! And not the delicious chips that go great with french onion dip, either. Actual ruffles on me! Yeah, yeah, but look how pretty!!!
I have a reputation for being the dark, cynic among my friends, but one look at me in frills and they know there’s a hopeless romantic lurking beneath the surface and I’m okay with that. I am a lot of things, my style reflects that. What can I say? Oh, I know!
*starts singing* I feel pretty…ooh so pretty….

Lilly heels

wearing:
hair:   MINA – Zahra
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

(Yummy) Crystal Love Choker
{le fil casse} Brigitte Bodysuit Maitreya RARE *new* @ Epiphany)
Phedora ~ Lilly heels (*new* @ TresChic)

pose: Sage Poses – Rilassato
Stockholm-Bed by Bazar